Pregnancy after mc - part 5 the support we need - luck to all

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Glimmerofhope - so sorry to hear about your bleeding, the limbo is horrible, this whole pregnancy lark certainly teaches you patience. We're here for you, hope the next few days gt much better

Having said so did you notice the lunar eclipse last night -- it was full moon?! I just mean, women do synchronize and the moon causes tides.
Maybe it's not a coincidence and we are all fine? GlimmerOfNonsense?!

mrs mcj, just searched to see if you are about. your october buddies and some others like me are worried and want you to make sure you take care of you. can you go to hosp? i know it may be difficult but it sounds like you're suffering way too much.

do hope that you're okay and that you're not being TOO brave

hope your dh is there now to look after you and make sure you get to hospital either right now or should this carry on much longer at all

take care - thinking of you

Taichimum - No I'm not on the october thread, hadn'tnoticed one to be honest, will go and have a look now

I can't seem to find it, is it called something obscure?

Mrs M- have posted to you on oct thread

Glimmerofhope - you still have a glimmer of hope? Fingers crossed for you.

More women go into labour on a full moon. Seen it in a medcial report.

Hello All

Not posted on here for a while - been keeping my head down most of last week. I haven't had a chance to catch up properly, but i'm really sorry to hear about all the worrying bleeding. I do so hope that it is all ok.

Having read some of the stories on here, i'm just amazed how little I bled with my mc at 5 weeks over Christmas. I barely bled enough to fill a pad throughout a whole day (TMI), which was why I tried to stay positive for so long.

These first few weeks are so scary - had some friends over this weekend. She is 20 weeks, but only found out she was pg at 10 weeks and she feels really relieved to have missed the worry of the first few weeks, but is slightly concerned by the amount she was drinking back then.

It is so good to hear from you T4T, to give us all hope, that there is success at the end of it all.

Rubles, glad to hear that things seem to be still ok with you. We've made it past 9 weeks now, but I'm feeling less positive at the moment, even though not had any spotting (had a tiniest speck last Sunday, but nothing since, so decided to leave it). I've got my booking in on Tuesday, so I'll speak to the MW about it. Bit scared as I mc the first time, the day after my booking in, so feel a bit superstitious about it. Arranged to see a friend on Tuesday afternoon after MW has gone, so hopefully that will take my mind off it. Just hope I have MS with a vengence next week to reassure me - been feeling scarily ok for last couple of days.

Anyway, I've gone on too much about me, and I just wanted to send my love and hugs to everyone, but particularly MrsMc, Jules & Glimmerofhope. Fingers-crossed for you all.

take care.
xxx

Jules, MrsMc & Glimmer - thinking of you all.

Fettle - nice to see you - hope your booking in goes well.

ejt

Hi Jules. Nobody can understand you better than I. I think it's all over here, too, although I am waiting for the heavy bleeding now (I hope it will follow and not become another missed m/c). I also understand your feeling about pg women too well since I have two pregnant friend with whom I work everyday. Let's open another thread and try and give each other the support we need. To everbody here: all the best to you!
You know we love you!

Morning All

so sorry to hear all the sad and scary news here now. My thoughts are with you all.

Jules, Mrs Mc and Glimmer- don't leave yet. Many of us have been through the same things.

Jules- it probably doesn't feel like it, but you will survive. I had two m/c in a row then ds and then another m/c before this pg.
I know the feeling well, about finding it hard to look at other pg women and having jealous feelings, it's very normal. At the moment my friends are saying to me I'm so glad this pregnancy worked for you, i think they mean it nice but to me, but it's hurtful anyway- didn't they care about the others? it's just hard not to be offended when everyone else around you sails through pg. Sending you and dh my best for right now.

Glimmer ? you know, I really did wonder that about the moon too. Let?s hope. The eclipse was quite freaky wasn?t it?

Sparklybits ? sorry that I left when I did yesterday and left you worried about me. I went to sleep actually and when I woke up the pains and volume had decreased thankfully. I am at work today and feel ok, I?m keeping a really close eye on the volume of blood and the pains are really not half as bad today. I promise to go if things get bad again. Thank you for caring

Hello Fettle, I have really high hopes for you hon and really hope you?ll be out celebrating with your friend after your MW appointment

Jules ? LOL at your new name, I?m considering ?lookslikealostboy? ? looking pretty crap have to say! You?ve also made me cry. I just cannot imagine how terrible you must be feeling. I really hope the news this morning is a lovely surprise, I really, really do. I shredded the mother?s days cards that I got made for my Mum and MIL last night ? they announced the news, just felt that even if things are, by some miracle, still continuing, I?d rather wait until Easter. Broke my heart to do it though.

Uki ? thanks for the support, I cannot imagine how it feels to have M/C (let?s hope this is not how it feels) I suppose people just don?t know what to say do they.

Glimmerofhope, MrsMc & Jules...I am so very sorry to hear of you bleeding too. Don't feel like you have to go elsewhere to console each other. MrsMc - hey darlin'. Have scooted through a fair few posts this morning and while I am glad to hear the alarming bleeding has subsided I can't believe you are at work...don't be too brave, although I understand you might want to take your mind off it. Could you get an iron supplement just to make sure your levels haven't dropped to much?

Jules that was such a heartbreaking post. You're not being unreasonable to feel jealous, I think most (all?) of us have had negative feelings either to a particular pregnant woman/women or to pregnant women in general. It may be that only those of us who have previously had a miscarriage truly understand - I remember a massive row last year with dp about one particular woman because he thought I was being illogical, ungenerous, unsisterly etc. I said he was right, I knew I was, but I couldn't help it, I just wanted to be pregnant and complacent so very very much. You are right though, our little babies are very much loved already. I am glad you made it up with your dh - they can be such trying times for a relationship.

Fettle, don't be surprised if the symptoms start to get better now as they tend to after about 10 weeks don't they? Mine did with dd...although no sign as yet with this one. I know what you mean about feeling superstitious about the booking appointment, I've had a fair few suspicions but remember it is just superstition and nothing more. Ditto the feeling negative feeling - it is just fear and not some female intuition. I hope the mw puts your mind at rest somewhat tomorrow, try and hold on to the fact that you are pregnant, you are not bleeding and you have no rational reason in this world to think that anything has gone wrong. I do think you are going to be alright this time, I can feel it in my waters. Come September/October you'll be posting about your birth plans and your fat ankles I just know it.

Good morning to everyone else. I don't get to post much at all these days so I'm afraid I don't provide as much support as I would like.

mrs mc j - sorry to have panicced! i was a bit overtired i think and imagined the worst. just glad you're feeling a bit better. do take care

Thanks Rubles, do you know if it?s safe to take iron tablets when pregnant? (ever the optimist) I certainly feel I might benefit from them.

Sparkly ? it?s so nice that you care, I think the panic I was in might have made things worse, the MW did say that the more I moved about, the more I would bleed. That?s why went to bed, plus, I have to say, it?s such a relief to sleep and be unconcious and not be worrying/thinking.

Iron supplements are definitely ok in pregnancy. Lots of women are prescribed them later on. Fluoradix liquid is meant to be very good - a bit of vit C at the same time to help absorption.

Jules - the way you are feeling at the moment is completely normal. The limbo phase of not really knowing what's going on, hoping against hope that everything's going to be ok, while trying to be realistic about the chances - it's awful, and nobody really knows what you're going through unless they have been there themselves. Don't worry about you and dh having differing experiences of this - the truest thing that anybody said to me last year was that grief is the loneliest (sp) emotion you'll ever experience - nobody else can possibly know what your experience of it is.
The healing process is hard - I lost 2 precious babies last year, and at times I didn't know how I would cope with the thought of ever being pregnant again. I found a really good forum at babyloss and the wonderful women there had all been through the same experiences as me. Someone from the ttc forum on there said that I would kinow when I was ready to try again, as the fear of pregnancy and the terror of losing another precious baby would be outweighed by the desire to hold my baby in my arms.

That said, I really hope that the news today is good. Don't feel you have to go elsewhere - we're all on this thread as we've been there ourselves, and personally, I feel that I wouldn't have healed so well myself if it hadn't been for other wonderful women supporting me during my losses.

Thinking of you, and praying for you - and for MrsMc, and for Glimmer.

love and hugs
ejt

Hi MrsMcJr, glad to hear you are feeling better.

Do take it easy because losing lots of blood can make you anaemic. I would however not take any supplements, etc, until you've been seen by a GP or midwife. They might also want to give you blood tests.

I think you have a scan on Wednesday, if I remember correctly, so I guess that's when you'll also be told what to do. Do try to be seen earlier though it you start bleeding heavily or are in pain again (hopefully not...)

MrsMc - I second rubles about the flouradix - the normal stuff makes you constipated - and it turns your poo dark black!

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Thanks for all your hartfelt support. MrsM glad to hear the at least the pain has ceased. It's a tricky balance between distraction and rest, isn't it? I am not sure what to do. I am continuing to bleed very lighly (not enough for AF but too much for implantation): red fresh clood, no clots. The lines on the pg test do not get darker or lighter. I guess the only cartainty would be to take two blood test two days apart but I am afraid GP will turn me away. I wish I would have the strength to wait for a week and see, but the waiting is excruciating.

Hi ladies , have not posted for a while but i just wanted to say my feeling go out to you all xx

I konw what a hard time it must be for you.

Good Luck wed Mrs xxxx

Hello and welcome to gemmamc and I hope that you are doing OK

Glimmer, MrsMcJnr...sorry to hear that things aren't going so well for you both ...can't you get in your local EPU or be seen any sooner. I live in Leeds and the local service is fantastic as you can self refer. Try to stay positive and don't worry about badgering the doctor..it's what you pay all those NI contributions for!

Jules....hope you are OK sweetie and let us all know how things have gone today. Your feelings at the moment are perfectly normal and will get better, but as others have said, if it is the worst news then giving your mind and body some time to grieve would help lots. I had three periods in between conceiving after my first mc and then five after the second and definately felt that I needed that time to come to terms with things. I also said never again after the second, but pretty soon the need to try again was too overwhelming. DH was very supportive but was wary as he knew how badly affected I was (always managed to conceive at first attempt so mcs were really shocking to me) I felt very resentful of a girl at work who was pg at the same time, and had to watch her pg progress through two mc which was really hard, but she sent me a few e-mails when I was off work which made going back to work more bearable. On the other side of the coin a close friend mc'd in December and I felt really guilty that I still had my baby this time which was really irrational and quite upsetting, but we spoke about it lots and dhe felt that it helped that I'd been through it and could give her advice. remeber your not alne and there's always someone to talk to on here or at the miscarriage association (can't remeber their website, but if you google them you'll find them. But, fingers crossed it hasn't come to that ((((hugs))))

Oh Glimmer ? I do feel for you. Did you see I set up a thread for those in limbo, not because all you other lovely ladies are not being supportive because you are, incredibly so but because I?m worried we?ll upset otherwise happy pregnant ladies and make them worry when they don?t need to. I don?t know what to advise hon, it is so hard. Your GP might do blood tests a couple of days apart so you can measure the HCG levels to see if they are increasing but they?ll want to scan you anyway so I think the wait is inevitable.

Thank you all for your support, it is really helping me.