Staying posifrickentive- Thread 13 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

And here we are at thread 13... we can do this

That's what i was gunna say ginge, like I said I know my MW in the MAU is a bit sweep handy but last pg she gave me 48 hourly sweeps from 37 weeks!

Yeah i think my sil had one at 37 or 38.

I'll ask on Monday but so far they've said not until due date at the earliest. Ginger I was way worse than you - infact your posts remind me of mine. I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this all goes smoothly for you. You deserve it xx

Thanks whatser at least i know im not alone.

Definitely got something there but it could be easily something ive caused myself. Could be something to do with the baby aspirin too.

I did ring epau and they weren't very helpful tbh. Just said put a pad on and see what happens but we dont scan before 8 weeks not that i wanted a scan, scanxiety central over here just some reassurance it's normal. She did part saying she wasn't sat worrying about what i had said but it's early days and you never know what's going to happen lol. Great

Haha sorry nasch. I think it's quite rare for babies to be born that big!
dino asdas maternity leggings are £10 for a 2 pack and they are pretty decent. Wash up nice and not too see through, something I'm always concerned about! I bought some as was living in 'jeggings' until they split ( strangely enough, in the crotch area). The jeggings I had were from Select and the soft touch ones, they are comfortable but look that bit smarter than just standard leggings. They might be good for after the birth? Around £10 a pair so not expensive either. Obviously they'd be under bump if bought for now but I prefer that as I don't feel so restricted x

nasch was that at your 32 week one, because mine is too? Ultrasound lady estimated 8lbs for birth around 38/39 weeks but she stressed growth in the womb is not constant.

Big, big babies are rare though but they do come out easier thanks to gravity!

Oh thanks lynsey will check out Asda, wanted to look at their clothes anyway. I don't even know if there's a select near here but will keep an eye out. I didn't want to buy anymore as so close to the end but think I have to for my sanity. If I get past 37 weeks I'm staying in pj bottoms all the time hahaha.

Finally in bed, OH told me to rest hours ago but I've properly attacked downstairs. House to do list before baby is born is slowly getting smaller. Plus hopefully picking up the clothes I put away from DS tomorrow & I need to remember Moses basket sheets & hats.

At least I should sleep tonight. Hope everyone manages a rest.

Oh ginger sorry didn't mean to miss you off. Yes try to leave the cervix alone & EPU's are just really hit & miss. It's sad as it's an everyday job to them just waiting as it's personal for you but hopefully time will pass quickly for you to get to a scan.

Thanks dino sorry thought i had already responded.

I don't even know where my cervix is dont think ive touched it but i guess all the pressing whilst on aspirin may have set something off.

Phoned epu again and this one didnt seem concerned. I did ask to speak to someone with experience with aspirin but she said best to see gp. She thought it sounded like a water infection tho so off to gps tomo.

Your cervix is high up inside of you. I agree it sounds like a water infection. It could also be a skin irritation. I think you should see your gp anyway. You will need some support over the next few months and you might find they can help.

Yeah i definitely havent touched that. We havent even dtd since bfp due to something my old mw said to me.

Could be i guess. I'm just going to relax and take it easy today and hope it doesnt get any worse then will ring gp in the morning.

I hate all this and dilemmas about work. I work half an hours travel from home. Havent told work and dont want to either. Want to go to work tomo but due to the only other time i mc i am always petrified it kicks off at work and how i would deal with it.

I agree sometimes you have to do things just for your own sanity dino. I was really reluctant to buy anymore and think I was earlier on in my pregnancy than you are now! I bought the asda leggings online, and they do come generous so only order what you need size wise, not any bigger. If they don't do them in store, it's free to have them sent there or £2.95 sent to home.
I'm not ignoring you ginger, I'm just not very useful in your particular problem I'm afraid. I only had blood in my mc's but it was more than what your describing. Did have a horrendous water infection that made me wee blood last year tho! Still waiting on urine results from a week ago at moment :-/

Thanks lyndsey

I had blood first pregnancy mmc and second pregnancy which was fine until 27wks.

It sounds silly but i can cope with a loss if thats what it is. It's the way it happens i will struggle with due to my mmc. I haemorraged three times with not much warning but that was after a failed medical management so im hoping a natural mc wouldnt happen like that but obvs i dont know and fingers crossed i wont be finding out

Thanks ladies 😁.

becs we do have it narrowed down to 3 names now... keeping them quiet though sorry! Well done on being so organised already! Our pram came too :). Dp enjoys it far too much lol its like a toy for him showing everyone how it goes up and down and everything . At least he's excited now!

Welcome ami and congrats!

So glad to hear baby perked up again newshoes.

I need to get some leggings so thanks for the tips! I'm starting an ante natal exercise class next week and maternity gym clothes are so expensive! I'm thinking I'll just wear normal leggings if I can find some non see through ones or I found some cheap stretchy harem pants on amazon that'll do. Just need a top. Literally none of my pre pregnancy clothes fit so they're all packed away! I'm wondering whether to get a maternity bikini/tankini while the sales are on too? I'm planning on using the birth pool so will maybe want it on it there (or maybe not but i guess its better to have it and not wear it!) and I might go swimming when I'm bigger.

ginger sorry epu wernt much help. Hopefully the gp will be able to advise something and you get some answers.

Dino it was the private growth and wellbeing scan I had at 31+5. She said about 4 1/2 lbs and estimated about 7 1/2 or 8lbs at birth. Which sounds perfect but also said they tend to put on 1/2 lb a week so I assumed if baby is late then he/she could be much bigger! Partly worried we'll run out of clothes

Ginger sorry it's such a worrying time. I hope you can take it easy today. I don't have much experience as my loss last year (first pregnancy) was a molar pregnancy so quite different.

Dh decided yesterday that he didn't want to go to the football and announced he was 'using you as the excuse'. I told him people would think I was in labour so not to do that. Sure enough, we then had several 'surprise' visitors. Dh and his mum very nearly ended up in a row because mil announced she was buying dd a very expensive toy as her 'baby present'. Dh told her not to even consider it and that the 'baby present' was to come from us and only us. She's really pissed off. I told her I didn't mind if she bought a colouring book and some sweets as a compromise but I'm with dh. We've spent ages looking through photo albums at when dd was born and she understands that people buy gifts for a new baby on the day it's born. She has bought one too. Then mil started going on about how she 'has to see the baby on the day she is born' and 'has to be the favourite'. I'm so glad I'm going into hospital where visiting hours will shield me from this crap!

Whatser I know how you feel. Here it is SIL constantly referring to my 'bump' as hers/ her baby. I understand people are excited about a new baby but it's quite irritating.

We had the same with dd. When dd was born we got home from the hospital at 12 midday after having her at 2am a few hours before. Pil and sil arrived about 20 minutes after we got home. My parents arrived an hour later. Mil insisted that they leave to give my parents a chance to see dd and then called dh from the car, sobbing, saying she just 'knew' she wouldn't get the chance to be as close to dd as her other neice. Then, she tried to take a week of work because she wanted to come down every day to 'bond'. Dh had a word and she didn't but it was a battle. She repeatedly tried to take over wth dd and cried if i didnt let her push the pram etc. She's lovely, but way too much. My mother on the other hand is most put out that we won't let her bring dd to the hospital to meet the baby. She lives close to the hospital so is having dd whilst I'm in labour. Dh will then pick dd up to bring her meet the baby, just the four of us. DM thinks this is unreasonable because she wants to be there . If i didn't need childcare I wouldn't tell any of them until the day after she was born!

From a place of not having any interested family I envy you a little girls, my hubbys parents have both passed and when my mother and father divorced we moved from Liverpool to Surrey so she would have the support of her family, they are from Liverpool also but my nan worked for the foreign office and when my mum was 18 and married my Nanna left and took her younger siblings down south.
I don't have contact with my father and I'm not close to my sister, I love my brother dearly but he's a man and although he loves the kids he's a mans man and although protective of me always tells me how proud he is of me and my large family and he doesn't know how i do it and so well.
Hubbys only got 2 siblings that are quite old now and they have there own grandchildren and so really there's nobody other than my best friend that's really that interested in my children.
It's pretty sad really but it's only so because I know how nice it is to have been part of a good large family growing up.
I'm quite diplomatic but very assertive and I wouldn't put up with any of the mils nonsense watser, but at the same it is lovely to think that there are other people in the world who love your babies as much as you do, I'd tell them straight about what your happy and not happy about then sweeten the convo by telling them they are very much loved and treasured family and see how that goes, you can't feel so under pressure from the stress of it all it's not fair too you xx

I just tell them all straight. Dh and I have been together 15 years and married for 7. It just annoys me. Luckily, dh is on side so he backs me up!

Wow, just been catching up on several pages and sending strength to those who need it and congratulations also for the many positive scans and births and bumps!
13+4 and bit wobbly again. Boobs don't feel sore or particularly tender the last couple of days.. and I'm trying to take.that in my stride.
I'm in that weird in between stage where my regular jeans/ bottoms are too tight and yet maternity trousers are definitely comfortable but loose!
I will look up the FB group and ask to join :)

Sorry ginger I got confused last night & thought it was cervix. Definitely agree about getting urine checked out & hope it's nothing.

moonlight Tankini is definitely useful, especially for swimming & pool.

nasch I feel the same as my Ovia app says baby is 4lbs this week but hit that before 9th Jan! I've had to get out the 0-3 for hospital bag just incase!

whatser that sounds awful of your MIL, the baby isn't going to care if she has to be there or not. & yes it's good you've got visiting hours.
Sorry about your DM as well, especially as it's DD meeting her sibling for the first time.
I'm worried how in laws are going to overcompensate with DS especially as if I go into labour in the day they will probably have him.
OH is dreading telling them DS is probably starting nursery for one day a week in April. I'm just going to get their visit over & done with as OH says it's a bit harsh to have friends over when they haven't been but I pointed out friends are supportive, they interact with DS too & don't make everyone feel awkward. & I'm not dragging everyone up to their's either.

Didn't help MIL neighbour's moved out yesterday & she messaged OH saying "should have got on the list."

10 minutes away is close enough thanks.

Hope you get the family you want whatser without too much foot putting down & it's good DH is on side too.

Hope everyone has a nice Sunday, going out for pie & mash so no cooking today which is good as only managed 4-5 hours sleep.

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Hopefully that'll take you to the Facebook page :-)

No worries dino.

It's stepping up a bit now. Pink bleeding. Trying to get in touch with epau. I cant cope with a long drawn out affair again (last one took 5 weeks from me knowing to it being over, 9 weeks since it stopped developing). See what they say.

Oh ginger, delurking to say I'm hoping you managed to get in touch with EPAU and there's a plan. I'm just over 5 weeks too with one previous MMC and one MC, and one successful pregnancy in between. It's so hard psychologically. Hugs to you xx

Ginger - I hope you can at least see someone first thing tomorrow morning if you haven't managed to today.

Sorry to hear about those of you with families that sound like hard work! I think you have to be quite firm and just say no sometimes but I know that is far more difficult than it sounds.

I'm a bit fed up today. One side of my neck has swollen up around a big lump that has appeared under my chin. I look like a hamster! The sore throat that started for me last Thursday (so ten days ago) seems to be getting worse again and baby has gone really quiet. I phoned the antenatal unit this morning because I hadn't had any movement for hours on end and there's been a general decrease in movement over the past week. They saw me in the antenatal unit and checked the heartbeat which is absolutely fine but they want to scan me tomorrow. They also took some blood to try to establish whether the issue with my neck is an infection.

I'm so paranoid that whatever illness I've got is affecting the baby because it has been so much less active over the past week or so.

Pregnancy seems to be constant ups and downs and worrying!