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Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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firststar · 12/02/2007 14:23

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MrsMcJnr · 05/03/2007 16:41

Jules, I am so [anger] by the way you have been treated by the hospital. It really is disgusting, especially given what you are going through. I am also so sorry that your hopes were raised only to be dashed again. That?s worrying that they?ve left you not knowing what these other things are. Is it tomorrow or next Tues you go back? Did they tell you the implications of what any of these other things could be hon? I really am so, so sorry that it went this way. Big glass of wine tonight? That double decker will come won?t it? We?re here for you. x

PurpleLostPrincess · 05/03/2007 17:19

You poor thing, thinking of you loads and hope you manage to get some rest. How awful that they have left you hanging!!! (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

I'm back to work tomorrow even though I'm still feeling really awful. I actually really nervous about it and keep crying about it (not my usual sort of behaviour!). I used to be such a confident person but I feel like I'm just teetering on the edge of breaking into a thousand pieces! I've decided to tell everybody now being as I'm 11+3 and they'll all be wondering why I'm still ill. I've decided to slap on as much makeup as I can and just throw myself in and I've warned dh that I'll be knackered in the evening and won't be much help around the house...

I've been getting all sorts of pains and my muscles all seem to be pulling in different directions so I'm feeling extra fragile - when will this stop?!

I really feel for you guys and what you are going through and do keep knicker watching myself (won't be happy till next scan!).

Take care xoxoxo

gemmamc · 05/03/2007 17:29

Hi Jules,
I am sorry to hear what is happening to you. A mess-up between A&E and EPAU happened to me too, months ago, so I know how irritating it can be. Do they not talk to each other??

However, please do not worry too much about the ovarian cyst. They found 3 of them in my ovaries when I had my m/c and they all went away (I had another scan a few weeks later to check). They are extremely common in the first trimester of pregnancy and most of the time they are absolutely nothing to worry about. A key issue is how big they are and how long they take to go away, from what I understand.

Having said that, I confess I also worried a lot about it when I was first told and even delayed getting pregnant again because of it. But after lots of research on the internet and talking to other women I realised they are really very common and I shouldn't have worried so much.

Lots of hugs to you. Take care of yourself...

time4tea · 05/03/2007 18:34

dear Jules, It is so sad to hear your news; dear Glimmer and MrsMc, so sorry to hear about all the troubles you are having. I'm wishing you all you need to get through these hard days. DH's also, that they can be wise and compassionate enough to support you through it. There is so much to think about and feel, and sometimes not the words to express. Try to just be good to yourselves.

thinking of you all, and wishing you every good thing.

Taichimum · 05/03/2007 19:56

So sorry Jules. Such insensitve treatment at the hospital too. Feel so sad for you. Hopefully cysts are not anything to worry about like gemmamc says. Give yourself lots of time to repair emotionally and physically and be kind to yourself.
Big virtual hugs

MrsMcJnr · 05/03/2007 21:03

That was lovely Time4Tea, thank you

firststar · 06/03/2007 09:34

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Uki · 06/03/2007 10:17

jULES [SAD] SO SAD FOR YOU, What a horrible wait and experience.

Wish it could be another way for you. Thanks for telling us.
I hope the hospital will still keep am eye on you. My thoughts are with you.

Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 12:25

Jules - I am sad to read about events of the last few days... I think a second m/c is devastating because one you can chalk up to bad luck, but when you have two, you start to worry about the future in more general terms. Just keep in mind that there are lots of people on here who have had successful pgs after two m/c. My dh found the second one much harder to cope with and we still don't see eye to eye. He doesn't want to talk about it because he finds it too painful, whereas I do. I know how isolated you can feel at a time like this when your partner isn't as supportive as you'd like, but I guess different people have different coping mechanisms.

MrsMcJnr and Glimmer - am keeping my fingers crossed for you...

Hello to everyone else Just a short post today as I was off work yesterday so am catching up...

Had my booking in appointment yesterday and have a nuchal fold scan on 21 March. The m/w wouldn't even try to pick up a heartbeat as she said it was impossible before 12 weeks. It's hard to keep positive sometimes, but as Rubles says, I just keep reminding myself that I have no rational reason to think the worst... On a positive note, my mum seems better although she is still in hospital. Turns out she has pneumonia! Talk about the sandwich generation...

ejt1764 · 06/03/2007 13:29

Jules - I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. I really hope that the care that you get from the hospital gets better now.

The cyst they saw may well be a corpus luteum cyst - that's a normal cyst you get where the egg is released - it gradually shrinks over time, and big ones are thought to be the reason why some women get bad m/s very early on, as one of its jobs is to release progesterone.

You take care of yourself now. The 2nd mc is, as has already been mentioned, a body blow to your soul. I'm thinking of you and hope that you heal well.

love and hugs to you.

ejt

Daisybump · 06/03/2007 13:45

Jules....my heart goes out to you sweetheart , and wish I had the words to comfort you....I found throwing the dining room chairs around the room a big help after my second m/c. All I can say is that I hope you start to feel better soon and that you can find the strength to regroup and try again. I was terrified, but it was something i felt compelled to do, just give yourself some time and ensure a clean bill of health before you try again. i hope the hospital staff were suitably humble...i had a simialr experience with a and e after my first m/c....they just weren't interested as it wasn't an emergency . I had a bleed early on this time and referred myself straight to the EPU. hope all goes well with your follow ups and keep in touch to let us know how you are doing.

MrsMcJ and Glimmer....thoughts are with you both and fingers crossed.

Mumpbump...try not to worry...my m/w tried for the heartbeat at my booking appointment (11 wks) and didn't find anything which made me horribly anxious, even though I'd had a scan about 10 days previously and all was well then...didn't really start to relax until after my dating scan at 13 wks. Try to keep positive love Know what you mean about DH's...mine doesn't really talk about the mcs at all unless I do, but when our friends were going through it when I was really ill with morning sickness...he took their DD out for the day so they could go to the hospital and have a bit if P and Q. said more than any words really as my DH (and men in general I think)has a much harder time expressing his emotions.

firststar · 06/03/2007 14:55

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herbaceous · 06/03/2007 15:11

Hello there

Can I join you ladies?

I am currently 8+5 (according to dates) into my fifth pregnancy. All previous four ended in miscarriage, the latest one at 13 weeks last September. I am also ancient - 41.

I'm taking steroids (prednisolone), after tests showed I had over-active NK cells.

For the last week or so I've been getting spotting and the odd bit of bleeding, which of course sends me into a flat spin. However, I had a scan today and everything is fine. Which made me cry in the scanning room. But isn't it exhausting having to be optimistic the whole time.

So... anyone with optimistic tales of bleeding turning out alright, success stories with prednisolone, or even old ducks like me having lovely babies, all gratefully received!

Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 15:11

Firststar - you sound so chilled out! I guess by week 20, you must feel pretty comfortable about the whole thing. What is your due date?

Daisybump - your dh sounds like an absolute darling! That is such a thoughtful thing to do...

Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 15:12

Herbaceous - congratulations and welcome!

firststar · 06/03/2007 15:26

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MrsMcJnr · 06/03/2007 16:07

I am so glad to hear your Mum is better FirstStar sorry to hear about your aliments too.

Ejt ? interesting about the corpus luteum cysts, I did wonder where it went if you get pregnant.

Herbaceous ? many, many congratulations hon, hoping and praying that it all works out for you this time round. I agree, it is exhausting having to be optimistic the whole time.

Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 16:09

I was 10 weeks yesterday - I think they might try to put back my due date, but I am going to resist as far as possible. I always stuck with my calculated due date with ds.

I know what you mean about the changes that pg makes to your body. I remember getting dressed up in some nice underwear for dh in my last pg - I can't remember how far I was then - but when I looked in the mirror, I thought I looked awful and had a howling fit on poor dh! The funny thing is that later on still, I felt much sexier and dh said he thought I looked really good in the last couple of months. In fact, he's already said he's looking forward to when I am heavily pg again as he liked it so much. I just think the 4-6 month mark is a bit of a horrible in between stage where you just look and feel fat, rather than pg!!

firststar · 06/03/2007 17:01

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firststar · 06/03/2007 17:03

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Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 17:20

I don't think they do a separate dating scan in my area, just the nuchal fold scan, but that's not too far away now! Just over two weeks to go...

firststar · 06/03/2007 17:23

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Mumpbump · 06/03/2007 17:28

Excited because I am still feeling quite positive about this pg. Anxious - yes, because dh is away in Italy so can't be there so if there is bad news, I will be alone and will have to tell him by telephone...

Off home shortly so have a good evening!

PurpleLostPrincess · 06/03/2007 19:33

Hiya! I'm anxiously waiting for the postman to bring the date of our nuchal fold scan. Partly because I'm desperate to see my baby but also because we decided not to tell dd (8) until we got the scan through. Everybody else but her knows!!

By my dates I'm 11+4 today so I'm hoping because it's supposed to be between 11 and 13 weeks that it will come soon but I only booked in last Friday so not sure how long it will take...?

Went back to work today but left early as I was completely knackered! Was only sick once! My Director was lovely and made sure it was an easy day which was lovely but I worried that I was therefore putting more pressure on her! Started telling people about the pg and they were all really surprised. I'm relieved to finally be able to talk about it...

Thinking of you all xoxoxoxo

firststar · 06/03/2007 20:18

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