Pregnancy after infertility III

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Spotting, cramping, "is my clearblue digi accurate?",* viability scans, measuring behind, measuring ahead, high hcg, low hcg, morning sickness, lack of morning sickness, anomaly scans....

That's right, folks, it's the place where scanxiety really means something, where the feeling like you're always going to be on the wrong side of statistics nevers go away, and where moments of sheer terror are par for the course ...it's pregnancy after infertility.

Join if you want to hang out with a supportive group of women across all different stages of pregnancy who can't believe they got here and are hoping like hell its all going to be ok.

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2679146-Pregnancy-after-infertility-II

*hint for newbies: it's not

Hedgehog, are you having heart scans too then?
We're literally only therefor these heart scans, our other ones are all at our local hospital. Xx

No, but we had private ICSI at Guys & St T so we're having an extra scan at 9+5 for reassurance.

Oh I see! We paid for a scan at 10 weeks as I couldn't bear to wait until 12! Xx

Hello can I join please?
Found out over the weekend that our first icsi cycle was successful. Still feels so surreal having seen my first positive pregnancy test after trying for so long.
Me 29 DH 34, trying for 4.5 years. Me pcos, DH borderline morphology.
First scan booked in on the 19th Jan, (omg how long). Anxiety through the roof due to it being my first and also having zero symptoms. I was convinced it hadn't worked but here I am!

Many thanks to Blueroses for telling me to join this chat. Hopefully my mind will be put at rest soon enough.

Congratulations Liberte and welcome! The wait for that first scan is a killer. I got through so many pg tests during that time. Here's hoping it goes nice and quickly for you. Xx

Sammy. Sorry your triage aren't supportive. TBH couldn't believe how lovely mw was

They have booked in extra scan today for us. Think to just reassure df and I and measure bubs etc

Hedgehog hope you kept your meal down

Smurfy. Enjoy ml. Feet up and pampered

Liberte. Welcome and congrats

Think we all feel the same when poas and shows positive

Welcome Liberte, lovely to see you here. As others have said, time passes reeeeally slowly before the first scan. Also don't worry if you don't get any symptoms, some people just don't!

Sammy yay for starting mat leave soon!

Smurfy I think you're next up? Are you all set for baby's arrival if you feel you might not go for another 5 weeks?

Blondes how scary but I'm glad to hear bubs is ok, and also second not hesitating to make contact with the slightest concern.

hope you're ok, can't go back and namecheck from the phone.

AFM I had a bit of a scare myself. I had a scan with my clinic at 8+2 yesterday with my clinic before they discharged me. Everything was fine with bub wriggling around! Dr didn't seem sure but measured my cervix at 21mm .

And then at home I slipped down the stairs on my ass I was sure that bub was well cushioned and safe but was in so much pain from the fall when I woke up that I thought I should get it checked out. I called the EPU but they wouldn't see me unless A&E referred me. So little trip down to A&E where I was seen surprisingly quickly, confirmed no broken bones, just muscular pain, and referred to EPU, where we got to see bub wriggling around happily, no signs of bleeding etc. And my cervix length is 35mm again. I'm going to have some almighty bruising I expect but relieved everything is ok. Also I have my booking in appointment with the midwife this afternoon. Little one is keeping us v busy!

Blueroses- hooray everything's OK - scary!
Liberte - glad you're here! I think the state of disbelief goes on for a while - I am 5 weeks since bfp now and still can't believe it! Have viability scan on 5th Jan. Yes time is defo dragging. And over the last week been feeling more sickly and tired. But hey here we are! Great news for you.
Feeling a bit down today. Must be the hormones and just back from a holiday so bit out of sorts. Roll on scan day. Really want some confirmation all is OK.

Just catching up, Blondes that must have been terrifying so glad baby is ok

liberte congratulations! So pleased to see you here

Blueroses sorry to hear about your fall, glad bub was ok and hope you're not feeling too sore

Sara not too long to go now, but it will probably feel like an eternity!

After my bleed I was told I would probably get some more so wasn't overly concerned about the small amounts of old blood I had over Christmas which seemed to have cleared up in the last few days. But this morning I had quite a bit more brown blood (sorry for tmi) so rang the EPU who were lovely and reassuring and said it was perfectly normal after a bleed. She advised to keep an eye on it and if it gets heavier or painful to let them know and if it's still going on Thurs to let them know and they'll get a Dr to check for infection ect

She also said to take it easy so I'm back to lying on the sofa under a blanket. As someone who before my IVF cycle was exercising everyday I'm finding it rather hard work!

Hope everyone has a lovely new year

blue, how scary and painful to fall, but glad baby is ok,weird how cervix has grown ........

custard glad they reassured you

Sara after tonight, I'm sure time will fly by to the 5th.

Custard I'm sorry that you're having more bleeding but at least you have some reassurance that you don't need to worry.

Happy New Year! Here's to a special 2017 for all of us 🎉

Happy New Year to everyone ☄️☄️☄️

Happy new year to all you amazing women! Wishing you a truly special 2017 with your precious new babies making a safe appearance.

Welcome to the newcomers and glad to hear everyone has been ok over Xmas.

I can now officially say I'm having a baby next month- WTAF!

Happy New Year everyone! Looking forward to lots of baby announcements in 2017 x

Happy New Year everyone! Hope you're all really well.

Happy new year everyone having people to share this journey with on here has made a big difference. This should be our year! X

Omg the nausea - I know its normal but it's all day ... 😕 also feeling intense sense of dread de viability scan on Thur. Don't seek to be negative just can't envisage that things could be fine. Pregnancy after infertility is really not what I'd imagined!

Oh Sara, don't suffer through it if it's really that bad. See your GP. Several of us have had anti nausea pills.

I've got my 28 week scan tomorrow, and my diabetes screening test! Xx

Sara I know exactly what you mean about pregnancy being different to how we imagined, I didn't expect the whole new set of worries after the positive test! I just keep telling myself what I'm feeling is natural (I have a friend who felt exactly the same with a non IVF pregnancy) and try not to dwell on it too much, it's hard work though! Fingers crossed for your scan and if the morning sickness is too much do see someone (mines just annoying I've gone off certain foods like my lovely & healthy home made soup )

Sammy good luck with the scan and test tomorrow

Sammy. Good luck. Mine is on mon tho have scan and consultant as well so plan is have first blood test. Drink sugar stuff. Scan. Consultant. And then hopefully 30/60m left to read book in leave and retest and then eat. Hurray :)

SARA. Kwym. This hasn't been an easy pregnancy with having hg (check out cyczline to help sickness and if sick a lot test ketones. 3 + you need to bring hospital and fluids

So sickness and on fragmin so inject daily

As well as heartburn so glug gaviscon

Plus less cervix due to cone biopsy years ago

And placenta over cervix

Nothing is easy about this preg. Really didn't enjoy the first 14w as so sick and nauseous tho did improve a bit by 20w but still sick now in and off

I don't want to moan too much to friends as taken 10yrs and 5ivf to get preg but roll on giving birth - which also worries me that something will go wrong

But that's normal for us infertile lot :(

That's perfect blondes, sadly for me test is at 8.30, then retest at 10.30 and scan at 11! However my uncle had a stroke NYE and is in the same hospital so am going to take the opportunity to visit him in the gap. Xx

Good luck tomorrow Sammy. I have my 20 weeks scan tomorrow too and am really nervous as they are going to be looking in detail at everything and I'm just worried they will find something wrong.

Gosh Lucie, 20 weeks! The weeks seem to fly by for everyone else. I remember that fear so vividly. Don't panic if they can't get all the measurements and tell you you have to come back in 2 weeks, I've heard of this happening a lot, it certainly was the case for me. Are you finding out the sex? Xx

Thanks Sammy, I just worry what if they find something wrong with the brain or heart or something?? We aren't finding out the sex. DH is not keen and I don't really mind either way so we are going for a surprise!

I'm impressed with your patience! I couldn't wait to find out even though I didn't care.
I know what you mean, and of course it's possible, but try not stress about the 'ifs'. Xx