Pregnancy After Infertility IV

[Blueroses99]

Pregnancy after infertility or fertility treatment can be a scary place, from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding to other random symptoms.

We are a supportive group of women across all stages of pregnancy who are used to being on the wrong side of the odds and still can't believe it's really happening.

Previous thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2755564-Pregnancy-after-infertility-III

Hi everyone,
I can't believe I'm here finally, asking to join in your group, but today I finally got my BFP! I am absolutely shocked and still a bit numb about it. I honestly never believed it would happen.
We've got one DD aged 4 years, and we've been TTC for just over 3 years now. We have an appointment with the fertility clinic to start IVF on Monday and I've got the best ever reason to cancel it. 😀
I've been on quite a lot of the secondary infertility threads over the last year and I recognise quite a few names here. I'm so happy that this has happened for everyone here. Your stories gave me hope in my most despairing moments, so thank you.

congratulations emilyalbemarle!

I've caved and booked a private scan even though I'll be nearly 11 weeks. I don't know when my '12-week' scan would be, and although most times I'm relaxed I do have times when I think I don't have a clue that there's anything in there! I almost wish I didn't know about MMCs etc, even though I know they are fairly rare.

Hi all, I posted on here a few weeks ago to join... I am pregnant after 19mo ttc, through ovulation induction.

I'm 13 weeks, scans and tests all good so I am very grateful for that.

But tbh I could do with a bit of support as my pregnancy has been absolutely atrocious this time - the sickness is out of control (despite 2 different needs from doc), had terrible migraines and top top it all off also had a uti which had completely wiped me out. I'm miserable and not really coping with life right now. It's putting a huge strain on my marriage, I'm snappy and unpleasant to my dh because of it and his tolerance is wearing thin.

I wanted this pregnancy and baby so much so I feel guilty for feeling so miserable about it. But it's just relentless and it's getting me down.

I'm on antibiotics for the uti, I've got sickness meds and there's not a great deal more I can do about the migraines (I get them anyway so I already see a neurologist and the normal meds you can't take during pregnancy). So I just feel I'm stuck in a situation which will only improve when I give birth which is next bloody year!

Anyway sorry for the long moan x

Welcome emily and clueless and congrats.

clueless the hormones can make you feel up and down too so likely all just coming together today! B6 is meant to help with the nausea check if there's some in your prenatal and if not no harm adding it in. I'm sure your already doing the small frequent snack thing but a salty cracker or couple of almonds if I wake during the night and def before I get up in the morning helping me along though I have to say I've been lucky and the nausea is relatively mild for me.

As for DH remind him nicely how unwell you've been feeling and while your snappy you appreciate his support. I think esp early they don't quite register the pregnancy thing. I have to tell my husband daily when he's annoyed cause I don't do something or won't eat something particular that it's tough going. He has been super helpful at home and cooking when I do remind him though even dealing with my growing impatience! Hopefully the sickness eases off over next few weeks now you've hit the 13week mark.

Hi everyone. Am new to this site after an emotional and rollercoaster IUI & IVF Journey. I'm 14 weeks pregnant today and am still finding it hard to believe! Despite having had two scans to date and feeling slightly nauseas it's still quite surreal in all honesty & no sign of a bump yet either..but I'm sure there's time! I just wanted to say hello and introduce you to baby Harley 👶 (Scan taken at 13 weeks and 3 days) x

Welcome Emily, clueless and firsttimemum!

Clueless, so sorry you're having a tough time. It's so tough after trying so hard and waiting so long for it to happen, it feels like you shouldn't moan. But we're only human and no-one could put up with those awful symptoms without getting irritated. Please give yourself a break and allow yourself what you need to make this bearable. People say it will get better in the second trimester, so fingers crossed the sickness will stop and your uti should clear up with the antibiotics. I mean getting horrible migraines with pregnancy and also have a uti and on antibiotics for that! I've been speed sickness but I have fibroids that are giving me a huge bump and I get unbearable backache when asleep. I am a moany, irritable fucker and luckily my husband is being a saint. I think this being number one helps and think looking after a child as well as having a tough pregnancy must be a nightmare. for you x

Congrats on the scan first! I had mine yesterday also at 13+3 ams all looking good! Have told my siblings now - it'll be the first niece or nephew and they're all so excited Had another bleed on Friday and ended up in A&E then EPU for a scan. Couldn't see a reason for it so I'm going to try and not freak out when it happens again in another 4 weeks!

Hope everyone else well. Custard, trixie you must be about due?!

moggle glad to hear the sickness has improved, have you had the scan yet?

emily & first congratulations & welcome (despite being classed as term I still sometimes find it hard to believe!)

blackcherries it's so hard in the first few months when you can't tell what's going on, and scans do give you reassurance for a while at least

clueless sorry you're having such a hard time. I think we feel a lot of guilt complaining about symptoms when we've invested so much to get here but if you feel rubbish then that's how you feel. Be kind to yourself and I really hope it improves for you soon

star great news about the scan, sorry to hear about the bleed.

I'm now 38 + 1 star, head is engaged and I'm pretty sure I'm getting braxton hicks in the evening, bubs keeps pushing down as well which is quite uncomfortable!

Eek, nearly there custard!

Maple, how are you doing? Not heard from you in a little while.

Hi all, it's been a while since I posted on this thread, but I wanted to update that BabyHedgehog was born on 17.7.17 at 10.54pm via EMCS. He is the most gorgeous, amazing thing I've ever seen, both of us are well and happy

I hope everyone is doing well, it's totally worth all the angst and pain in the end.

Congratulations hedgehog I'd been wondering how you were getting on, enjoy the baby snuggles

Congratulations Hedgehog! What a memorable date to be born too! Enjoy the cuddles xx

Thanks custard and blue, I hope you guys are doing well too.

Congratulations rosebud and hedgehog! And custard not long until you next! Hope baby doesn't keep you waiting too long!

Welcome to the newbies Emily, first and clueless - many congratulations!

Blackcherries have you had your scan?

Star thrilled to hear all is well and you've had your dating scan! Sorry to hear about the bleed but looks like it hasn't affected baby - must have been scary for you in A+E. And a uti too you poor thing!!

Thank you for asking after me, I've been keeping quiet and head down trying to get to the dating scan! I caved and had a private scan at 10+5 and all was well and saw baby kicking. Obviously the anxiety was back soon after! Booking in scan went well (the midwife had also had IVF so she was excited) and they put me as high risk because of the IVF? So I have a consultant appointment in August but dating scan is booked for when I'm 12+5. Not long to wait now!

Hope everyone else is plodding on OK!

maplebaby thanks for asking, the scan was fine (at 10+6) and probably the moment I truly believed this was really happening! My dating scan I will be 12+2 but the fact it's an IVF pregnancy threw all the booking a bit (?!) but it means the scan will be with someone more senior who will understand the dates of transfer etc (I am sick of trying to explain that I don't really have a LMP date). But does IVF mean it is high-risk then?

I also have a consultant appt due to having a tear with birth of DS1, so not sure what that may mean but will cross that bridge when I come to it.

Not sure how long to tell people after the scan, I'm more anxious this time round (last time was just so relieved there was an actual baby in there I don't think I waited for screening results) so will probably wait til after results are known although it's getting impossible to hide.

Hedgehog huge congratulations! Wonderful news so happy for you all!
Custard you're a week ahead of me! Exciting times! I feel great at moment. Got my tens machine today. Haven't had braxton hicks yet. What are they like?
Blueroses - hope Aviana's op went well. Been reading your blog. The pictures on her first day home ... And that expression when she is having her head washed.priceless! Hope you are all OK. X

Hello ladies...sorry if this has been covered already in earlier threads, but I just wondered how you coped with anxiety in the first few weeks?

I am 4+6 today with our first pregnancy following an ICSI cycle and I am unbelievably terrified that something is going to go wrong. I can't focus on anything else at the moment and just feel terrible! I felt so joyful for about an hour after the positive result and then I made the mistake of going on Google...

My husband and my mum both think I should be positive and excited but I have wanted this for so long and I can't bear the thought of finally being successful only for it to fail before it's even really started!

My scan at the moment is booked for exactly 8 weeks as we are meant to be on holiday but I honestly don't feel like i can cope waiting that long. I don't think I will enjoy the holiday because I will just be wondering the whole time if things are still developing as they should be, so we're looking at coming back early so I could have a scan at 7+3 instead.

Did anyone else struggle like this? What did you do to try and relax? Or any words of wisdom that might help me calm down a bit??

Glad all was well blackcherries! And I know what you mean about having to explain about LMP meaning nothing! But the system had nowhere to override which was a bit stupid! No idea about the high risk / IVF... I didn't think the mode of conception made a difference!

Welcome angel. First of all congratulations! I'm 11+5 now and had 3 scans and still anxious! I don't think I will ever stop until the baby is here (fingers crossed). Whenever I talk about it, I always have to caveat with "all being well" as it doesn't seem real. I had a scan at 6 weeks at the EPU after a bleed, one at 8 weeks with the clinic then I paid for a private one at 10. Each time, I felt better and happy for that day but the anxiety still comes back. Sorry, not what you want to hear! It helps keeping busy but I'm still knicker checking, freak out when I have any cramps and over analyse symptoms / lack of.

You are in the same boat as us here so we are here to hand hold if you ever have a wobble!

Thanks maple! I remember you from a previous IVF buddies thread actually (I have name changed because being on that thread was (surprise, surprise) making me anxious so I was trying to distance myself!)

I'm trying to tell myself the scan will make me feel better but to be honest I think I'll be anxious all the way through too. I don't think it helps that my job involves supporting people who have lost babies so I am hyper-aware of what can happen.

Hi angel. I also had scans at 6 and 8 because of bleeding and then had anlther private scan at 9 with panorama test. Feel calmer about mc now but I think some anxiety is normal.

angel it hopefully makes you feel better that we all feel exactly the same! It does get slightly easier after the first scan but def not relaxed.

I stop my hormone meds on Friday so that's the latest topic of panic and then will be something else to focus on!

Welcome to the group and congrats.

Panorama results back this morning much quicker than expected
All results low risk and its a girl!
Obviously didn't have a preference either way but am totally emotional at the news definitely makes this all seem far more real. Now how to get back to work!

When did you have it done ash? I'm waiting for mine at the moment x

Only last Tuesday bean wasn't expecting results til next week.
Are you finding out sex too?

Congratulations Ash! What lovely news

Got my Down's syndrome screening results back at the weekend and all low risk, so feeling very good about everything atm too. X

Mine was Thursday. I think we said to find out but I can't remember.