Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

With my first pregnancy I felt movement very early on and it was like gentle waves lapping, I was told it couldn't be movement but it was too consistent when I lay in a particular position. the feeling of kicks didn't happen until later

I weighed myself last night and I've now put on 8lbs in 4 weeks... has anyone got any tips on what I can to stop piling it on like this? (Other than the obvious stop eating!) It's the only thing helping with the nausea and I'm off anything sweet including fruit and just craving crisps and stodgy carbs :(. I have no energy at all to be exercising. I always thought I'd be so healthy and hoped it be one of these ones who stayed slim as I've never struggled with my weight before. 2lbs a week cannot be kept up!

Hi Moonlight. I have been really struggling with extreme tiredness (sleeping lots and having to constantly have a lie down) but I have forced myself to have a walk every day. Remarkably once I'm out I cope and feel much better when I'm moving. I don't walk too far and tend to walk a circular route so that I'm always close to home. Even a 10–20 minute walk every day will be good for you - good for tiredness/sickness, good for circulation (which is good for you and the baby) and will help a little with the weight gain.

I've been snacking a lot as its the only way to keep nausea at bay but I've stuck to boring snacks so that I don't get that 'must have more sugar' thing. I've been nibbling on oatcakes which do a good job at stopping hunger but aren't fun to eat which means I only eat as much as I need.

Sorry if any of that sounds preachy - it's always difficult making suggestions re weight without sounding holier-than-though irritating!

I've got my 12-week scan tomorrow. I've been really struggling mentally for the past few days as I'm just petrified of bad news at the scan . I have that feeling that something has gone wrong, but I hope that its just self-preservation at play.

Thanks for responding ladies.

Moonlight sorry can't help. I've not bothered weighing myself at all since ive been pregnant. I do feel quite big but not sure I'll deal with it well if I know how much ive put on so I'm
Ignoring for now and just trying to be as healthy as possible (unfortunately that involves a can of coke or two as I'm struggling with drinking fluids)

Just popping by to say thinking of you tomorrow newshoes :)

All the very best for tomorrow newshoes. I hope all is perfect for you

I've been really lucky re cravings - I am overweight and tend to binge drink Coca Cola - this pregnancy has all been about fruit and water it's all I can keep down.

I ate a McDonald's yesterday and 3 hours later than came up. Don't think I look a McDonald's chip in the face again.

I agree with newshoes once you get out you feel loads better - I went for a "30 minute" walk in the woods yesterday ended up there for 2.5 hours (highly unlike me, I'm more at home at home lol)

God I'm painting such a great picture of myself.

Wombletor- I don't know how you dealt with that, I would just completely shut out someone if they were acting like that!

Flue jab went fine, no issues as yet (fingers crossed) x

Hi ladies,

Haven't been on here for awhile. I'm really glad to read all the good news.

Things are going good for me I really hope it stays that way. after the bleeding I had 2weeks ago I was scheduled a scan which was today and I saw the hb it brought tears to my eyes .the sonographer saw a second sac which she said is definitely not a another baby but might be blood that scared me a little. they want to rescan me in 2weeks to see if it goes away by its self.

I'm 6+4.

Thanks newshoes I am really struggling with the tiredness too. I got home from work today at 5.15 and fell straight asleep, dp woke me up at 6 as he'd cooked dinner, stayed awake a few hours then fell asleep again half way through bake off (I don't know who won!) And just woke up again. I think I need to go for a walk as soon as I get back from work otherwise once I sit down that's it and I cant get up again. I think I'll stock up on rice cakes etc this weekend and try and make myself snack apple and things as well rather than just crisps and toast. Fx for your scan tomorrow, I'm sure everything will be fine if you're feeling so rough too (that's what I'm telling myself). And I'm sure it'll be such a relief after to be over another milestone, good luck.

purple maybe I should just stop weighing myself as well, knowing isn't really going to help anything

Thanks sah, sounds like I do need to force myself out the door!

Congrats on the scan shine, great news:) fx everything is OK by the next scan l, from what I've heard if it is a bleed it can be really absorbed I think?

Back to sleep I go.....

moonlight just a thought but are you taking iron? I know pregnancy is utterly exhausting, it's wiped me out but sometimes the extra iron can make a bit of a difference especially if people are a bit anaemic. I like to use spatone. And yeah I wouldn't bother weighing yourself too much, I've heard it often evens out :) That's what I'm hoping!!

Morning ladies, hya to the newer ladies.
Ants what where you stats for your chances of DS?
I'm thinking about you a lot, we have the 12 week scan as our goal and then after that we set ourself new challenges and I can Imagine it's hit you like a bolt from the blue, I have got to say I have known lots of people who have been on the higher side of the scale and everything was absolutely fine.
That won't help you for now but I hope you are finding a way to cope with the process of more tests and finding out a definitive answer.
I've got everything crossed for you xx

Hya purple, my movements start of feeling like the typical butterfly, or bubbles in your lower abdo, jut above your pelvic bone.
They have then gotten stronger as the weeks move on and they feel more like a swirling sensation, then you feel a little fast pop like feeling and that's when you start to see the difference, and they can be singular or proper little kicking and punching sessions lol
I can't wait for that😍
If feeling slight bits and bobs, nothing I can say for 100% is definetly the baby just yet, but if I put my hand firmly on that part of my belly when it's quiet it is more noticeable. I'm 14+3 and I get my Doppler out ever 4 days ish and every time I find the HB the baby kicks and moves under the Doppler and that's funny to hear them having a proper move around.

I haven't weighed myself moonlight for a couple of weeks, I'm already over weight from the other 5 treasures I've given birth to but I've noticed with my last 3 pregnancies it was after I gave birth I gained the weight strangely.
Usually as my children's school is at the end of my road more or less I walk the kids and the baby to school there and back 3 times each day but I've been so lazy of late the hubbys been taking them so I need to start that again.
My belly has started to become less hideable so I don't know how much longer I'll be able to keep things to myself, I think I'd like to have the 20week scan and fingers crossed that will be as I hope and then maybe I'll tell people? Lol

Phew! My scan went well. A very wriggly baby measuring 12+1.

Now just the wait for the nuchal results. It does feel like a series of hurdles, doesn't it?

Congratulations Ineed. Great news.

Thank you everyone who has wished me well. I have gone for the non-invasive test to find out more and should get the results back next week. Its going to be a very long wait. After seeing my exact results yesterday I feel a little more hopeful. My nuchal is a little on the larger size (1.5MOM) but still normal and my PAPP-A scores were fine (0.85 MOM). The big problem was my hcg which was really high (3.75MOM) and with all the measurements together I've got a score of 1 in 30. Part of me wishes I'd never tested and then I could still remain in happy ignorance but now I'm just desperately hoping it will work out OK.

Hope everyone else waiting for test scores gets good results.

Amazing newshoes congrats, happy for you!

Congratulations Newshoes.

Ants I can't imagine the worry but hold on to the hope. I'm glad you could have the non invasive test. Wishing all the best for you.

Congrats Newshoes!!

Ants I've been thinking of you... must be such a hard time for you right now and I just can't imagine what you're going through. I'll be keeping my fingers x for you.

Well ants this may make sense or it may not, the stats for cancer say that 1 in 2 of us will be struck down with cancer and even with those odds I don't feel particularly vulnerable to it.
So with that as a bench mark, 1 in 30 doesn't seem so high?
Well I hope you get what I'm actually trying to say, if you where to club together with 29 other ladies and have a bet, realistically do you think you'd have a hope of being the chosen one, I wouldn't really.

Please try to relax as much as you can my lovely, let's start worrying when we have to xxxxx

I think sometimes as the odds are for something that we wouldn't necessarily opt in for they seem more likely to happen to us.

ants il be keeping my fingers crossed for you, must be such a difficult time.

newshoes that's lovely news

Did anyone find in the early days that some days morning sickness wasn't as bad as others? I can't remember from my previous pregnancies but I don't feel quite as rough today (6+2) as the last few days, which was the first sign I got with my MMC so im feeling pretty paranoid today

Great news newshoes! must feel like a huge relief for you!
alb I had good and bad days, more bad until I took meds to help. Then it was just the extreme tiredness that got to me. I'd only be out of bed an hour and would be desperate to crawl back in again.

I've somehow managed to be on the go all day today, kids to the barbers, shop for some food shopping (kids still all in tow!) Home for lunch then to the play barn for some fun. Home to cook a huge dinner, in between the trips in and out I was switching the washing on, transferring it to the dryer then making the beds back up, then preparing tomorrow's dinner too! I'm worn out!!

I've just weighed myself moon and I've put on 2lbs in my almost 15weeks so far.
I started taking iron yesterday, the insomnia is driving me wild, every nite I wake up out of nowhere and then lay there trying desperately to drift back off to no avail 😢

18 weeks today ladies.. so scared but still here. Having a scan tonight.

Hi ladies!
Thanks for all your suggestions - I've had a reaaaallly mind blowing week this week. I wondered if anyone could advise?
Although this is my second pregnancy - I miscarried early last time, so don't really know what to expect when it comes to ultrasounds....
I'm sorry in advance for waffling - but I'm feeling totally mind blown. I found out I was pregnant on the 16th of October and my LMP was 12/09/16. On Monday I started cramping and bleeding - I guess fairly heavily ( although I'm not really sure what's considered heavy or not..) I automatically assumed that I was having another miscarriage so had a little cry and curled up in the sofa for 3 days. My partner convinced me to visit the GP who examined me and asked me what's happened so far, she booked me in for an early scan to see what's going on.
Well...I still have no idea, I expected to see nothing on the scan and to hear, 'sorry, there's no sign of pregnancy'.
Instead there was lots of silence, then questions about the bleeding and then she told me there appears to be a pregnancy sac (in my uterus) but could see anything in it....but she didn't say much else except that I was to contact her if I had one sided pain that could indicate an EP - I was in too much shock to ask questions. So I left feeling very confused. - (also if pregnancy sac is my uterus, could it still be ectopic?? -that's baffled me).

Has anyone else experienced this before? As I'm unsure of the outcomes I should expect. I think my dates maybe slightly off as according to my LMP I was 6 weeks on Monday but ovulated around the 30th so I'm thinking maybe I'm closer to 5 weeks - which apparently could be why sac appears empty?
Is the pregnancy sac still showing a positive as my bleeding is ending? Or should I just assume the worst? I'm going for another scan next Friday to figure out what's happening, but I know you ladies will know exactly what I mean when I say the wait is killing me!
Sorry sorry for the super long post!
Thanks xxxx
X

Hi baby... how many weeks does that make you? I spent weeks 5-8 bleeding, in and out of EPU convinced I had miscarried. First time they couldn't see much on ultrasound but did see a sac. They said they also saw something on my ovary so were worried I had an EP as well as a regular pregnancy. After three weeks bleeding stopped and now everything is fine. I was honestly convinced it was a MC as it was the exact same symptoms as my previous MC. Have you got any more appointments lined up? Did they do bloods?

Great news purple that you're 18 weeks! And good luck for your scan.

It's my due date today for pregnancy number 1. Can't believe it has come round so quickly. I had been dreading it but being pregnant definitely makes it easier. Me and OH went for a nice walk around a national trust garden and now I'm in bed having a nap. So not a bad way to spend the day.

Hi Jpeg,
Thanks for your reply. Apparently according to my LMP and the doc I should be 6w +4, but I'm pretty sure I'm more likely to be around 5wks considering predicted ovulation dates.

I have to go back in a week to see what's happening, so scan booked for Friday the 4th. I'm just kicking myself that I didn't ask questions, my brain wasn't in gear at all. As for bloods....(please don't judge, I know I HAVE to have them at some point) I have a ridiculous fear of needles, so they let me go without doing tests today - but HAVE to have them next week regardless (shhhhhh**ttttt).
I'm glad everything was positive for you, it's so scary :(
Xx

Keeping everything crossed for you baby... the bloods will help see what's happening. It's such a scary time but hopefully all will be ok.