Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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I'm wondering if it could be a side-effect. Though the doc who prescribed them didn't mention it when I saw him. And there's nothing on google.

On the plus side, I feel terrible!

Hi all

Just checking in - MW appointment went ok. She tried to hear a heartbeat, but couldn't, but as i was only 10+1, I think it wasn't that surprising. Only 2.5 weeks to wait until my dating scan.

Skiing while pg - I'd say if you want to, then do so. Personally, having had 2 mc, I won't be risking it. Not for my falling over, I can control that, but from some of the lunatics out there who crash into you. I had an awful collision, when very first pg a year ago. I don't think it contributed to my eventual mc, but i couldn't move for 4 days afterwards, which I think was down to all my ligaments being so soft and stretched as they are in early pg.

Having said all this, DD is just learning to ski and I missed out going with her at Christmas, as I was in the process of having my 2nd mc, so maybe at Easter, I'll go out with her for a little bit - don't want her thinking that it is only daddy who skis with her!!!

Big hugs to all, especially those still with uncertainty over scans etc.

take care
xx

Bonjour tout le monde! Practising my French for the weekend... I'm going straight from work to the airport so starting to feel quite excited. Plus it's another sunny day so it's really starting to feel like we're leaving winter behind - finally!!!

Fettle - you're absolutely right that the biggest danger can be other skiers, but I shall be taking extra care - I will probably get my sister to ski behind me to shelter me from any tw*ts bombing down the slopes. Had been planning on sticking to blues, but there is something to be said for sticking to reds on the basis that only more competent skiers tend to go on them...

Herbaceuos - did you ring your doc to check about the discharge? Hoping it is just side-effects.

Daisybump/ejt - think I might check whether we can take a mortgage break. It would certainly make things easier. I have worked out that I should be able to take more than 6 months off if I use the last of my savings - supplemented my last maternity leave with my savings too. Dh is effectively skint as he supports his ex and children from their marriage too...

Hello to everyone else!

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fettle - good to hear your news about the mw appt.

mumpbump - we'll be totally and utterly skint after mat leave - but as we've figured that this is the most expensive time of our lives - and that we're never going to do this again, we're going to go for skint!

My dating scan is 2 weeks today and I'm starting to get quite anxious about it. Especially because I'm having another good day today and although am heaving at the most bizarre things I haven't been sick at all. Part of me is saying that the nux vom must have helped - the rest of me is getting into a right old panic.

back to constant knicker checking (as if I ever stopped!)

Mumpbump - amuse-toi bien ce weekend - sois sage et fais attention aux imbeciles!

ejt

ejt...LOL at the 'staffing issues are not my problem' . I tend to get a bit stressed out about wirk as I know that if I don't do a thing...no-one will and I know I'll have my phone at the ready incase there is a query on any of my projects. Trying to learn to let go and am going to make sure that I leave as comprehensive a list of handover notes as possible. I can see me sneaking in on the odd afternoon to make sure things are in a reasonable state though!!
Herbaceous (love the name btw) hope things are OK and that you have spoken to your mw/gp for re-assurance.

just a quick one today as I'm off to catch up with my ante-natal thread...

I have to confess I didn't phone anybody. Mainly because the spotting has been going on for ten days now, and I've had two scans in that time, both of which have been fine. The lovely ladies at the EPAU couldn't explain the 'discharge' (lovely word), but said it's very common.

I just had to tell my boss I'm 'in the family way', and it went down like a bucket of sick. He even asked me what my maternity leave plans are! I say, steady on... it's only nine weeks...

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herbaceous are you really only going to take 9 weeks?

don't let your boss bully you into not taking your whole entitlement...

oops sorry - pregnancy jelly brain strikes - you meant you are 9 weeks' pregnant perhaps...

Indeed. That is what I meant! I intend to take six months, but we'll see...

Is everyone else as neurotic as me? Last week I was having all manner of pains and twinges, which made me worry, and now I'm hardly having any pains, which is making me worry. I don't suppose this madness ends until the LO leaves home...

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Herb...remember that you aren't under any obligation to tell him what your plans are and that you don't need to tell him when you intend to start your leave until you are 25 wks. He should also assume that you are taking your full entitlement unless you notify him otherwise. I don't even think he's legally allowed to ask you that sort of thing. This tells you what you need to do and when. My boss has convinced a colleague returning from leave to reduce her hours as some of her workload (she does all our accounts) was transferred to another office whilst she was away and she isn't getting it back. I think she should take it further as he has no right to do that and has to give her eoither her own job or an equivalent job back and that she should leave and then sue for constructive dismissal and sex discrimination, but she said she can't be bothered with all the hassle! Bit fuming about it as it'll make him think that what he did was OK. Not that I wouldn't love to go back part-time only, but I can guarantee it wont be an option in my case.

Sorry if I'm on my high horse about this, but....hormones, what can I say

Oh, and Herb....the worry will stop sometime between 39 weeks and your labour pains starting!! I'm 26 weeks and still rush to the loo on occasion, but....and apologies in advance for tmi...it's just excessive lady juice!!

Hi all. Just came out on the other thread.
I am d4phne. Really missed you when so many of you moved over here and left me on the TTC thread.... My bleeding has stopped now, my hormones are going up, and I have my first scan in two weeks. So I guess I am still on, at least for the time being. No pg-symptomes besides the positive tests whatsoever. Wow -- these first weeks are more difficult than I expected. Haven't told anybody and am getting increasingly isolated in RL, because most of my close friends are pg and do not understand why I am still grieving. I do not expect them to understand (I guess I wouldn't if I didn't go through it myself), but I would have hoped they would just respect my feelings a little more.
Do you know what I mean? Just let me be and accept it. Anyway DP is moving here in three months and we are looking to rent a house!
Oh, and I have finally written my NHS complaint letters - counsellor suggested I try and get some closure this way which was a great suggestion. I am feeling so much better having expressed my disappointment, even if I should never hear back from them.
Mucho love to everybody.

Oh, I have some factual questions. Maybe some of you know? Firststar, did the doctor explain to you how one can have implantation bleeding at 7 weeks? Doesn't implantation occur between day 7-12? Or is implantation a process that occurs over weeks?
2nd: How can the blood come out of the uterus? Isn't the cervix supposed to be blocked? Obviousuly I am wondering if I could have aquired an imcompetent cervix as result of the cervical damage. I understand the bad thing is the bleeing in the first place, but just wondering.

GLIMMER- OH WOW OH OH OH. I am soo happy for you, just read the other thread and wanted to know what the latest was.
Thrilled to hear hormones are on the rise, and dh will be with you soon, all such good news.

I have no idea about first question but I think it takes the body a while for the cervical plug to form, although not sure in weeks.

You've made my day glimmer d4ph

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Hi firstar
yes two us think the same thing, maybe we are right about plug.

I'm getting quite caught up with the other hot topic 20 week scan hoping for a girl. People come out of everywhere for some threads. where is babymad she hates these sex based threads!!!

How is your back today fs? and when is your next scan.

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oh bum. just lost my post.

LOL at babymad welcome back, haven;t read yet.

fs- friday wow soon, mine is not till 31st hope all is ok a bit scared.

belts-my yoga teacher/ x midwife raved about these.

What are these belts all about then? I feel like my belly has exploded over the last 24 hrs... It's not my uterus, it's like water retention but with the relaxin doing its thing too, I feel like a big blob!

Good news, I got my nuchal scan through in the post this morning and its on Tuesday afternoon! I'm not in the risk category of downs though - do many of you just see this as a chance for a scan or should I refuse on the basis that I don't feel I'm at any risk? I just want the chance to see if everything is OK and it just so happens that they'll do a few extra measurements while they're looking.

I know how you feel Glimmer - being surrounded by pg people when you're having/have had a m/c is really hard. In my case, everybody was really sensitive but it was still really difficult. My sister in law, 2 of my best friends, my boss and my cousin are all due in the next few months. Thankfully, things seem to be well this time for me and they were all lovely before and are really supportive this time too. I found myself realising that I'm really pleased for them whatever happens with me and kind of separated my feelings because I love these ladies so much. At the time in fact, I remember thinking "well, I may not be having my own baby but I can enjoy theirs!". Hope all goes well with you xx