Anyone else got the grumps?

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Only 30 weeks today... but...

Sore back. Tired after doing Christmas. Grumpy as hell.

I'm staying in bed, it's been decided.
Anyone else want to join me for a duvet day, fake wine and treats?

I'm going to dish out some large slices of cake for everyone, sorry to hear some of you are having a rough time of it. I've done sweet FA today, I'm very very tired and can't summon the energy for anything! Heartburn really needs to do one it's about finished me off today. I have been educating myself re breech birth because I reeeeeallly don't fancy a c-section but I need to get DH on board and he's not keen!

Welcome Matilda Sounds like you're going through a rather rough few weeks. What a confusing time it must be.

Daisy Cake is clearly needed today! Crikey, just the words breech birth freak me out so unless I'm down for it for sure I'm not looking up anything.

I saw upthread that you'll have a 14 year old gap between your DCs - I can imagine maternity systems have changed hugely since then. How are you getting on?

It looks doable to me Imavin but then I've never had a baby before so I might just be being ridiculous I've been trying to explain to DH the overall principles of trusting your body etc etc and he made some crack about finding my spirit animal and following my power and was incredibly sarcastic, so I took the rest of the pack of his particular favourite biscuits and ate them while sat on his side of the bed. There are crumbs. He doesn't know yet.

daisy I know someone who gave birth to their undiagnosed breech baby at home and it was all totally fine. I think it's probably pot luck on whether you get midwives experienced with a breech birth. I don't know if it necessarily means a CS. I'm sure I've read of a lot of women in hear doing it. Have they - your Mws etc - said anything to you about it?

This baby is currently breech but I'm only 28 weeks. Somewhat ironically I'm almost hoping she stays that way. With dc1 I had planned a home birth and did tons of reading on trusting your body and all that stuff. But I was pressured into an induction and it ended with loads of intervention. With DC2 I was determined to have that home birth and did - it was amazing and completely magical, I needed no pain relief and had my own pool, and it was everything I could have hoped for. Utterly amazing.

But this time I'm around, I'm much more ambivalent. Kinda feel like - I did it, I've proved it to myself (felt like a failure after dc1), don't be a hero, why go through all that? So secretly almost hoping for a CS! Is that bad?

I had a vaginal breech birth with DD1.

MatildaWormwoodRoolsOK

I was surprised that the hospital no longer supply nappies or milk for the baby.

The health/safety issues about making bottles for the day and putting them in the fridge and heating up have all changed as well.

New system: Making a bottle fresh every time seems time consuming and prevents you from being organised for the day ahead and going out for the day!

I suppose you can always buy pre made carton milk, but that isn't exactly a cheap way of doing it!

I did buy a prep machine which im sure will come in handy for night feeds. However i wont shy away completely from the occasional bottle made from the kettle the old way.

I have also read that my hospital are likely to try and pressurise me to breast feed. So I am on guard and ready to attack lol. NOT explaining myself to some nurse or midwife. Decision made, nothing to discuss lol.

daisygirlmac
biscuit crumbs ha ha

I cooked the biggest chilli con carni with rice the other day and just listened to other half complain about how full he was and the stomach pains lol

My food often sends one into a coma lol

I dropped off this thread for a bit but by Christ have I got the grumps today. 31 weeks, still fucking months to go and I'm already knackered. Got grumpy with poor DD in the airport and on the plane today, wee pet is only 2, not her fault if she's impatient and doesn't understand why easyjet make you wait around in queue after queue after queue. Actually I don't really get it myself.

Thought I might have sex with DH tonight but remembered he doesn't do sex when I'm pregnant (6 sexless months and counting) plus I'm fucking enormous and still coughing and still leaking wee when I cough plus knackered, so sex was hardly on the table was it

I've got a positional scan on Thursday to see where he is but they have already mentioned a section if he's breech. I'm consultant led as I have a slight bicornuate uterus so I'll see him after the scan to go through everything but would really prefer to try vaginal delivery unless there's a very compelling reason not to. I'm trying very hard to go with the flow but I've already had to concede a lot! I wanted to go to the lovely midwife led unit but I have to be in hospital and they want continuous monitoring so I'm gearing up for a bit of a fight because I want to have a nice active labour if I can, also sciatica is so bad that being on a bed for any length of time will likely be the end of me. Obviously I won't be stupid and completely ignore medical advice but I do think if there's no other reason other than baby's position they should let me try.

Gardencentre what is it with the sex? I'm gasping and I couldn't pay DH to touch me with a barge pole! He did get really awkward when I tried to discuss it though, which amused me so was slightly worth it. Poor boy from a naice Christian family, married to me with no filter and no interest in subjects being off the table he's mostly used to it and is way better than when we first met but me being pregnant has regressed him somewhat

Daisy I did just chuckle at the "spirit animal" bit, but you are well within your right to eat those biscuits on his side of the bed.

Garden I'm 31 weeks today, our due dates must be pretty close!

Sex for us seems to be the other way around. DP is well up for it. I generally feel pretty in the mood too but laziness is beating that urge down at the moment. I think about it and then go... "Nah, can't be bothered with that.."
Bless DP, he is so sweet about it though.

daisy
To be completely blunt your DH's opinion on your birth choices is irrelevant, you're the one who's giving birth and his role is to support you! I do think it's useful to talk through options with your partner and get their input if you want it... but seriously if he is being unsupportive and - even worse - sarcastic then you should tell him to piss off (or possibly a more polite phrase but I'm rarely in a polite mood atm)
FWIW at my antenatal classes, the teacher said that breech vaginal births used to be a lot more common, and depending on the the exact position they are more than possible.. obviously transverse breech is a no-go (if mine ends up transverse I would have no hesitation in going for an ELCS!) but bum down is possible apparently.
Anyway do your research and be assertive about what you want.

Oh and on the subject of sex... I haven't been in the mood AT ALL for the whole pregnancy. Only DTD once or twice at the beginning and that was half-hearted but wanted to give it a go because we were on holiday and usually have great sex on holiday! Sadly it wasn't. Feel a bit sorry for DH but not sorry enough to have sex!

I know namechange but thank you we're both very sarcastic people and usually I would have been laughing along with him, he understands now it is much less funny when we are seriously discussing how I push our child out of me. He's run me a bath and given me a foot rub so all is forgiven!

Oh good God, he has woken me up again. The little specky cuntfuckle has woken me up again.

This could be the night where I finally find myself a fork and jab him to death with it!!!

Bah!

Still awake and DP somehow survived the night.

Sent him off downstairs so I can lounge.

He didn't even question it, I get the feeling he knows how close he was to a squewering.

May I have a grump this morning? DH just announced that he had a dentist appointment, left without his phone... and less than five minutes later his client turned up, which clearly he had forgotten about. So I had to wade through my usual fuckloads of morning pain not only to get the kids up on my own but to babysit irate client.

oooooh irate client when you're feeling grumpy not good!

Surely they could see you was pregnant, did they take it easy on you?

How are my fellow Grumps today? I woke up feeling shit, coughed so hard I puked repeatedly. DH, bless him, took an emergency day off work and took DD out so I could doze on the sofa and watch shit TV. Also, is it possible to overdose on Gaviscon?

I got told at the dentist I need three fillings and he ever so kindly offered to wait until I'd had the baby as I was so uncomfortable in the chair. Something to look forward to! I swear they make it up, we only moved a couple of months ago and the previous dentist didn't think anything was wrong. My sciatica is very bad BUT scan tomorrow and I'm excited to see the by and just hoping he's the right way up!

I sneezed and I wet myself a little bit. I feel like crap and totally horrified it's never happened to me before in any of my pregnancies.

I can barely walk now and I'm only 32 weeks the 3 school runs are becoming mission impossible (1 at high school, 1 in Infants and 1 at nursery).

I've spent so many years dreaming of having a girl and now I'm finally having one I'm hating every bit of being pregnant...feel like a bad mother. Never liked being pregnant as it is but this one is has been one of the most painful ones I've ever had. Starting to wonder if it's due to the car accident I had in my 2nd trimester. This lady apparently didn't see me driving up the main road and decided to pull out and smash into my drivers side and write my car off 🙄🙁

I'm sorry I'm feeling very sorry for myself and it's 1am and I can't sleep whilst hubby is sleeping like a baby think a nice kick is in order 😈

Oh pointless I feel your pain! So not a bad mother for not enjoying the pregnancy. It's such a bloody hard slog. I'm also hating every second of it and I keep trying to tell myself - in thirty years time or something, you'll want to remember the Magic of it. But no. It's just pain and cramp and wee.

Ds is back at pre school next week I am simultaneously dreading it and desperate for it.

Morning Grump Gang!

I'm feeling suspiciously jolly this morning. We think some of the kids may be back in school today so we are going to take DS to a soft play, see how busy it is and let him run his little legs off while we drink some coffee. Then I'm cutting his hair (which should be joyous, he hates it!) Then walking the dog in the afternoon. I have decided the horrific state of the house can wait and we need a fun day. Whether or not it will be fun will be up to my belly to decide!

Pointless Don't worry, I have always wanted to be a Mummy, be pregnant etc. I thought it would be great!

Turns out I hate it, it simply doesn't sit well on me. DP and I discussed this morning how my bump just doesn't suit me. It simply doesn't want to round out properly so I have a little podge at the bottom! Bah! I'm getting to a point where I don't even care anymore though. Just want ickle baby out really.

Coughing and peeing yep ✔️

Feeling concerned today after remembering midwife wrote Transverse in my notes 2 weeks ago. Only just realised what it means.

Shocked she said nothing to me and just scribbled it in my green notes.

I'm 35 weeks and already had a scan booked for 10th Jan.

I'll be 36 weeks by then!

:( feeling annoyed with myself for only just realising and reading not so good things about Transverse.