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Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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firststar · 12/02/2007 14:23

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Glimmer · 14/03/2007 12:04

Great about the positive scans! It's so good to learn that sometimes -- the baby-thing works out!!!
Taichi-mum, I am glad the ERPC it behind you and hope you'll recover fast. I just posted on the limbo thread. As fettle I had an incomplete ERPC (5% chance), so no AF, postive pg-tests, at some point pain. So if I were to have another ERPC I would take pg-test (it's hard, I know) in the following weeks to see if homrones go down (can take 6-12 weeks). As soon as you test negative and then positive you know it's a new pregnancy (!!!). In the 2nd ERPC they damaged my cervix which scarred closed and the menstruation blood couldn't leave my uterus. So if you feel you get PMS and think it's your period but there is no blood, this could be a possibility. This is very, very, rare.
It's 50 000 time more likely I will have a child with down syndrome (sorry, for the cynism -- still not quite over yet).
So, as soon as you have your first AF you will be fine and no reason to worry. It normally should be within 4-6 weeks, but can take up to three months.

Glimmer · 14/03/2007 12:09

I hope it was the right thing to give you the details, Taichimum and you don't start worrying. It would have made a huge difference to me if I would have known, which is why I gave them to you. For me it was the uncertainty that was the torture. I find information empowering, but this could be a subjective preference.

firststar · 14/03/2007 12:10

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Hillbilly · 14/03/2007 12:48

Hi Taichi - glad it went well yesterday after all the waiting around. Big hugs x

Congrats Purple & Mrs Fish on the good scans.

I am going through a real worrying phase at the moment as coming up to 10 wks which is when I had mc last time. My pg symptoms seem to have dissappeared although not sure if that's my imagination. All was good at the scan 9 days ago and I'm probably just being paranoid but so scared it's going to happen again.

firststar · 14/03/2007 12:57

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Hillbilly · 14/03/2007 13:09

Well I had a private early scan last monday and heard hb and saw the little bean, so everything was fine and in the right place then.

Have my booking app at the hosp on Friday and then the next scan will be the nuchal at 11-13 wks so I guess not long now. I will see if I can get it nearer to 11 wks.

I think my worry is that when I had mc last summer there had obviously been a hb up until 9 wks as they said that the baby had died at 9 weeks according to size. And they also told me that it had been in the right place.

I have a DD aged 21 months and had a perfect pg with her that I was so totally unprepared for things going wrong last time. I just never imagined it would happen to me. Now I know differently and it seems there are so many things that can go wrong. BTW I'm an oldie too - 40. Have to think myself lucky to have DH and DD

Anyway don't want to sound like I'm on such a downer, I just want the next 2 weeks to pass uneventfully.

firststar · 14/03/2007 13:17

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firststar · 14/03/2007 13:18

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Taichimum · 14/03/2007 14:06

Thanks for the info Glimmer. Last one went fine and ovulated two weeks later AF two weeks after that. Hopefully this one will be the same but now I know what to look out for it will help me worry less. I am sorry you have had a mess up twice with your ERPC's. Sounds ghastly.
Hillbilly I hope my story is not making you worry more about your pg. I am sure it is all going to be fine as you have seen your bean and all looks good.
Mrs M - thanks for looking out for me. I have been watching your thread here and there and now it is time for me to join you. I'll be there soon

Hillbilly · 14/03/2007 14:25

No Taichi it's not your story particularly that's making me worry but as people drop from the thread is makes mc become so real.

Firststar I will speak to mw on friday.

Thanks both for your words of support. I think it's just my turn for a down day.

Daisybump · 14/03/2007 14:28

Hi Taichimum...don't have time to catch up with the thread, but just wanted to say that all the June ladies are very for your loss and send their love. I hope that things are looking brighter today. I had 2 in a row and it is devastating, but you will get through it and you will get your happy ending. Take care chuck and keep your chin up . Love Daisy

firststar · 14/03/2007 15:02

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ejt1764 · 14/03/2007 15:29

Taichi - I'm glad you're ok after the ERPC - take it easy and heal well. Thinking of you while you recover.

Princess & MrsFish - good news about your scans - here's hoping for a boring and uneventful pg for you both now.

firstar - good luck for your scan on Friday - thinking about you.

Hillbilly - we all have bad days - I've had more than my fair share for a start, and that's ok - hang on in there.

Mumpbump - so glad you enjoyed your skiing! Very - last time I went skiing was when pg with ds 5 years ago! Never mind - hopefully the snow will still be there when it's my turn again!

I had a better night's sleep last night - forcing myself to write down the dream helped (thanks to my unpaid counsellors!) - dh has gone away today for work and had to leave very early. Well, I've now discovered that although I'm not very very sick in the morning if I stay in bed, the exact opposite is true if I don't. bleuuuugghhhh! Never mind, I'll survive!

love to all,

MrsFish · 14/03/2007 18:41

Uki - I am 11+3 now

Hillbilly - I was the same as you,. had a perfect first pregnancy and the thought of mc in my second attempt didn't even enter my head, it came as a huge shock when I found out at my 12 week scan that it had ended at 8+6. These first few weeks have been horrendous, especially around the 8-9 week mark, but I am now feeling far more positive. Hope you can bring your scan forward, if not keep your chin up

I am tempted to get a 4D scan done at some point, has anyone had it done, is it worth the money?

fettle · 14/03/2007 20:11

Hi All

Great news about the scans MrsFish and Princess. I'm 11+2 today MrsFish, but my scan isn't until a week on Friday - so scared, but I have no logical reason to be so. Bit like you hilly, my symptoms have lessened, but then I was feeling really sick this morning on the way to work again and I am still tired. Maybe we are just getting used to it all. It was just with DD I felt so sick all the time, that it was easier to feel confident. I was also naive then and thought mc was something that happened to other people. I know that sounds awful, but I think most people TTC their first dont' think about what might go wrong, they just focus on getting pg.

Taichi - glad to hear you sounding ok-ish. If you've had an ERCP before you'll know what to look out for. In my case, my bleeding carried on. Just spotting and then odd occasion of contraction-like pains, followed by bright red bleeding for a time. Took numerous emergency trips to GPs over around 8 weeks before one of them refered me for a rescan where they found retained products. The 2nd ERCP was successful and bleeding stopped almost immediately afterwards.

Firststar and UKI, can't believe how far you are already - really doesn't seem that long since we were all on the TTC after mc thread.

Anyway, love to all - must go and get something to eat, or at least think about it!!

take care
xxx

firststar · 15/03/2007 09:36

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Mumpbump · 15/03/2007 10:13

Firststar - I will be thinking of you tomorrow!! Have you felt the baby move yet? I seem to remember feeling very, very faint movements with ds around 19/20 weeks...

MrsFish - I saw a post on here about either a 3D or 4D scan where they pitched up, the scanographer couldn't get a clear picture, so they ended up with nothing and still had to pay the full amount. Apparently, they don't guarantee that you will get a picture. So if you do go for it, check the T&C first... When did you say you're due?

Fettle - when are you due? Think you must be around the same stage as me...

In fact, can we do a stats thread for this? It's just that it would be nice to know when everyone is due. I know they're slightly dangerous if people do have another m/c, but perhaps people could just add their stats once they have got through the 12/14 week mark... What do you think? If a bad idea, I will just do a search and find out people's due date from their antenatal threads...

Hillbilly - glad you had a positive scan. Not long until the next one!

Ejt - I think writing stuff down definitely helps. I think when you've had a m/c before, your anxiety levels are bound to be higher and your dreams affected. In the first few weeks after I found out I was pg, I had odd dreams about m/c again. Horrid!!

Feeling a bit nervous today. Had slight stomach cramps yesterday, but nothing else, so I suspect it might just be the gastric bug that seems to be doing the rounds again and again and again! Just want to get to next Wednesday so I can have that additional reassurance. I think my dad is now going to go with me as my mum is (still) in hospital and dh will be in Italy...

cupcake78 · 15/03/2007 10:29

Hello again ladies. Haven't read all the posts as tried but just so many. Good to see the majority of people seem to be doing ok at the moment. For those of you that have had some sad or worrying time I hope you start to feel better soon.

Had a lovely holiday feeling much better. I am now 12+4 which is good but need to get past 20 weeks for me to be passed worry time. Have scan next wednesday and can't wait, it has been along time coming. Got consultants appointment for 26th, have no idea what that will involve - hoping for reasurrance and good news.

Keep thinking positive ladies!!!

Uki · 15/03/2007 10:48

Morning All
Firstar-good luck at getting some good pictures and views of baby tomorrow.

I had Ob. appointment today, Ob said baby was good size and all.
It was cute ds got scared when I was lying on the bed to hear baby, he came and held my hand and had a good listen too. Now says baby when he sees one on TV too.

Yes I think stats would be a good idea, who's going to start, I'm feeling shy right now.

Mumpbump · 15/03/2007 11:01

Uki - how cute is that!!! I must admit that I am quite looking forward to when ds is old enough to understand what is going on... He will be 22 months when the new baby is born. Once we get past 20 weeks, I think I'm going to buy him one of those books explaining about a new baby.

I don't mind starting the stats thread since it was my suggestion even though I'm not past the risky stage. If I have to remove myself at a later stage, so be it...

Mumpbump · 15/03/2007 11:03

Here you go. Hope I'm not tempting fate...

stats thread

rubles · 15/03/2007 11:21

OK I'm going to take a while now to really go through the last few days on the thread to catch up with where everybody's at.

Sadly there seem to have been quite a few miscarriages recently after a reasonably long time without any. I get the impression that it affects us all that bit more because we understand as we have been there & it shakes us up more. So, Taichi I wish you well on your long dark journey back to recovery and equilibrium....I hope that come summer you are back on here and we'll all be celebrating your successful 12 week scan. You'll get there, you will.

Glimmer, I'm so glad to see you here. I remember you from the ttc thread (don't know if you remember me because I took a break from MN around then) and I remember your terrible story and the whole inter-continental relationship you had going on making things even tougher. How are you doing? I think I read on another thread that you had spotting - how's that? Oh, another thing which I'm unsure to write about, but in light of what you said about knowledge being empowering I think I will mention. I think you mentioned somewhere about the implications for your cervix after what happened to you. I was reading about the effect of cone biopsies on pregnancy here link and wondered if the implications might be similar to those for your situation. They may not...so I am cautious of saying this as I don't want to worry you any more than I'm sure you are already, but I think that mentioning this to as many different health care providers that you can to get their opinions might be worthwhile, as hopefully forewarned might be forearmed? I hope that was the right thing to do as the risks may be non-existent for your particular situation.

MrsFish, glad you're feeling positive. 11+3 woo-hoo!! Nearly there!

HillBilly - your booking appointment is tomorrow isn't it? Mine too...I'm quite excited. How are you feeling today after your downer the other day? I think that the milestone week is the toughest - that was the case for me anyway in the build up to week 9 and I have felt much more positive since then. As everyone says, the symptoms wax and wane and you might expect them to be easing off now anyway.

Purpleprincess - fantastic news on the scan. You sounded so over the moon! When are you due, is it September? Have you been holding back on doing/buying certain things until now? I have a list of things that I can't do or look at or think about until after the 12 week scan like telling people/buying things/planning things etc. I can't wait to do them.

ejt1764 - what happened, did you have a traumatic emergency c/s in the past? Sorry if you have already said on this thread.

Fettle - hang in there love, you're getting there. It's great that the m/w could feel your uterus (I read that on another thread) at the booking and it's not long until Friday at which point you can say 'only a week until my scan' and then the count down can begin. You'll get there, I know it - I just SO know it. Can you feel your own uterus in the mornings when your bladder is full? I definitely can now and I find it really reassuring.

Firststar, are you going to find out the sex or are you leaving that as a surprise for the big day? On the subject of movements, with dd I SAW her move at only about 16 weeks - it was like a really pointy thing poking out of my stomach

UKI - glad the Ob appointment went well. How old is ds? Is this the first time it has really dawned on him that there's a real baby in there do you think? I think it's great to give them a listen and get them involved in the antenatals.

Mumpbump - I had stomach twinges yesterday, they really crushed my new found confidence. It was amazing how quickly it all dissolved and it suddenly felt like the end of the world had come. I know what you mean about getting people's due dates - I'll add myself to that thread in a second. In the meantime I might just put my due date as my signature so that other people know where I am. There seem to be a fair few of us around the same time, and then there's Firststar and UKI who are out there in front.

I keep crying when I see babies....how wet is that??! People must think I am mad - we bumped into a couple that we know in our area at the weekend who had a week old boy and I had tears streaming down my face. I don't even know them that well. What a twot.

Wish me luck girls, I have my dating scan in 5 hours.

rubles · 15/03/2007 11:25

I lived in Redhill for 6 months about 10 years ago Mumpbump. If you come out of the train station and turn left under the bridge and up the hill then it was a left turning up there somewhere. Nice house, but I remember there weren't many good restaurants around at the time.

Mumpbump · 15/03/2007 11:26

Rubles - best of luck for your scan!!! Hope we get to hear some positive news later this afternoon. I will have everything crossed - XXXX (crossed fingers and toes...)

firststar · 15/03/2007 11:36

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