Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

Ants I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Have they offered you an amnio? I'll be keeping everything crossed for you if you do go ahead with tests etc. Maybe there is a support group on mumsnet for people who have been in a similar situation? Thinking of you

Ants - sorry that you've had this news.

I've seen threads on this subject on MN where people recommend the charity Arc who I think are impartial and offer information and advice on further testing and decision making.

I've also read others saying that their combined blood test/nuchal test showed a high chance of DS but then the further testing has given a result that doesn't indicate DS.

If you can afford it (and it's not the test your hospital is already offering) you could consider paying privately for the Harmony testing which would give more conclusive results.

Just having a quick catch up. Will reply properly later when I have more time. Got another scan today as basically was on the phone to the mw yesterday crying cos I'm really worried that the pg has stopped progressing cos I've not been sick the last few days and just didn't feel right. Got to go by myself though as everyone that I would ask who knows is working.

ants I hope your ok, I can't imagine how your feeling with a whole new worry on top of all the anxieties that already go with pregnancy. Take each day as it comes
Looks like the mad dreams have finally gotten to me, I had a crazy dream last night but won't go into detail now.
I hope you all have a good day x

ants that must be so stressful and upsetting, I really hope everything works out well for you

Had the scan and there's a heartbeat, they wouldn't date or anything just said it's very early days. Also said there's a bruise in my womb which may reabsorb or May bleed but they promised it can't take the baby with it if it does. So still a very long way to go but seeing a heartbeat is a good start

Ants so sorry you're going through this. My friend in France was told similar (not just DS but also other potential brain issues) and went through hell...but now has a lovely perfectly healthy baby girl. Sending you best wishes.

Alb so glad you got to see the heartbeat, must be amazing!

For me, I saw my acupuncturist on Friday, she said this pregnancy has every chance and I'm doing this differently this time round (acupuncture, taking supplements she's suggested, and attempting a gluten free diet!) She didn't have an advice re aspirin but did say that some of the supplements act in a similar way to aspirin so I should be okay with them. I have an early scan in a couple of weeks when I'll be 7+4 and then a midwife appointment following that. I'm also keeping my appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic (as it was so hard to get) so then if there is anything wrong with the scan, I can discuss it with them.

I do feel very positive this time (but still have the odd wobble!)

Also - have any of you had the flu jab before 12 weeks?

I'm unsure but I did get flu with the last pregnancy and wonder if that is what caused the mc!

Hi everyone
I'm joining your thread, just got a bfp 4+3. I'm 43, I have a history of recurrent miscarriage but managed to have my son last November after a treatment plan of steroid, heparin and cyclogest. I have mixed emotions, grateful and happy to be pregnant but obviously very worried about beginning the process again. I'm trying to be calm, but I feel everything is stacked up against me.

I had the flu jab yesterday and am 8+5, midwife recommended it so fingers crossed it doesn't cause me any problems.

Fingers crossed for you Ants, can't imagine what u feeling, have they said why you are at high risk? Xx

My midwife mentioned the flu and whooping cough jabs when I saw her last week but only to say it's recommended. Yet another lady (sorry I forgot who said it) was getting lots of letters over it, another thing different in different areas?! I'll book mine next week when kids are back at school.
4d scan went well and we even saw her do a little smile. She is properly confirmed as a little girl, I'm so happy. Just another 16 weeks to go!!
Attached a blobby photo for you to see

Lovely photo Lynsey, congrats!!

Had my flu jab yesterday too and have booked whooping cough in a few weeks time. I wanted to avoid having them both at the same time because I am a wimp.
But I've had no reminders/letters/anyone telling me I should get them apart from leaflet from booking in appt.

Glad the scan went well Lynsey.

Thinking of you Ants.

I got my flu jab yesterday too. I kept wondering why I had a sore arm/shoulder (and panicking) until I remembered sometimes it can hurt for a while.

Does anyone have any tips for keeping my mind busy for the next few weeks? These have been the slowest two days ever

Thank you ladies

I'm sorry about the news and you feeling so down about it ants. Good luck for tomorrow. I can't imagine how worried you must be so hopefully you get some more answers with further tests.

Glad your scan went well and saw the heartbeat alb!

jbee I rang my drs about flu jab and they wouldn't get involved so need to wait until I see midwife but will have it asap after that. I had a cold at the beginning of this pg which was hell so no way do I want flu with a crappy immune system!

Welcome womble and congrats!

Lovely pic lynsey and yay for the confirmation of a girl! Now you can trust it more lol and relax knowing!

I've considered telling my work early, not sure what to do. I figure if the worst did happen I'd need time off again anyway so my manager might as well know? I was told today I have to do a client meeting week after next which I am dreading. I really hate meetings as it is and get really anxious about them at the best of times. Let alone when I'm nauseous all day long and having to pee every 30 mins I'm already nervous about what if I need to keep excusing myself! I've been sick in work a few times already but think I've managed to hide it so far. 7+4 today, a week longer than I got last time :). I've been having weird cramps today but trying not to read in to it now seeing as I've had them on and off for weeks now and I am still so sick.

Wow Lynsey that's an amazing photo!!

I've just come home from the worst night at my parents, it happens every time we go, my two 26 year old selfish sisters always manage to upset me and stress me out. They fly off the handle at the most pathetic things and then as they are twins they back each other up, and we are talking the most pathetic things! We sound like teenagers. Anyway I left in tears, my mum then cried as I said I hated going there and another family disaster begins! Usually my sisters will 'unfriend' me on Facebook, because that's the mature thing to do!! My poor boyfriend just sits and watches it all happen every time. I'm now sleeping on the sofa as I'm just too upset (and hormonal maybe) and want to be on my own.

Sorry for the very long and silly rant... families are such hard work!!

Thank you!
moonlight can you just tell the people that need to know incase of medical appts and then tell the rest when your ready?
jpeg not sure if you've seen my previous mentions of a very immature sister but yours sounds very like mine! It's really not nice at all and it must be so much worse having 2 of them at it. I guess your fella feels abit awkward as I know mine does when my sister is being a cow. Try not to let it cause an issue with you two and go snuggle upto him, sounds like you'd benefit from a hug xx

That's what I was thinking lynsey telling my manager, she knew last time when I had the mc so it won't be a shock to her that I'm pg again and she was so good. She even lied on my sick form we have to do as I told her I didn't want the directors and other managers to know so she fully covered for me and we put I'd had a sickness bug. Another senior manager made some comments today though when I said I really didn't want to do it "that it's my job" so I think he'd kick up a fuss even if my manager told him I wasn't... such a fuss.

Ok so I've been ranting in my head for last 15 mins now so need to get just get it down to calm down as I've wound myself up so sorry for completely off topic.... the thing is I never even asked for this stupid job anyway. I was given a promotion at the beginning of the year (5k extra - awesome for baby pot, good stuff) and it was sold to me as a thanks for all your hard work and loyalty over last few years and I didn't realise they'd be giving me all this extra stuff to do too (I suppose I should have realised). But now they give me all this extra work and responsibilities because "it's my job now" but I was never told it would be! Surely they can't just change your job like that without me agreeing to it? If I knew I had to do client meetings I would have said no because that's how anxious they make me. Urgh, I think I need to go do a post somewhere more appropriate for a proper rant and to find out what I can do as it's really stressing me out.

I'm due to get my flu jab today, but have a temperature and my little one has woken up with one today too, I'm sure we can't have it if we've got a temperature..... but I'm nOw doubting myself. Grrrrr pregnant brain!!!

I keep stressing about the silliest things at work. I got s promotion a year and a bit ago, and I'm sure the stress from it was a contributing factor and I'm really trying to be good and not stress but it's really not helping. Any hints for destressing quickly?

De-stress, treat yourself to some lovely bath smellys and have a soak with your favourite music. I usually hate baths, much more a shower person but relaxing in the bath has been lovely recently. Simple but affective.

I've spent most of the night awake through one boy being sick, another coughing and me getting more tired and frustrated at the lack of sleep. The one who was sick, he had got in my bed just before so had to strip the entire bed and dump it in the bath. I suppose I best go and deal with that now 😷

For those of you experienced, what do kicks feel like? Can it a be a flurry of kicks? Like a repeated movement?

I'm trying to work out if I can feel kicking but difficult to say. It's definitely in the baby area rather than joint/ pelvic pain.

17+5 today

purple I find it feels like bubbles popping or gas to be honest

In my boys pregnancies I found the first feelings were like full on butterflies. This time it felt like little pops that have got stronger as time goes on.

Feeling kicks for me was like delicate fluttering, and as the baby grew felt like windy bowel spasms.

I'm late to thread, been reading through, how are you dirtydancing? I hope you're OK.

Ant, there's every chance all will be well, the NHS bloods are not 100% accurate. Consider the harmony or nipt, they are close to 99%. If I make it to the 12 week mark my odds won't be great as I'm 43, trying not to get ahead of myself.

Jpeg, my sister had a right marry when I had my baby last November. Apparently she wanted a baby and it stirred up emotions. But instead of talking about it, she was a complete cow, and faked illness, created a drama, it was awful. We stopped speaking for months. I did try to resolve it but no success.