Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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oops taichi i meant ds could help with the books, paint and stuff next to you. he does sound very helpful though, how cute. my ds is 20 months, he likes to help too. i agree about teaching domestic duties and cooking, my dh is pretty bad, just not intrested, but i love a man that can cook.

May i suggest a train set, oh my god does my little boy love thomas, he got a set for christmas, and he just loves it he puts the tracks together, lines up the trains, pushes them, etc, it keeps he busy all day. (today i just watched him play and sat here doing some mosaics, we were both happy) sometimes we also take the trains to the washing line and move them around the house in his train bag. he is obsessed, loves the dvd/s too.
Although i also feel guilty and try and get him away from trains and making things. But that train set was worth every penny of his pops money.

Uki
Oh the Thomas obsession. I know how that goes. He has trains but I don't have a train track though. Perhaps I should get one for his birthday. Thanks for that.
I like to idea of him helping make a book. We could start a scrapbook about him and work on it together perhaps.
My DH was very well trained by his mum thank good. He can cook pretty well too. That does not mean however that he likes housework. In fact he loathes it with a passion and would happily live in squalor if I let him.
Thankfully now I am PG he is pulling his finger out a bit more spontanously.
The fatigue of early pg is overlwhelming isn't it?

taichi yes i think he'll love a track then, ours has the wind up bridges and tunnels too, very cool. oh i think i made myself unclear agin dh, isn't too bad on the domestic front,and unbelivable with ds, does more than me, he just hates cooking.
I'm feeling much better since hitting 14 weeks

although i'm tired now. good night all i'll have to catch up tomorrow.

i can't type on this keybord, you have to press the small keys very hard, it sucks, i'll blame all future errors and spelling mistakes on it.

taichi - my ds has a wooden track - we bought it for him when he was about the same age as your ds - and it is still played with now (he's 4 1/2). Don't worry about the playing thing - helping you with the housework is play as far as he's concerned, the psychologists call it 'heuristic learning' - and suggest that kids do more of it - while he's helping with the washing, he's learning about colours and textures, while he's cooking, he's learning about measuring, as well as co-ordination and motor skills (and a little bit of chemistry!) Even doing the washing up is beneficial - textures etc. I must admit that ds got a lot of that from me when he was very little - he now happily stacks and empties the dishwasher (with supervision!), loads the washing machine, washes up - and he makes fantastic cookies and cakes. We get the paints out from time to time, but as he does that both at nursery and with his childminder, I'm not too bothered. As long as you're spending time with him, talking to him, and reading with him, he'll be fine! Sorry, essay over!

I'm suffereing from the evils of hyperemesis - part of me keeps telling myself that I should be grateful to be pg - the rest of me screams out that it's not much bleeding fun! I suffered with with hypemesis when pg with ds, and the sickness lasted for a full 9 months + (ds was 16 days overdue!)

Right, managed to post today - it's my birthday too .... 36 today! Believe me, it's a rotten way to spend your birthday! I had some lovely pressies though.

take care all,

ejt

Happy Birthday ejt1764!!!! I do hope your hyperemesis eases enough for you to enjoy it! I completely empathise with you as I've been signed off work with it too but I'm managing to keep some food down now. I think my body just needs to get over the blow of not eating hardly anything for near on two weeks!

I hope for you (and for me!) that it doesn't last that long this time - I've heard some awful stories but also some encouraging ones so there is hope!

Ooooohhhh, sorry I forgot to say - I've discovered jelly! Try eating lots of jelly as it's filling at the time and you can pick whatever flavour you can cope with. It's a great way to get liquids into you! Hope that helps...?

hello all

real Time4Tea here, thanks so much for messages, Mr Tea printed them off and brought them in. in haste now, no time to write much but wanted to say hello and will write in detail soon, its been a saga of ups and downs (big ups and downs) and I've thought a lot about you all

Torin Oscar is a champion, and big brother Lorcan proud and rather over-enthusiastic cuddler (who only said goodnight to his brother last night - mum, dad, auntie and grandma didn't get a look in )

speak soon

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big congrats again T4T...although how you have found the time to log on with a week old baby....I salute you. Hope your labour went OK and that you are surviving the sore boobed, sleep deprived hell that is those fIrst few weeks. Have fun

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Thanks Ejt for you advice re:dh . Feel less guilty now. Isn't parenting one long guilt trip? Will defo get trainset with second endorsement from you, for bday.
And happy birthday too. Hope you are feeling Ok.
TFT i love the names of your boys. According to chinese gender prediction calender this babe will be a boy and we had huge problems agreeing on a name for ds. Foolishly we used the only two names we could agree on as his first and middle name. Now there is nothing left for next one but I really like Torin and Lorcan. Will see what DH thinks.
Was really hoping for a girl but I think I am out of luck. Was going to call her Indra .

Still a healthy babe is all we should ask for and I am sure I will adore another boy just as much if it is.
Enjoy your Sunday everyone

t4t - I am lost in admiration that you can even think to post at the mo!

taichi - I was talking to the acupunturist today about the non-diagnosed pnd I had after ds was born (he's called Rhydian - a really Welsh name - deciding to go for a really Welsh name helped with the name dilemma - I teach in a secondary school, and all the names had connotations for me - I didn't want to name my child for any child I'd ever taught! Mind you, now I'm working in an inner-city comp, and that's not such a problem any more) - and we were talking about the questionnaire they give you to try and see if you have pnd - one of the questions they ask is if you are suffering from anxiety and feelings of guilt .... it's more like what parent doesn't?

purpleprincess - what does it for me seems to change daily - today it's shortbread biscuits - last week it was cereal bars (just typing that has made me go and throw up!) Goodness knows what it'll be next week! Hang on in there - it's not forever (even though it feels like it!)

Am having a relatively good day today - the acupuncture is really helping me ... but I got my copy of eve through the post today, and quite unexpectedly, there's an article about mmc - I got myself all worked up, and quite upset, as I'm having a relatively good day, so therefore told myself that it was all happening again! I don't remember who said that the reasssurance of the scan wouldn't last long - I feel like I need another one now!

hang on in there ladies - knicker checkers of the world unite!

ejt

Tell me about it, I am still feeling very negative about this pregnancy, subconsiously preparing myself for the worst I think... roll on the scan.

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Morning all!

Firststar - I think the edd of my first m/c is sometime in the next month - not knowing helps I guess - and find myself playing "what if" occasionally. It's hard not to... Thinking of you and hoping that tomorrow is not too difficult...

Jules - very pleased that you are pg again after all! I really hope that the scan goes well for you and that you have some good news to report!

EJT - glad to hear that the acupuncture seems to be working and you're feeling better. I have mild nausea at the moment and am finding it a bit debilitating. God knows how I would cope with full on m/s!!

Just waiting for my booking-in appointment next week. Now the excitement of the positive scan result has died away, I really need the reassurance of a heartbeat although I know it might not be picked up. Dh asked what would happen if they didn't detect the heartbeat and I said we'd just have to wait until the 12 week scan... So much waiting... With ds, the waiting didn't really kick in until the third trimester. With this one, all I seem to be doing is waiting for the next hurdle... And I am not renowned for my patience!!

Mumpbump - I don't think the mw checks for a heartbeat at a booking in appointment. Mine did not last pg, appointment was at 8 weeks. Hope I am wrong and she does ....

I think you're right, Taichimum, but I'm going to be 10 weeks instead of 8 by the time I have my booking-in appointment (lots of Christmas conceptions going on) so I thought I'd ask her to on the off-chance she could hear something. The last m/w I had was very experienced and helpful, but they have a different m/w at the practice now...

Good morning all. That's fab news Jules that the tests are getting darker, I'm really pleased for you.

Can I ask all of you who are around 8 to 12 weeks, whether you can feel your uterus yet in the mornings? I lie there prodding myself every morning now when I have a full bladder before I get up, and I do wonder if I can feel it but I'm not sure if it's just wishful thinking. I can't remember when I felt it first with dd.

Mumpbump - please don't be negative! You are our beacon of positivity!

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Rubles - will check my tummy tomorrow and report back!!

I think I'm just knackered after a very hectic weekend and a night out last night. And I'm out for the next two nights as well, which I could well do without! I am planning a very early night tonight, following which my confidence in the outcome of this pg will no doubt be restored!!

Jules....wishing you the best of luck for tomorrow and it's nice that your mum knows as she will be able to give you some much needed girly support.
Keep hanging in there all of you, this time is very tense and seems to go on forever, but when it passes things pick up the pace like you wouldn't believe. My first trimester seemed to last a lifetime, but the second has gone in the blink of an eye. I don't remember it being like this when I has DS, but that's more years ago than my addled hormonal brain can recall at the mo. so maybe it did.

Positive sticky vibes being sent out to all

Hello Ladies

Feeling really fed up today. I have been told by MW to come to work and go home to bed and not do anything. Thats fine in theory but I have been doing that now for 5 weeks. DH has been away for a weekend to a friends wedding, been out at weekends with all our friends and he went to gig last night that I really wanted to go to. He is going out again tonight!!!

Getting frustrated with all the waiting about. My dating scan has come through for when I will be 13+ weeks, which under the circumstances seems abit late. No booking in appointment has been made yet. So I have at least another 3 weeks of boring life

I am also finding the waiting game hard at the moment. I am now 10 weeks and lost my first at 10 weeks Nov 05 so very anxious. I lost my second at 17 weeks Aug 06, I am dreading the next 7 weeks. Each day seems like a month!!

Sorry to be so down but I know you will all understand.

Cupcake - sorry you're having a bad time of it... I don't understand why they haven't given you a booking-in appointment. In my area, they try to do them at around 8 weeks. Can you not push for one? At least you only have a few weeks until your scan, but it's amazing how every day drags, isn't it? Are you sure you can't find something low stress to do in the evening like go to the cinema? That surely can't be bad and would get you out of the house...

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That would be loveley but if I am honest I am so tired at the moment after being at work all day that I am falling asleep at 7 every night, so can't really blame DH for going out all the time.

I don't know if this is a terrible thing to say but at the moment I really hate being pregnant but don't want not to be either ( I know that is strange). I just feel so fed up and sorry for myself. I am hoping it is just the hormones mixed with worry, sickness and extreme tiredness. I feel like I just need to be reminded again that this is happening for a reason and that everything is actually ok.

None of our friends know yet that I am pregnant and would love nothing more than to go out with everyone just for an hour and feel like my old self again, not a bloody baby factory. I really can't do it. I tried at the weekend by having a napp in the afternoon but that just made me really sick when I woke up and for the rest of the day.

I really don't know how people who have children and jobs do this whole first trimester thing. I had forgotten how hard it can be. Maybe I just need a big cry!!!