Hello all,
I've been really thinking of you all, excuse the long post but I've had a couple of sessions of quiet time catching up on the posts since I was in hospital.
love to all but special messages to:
JULES 99: even my DH sent you a post on this! we conceived again straight after the mc/ERPC, but I did have one proper period between. A kind friend who had been in our position said that she and others conceived straight away after mc, apparently you are so awash with hormones that getting pg is easy. With us, it had taken a year to conceive the baby we lost, then one month to conceive again! that is even with me being reasonably well informed about cervical mucus, temps etc. Although after mc, the same kind friend recommended the book by Toni Weschler on fertility and that was a real help.
So sorry to hear that the last appt wasn't so encouraging, but the others are right (esp. quoting the wise Prof Regan, my guru!!) I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
MUMPBUMP I cried my eyes out at both my early scans, and it was very nice to walk past the EPAU with Torin as we went home, and think, OK, that's in the past now. All the midwives on the ward asked if they would see me again and I really sincerely said probably not, its a miracle enough having two safe and healthy boys... it reminded me that this hard time we have all had on pg after mc is temporary.
FIRST-STAR good to see all is well...
TAICHIMUM I sympathise, pg is tough with a toddler making demands. My best friend advised me to just chill out about telly (as long as reasonable quality - CBeebies is genuinely educational) and to have plenty of cheap treats to hand (new books etc). Outings are also good but easier said than done in this wintery weather. Roll on spring.
CUPCAKE really sympathise with feeling bored, lonely and demoralised. I find good food always a help, plus I did treat myself to a day at a spa. good books also!
PLP - hypermesis! you poor thing. Good luck, hope it resolves.
HERE'S MY NEWS...
I'd love to send a photo, but no idea how to attach a jpeg. I can only think, if you email me ([email protected]) I can email back with an attachment.... I realise this has blown any kind of anonymity, but not too bothered about that...
LOVE TO ALL ON THIS AMAZING THREAD XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Torin Oscar Ray news service 26 February 2007.
Thanks for all the emails, they kept my chin up when in hospital (long nights listening to other mothers managing not just to sleep, but also to snore, while their mobiles went off all night, and not even the possibility of making a cup of tea, let alone someone bringing me one, it?s great to be home.)
Lots of you have asked questions about Torin, Lorcan, and how we all are. Excuse the round robin (hoping very much that as it isn?t Christmas, no-one will grass me up by sending this to Simon Hoggart who will laugh at us). Those of you with Amnesty experience will recognise the format as a News Service (For response only) which adds to ?Frequently Asked Questions? by including a few points that we?d like to include ourselves...)
How is Lorcan taking it (most Frequently Asked Question, along with comments like ?Let the sibling rivalry begin?)
This picture of Lorcan welcoming Torin home says it all. He has a little smile which only appears when Torin does: and one of the first nights we were home he said goodnight only to Torin, with many kisses, and no-one else (mum, dad, grandma, Auntie Louise) didn?t get a second glance. He sees Torin as a ?little kitten? whereas he is ?the big kitten?. Torin is also the source of lots of lavatory humour, one of his first acts on arrival in the world was to pee on a doctor, Lorcan loves telling this story ?Cheeky Torin?, and has started to embellish it (?Cheeky Torin did a weewee on ALL THE DOCTORS!?)
Birth
The operation itself was very smooth but there was a bad moment as it took Torin a while to get breathing properly ? including a call out to the paediatric ?crash team? to come immediately to theatre to help which was really frightening. After a couple of hours of monitoring in the Special Baby Care Unit all was well, and the moment when I saw Andrew pushing the little cot down the corridor to my bed on the ward was like him being born a second time (I couldn?t go with them to the unit, which was sad, and it was sad for Andrew to see the tiny fellow being x-rayed, injected for tests etc). But no harm done, and he is doing very well now. I can?t describe the relief that he is here and OK.
Photo on the allusers email
Everyone liked the photo a lot and someone asked ?What?s your secret?? Andrew says the secret is Photoshop, he morphed my picture with one of Winona Ryder to make me look more agreeable. I was feeling a bit chemically enhanced after the narcotics I had received to make the operation possible. Although the friendly anaesthetist, Ollie, explained that only a small amount of diamorphine is required for an epidural ? the equivalent street value in heroin would be about 10p. So much for my fantasy of being pumped as full of drugs as Iggy Pop for a day.
What is Torin like?
He started off an alarming beetroot red, but this went in a day, and he looks just like Lorcan when he was born, but with dark hair, and dark blue-brown eyes, instead of fair hair and blue eyes. The shape of the face is similar, and he even has a chin-dimple, although a little less pronounced than Lorcan?s. He doesn?t cry much so far ? only when getting undressed or changed, and if he?s hungry. He?s easy to calm, you can just hold him up and talk to him, and he looks quite attentively at me, or at black and white contrasts (shadows etc). He likes moving his hands over his face and realised immediately it is good to suck your own fingers if there?s nothing much else going on.
Where is the name from?
We found the name Torin in a book of Celtic names by a Professor Loreto Todd, she identifies it as Irish, and also known in Cornwall and the Isle of Man. It is linked to the Gaelic for thunder, and therefore also the Nordic Thor. We also hear Torin Douglas on the BBC talking about the arts. Oscar is also Irish, it means ?lover of deer?. Andrew?s great-grandfather, who was Swiss, was called George Oscar Ray, so there?s a link for both of us.
Let us know other questions ? always glad to hear from you X