Staying posifrickentive- Thread 13 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

And here we are at thread 13... we can do this

Sorry whatser and knorrig that you're both feeling so unwell. I hope you both get better soon.

Hope the scan goes well tomorrow lynsey! 5 weeks is so close!!

I'm finally home after leaving Devon at 9am this morning!! Haven't been home for 2 weeks so I have so much to get sorted! Left OH at his parents for a few more days and I'm now sat on the sofa eating (even more) xmas chocolates!! I'm desperate to get the tree etc down and get back to normal!

Oops double posted!!

I think we are going to do ours tomorrow. I need to be back to normal and ready. 37 weeks tomorrow. Know realistically it's not going to happen in the next two days but I just want to be ready!

Thank you jpeg. I'm glad I have the scan as it's nice for the reassurance everything is ok. Hopefully that's what I'll get and not bad news anyway.
knorrig I said as much didn't I :-/ hope it doesn't get worse and that you won't need any intervention with antibiotics etc.
whatser I think how you feel is totally understandable. I think when your less able to do things it makes you want to do it more so and the anxiety can ramp up too. My excitement at being so close is really starting to bubble up so you must be so desperate to get to the end now!!

Good luck for the scan Lyndsey!

27 weeks today. I feel huge!

Hope the scan goes well today Lynsey.

Whatser Knorrig hope you're feeling better.

I really want to get a hospital bag packed this weekend (32 weeks today), even though still planning a homebirth. Anyone who has done this before fancy sharing the things I shouldn't be without?!

Good luck today lynsey hope the fluid has gone.

Hope you're both feeling better whatser & korrig

I'm packing mine bit by bit nasch
I've got for me;
Andrex washlets,
Maternity pads,
Massive black, granny knickers
Black towel,
Slippers/flip flops
Black pjs
Lip balm/hand cream
Usual toiletries
Leggings/vest tops/thin tops as hospitals are boiling.
Snacks/squash/cup with straw
Pregnancy pillow
Breast pads/nipple cream

For baby
Cotton balls for wiping bum,
Coconut oil so first poos dont stick
Nappies
Baby gros
Vests
Hats
Blanket x2
Muslins
Baby jacket

My actual list is upstairs so I think that's everything.

Hope all goes well today lynsey...

For a hospital bag... there's a great thread somewhere on mumsnet... I'll try to find it for you! I'm only 24 weeks and cannot wait to pack mine... I'm one of those people who pack for holidays like 2 weeks early!!

Hospital bag?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2801608-Hospital-bag

No kidding about hospitals being warm! I'm waiting for my appt now, I feel like I might pass out! Thank you for all well wishes. I'll be back later to let you know what they say.

Thank you!

Dolerite Have you put everything in one bag or are you organising it into 2?
Can't decide whether to pack hold all for me and changing bag for baby or just put it all in one.

I've put them into separate bags nasch so baby's is in one & ive got a small wheely suitcase for me which the baby bag also fits in.
It makes a lot easier especially when trying to grab a babygro at 2am.
I also had the first nappy & outfit on the top of baby bag which my midwife loved with DS as she could just grab it.

It's just incase I do end up with c section as OH will have car seat & my bag.

It also helps to have a list of what you've packed as I did forget with DS & had to repack.

Is anyone else sluggish today? I can't seem to get going. Bump is though.

I'm very sluggish dolerite! I'm trying to get the house cleaned etc but I'm currently lying on the sofa watching Netflix with a chocolate orange

That's what I was thinking. Hopefully we'll be at home, but will make it easier for DH if all baby's first outfit etc is in one place anyway.

Good luck today lynsey

jpeg I really do love my pacapod so I hope you do too.

I loved packing my hospital bag when I was pregnant with DD. I definitely over packed though snd that was with having to stay in post EMCS too. One thing that was a lifesaver was DH packed some sippy bottles of lucozade, I literally couldn't eat a thing so sipping that and water really kept me going. Oh and big pants and comfy pjs. I had taken pants but had to get my mum to go to M&S and buy me more.

Can I ask, does anyone have any tips or advice for these early weeks. I honestly feel like I'm about to burst with anxiety. I keep getting cramps on and off and I just can't tell what's normal or not. I have a mini heart attack every time I need to go to the loo. Is this normal or am I just going a bit crazy? Sorry to be so negative I just honestly can't seem to get a grip!

So the left kidney is fine but right kidney fluid has increased :-/ means baby will need to have a scan when she's born. They are still assuring me that it's common and nothing to panic over but it's hard not to worry isn't it.
Her growth has also dropped slightly but they did say it could be just them being slightly off with measurements and it isn't a big drop so not to worry about that either. I just want to get through these last weeks and get her here safely now. My angel monitor came today and also picked up some more bottles that are on a great offer at the moment so happy with that.
I picked up my iron tablets today too so hoping to feel a bit more with it soon. Should have started them a few weeks ago so it's probably my own fault I've felt so flat and tired. Really hate iron tablets for the constipation they cause, I have enough trouble as it is!!

littlepooch I have exactly the same. I'm currently 11+4 and everytime I've had more then a mild cramp, or felt loads of discharge I have run to the loo to check. I'm hoping that once I have had my sa

Hit post to soon, stupid phone!
I am hoping once I have had my scan in the next 2 weeks, still waiting for a date, the constant checking will stop.
I am apprehensive as this was when I had my last miscarriage, although it hadn't developed past 6 weeks. I know that there was a live baby at 8+4 from a scan this time, but it doesn't stop the anxiety.

Little your feelings are totally normal. The only thing that got me through was saying to myself 'today I am 7 weeks and 3 days pregnant' or what ever I was. Every time I started to worry I just repeated my phrase to myself. It didnt help much, but what else could I do? Here i am at 37 weeks amd i never thoyght id get here. I hope everything went well today Lynsey! Thanks for all of the well wishes too. I'm still full of cold but I'm OK. Had my 37 week midwife appointment today and they are concerned about my blood pressure again. I've got to have a home visit from the community midwife tomorrow and then they will decide if I need to be admitted. They are seeing me at the clinic again on Tuesday so at least they are on top of it, unlike with dd. Dh and I have spent 5 hours packing away the Christmas stuff and cleaning. I've told dh that, after today, I'm completely done with doing anything physical. I tend to be a very independent person and I just get on and do things. I've decorated most of the rooms in our house single handedly because dh hates decorating so I just get on with it. Whilst I've been pregnant I've just carried on as normal and dh just says 'you should let me to that, babe' before sitting back and watching me do it anyway! With the baby's room, he has reluctantly lining papered the room this week (can't wall paper myself at 37 weeks pregnant!) and is now waiting for me to fill the gaps in the wall paper, sand, paint and gloss because that is what I said I'd do 3 months ago if he did the papering. I've told him tonight that I'm not doing it. I can't keep going like I have been. He's been great and agreed he will do it but I do feel a little frustrated that he could have done it all along. Plus, if he'd done it 3 months ago I could have helped! Luckily, the baby will be in with us for the first 6 months or so and there are fitted wardrobes in her room so I can just put her stuff away in the wardrobes without it interfering with the painting. I feel better now the house is prepared but I'm a little apprehensive about tomorrow. Thinking of everyone else too - I can't remember if I congratulated you on the scan nache!

Thanks Whatser. It definitely sounds like you need to take it easy for the last couple of weeks!

Glad they're on top of it Lynsey, I'm sure if they're not worried then all is fine but I understand it would be hard not to worry. Not much longer to wait!

whatser I'm sorry your still feeling unwell but glad the midwife is on top of the blood pressure. Sounds like they are looking after you well. I cannot imagine doing all that at 37 weeks! I'm only 24 and I've spent most of the day on the sofa!!

little and effy I agree with what whatser said. I kept counting the days to the next milestone and if I'm honest nothing makes it easier except those days ticking by. I kept knicker checking every time up until my 20 week scan! Since then I'm much more relaxed. In the early days I felt like you, I was just so anxious and I was negative about everything, constantly assuming I would lose the baby. For me it did get easier after each scan but I know that doesn't help you right now! Try to do something that takes your mind off it each day, relax as much as you can and just look after yourself .

Aww jpeg that sounds like heaven. I was lying on the sofa at one point with DS piling toys on me. Managed to clean the kitchen & shower though.

It is definitely easier nasch even if you have a home birth, it's to hand.

littlepooch like whatser I used to take it a day at a time & say today I am still pregnant. I was constantly checking for blood & every cramp was terrifying but then I met more & more milestones.
Also reading hypnobirthing books helped ease some of the anxiety.
Hope it does get easier for you.

Aw lynsey sorry it's not the news you were after but if they're not worried that's good news. I know when I was pregnant 2 years ago the sonagrapher said scans are only 70% accurate with growth & weight.
They say people are having 10lb babies who come out 6-7lbs.

Sorry about your blood pressure whatser glad they're keeping an eye on you.
My OH is the same & ive been telling him to finish painting the hallway for ages plus all the other little jobs. It's frustrating as they say they will but it never happens.
Hope you manage to rest & it does sound like you've got it all in hand.
Hope your blood pressure is Lower tomorrow.

I'm just waiting for DS's bedtime then I'm going to bed. I'm just so tired & feel so huge today.
I've spent 2 days cleaning random bits so don't know if that has caught up with me but exhausted today. Bump is nice & active so that's good. & I'm sick of eating!

Hi Ladies,
Just sort of sticking my head round the door, I'm currently 14+1 after two MC this year (Jan and April). This baby is very much wanted but I just don't feel excited or happy, I just feel like I'm waiting for it to go wrong again. We've only told our parents and siblings as I feel like I can't face everyone knowing if it doesn't work out. Haven't told work and know I need to as there's restructuring going on at the min.
Am I being dramatic or is this pretty standard? I know I'm further than the last few times and I need to just get on with it but I'm worried. It's ridiculous!

Welcome hula! Pretty standard imo! Everyone I know got 'I'm pregnant but we are not talking about it. Please don't say congratulations'. I'm 37+1 and still worry. Do what you need to do to get through. Everyone on here gets it x

Hello hula

I was exactly the same earlier in my pregnancy and couldn't be happy/excited about it and nor would I let anyone else express excitement about it! After my 12-week scan I did tell my close friends and the rest of family as I figured that if I miscarried after that then I would need their support and understanding more than ever.

For less close friends and colleagues I actually opted to wait to tell them until after my 20-week scan which was just before Christmas. As a result I still haven't told my colleagues (apart from my boss) as I haven't been in the office since then. My bump has popped now though so I would have had to tell people at work next week anyway!

It does get easier with every week that passes and I do now feel happy and excited about it as I am feeling the baby move a lot so I get daily reassurance from that