Staying posifrickentive- Thread 13 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

And here we are at thread 13... we can do this

I agree with ineed that sometimes baby is more active than others, I've found that to be the case. I was worrying a little this morning, no matter how much prodding I did she wouldn't kick back but since then all has been fine. Keeping an eye on things is definitely best though and asking to be checked if still not satisfied.
I've opened a return case on eBay for the mouldy bag (it is supposed to be brand new!) A few people have offered to lend me one now but I hate borrowing things, I'm thinking I'll just stick with my pretty pink box as everything is in there anyway and I won't need the bag afterwards anyway.
congratulations netflix on a great scan. It's so great when they move you forward isn't it!
Wow macauley 8lb and 2 weeks early! That's great!
Lovely bump picture nasch.

Oh forgot to say, chicken pox must be doing the rounds as it's been reported in our school too. 4 yr old just back after tonsillitis so really hoping he's strong enough to fend it off as he'll no doubt pass it to my 3 yr old too :-/ I've already had it thankfully as has my eldest son.

Thanks whatser. I was really nauseous this morning and have been so tired so although i say no syptoms i do have some and i'm not even 6 weeks.

I need to stop panicking. So glad of this thread and you all talking me down.

ginger all my pregnancys have been so different regardless of the outcome, it's impossible not to worry I no but try and remember it's a different pregnancy and a different little person so your hormones are bound to be a little different too I could probably do with taking my own advice really, I'm always worrying about crazy things, but hopefully the outcome will be different for us this time round.

Oops posted too soon, I have fat fingers today. Nice to see lots of lovely bump pictures today, and bec that's such a full wardrobe! But why not, pregnancy is so long so why not enjoy buying cute tiny things I went crazy with my DS but he was sick a lot and we still ended up having to go out and buy more, it's crazy how many clothes they can get through.

lyndsey I hope the chicken pox stays away for you, sounds like you've been really unlucky with bugs in your house this last few months!

Thanks alb that's true. Mmc i had no symptoms at all. With pfb i had sickness, tiredness, sore boobs, stuffy nose and.lots of food aversions altho quite honestly i dont remember when they started.

This pg i am taking 75mg aspirin and wondered if that may have an impact on symptoms.

Thanks alb. Your right about this house being lurgy central! It's since my 4 yr old started reception at school, his attendance is already classed as poor because of these continuous bugs and I got really upset about it the other day. I said to my dad I don't want to be looked at as a bad parent but he's ill so what do I do?! He told me it's not my fault, these things happen and not to worry... my eldest attendance is perfect! Just the little ones seem to pick up everything going :-/

I'm sure the school will understand that lyndsey and the school will see him there for years so they'll no eventually even if they don't already that your a good parent. Better he's at home safe than being sent in every day despite being sick so that you can rush off to work or something (not that I'm suggesting you would, or many working parents would, I work myself, but I'm sure plenty just try to escape having to take sick days)

I don't know anything about aspirin side effects ginger but it deffiently makes sense that it could change or even mask some symptoms in my head. Are you going to try and go for an early scan in a few weeks for some reassurance?

Whatser - I remember when you did that poking around, was obviously meant to be! Not long now...so excited for you!

I know in my head if its thinning your bood then it could.

No it was at scans i found out about my son dying and obvs mmc so they give me massive anxiety.

Scans are horrible when you've been in our position. This thread's word for it is scanxiety. Sometimes when I read what you ladies have been through I really don't know how you are still standing. My mmc at 13 weeks followed by a chemical very nearly destroyed me. This thread has been such an amazing support to me and im very grateful for it. My mum, mil, sils and best friend are all brilliant and were wonderful through the last year. But they get so excited about my pregnancy that they are always a bit surprised when I talk of being anxious. Well, to be fair my best friend isn't as she had a mc but she focuses on the positive. You guys get it though which is why I'm so grateful. Anywho, after spending the day yesterday in a bit of a wallow - didn't get dressed and napped most of the day in between crying for no reason- I've woken up after a rare good nights sleep ready to get out and do something with the day and it is snowing! I've already had two 'don't you dare drive in this' texts! Which I will ignore as it isn't bad yet. Kinda worried about slipping over and ending up like a turtle though!

Ginger - I didn't have any symptoms at all before around 7 weeks and when I did it was only nausea. I had fewer symptoms with this pregnancy than I had with the pregnancy where I miscarried.

You can drive yourself mad trying to symptom spot and it's just not worth it. And there's no point at all comparing your symptoms with those of others or even with your own other pregnancies. Every pregnancy is different.

I resisted early scans too until finally at 10 weeks I just had to know so caved and booked one.

All three of my pregnancies have given different symptoms. With dd I had nausea, agonising boobs and felt very 'different'. With my lost baby I was violently sick from implantation. Before I'd even missed a period I was throwing up. I threw up 4 times a day until I eventually miscarried, even though the baby died at 8 weeks. With this pregnancy I was pretty much symptom less.

Thank you ladies you are all reassuring me. So glad i found this thread.

Yes people getting excited for you is the worst. Only close family know at the minute and i wont talk about it which is going well for me so far but i am dreading the big announcement and everyone thinking how magical it is when it really wont feel like that until i have a healthy baby to hold in my arms.

Snow where i live is terrible but where i work, a half hour drive away,barely any. People wont believe me when i tell them what a nightmare, scary journey ive had!

Lyns this bag looks a bargain for under £10!
eBay 262800878213 (brown one)
Xxx

Ginger I think I'm 6+3 today, sore boobs only started on Tuesday and was moaning all day worying about not having any sickness yet, then woke up yesterday morning and felt dreadful! Same today and still now feel like throwing up would make me feel better (bit like with a hangover!)..so bear in mind it's still early days for you, and as others have said every pregnancy is different. With my DS (now 4) I don't think I was feeling sick until about 8 weeks...

I also know what you mean about scans, part of me would like an early scan for reassurance, but I'm worried that it will be bad news, but also that if all seems fine, it's only fine for that moment. As soon as I walk out of the hospital I'll be worrying again...so I think I'll just wait and see. It's not like it could make any difference to the outcome..

I know I'll feel lots better once I get past 10 weeks with no bleeding, then a sucessful scan and screening at 12 weeks I'll be happy..

Ladies who are currently under the 12week mark you just have to try to be positive, being positive or negative won't change the outcome but it will greatly improve your quality of life in the mean time.
The anxiety doesn't really end, like I've said previously, I had all the scanxiety with the early scans I had (3) and then the overwhelming fear for the 12wk, then the same for the gender and the 20wk and now I'm 26weeks I'm just trying to rush through each day waiting for the next to get to a point where I know he can be born healthily.
I haven't allowed my fear tho to stop me from being excited, he already has his name and I'm picturing his little face! his pram and his crib was delivered yesterday, and I just sat there picturing taking him out for the first time and the kids fighting over who gets to push him!
I think the moral is just try to feel positive, like watser says 'today your pregnant'.
This is my 10th pregnancy and my 6th baby, so please believe me when I say I talk from a place of experience 😩

We will have to start a joining thread for all the lovely pics of the baby's that have been and will be born from this thread, maybe even a FB page so we can all stay in touch beyond this experience 😘

I know in the early weeks symptom spotting was driving me mad & the cramps were terrifying me even though it was stretching.

Before 6 weeks I know is really early for hormones then levels build up & that's when nausea etc can start.

10-12 weeks placenta takes over so some symptoms can drop or disappear altogether.

Hope you all make it through the worries & scanxiety.

Don't know if I've been not so great in still throwing up a few times a week.

Woke up today with really bad backache, also had braxtons so been lying down a lot & napped. Baby is moving lots & cervix is up really high so I'm saying it's practice. Going to be a long 5 weeks to 37.

Hope everyone has a good Friday.

Ooh Dino your in your final stretch!!
Is it a c-section I can't remember, baby brain xx

Thank you everyone.

In all fairness i am trying to be positive. Sometimes i think reading everyone elses things on yhe ante natal thread just has me thinking i have got that yet etc but i guess we're all at differnt stages. I need to just relax.

Thank you for all your reassurances theyre really helping me.

*xxbec I like the idea of a thread or fb page we can stay in touch on. I was quite sad at the thought of not having you ladies to talk to once our babies arrive.
I can only echo what the others have said about the early days.
For those who are new, my history is 3 healthy boys, then 2 mc in a row before this one who is a little girl :-) I'm due in exactly 4 weeks. I'd convinced myself I just couldn't carry girls, I didn't understand why I was suddenly losing babies when I had 3 boys... obviously that's not the case. The pregnancy after my 1st mc was horrid and filled with anxiety, it wasn't to be and I miscarried again.
This time, I had a different feeling and Outlook. Maybe self preservation but I was determined "what will be, will be". I also knew this would be my last try.
Trying to stay positive is the only way most of us have coped I think, alongside having this thread to offload on.

I had my growth scan today (Friday 13th which of course thrilled me!!) But it couldn't have gone better! She's doing just fine, they even checked the kidneys again and the fluid had reduced this time!! Yay!!
Baby is approximately 5lb 12oz at the moment too

The early days are definitely the worst. I look at my pregnancy in two halfs. The first half with the anxiety and just getting to each scan and appointment as a milestone to reach. Once I got to twenty weeks I did relax slightly but was still far too cautious of getting too excited. But I started doing pregnancy yoga and went to a fab ante natal class and met some other mums to be which helped focus my anxiety. Hearing that others had some of the same anxiety as I did helped me in a way.
One thing I regret is not taking enough photos of me pregnant and not just embracing the excitement of it all. Being cautious or excited doesn't tempt fate.
I'm still lurking so I can hear when all these new babies arrive soon and would love to join a group to keep in touch with you all since this group (and the ttc after mc) has got me through some dark times.

That's fantastic scan news Lyns xx

ginger I haven't been near the March antenatal thread as I knew in the beginning I would get worked up plus with my MC previously had to bow out & couldn't go through that again.

I think a post natal group sounds great. This & the ttc thread has helped my anxiety so much.

bex I'm back to a home birth now, well consultant has to sign me off but midwife & I agree there's nothing stopping me.
Plus it's safer as DS was a hour after waters went & Im 20 minutes car ride from hospital without traffic.

lynsey that's so great! Especially about fluid reducing! Really hope it's gone when she's born. You're 1lb ahead of me!

Had another nap & feeling slightly better. Back ache will not go though.

Also my friend's mum whose a midwife got back to me & she said for home births
Torch/decent bendy lamp
At least 2 shower curtains especially if you have cream carpets.
More old towels than you think you need as can just chuck them away afterwards.
Tea/coffee & biscuits for midwives

Snow hasn't really settled here annoyingly. Though OH said better off staying in as nothing is gritted, argh.

OK, I'm probably overreacting, but just been for a wee and had some brown stringy bits of blood in discharge when I wiped (sorry, tmi!) Exactly the same as I had on Monday and Thursday last week which I put down to implantation bleeding (before I had BFP)...suddenly now I know I'm pregnant, I'm panicking...I don't need to do I? I think I'm only just over 6 weeks and it was definitely brown not pink like when my MC started last year....so possibly more implantation bleeding?