Pregnancy After Infertility IV

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Pregnancy after infertility or fertility treatment can be a scary place, from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding to other random symptoms.

We are a supportive group of women across all stages of pregnancy who are used to being on the wrong side of the odds and still can't believe it's really happening.

Previous thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2755564-Pregnancy-after-infertility-III

Blueroses - thanks for your reply & I meant to say before - congratulations on your DD! I shall have a look at our blog to catch up with what all happened with you. I’m so pleased you have your little girl .
Thanks for reassurance about NIPT - I think that’s the thing, is much more accurate, but I guess I am just worried about waiting too long? But you have reassured me, thanks! Now I just need to cross everything that we get there! Xx

Hi everyone, I was one of the original people on the very first thread for pregnancy after infertility (under birchygoo) I now have a little girl turning 1 this week!! The journey is tough but very worth it.
We are about to start trying again and I’m nervous about what lies ahead but of course so very thankful for what I have.
Wishing you all the best of luck and I am hoping that next year you are all looking back like I am.

star congratulations a girl thats wonderful, so we have a girl for you and boy for maple i bet you cant wait until they are here!

hobbes big congratulations! I am so so pleased to see you here!

blue hope all is well with you!

buzzbee thank you for your lovely post, and congratulations on your little girl, a big happy 1st birthday to her!

I am counting down the days till my scan on monday, i will be 12+5, and although i had a scan at 10 weeks it feels like that was so long ago, i just want to know all is ok!

Not sure how long I will be on this board - it’s not looking great for me today. Just did my evening crinone application and there was red blood on the applicator, which signified the beginning of the end my other cycles (albeit much earlier than this). I’ll be heartbroken if I can’t even make it to our 6 week scan (a week on Monday). Just feel so deflated. Anyone else had this and still had everything be ok? X

Oh hobbes i know its easier said than done but try not to panic. At 5 weeks i woke up from an afternoon sleep to my panty liner soaked in red, i sobbed and my DH rang our clinic in a panic. I had no more after that it turnt brown on my pessary applicator for 2 days then stopped.
Same thing happened again whilst we were on holiday at about 6.5/7 weeks.
All was fine at our scans at 7+4 and 10 weeks, and keeping our fingers crossed for the next one.
At our first scan the lady said she could see a small bleed which she suspected was from the blood vessels stretching around the sac.
So although its terrifying try not to worry, it doesnt always mean something bad.
Xxx

Hi Hobbes, firstly congratulations on your bfp Secondly, to echo coco please try not to worry. So many of us had bleeding in the early weeks and I know how terrifying it is, but it really can go either way. I hadn't realised how common it is and had read all the stuff about how brown blood is old and red blood means worry. But then I heard that red blood is actually more likely to be yours than the baby's and therefore equally as likely to be nothing. Am crossing my fingers hard for you that you get good news at your viability scan in a week. x

And yes, I had red blood at 9 weeks and 13 weeks and now I'm 31 weeks and massive!

Are people wearing a Baby on Board badge? I've had one since 12 weeks but tend not to wear it. Then this morning I did and it does work getting a seat on a packed train, but then I realised why I don't like wearing it. It's cos I used to find it so painful seeing them when we were going through investigations and treatment - it's totally unfair but it felt like those women were gloating. Obviously they weren't and I'm not now but I feel quite self conscious and hyper aware of that time. Am I being silly?

Thanks coco and star. I'm so torn about tomorrow - in one way I'm desperate for it to come as it's my 6 week Scan, but in another I don't want it to as the signs are my great so far. The bleeding was fleeting, and haven't had any since so I'm actually not ok worried about that - but there are 2 things that make me strongly suspect tomorrow will be bad news. Firstly I as stupidly still taking my BBT until middle of last week, when my temp plummeted over 4 days, down to coverline. I decided to stop temping as it was worrying me and tried to ignore it. I reassured myself on the Tuesday last week (5 days ago) by POAS with a cb digi weeks indicator and it had gone up from 2-3 to 3+, so tried to put temp drop to back of mind. This morning however, I felt like something was wrong - so did another CB digi. I'm back down to 2-3 weeks again. So I'm fairly sure that things are going wrong despite no bleeding. I'm totally depressed. I'm hoping for a miracle, but really there's quite a few bad signs. I just want to cry 😢.

Hugs for you Hobbes and because it's impossible not to worry. Truth is you can't know anything before tomorrow. Most people, even ivfers, won't carry on temping after a bfps and I've read so much that the week indicators on the digis are unreliable. So without those, all you have is a bit of blood on a pessary applicator over a week ago and no more bleeding since. I'm not going to say don't worry because it's impossible, but just want to offer a slightly different perspective and I am crossing my fingers so tightly for good news at your scan tomorrow. xx

Thanks star - sorry for all my typos! Just reread my message and it barely makes sense - apologies. Thank you for trying to see the positive. I feel like one of those things alone I'd be able to ignore, but all of them together just make me want to cry. I don't know how common mmc is, but suspect that it's more common when you are on progesterone support than if not, as it might put off the inevitable. I don't know why I'm feeling so despondent, I guess it's just having finally got the BFP, it will be an even bigger blow to lose it. Sorry I'm being so depressing. I hope everyone else on here is doing ok? X

Hi all, sorry I wasn't getting any notifications for this thread so just catching up!

Coco how did your scan go??

Hobbes firstly congratulations! I won't say don't worry as it won't stop you from worrying - I also had a bleed at 6 weeks, 13 weeks and 14 weeks - all red blood. Regarding the digis mine never went above 2-3 weeks. Also my FRER was a lot fainter than my boots / Superdrug cheapy. Really hope it's nothing and all is well tomorrow. I'm really sorry you are going through this

Star i started wearing mine after 12 weeks but I had a few fainting episodes on the train. I do wear mine everyday now but know what you mean about how it might make other people feel. It's hard as I do need to wear mine as my commute is quite long. I never ask for a seat though if no one gets up for me.

hobbes i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you for tomorrow, i really hope its good news! I have read a lot about the CB digi weeks indicator being unreliable too, i only ever got a 2-3 weeks from mine and worried so much.

Our scan went really well thank you maple so amazing to see everything in such detail and so much growing had happened since our last scan. All seems well so far and we got some lovely clear pictures too. Trying to relax a bit more and enjoy it now rather than constantly worrying. I can't wait till our next scan and to find out what we are having.

Xx

Hi Coco that's brilliant news about your scan, so pleased for you!
Thank you all for talking me down off my crazy ledge - I was a nervous wreck for the scan - but good news is there is an embryo in the right place measuring the right size! I actually can't quite believe it! Lead consultant also thought there was a flicker of s heartbeat too, which is amazing. There is however something (they really don't know what, possible just a cyst) on my right ovary that they want to keep an eye on just in case it's the other embryo in the wrong place... had 2 docs checking and neither are sure, but I have to go back on Friday for another scan to check it's not got bigger, and to see how embryo is getting on. Hopefully heartbeat will be more obvious then. Anyway, am feeling relieved but still nervous too. I hope it's just them being extra careful and is nothing to worry about.... but it's such a waiting game this isn't it? X

Thats great news hobbes i'm so pleased for you, hopefully whatever is on your ovary isn't anything to worry about.
Its good that they are keeping a close eye on you though and i hope friday comes nice and quick for you! X

Yeay, so happy to hear your news Hobbes! Hope the ovary thing is nothing to worry about but nice you get to have another scan on Friday.

I think I posted on this thread months back or at least I remember reading it... anyway I am now 30 weeks and still spend a lot of time thinking it's not really going to happen. Bought a pram/travel system online yesterday - the first proper purchase, have been given a bunch of other baby things so not really needed to buy anything else - and I felt like I was fooling myself by actually spending money on something that isn't real. Anyone else have these crazy thoughts?

Star interesting to read your thoughts on the Baby on Board badge - that is also how I feel. I have one but have only worn once 2 weeks ago when with OH, and felt v embarrassed that people stood up for me. I also partly feel I don't really deserve a seat, perhaps when I am 39 weeks and struggling to stand I might put it back on! However if I had to get the tube to work everyday in rush hour I'd probably wear it, but my commute isn't that bad.

So pleased the scans have gone well coco and Hobbes!

Coco I had a private scan at 17 weeks as I was full of anxiety (even though I had 2 good scans after the bleeds). Also the wait from 12 weeks to 20 seemed so long! Have you got a date for your anomaly scan?

Hobbes only a few more days until Friday. Hopefully whatever it is on the ovary isn't a problem!

Elbob I feel the same about it not going to happen. I still can't get my head around there being a real baby in there, even though I can feel him moving around. I still catch myself saying "all being well".

Welcome back elbbob I'm 32 weeks now and I too am funding it hard to believe. Haven't bought anything except a few sleep suits but we've been given some bits from friends and promised some more from DH's brother. Stupid question but how did you approach the pram buying?! We went to a huge mothercare at the weekend and it was so overwhelming! Prob need to do some research online but no idea where to start

Maple, totally understand the need to wear the badge. It's silly to feel self conscious about it really.

How's everyone else doing? Hope well and symptoms under control

This morning's scan wasn't great. They re still not sure whether the thing next to my ovary is a cyst or the other embryo. But worse, the one in the right place (6w4d) has a gest sac, and a yolk sac, but no fetal pole or hb. Doc said it could just be scanned isn't sensitive enough, but it's no good as having seen a flicker 4 days ago, it seems unlikely that they wouldn't be able to see it today if all was well. I'm now sat in a waiting room with properly pregnant people with large bumps awaiting another scan as they want to triple check the cyst/ Possible ectopic and have referred me thru to the scan place where I should be deliriously happy. I'm broken. If this scan doesn't have some positive news, I will be in bits. 15min to go...

Hello!Anyone due to ivf in January 2018?

Oh Hobbes, really sorry to hear it wasn't conclusive good news. Hope you're bearing up ok and looking after yourself. How was the rescan?

Hi star - not good.
The sonographer confirmed that 'we should be seeing more development by this stage' so it looks like my embryo has probably stopped growing. I am going back on Monday to confirm. They also couldn't be sure about my right ovary thing so still no idea what is going on there. Maybe will know more Monday. Basically it's the shittest day today. I hope things go much better for everyone else on here xx

Hobbes I’m sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself

Aly82 have a look at the Infertility board for cycle buddies, there’s bound to be others starting at the same time. Good luck.

Oh Hobbes, I'm so sorry to hear that. What horrible news. Please look after yourselves. I'm thinking of you and hoping the next steps are bearable.

Aly, there are often ivf groups on the infertility board for different months. I joined one when I did ivf and found it very supportive. Also other threads matching where I was on my journey were so so helpful. Hopefully you'll be on this thread in a few short months, good luck

Thank you