Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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So glad everybody seems to be doing well but that we all share the same concerns...

I've only just realised (have been a bit distracted lately!) that according to my dates, I am now 10 weeks which is my milestone so I'm glad I'm off work and spending my days on the sofa under a 'warm' as we call it! (when dd was a toddler, she knew a blanket kept her warm so it therefore picked up the nickname!)

The scan dates say that I would be around 8+5 but I know exactly when we conceived so I'm going to stick with my dates...

(So glad I got muddled up earlier too! Apologies again!)

Hey PLP - don't worry about it!! I love the name "warm" for a blanket!! But I think I'd rather be nicknamed blanket than warm, although someone else told me on another thread, that one of Michael Jackson's children might be called blanket!! Perhaps we ought not to seriously consider it for our next child!!

Hi
Mump- in answer to your question about baby book.
I use an A5 size hard covered sketch pad, it's like a blank book. i've then covered it in fabric. Inside the pages are think. I do painted backgrounds with watercolours then use textas, pencil, coloured paper, stickers etc. i also stick in ultrasound photos and print out other small photos, and write what's happening each month.
When ds was born i wrote "abbreviated" birth story and also got everyone who visited to draw or write something in his book. there's so much you can do, and i have plenty of pages left unlike some standard scrapbooks.

It's definately fun, although time consuming.
let me know how you get on.

Hi everyone, glad I am not the only one feeling like this, still feeling negative though... btw as I am writing this ds is sat behind me on the sofa, sticking his duplo bricks down the back of my knickers...ouch he hasn't the lightest touch lets say Don;t feel at all pregnant at the moment, all symptoms gone and not put any weight on at all yet, which if you knew me is very surprising, shouldn't complain though really 19 days to go till scan and counting.

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Good morning to all!!! Thanks for your good wishes, firststar. Pleased to report that the sonographer detected a heartbeat - we could see it pumping away - and I now have a blurry picture of a blob.

We were so incredibly relieved, I cannot tell you how much!! I didn't realise how worried I was until I started crying in the waiting room... Quite pleased that my booking-in appointment is in less than 10 days so will hopefully get the reassurance of hearing the heartbeat again then, followed by the 12 week scan in about 4 weeks.

Feeling very elated at the moment!!! (Can you tell?) I sincerely hope that everyone else who is having early scans similarly gets to see the all important heartbeat.

CONGRAT"S mump
that's great news

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thats fantastic news xxxx

Great news mumpbump, wish I could have an early scan to put my mind at rest, but don't think it would happen even if I tried.

Yay Mumpbump! Fab news

Very happy for you mumpbump . Been there, done that, got the fuzzy blob picture (who bears more than a striking resemblance to a miniature E.T!!). A word of advice though....I wouldn't ask the midwife to listen at your booking appoinment...it's not always easy for them to get the heartbeat at this early stage (depends on where the baby is positioned in your uterus at the time)and if they try and can't then you will only worry again. This happened to me, and although I'd had a scan at 10 wks and saw the baby wriggling and heard the heartbeat etc, the fact that my mw couldn't detect the heartbeat at twelve weeks had me a nervous wreck waiting for my dating scan the following week. I managed to convince myself in that time that things had all gone wrong again even though I'd felt very philosophical about not hearing it at the time.

Jules...hope you are keeping your spirits up. When I had my first mc, I tested positive for about two weeks after the event and was intermittently bleeding during this time. The blue line was gradually getting more and more feint during this time too. Had you had a negative test at all after your mc? If so, then surely positives now would would indicate that this is indeed another pg....have they taken any bloods to test whether your hormone levels are rising or falling? I hope you don't think I'm being intrusive or nosey

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Congrats Mumpbump - you must be thrilled!

Very pleased that you also got a good result, firststar...

Jules - I think the chances are good that it's a new pg from what you've said. Hope that you also get some good news!

Thanks everyone for your well wishes - still smiling...

HI All,

Mumpbump glad to hear it all went well for you today.

I have been into hospital today as I had some slight bleeding this morning. I am 16+4, got myself all worked up as it was exactly the same amount / colour as I had with the mc of which due date is only 3 weeks away.

Thankfully everything seems fine, they couldn't find any cause for the bleeding and it has stopped now. We heard baby's heartbeat which was a relief and it's not too long now until next scan.

Hi all,

Just checking in - I've been feeling rubbish and not able to sit up straight - then we went away for a few days - down to Stackpole Quay - beautiful place!

Great news about T4T - congratulations!!

am going to die on the sofa for a bit again now - am feeling pretty crappy at the mo!

love to all

ejt

Fantastic news mumpbump - congratulations!

Thanks for all your good wishes. really touched to those who came over from my old June thread . I still miss that thread- can't seem to get into my new one. I am happier here I think.
Congrats to Mumpbump and good luck to Jules for next week.
Eijt you sound in a bad way. Is it MS or have I missed something. Was it you who has the bad back?
Feeling so optimistic I even dug out some maternity clothes in the hope that one day soon I might have cause to wear them. Dh and I have allowed ourselves to talk about the bean a little since the scan and maybe even get a little excited. This maybe foolish but we now can't help it.
Mrs Fish why can't you have an early scan?
Firststar good news on your rseults.
Uki - love your book idea. I can't seem to find the time for these things. To busy being practical. Probably my downfall as DS won't ask to see a record of how many loads of washing I have done when he older will he.

Hi all
this is a silly time to post as you are all asleep, i hope.

I had an appointment and dr. couldn't find hb for a while, he said can be difficult at 15 weeks as they have alot of room, and he could feel it moving.
ode to self "I will really try to worry less now"

taichimum-
LOL at your ds remembering washing loads, I know what you mean, how old is ds? maybe you could do it together.
glad your feeling a bit more confident, it does make the time go quicker when your confident. ikwym about trying to get into new ante natal thread, i like it better here too.

stretchmarks-
Sorry to hear of bleeding, glad your ok.

Jules-good luck fot wed, not to far away.

elj-ah that's how i used to feel, i hope it passes soon.

Taichimum - I haven't actually asked about an early scan but I get the feeling I wouldn't get one. I haven't had any indication that anything is wrong so will just wait for my scan on the 13th.

Sorry long post.
Uki my ds is 22 months and yes he does help with the washing. In fact he is a bit of an expert in all forms of cleaning and housework. He helps me put shopping away when we come home, cleans his high chair tray after meals and wipes his own face and hands, tidy away his toys at end of day and has a little go with the hoover. If he gets mud on his hands out playing he says wipe please mummy. I think all this is really quite cute and is a socially responsible thing to do with your boys. My experience of living with 18 year old guys at uni was unforgetably awful and was a real lesson in how mums can spoil their boys to an extent that makes them totally unpalatable to women. My DS will not be one of those.
However, I do think I should play more games with him. He is very physical and therefore I find it hard to get him to concentrate on anything cognitive for more than a minute before he either gets bored or frustrated and throws it on the floor. Then I get bored with trying and get on with the mundane jobs and he plays happily by himself or helps me.
The only successful play we have is more physical e.g. tickling, hiding from each other, chasing each other, pretenting to be animals, him jumping on me, him jumping off the furniture. Maybe this is just a two year old boy thing? I guess I should not worry as he is such a relaxed happy child with excellent language skills already so I must be doing something right amidst all the washing.
I am not particularly creative but I know he likes messy play and making stuff as he does it with his childminder. Anyone got any ideas of what i could do with him? I have tried crayons and finger painting but it does not last more than a few minutes.

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