Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Ejt...would acupuncture work for horrible emotional outbursts. I've had a horrendous time hormonally and have been finding it really hard to cope with stressful situations. It's like the worst ever case of PMT x 100. Surprised DH hasn't left me and goodness knows what emotional scars I'm leaving on DS with all my wailing and crying and throwing (and breaking ) things. I spent six hours sobbing in bed on Saturday and wanted the world to swallow me whole, and then today it feels like life couldn't get any better. Although I think that's because today I've sorted out our finances for when I'm off on maternity leave (finish work on Friday!!), the sun has been shining, DH and I have been at home, and we had a barbecue!! Wish every day could be like this.

Hi to all the new posts and I hope things are going well....the knicker ckecking does get better...today I had flushed before I realised I hadn't checked and I think it's the first time that's happened (at 29 wks). My main problem now is horribly vivid dreams...twice now I've dreamt that I've given birth to a cat, and last night the baby fell out when I took my knickers off (I wish), then turned into a cat and my sister had to deliver the placenta....gory gruesome and so realistic I woke up screaming and feel that my bump was still there to make sure it was only a dream. Poor DH!

daisy ... hugs and gentle pats to you!

I think it would help deal with the emotional stuff - the first appointment I had with this acupuncturist in November was because I felt that I needed support to have a child ... when she put the first needles in, I had this enormous wave of emotion, and lay there and bawled my eyes out for a good 10 minutes - completely unprovoked ...

I know it has helped me with the ms - and apparently I look almost well just after I've been ...

I hope you keep well - love and hugs to you!

Daisybump I really feel for you. I've had a similar experience - I spent all day in bed crying on Saturday too, then ended up having an emotional outburst with DH (I started a thread on it). Similarly, I'm feeling much happier today - strange! Glad you've had a lovely day though - I can't wait to start my maternity leave, it seems so far off!

Had my 14 week check up with the GP this morning. He offered to check for the hb but I decided against it, mostly because I'd be in a state if he couldn't find it but partly also because DH wasn't with me and it wouldn't feel right without him. I got a prescription for some heartburn liquid (not gaviscon!?) so that might provide some relief for a while. I also confirmed that I can take my anti-sickness tablets when I get a bad day as I was worried if I should continue taking them all the time or not.

Hello to all the knicker checkers members! Hope you all manage to get some rest - I'm off to relax! xx

Thanks ejt...I'll see if I can find someone locally. I'm sure DH won't mind the expense if it makes his life a bit easier

Hi Purple...you did the right thing with the heartbeat. The mw tried for mine at my booking appointment and I was devastated when she couldn't find anything even though I'd had a scan two weeks before and saw and heard the heartbeat. I had another week and a half to wait for my dating scan and it was all a bit fraught during that time. The worst bit was she merrily told me that she shouldn't really check at that stage with women who have had recurrent mcs....after she had finished checking !
Hope you are feeling better....I think a little bit of sunshine goes a long long way

Hi Purple - when I was pg with ds, and had a skiing accident, they decided at the ER (I was in California!!) to try and find the heartbeat - it was a very fraught time as they had some difficulty as ds wouldn't keep still - so they kept sort of finding it, only to lose it again! That was in a way more worrying than the horrible knee ligament injury I'd sustained (ended up being flown home - haven't been skiing since!)

In the same place as you, I don't think I would have listened either!

Hope you are feeling more rested soon.

firststar - thanks - I did sleep well last night (eventually -couldn't drop off, very unlike me!) - but am really feeling the after effects of the weekend ...

we went to McArthur glen yesterday to buy suitcases - very grown up - I now own a suitcase! (not bad for 36 years old!), and we went into the Next clearance shop where I bought a pair of really lovely maternity jeans for ......

£3! I nearly fell over when she said how much they were ... they were a lot more than that on the ticket!

Have done very little today - and haven't succeeded very well at doing anything I've tried!

Hi All

Still slightly more positive, but still knicker-checking with the best of them. Getting the early signs of SPD, which is annoying - had it really badly with DD's pregnancy and so didn't want it again.

Welcome to the new girls, good to have more on board - as you can tell the paranoia continues for a while, so you are not alone! But the support on here is great, particularly for those really bad days.

Coming down with a sore throat today (DD has a terrible cough, so hope I don't get that), so not feeling great - off to bed now!

take care all

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BTW ejt, is that the Macarthur Glen in Swindon? We live near there - didn't realise there was maternity clothes there - might have to get the energy for a trip on Saturday!!

hugs to you fettle ...

The McArthur Glen we went to is the one at Bridgend ... although if you check on their site, they should be able to tell you if there's a Next Clearance at Swindon ...

I too am getting the first twinges of spd - and it sucks!!

take care of you - hope your sore throat doesn't develop into anything!

Did anyone do anyting differently in their 1st few weeks? Like go to their doctors earlier, demand a scan? My doctors don't let you do anything until you are 8 weeks, but I don't know wether to book an appoitment. But it is not like it can change anything I guess.

Good morning everybody. Sorry for bad dreams, emotional breakouts and hearburn but look at the bright side -- it's because you are really pregnant!!!! :-)

Cazzybabs -- sorry for mispelling your name previously. About the first few weeks: they probably won't offer you any extra scans unless you bleed. I believe you are luckly if you get one at eight. I bled for the first three weeks and decided to go for a private scan at six weeks. (That was just a week ago!) I am really happy I did, because I leaned that the bleeding didn't mean I had mcrried already, but everything looked fine.
But certainly there are many more weeks where things can go wrong and it might give you a false sense of relief. I would rather know myself but I know that some women here said they preferred that hadn't had 'positive scans' in the early weeks only to find out that something had gone wrong in week 10 or so. Good luck these early weeks are draining ... now I know why it's called 'expecting' there is an awful lot of waiting involved.

Good morning all!!! Stayed up late last night watching "She's All That" - I should know better! But dh got up with ds this morning so I got an extra 15 minutes lying in bed, getting myself together. Ds was lovely this morning. Went and found his new shoes (which he seems to love) and got me to put them on over his sleepsuit! He looked so funny!!!

Glad to have you back, Fettle. Like the new name very much!

Cazzybabs - I told my doctor I wasn't sure of the dates and asked for an early scan to check dates and viability. I think she was sympathetic as I have had two m/c, so definitely worth a try. The only thing is that if you do get a hb at 8 weeks, whilst it is reassuring and means you certainly have a good chance of a successful pg, it obviously isn't a guarantee so if you then find out that it's gone wrong, it might be harder to deal with - double-edged sword...

Princess and Daisybump - sorry to hear you both had off days. My emotions are everywhere and I'm actually quite snappy at the moment with dh. Those hormones have a lot to answer for!!

Ejt - £3 for maternity jeans is fantastic! I've seen a little tunic in the Next catalogue for £25 which I am thinking of buying, but desperately need to save money for my maternity leave and have loads of maternity clothes from last time, so I am not sure I can justify it.

Firststar - hope you're doing well today. How long before your due date are you planning on finishing work? I remember just counting down the days in the last 10 weeks or so...

Hello to anyone else I haven't mentioned!!

Glimmer - I get all kinds of spellings of my name both on here and with my real life name which is very common but I get called all kinds of similar names. I am clearly easy to remember .

You are right about the scan...nice if everythign is going well and not if everything si going wrong. I'll wait till my 12 week NHS one (because everything is going to be fine )

Cazzybabs about appointments: I am a special case with an especially incompetent GP but I won't go and see GP or midwife until I will have had my nuchal scan. The only thing they did is to provide me with wrong info and paint horror scenarios ("well, it could be an ectopic, come back if the pain get's wore or you start fainting"). Sorry, still not over it yet, but this is really about me not you sorry.

Just think if there is anything you would like, e.g. a quatitative pregnancy test or something like that. Otherwise, I believe they won't do anything.

Cazzybabs
in my experience it depends a lot from place to place. I was worried I wouldn't get an early scan without begging for it. My GP certainly didn't offer it. However, when I called the EPAU just to check - they gave me an appointment for a scan at 7 weeks based on self-referral, just because I had had a m/c. They even offered another one between that and the 12 week nuchal scan scheduled for early April. I haven't taken the offer so far (I am 10 weeks now) because as many people have said, it makes no difference anyway and may give a false sense of security.

As for doing things differently, I am convinced that my m/c may have had at least something do with the huge work stress and conflicts I was facing last time. It can't be proven, and nobody will even know, but it's one of those things that I just feel. So I am trying to avoid stress as much as possible...(and have meanwhile left the previous job). But at the end of the day, we have to accept that it is beyond our control and all we can do is just do our best to avoid any obvious risks, but otherwise we can't do much about it.

Good luck!! I wish you a serene and healthy pregnancy...

Cazzybabs - I'm with gemma on this one - and I've been very fortunate.

I booked to see my GP as soon as I found out I was pg, and I also booked to see the mw - I saw her when I was 4 + 6!

Given my history, she referred me to the EPAU, for a scan at 7 weeks. That was great for me, as my 2nd mc was a mmc (a blighted ovum) which was only discovered at the dating scan at 13 + 1 - I've been told that it's very rare to have at bo go that long without the pg 'collapsing', so an early scan to check that there was a baby developing in there was crucial for me ....

However, when I had my dating scan last week, I was still terrified ...

If you decide that you want an early scan, then I suggest that you ring your epau and ask them how the referral process works - I know my local epau will accept referrals for anybody who has had 1 mc, but you have to be referred by the mw. I know of others on here who were able to self-refer ... if you decide not to have an early scan, you're right, it won't make any difference to the pg ...

I wish you a boring and uneventful pg!

For me it was as for ejt -- I had a blighted ovum detected at 12 weeks. So the fact that there is a fetus (even with HB) means I have already made my milestone....

On another note. I just found out that there have been several cases of chickenpox at my work place. I have had chickenpox with 21 (was in hospital and got treated with zovirax an antiviral drug) but I have had three friends who had reaccuring chickenpox, which is reportorted to be very rare. Am freaked out (I guess that's a pg symptom :-)) what would you do?

If you have had chickenpox, you should have some immunity, but call you doctor to see whether you should be tested just to be on the safe side. Last time I was pg, there was a bloke at work whose kids had chickenpox and I never got it. I also had it as a child...

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Glimmer, my DD has just had chickenpox and now my DP has it. (DP hasn't had any of the usual childhood illnesses so he also caught measles last year when my DD got that!).

I've spoken to quite a few medical people about it and they've all reassured me that if I've had it before then i will have immunity to it. Apparently, very occasionally, people get it again if they only had it very mildly the first time around (with just a few spots) instead of the usual hundreds.

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hi ladies, havent been on for a while hope you are all well, willcatch up propley later !

UKI - good luck today

Hi All

At home - I'm not feeling too bad, but DD has really high temp and bad cold - I can tell she is ill as she's happily lying on the sofa with me, dozing on and off,so I'm managing to stop my illness get any worse - don't want to miss too much work though, always feel guilty when it is due to DD illness, but then I have hardly even taken time off for me, except following ERCPs for my mcs! She's happily eating digestives and drinking milk now, so hopefully on the mend a bit!

Uki - you got a scan today? If so, hope all well!

Cazzy, I would echo what everyone has said - go and see your GP and plead with them - mine told the maternity services about my 2 previous mcs, but my first scan was still only at 12+5 wks. Luckily , I had some very mild spotting around 6 weeks, so I managed to get to the EPU for a scan and saw a heartbeat, but it did nothing to allay my fears before my dating scan last week. Still knicker checking every time I go to the loo - so want to relax and enjoy this pg, but I suppose that is not possible with our history. Got my appointment with the consultant next week, so maybe he'll try and listen to the heartbeat and that will calm me down for a little bit longer! Take care and i hope all is well this time with you

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

xxx