Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Thanks Daisybump - lucky you starting maternity leave in this beautiful weather - I've got the whole summer to get through while pg!! Not going to be fun, if it's as hot as predicted, but I'm not complaining much!

I think i'll avoid taking the sanatogen until I see the midwife next week - I know that iron overload is not good, so best not risk it.

thank you.
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Welcome mad4girls, you are definitely in the right place

I had my 15 plus check with the midwife yesterday, all my bloods were fine from the first lot and I have had some more taken for the DS and SB checks, just have to wait a couple of weeks to get those back now :bitingfingernails)

Heard the heartbeat yesterday which was fab, and my weight and bump are all spot on for this time too, so it looks like I am in perfect health

Had a crap nights sleep last night, woke up about 4 times for the loo and dreaming in between that and being restless as my hips were aching and I couldn't get comfortable. Looks like will have to start using my pillow

Hope everyone is enjoying the weather, although it has been overcast here in Derbyshire the past two days Hope it will clear up for the weekend

Oh, and I missed a bit. Although I will be 16 wks on sunday I have had no feeling of movement yet even though it is my second, so don't worry if you aren't feeling anything

Good for you MrsFish....you must be feeling on top of the world....despite all those little niggles.

I'd had a fair few flutters by 16 weeks (also No. 2) but it really kicked off around 16-20 weeks. Now I just wish she would settle down for a bit of a rest more often...definately more active than DS.

Mad4girls - congratulations and welcome - the reason this may seem like a 'private' thread is that we've all been in the same horrendous place that is mc - and have all got pg again. There is nobody else to whom I could talk about my constant knicker-checking obsession, and everybody has been really supportive! I'm 16 weeks today (hurray) - and, although it felt like I'd never get through the first 12 weeks (I've cried all over everybody here more than once), the last couple of weeks have flown by ... here's hoping you have a long, boring and totally uneventful stay on this thread (until the big event at the end, that is)

fettle - I'd stop taking your multi vitamin for the time being ... I'd warn you that the iron they're likely to put you on may make you more constipated than you've ever been in your life! When I needed iron last year, I was recommended Spatone and Floradix. I took Floradix in the end, but found it didn't make me nearly as constipated as the one from the GP ...

On a positive note - I've had my blood results back, and my Hb level is now 12.5 - seeing as it dropped to 4.5 last May after I lost all the blood in surgery, I'm well chuffed ... I'm offically not anaemic any more - wey hey!! It also shows me just how ill I was back then - no wonder I couldn't function!

Right, off to St. Fagan's with ds this afternoon - I'm meeting up with the girls I met when I went to antenatal classes with ds ... should be fun - there's a lot more kids now!

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Being paranoid today-am 7 wks pg and worried today because I don't feel as rough as I have been and have managed to get on with a few jobs! Now worried that things are going wrong because I feel a bit better!
Was able to pinpoint the day my 2nd m/c baby died (missed m/c) as I said to DH that my chest felt different and that I could lay on my tummy again, when they dated it, I was exactly right.
I know I'm paranoid but....

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I swecond firststar Jossie....I had been felling very rough initially but because of soem bleeding had a scan at six weeks. My ms symptoms all but disappeared around 9 weeks and I got myself into a right state about it. We actually booked in for a private scan as I couldn't bear the further four weeks wait till my booking scan. the relief was immense seeing the LO jumping about like mad. the cost of the scan was nothing compared to the re-assurance it gave me.

Call our mw and ask for a referral to your EPU.....if you have had a previous mc then this shouldn't be a problem.

Try not to woorry though, statistically, you should be fine.....(((((hugs)))))

I mean call your mw, obviously.....I'm sure firststar's and my mw, although lovely I'm sure, isn't the same person and neither one would really be able to help!!!!

I've had an early scan at 6 wks, where I saw the heartbeat-the only trouble is that I saw the hb at 8 wks with mysecond m/c and it still went wrong. I'm sure I'll get over this-it's just that I've been feeling so duff and thinking " Oh well that's a good sign" that I get worried when I don't feel as bad.
My next scan is in a week and a half and I'm dreading it (the appt is a year to the day that I went into the same room and had my first m/c confirmed as having happened). Have had 3 m/cs in a year and fell this time in the cycle immediately after a m/c.

I'm fortunate to be under the care of the EPU as am self injecting with Clexane (Heparin) due to a possible clotting problem

Aw Jossie...wish there was something I could do to re-assure you other than a load of virtual hugs. It sounds like you've had a tough year . I've got my fingers crossed for you this time, and hopefully the clotting drugs will make this one stick. Try to keep strong and remember this thread is here. It got me through the early weeks, when I was finding it difficult to share my feelings with my nearest and dearest in my RL and expecting the worst at every moment. I'm gald you're getting good care from your health authority, it seems to vary so much throughout the country

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Thankyou both of you

Jossie - nothing to add - just lots of (((((hugs))))) to you.

Jossie - welcome. As the other girls have said we are here for you, but not much more we can actually physically do for you other than virtual hugs, but we can give you lots of those!{{{{HUGS}}}}

I really feel for you - I had 2 mc's last year and conceived this one 2 weeks after my 2nd - thankfully all is going ok now. I'm 16 weeks tomorrow, which I never thought I'd ever get to again.

take care of yourself and keep positive, which you sound you are doing.

Thanks for the advice re iron everyone - I had been warned about the constipation, can't say I'm looking forward to it, but anything not to feel so tired as I currently do!!

enjoy your weekends everyone -hope the sun shines for you all
lots of love
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Hello all. Hugs to you Jossie (((((hugs)))))

I'm 17 weeks tomorrow and can't believe we've got this far! The bulb has gone in the toilet downstairs which wouldn't normally be a problem but it means I can't really see my knickers so I'm going upstairs every time lol! (again, I don't share this with anybody in RL!).

Have had a really hormonal day, poor DH is now avoiding me because he really doesn't know what to do with me. We had a bit of a row and he blurted out that having had 2 m/c's, he's really struggling with this one and can't believe we've got this far either. He's been a bit distant and hasn't really wanted to talk about plans etc. He said he won't be able to settle down until he holds this baby in his arms because he has got his head around possibly being a Dad twice before now and it was taken away from him. (He was told aged 10 he would never be able to have children). I guess our DH's go through it just as much as us really bless them (without knicker checking though). I'm sure we'll make up tomorrow...

Take care everybody xx

Hi Ya All

Purple- congrat's on the 17 weeks, I'd have thought you could relent a little on the "knicker checking" now. My Obstetrician said "Once I got to 14 weeks, I was at the point of no return" i.e a baby was comming LOL

RE: Knicker checking- I have been wanting to say that - In my experience a coldish wet feeling, was normallly just CM, but warm feeling was not good. this helped me stop runnning to the toilet many times, Do others agree on this knicker checking theory of mine?

fettle- congrat's on the 16 weeks too.

Jossie- good luck with the scan, horrible waiting, but you'll be fine

I'm off on holiday to sunny fiji after my birthday, on monday . So i get to spoil myself duty free shopping yay!!! really looking forward to relaxing, as then have to come back and look after guests myself followed by the hosting of another teacher conference.

Then it will be almost EDD. Wow it will go quick.

Heye everyone, I got a BFP this morning, and am feeling very excited and scared so thought I would join you lot!
Brief history for those who don't know me, I fell pg last November and miscarried at 9 weeks in January. I'm probably around 4-5 weeks, but not too sure as only had 2 AFs since m/c and cycle lengths wonky!
Anyone here from Teesside?

Hi, another newbie here, it's really reassuring to see so many people saying symptoms come and go. I'm 8 wks today but had a missed m/c last time and woke up today feeling 'different', and am now of course convinced it's over. Have been feeling terrible for a week so was actually getting relatively positive - I've got a scan on Wed because of the missed m/c (and because I rang the pregnancy support team and wept at them) and I was almost thinking I might see something alive in it. God this is dreadful, isn't it? One foot in front of the other.....

Welcome fingernails and furrymummy.

Yes, it is such a hard time but its lovely to come on here knowing so many others have been through it too - for me, it makes me feel more normal and less isolated! Hope the scan goes well for you - it can be very scary but hopefully you will have a positive outcome. Those first few weeks are long and painful but feel free to come on here and have a moan or a cry - we all know what you're going through and will do our best to reassure you...

Have a lovely holiday Uki and Happy Birthday for Monday! I guess I've got into a habit now with the knicker checking when I'm actually going for a wee - have only had a few rushes to the toilet so far thank goodness!

Hi Fingernails and Furrymummy.....sending you both lots of sticky vibes.......
good luck with the scan Fingernails...it'll be a nailbiting time (no pun intended ) till then, but try to stay positive. I had a dip in symptoms around that time and things were OK.

It's funny with our DPs...I tend not to give my DH's take on things that much thought, but we were talking about it the other night and he said he's only now starting to relax about things and look forward to the arrival of our LO. Men tend to take it all in their stride and don't show their emotions like us, so it's always difficult to know what they are thinking. It's good to talk about it really.

Been having some very odd pains today and have been really crampy, and had what I could only liken to a contraction earlier which lasted for about 40 seconds, but it was only on one side. Not sure whether to call the mw or not as I'm only 32 weeks...thinking it may just be a recurrence of my pulled muscle as I've been doing a bit of (light) decorating. might just rest up for the moment and see how things are tomorrow...