Staying posifrickentive- Thread 13 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

And here we are at thread 13... we can do this

[jpeg28]

Congrats Shrimpy on your 12 week scan!

I had my 20 week scan today and found out I'm having a boy!! So excited now! I then went to school and told my form group... they are year 9. Here are some of the responses...
"Miss how long have you know, why have you not told us sooner?"
"Does this mean it's called a bastard child because you're not married? I was one of those"
"Who's the dad?"
"Does this mean you're not catholic?"
The list could go on!! They were hilarious! Then turned the conversation back to them very quickly and asked if we could do secret santa!!

dolerite I'm impressed you managed all of Gilmore girls in one go! I'm watching the second one right now!

[jbee664]

Aah, lovely news JPEG - how exciting! I think I'll find out too.

Congrats Shrimpy too.

Glad you got the reassurance dino.

Need to catch up properly on everybody else!

I have my 12 week scan 2 weeks today - hope the time goes quickly!! We'll find out then whether it's twins or not. The early scan showed difference in sizes and heartbeat was a lot slower on the smaller one but I'm hoping he's pulled through. I'll be sad if he hasn't but at the same time will be happy and grateful to be having one!

I've only told my best friend - I nearly told work a couple of weeks ago when I was feeling so ill but then got the acupressure bands and they really helped. We both said yesterday we now as well just wait till the scan to tell people!

[emily86]

Congratulations on the scans jpeg and shrimpy!

Got myself really worked up over the weekend but seem to have a better hold on it today. Got a second scan a week today when all being well I'll be 8 weeks. Utterly convinced I'm going to find blood everyone I go to the toilet. Even stocked up on white knickers yesterday which I'd rarely normally wear !

How exciting for everyone who's been doing shopping. I think I'll be too scared to buy anything until I'm at least 30 weeks! Did sneak a peak at maternity dresses the other night as we've got a wedding at the end of May by which point hopefully I'll be large!

[Whatsername17]

Congratulations jpeg that is lovely news! I feel like I've hot a wall. Dh is the well again, dd was up every 2 hours last night which means she is probably sickening for something. Work is so busy and stressful and I'm knackered. The Christmas holidays can not come quickly enough!

[theAntsareMyFriends]

jpeg congrats on a boy. I love the responses from your class. Kids really say what they think.
There's lots of boys now with jpeg, bec and purple.

I found out on Saturday that my DSis had a tfmr at the weekend. She would have been due around the same time as me. Neither of us had told the other one as we both had MC at the beginning of the year and then both had issues at the 12 week scan. I would have told her after my 20week scan. My heart breaks for her and I feel so sad that my PG is inevitably going to cause her more pain. I can't even begin to understand how she feels and I think about her all the time and wish there was something I could do. I don't know how to tell her about me and I don't know what to do about Christmas as it will be such a hard time for her.

Sorry to not catch up on everyone properly. I hope everyone is doing well.

[INeedNewShoes]

That's lovely news re your scans jpeg and Shrimpy

I'm feeling more positive about everything with every week that passes. I'm sure my nerves will start building soon for my 20-week scan though. 3 weeks to go until that.

[jbee664]

Oh Ants - I really feel for you! My sis is 22 weeks but classed as high risk as she has a double womb (she had bleeding at the weekend but all okay now) I've still not told her about me as I want to wait till the 12 week scan. I just hope and pray it will all be okay for both of us!
Would you normally be spending Christmas with her?

[theAntsareMyFriends]

Thank you jbee. I hope you and your sis are both ok.
We normally spend Christmas with our parents but if me being there is going to cause her pain I'm going to offer to miss it this year. I see my parents all the time anyway while she lives a bit further away. I've got my DS while she has no children and her DP doesn't really 'do' christmas. I haven't spoken to her yet as I'm letting her call me when she's ready (I have texted her though). She will probably suspect I'm PG as the last 2 times I saw her neither of us were drinking (we aren't raging alcoholics but would usually have a glass of wine with a meal) and I knew straight away she would be PG.

[McBaby]

Haven't been on for ages. 17+1 baby no and still not feeling any movement I kno wits still early but it's freaking me out as I was feeling it by now with baby no 2. 20 week scan is in 20 days.

With this one a measured 6+1 when I thought I was 6+5 which freaked me out for a bit but by 10 weeks I was measureing 5 days ahead so where I thought I was so it caught up by 9 days in 3 weeks. They are so small at the beginning that .1 of a mm is a while day.

[jbee664]

Hopefully she will already suspect - also as you had an mc earlier this year she will know that you were trying and it was likely it could happen at any time. My sis felt awful about telling me as it was 6 weeks after my 2nd mc - I do admit it was tough to hear but I also felt bad she felt bad about it.
Re Christmas, just see how it goes when you tell her, she might want her her family around her or she might not even want to go herself.

[theAntsareMyFriends]

Thanks jbee thats great advise and its helpful to hear from someone who was on the other side from me (having to hear about DSis PG after your loss). It was the one silver lining with my MC that I didn't have to tell my Dsis who had MC a few weeks before me. I'll let her take the lead on Christmas and I think she will prob ask me when she is ready. Thanks for taking the time to answer me. I've been worrying about it so much that I've not been able to sleep properly but it helps to tell someone.

[Miami81]

Hi ladies. Thanks for all your support over the last few weeks, unfortunately our scan today was not a good outcome and we are preparing ourselves for our second miscarriage. All the best to everyone for their pregnancies. Hopefully I will be back on here in a few months time. Xx

[jbee664]

Oh Miami, I'm so sorry to hear that, sending you love and hugs. Will it definitely be mc?

I know this is no consolation (but it helped me after 2nd mc) but the good thing is you can get pregnant, that's the hard bit for a lot of people.

I hope you're being looked after and get the help you need

Xx

[Lizziedoll]

Hi everyone my name is Alizée I'm 30 and 5 weeks pg with my first child, it's my second pregnancy, I miscarried my first around 6 weeks in July, it was a very tough experience but I got through it somehow. Just wanted to say hi to anyone in a similar situation!

[INeedNewShoes]

Miami - I'm so so sorry. Look after yourself

[jpeg28]

Miami I am so sorry to hear that. I'll be thinking of you, look after yourself and I hope we see you back on this thread soon xx

[emily86]

So sorry Miami. Thinking of you at this utterly rubbish time.

Welcome Lizziedoll. Lots of supporthe here from ladies who have been through the same.

[Whatsername17]

So sorry to hear that Miami. Look after yourself xx

[fuzzywuzzy]

Miami so sorry about your news, take care of yourself.

[purpleviolet1]

Miami so sorry to hear your news. I had my second miscarriage in June and felt devastated. I fell preg after one period and now 22+ weeks. I remember the despair I felt and the sadness that twice was more than bad luck but I'm an example of how it really can just be bad luck. Wishing you all the best on your journey. Xx

Ants sorry to hear about your sil. What a tough time. How far along was she?

Can anyone tell me how often they feel their baby moving? I don't feel like it's a routine yet as such or frequent. It seem to be quite random but most days I am feeling movement in the morning and at night for a while, and then the odd flutter during the day. I know they say that everyone is different but just wanted an idea of other people's experiences.

Thanks

[LynseyH]

miami my thoughts are with you. I'm so sorry to hear. I know nothing can be said to take away your pain, just be kind to yourself and take a day at a time

[Naschkatze]

Miami if you're still reading I'm very sorry. I hope you're looking after yourself.

Purple at 22 weeks I felt movement most in the evening when I was relaxed. During the day I barely felt anything - I think because I was too busy. Now, it's much more noticeable and regular (27+5).

[doleritedinosaur]

Miami I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you take care of yourself & you are back here soon.

purple same as Nasch movements were still sporadic at 22 weeks but more when I sat down/relaxed. Supposedly movement rocks them to sleep.
Take advantage of this though as did a car journey of 1.5 hours twice today and absolutely uncomfortable now.

[purpleviolet1]

Thanks for replies ladies!

Hope everyone else is ok. X

[INeedNewShoes]

I've felt my baby move three times now, much earlier than I thought I would as I'm only 17 weeks. The first time it was so subtle I wasn't convinced, but it was more pronounced the more recent two occasions. Wonder how many more days before I get the next discernable nudge!