Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

Do you ever wonder if what you see and what other people see is different?
When we all did bump photos a while back, you could visibly see my bump and when I look down, it's all I see. But I asked my partner if I was as big as I feel I am and he said not. He is not the type to pussy foot around either!
Then with it only being this past week where people are starting to say how noticeable it is, it makes me wonder further! Could simply be the way we dress I suppose?

What do you all think?

Hey all, can I join :) I recognise a lot of your names from the other thread - so glad to see all your pregnancies are going well.

I'm 5 weeks, very happy but also obviously nervous after 2 mc's.

I have a question about aspirin - have any of you been told to take it? I've read it's good for people who've had an mc?

When did you go to the docs with this pregnancy and what did you ask for? I've not been yet - I have very little faith in my GP after an awful appointment recently when trying to get a referral for recurrent mc tests.
I still have the midwife number from last time so I could just go straight to her.

Sorry for all the questions!

lynsey show us your bump! I for one will be honest! What you wear can definately make a difference though (I'm thankful for baggy winter jumpers already with my current bloat!)

Welcome jbee and congrats :). I think aspirin is good for people with a certain blood clotting problem which is causing their mc but I don't know much about it. I personally have avoided it as I've had 1 mc and have read it can increase mc risk so I wouldn't want to risk it without knowing the reason for mc last time. Drs here don't want to see you at all, they just gave me the number over the phone for midwives and I booked straight in with them.

Welcome jbee, I took aspirin up until 13 week scan. Midwife didn't seem to mind, I thought it could do no harm so it's up to you. I did do a lot of reading.
Straight to midwife might be best if you've got rubbish GPs.

Moonlight I ate a lot through the nausea, bloated up & its turned into a bump. Not put on too much weight either.

So I'm 20 weeks today, I made it to halfway & baby is kicking & flipping over.
I'm so happy, just hope I get through the next 18 now.

Lynsey it's definitely how you dress! If I wear certain things bump disappears & others looks massive & people think I'm over 30 weeks!

Yay jbee lovely to see you here! Cautious congratulations

I'm on aspirin but I have three (unbelievable, I know) different blood conditions that all make my blood clot too much. Having read up on it, I wouldn't advise anyone to take aspirin unless they are advised to by a medic. When I was a child I used to take 'junior aspirin' if I was unwell. This isn't on the market anymore because aspirin was found to be linked to some quite nasty illnesses in children, involving brain and liver issues and may also have been linked to developmental issues. That makes me quite uncomfortable with taking aspirin in pregnancy, but I have to take it for the blood clotting and try to reassure myself that at such a low dose it will be fine. Who knows! You have to wonder whether the current fashion for self-prescribing aspirin in pregnancy is going to lead to a generation of children with seven toes or something... we'll see.

You could see if you can persuade your GP to run some blood tests. I asked for the antiphospholipid test as I had a hunch that it could be an issue and it came back positive leading to me now being consultant led and now I'm on heparin. So it could be worth pushing for some tests.

I would report yourself pregnant to your GP sooner rather than later to get the ball rolling with getting a booking in appointment booked etc. I did this but also phoned my midwife to let her know and to ask a couple of questions. She seemed fine with this even though I hadn't yet been referred through the official channels.

On the subject of weight gain - I must have gained at least half a stone! (I'm 11 weeks). I feel really fat and flabby and have been eating regularly to keep nausea at bay.

Moonlight - I have got fabulous RL support thank you . Goodness knows I've needed it just to get this far and that's before a baby makes an appearance and makes me question why I ever thought it was a good idea to do this on my own! My parents are great but unfortunately live at the other end of the country but I have friends who rallied around after the miscarriage and who seem to be queueing up to be self-labelled aunties and uncles (I've had to put a stop to that otherwise my child will end up with twenty aunties and five uncles and will probably be rather confused by it!). I've actually been really touched by how supportive people have been, both of my doing this on my own, but also looking after me when things have gone wrong.

Super long post sorry!

Welcome jbee! Great to see you here, congrats!

Half way dolerite! How exciting!

newshoes I have felt like I have gained a ton of weight... every time I weigh myself, I haven't! I think I've lost muscle as I'm not really exercising enough and maybe the water weight doesn't weigh that much?

Pregnancy insomnia this morning... I'm up watching greys anatomy! Last day of school today and flying to Copenhagen to meet my friends after I finish woo hoo!

Lynsey I've put on 4 or 5kg from pre-pregnancy weight. Quite pleased because I don't look (I think!) or feel like I've gained weight all over which I was sort of worried about. That's the same amount I worked hard to lose before my wedding last year! Have to remind myself it's for a good reason.
I can still hide the bump too or dress to make it very obvious so it does depend on what you wear. I've still had no children or parents asking me at work.

Dino 20 weeks, congratulations!

All the other teachers here, happy half term if it's your last day today too!

Morning all,

Didn't sleep a wink last night, just tossed and turned. Not sure if I ate too much and was uncomfortable! Just got to get through today. Having family over for lunch tomorrow so need to get over tomorrow as well lol and then hopefully can just rest on Sunday.

17 weeks today but having strange twinges, not sure if it's stretching in my scar tissue (I've had major abdominal surgery and have a scar right across my tummy) or movement. Some feels like movement but then it feels like it's happening repeatedly and I'm not sure if movement would feel like that? Sort of like a soft jabbing pain in the same place again and again (maybe like 5,6 times). Sorry don't know how to describe it ! As you can tell it's my first pregnancy that's got this far.

Might be baby moving, my friend who is a lot lighter than me felt baby moving at 18 weeks first pregnancy and 16 on second.

I find orange works well to cover bump, 'y uniform consists of a bright orange pinny (I work in diy.....) and when I wore it at 36 weeks you couldn't tell I was pregnant. I had someone say, I can't believe you look this good after birth... until I took it off and my black uniform showed my bump to perfection.... haha!

I'm getting edgy today, think because I'm 6 days further along than I was last time and I've had no bleeding, I want to be happy but I don't feel bigger my fat is hiding my bump and it disappears when I lay down so I can't find any comfort. 32 hours!

Thanks all for the advice. I'll call the midwife later. I'm hoping both previous mc's were just down to bad luck, will still ask about any tests etc.

Congrats jdee!!

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow. Unbelievably, despite my recent food-to-fight-nausea habit (biscuits, salt & vinegar crisps, oatcakes, cheese on toast), I have just managed to fit into the dress that I want to wear! The fit is slightly different to how it was when I last wore it a couple of years ago though. Will it bother the baby for me to be in a slightly snug fitting dress? I'm assuming not...

Hi jbee and congrats!!

I think it might be a good idea to see if you can talk to another dr at your practice if you feel you want some tests done. I had 1 dr say definitely not and another offer me tests without me asking, I was bawling my eyes out and I'm a bit older (39 this wknd) so that may have been why. I'd had 2 MMC. I had quite a few different tests done and all came back fine.

Funnily enough it was the dr who refused the tests who put me straight on aspirin and progesterone when I got pregnant this time.

Good luck with whatever you decide but just be prepared to stand your ground if you feel you need help :)

Ok so here's an updated bump picture! My weight gain only seems to be belly too, with my middle son, I spread everywhere! I'm wearing a tighter fitting top so no hiding anything! For some reason I seem to have a flat fronted bump?!

Oh forgot to say, midwife rang today and said she'd pop in on me at home to save taking the kids to my appt with her next week, thought that was lovely!
All is perfect, it took a good 10 minutes to hear the heartbeat properly though as baby kept moving away!! It gave me a bit reassurance as although it was obvious baby was moving away from the doppler, I only felt a few of the movements, which means I'm not feeling everything and she's more active than I realised.
Midwife thought it was great, so I'm happy too!

Hope everyone is having a good day, sorry I've not caught up properly yet x

Great bump photo Lynsey you are definitely all bump, I so hope I only gain wait on my belly... not sure I will!! Also how lovely of your MW.

I've got a flat fronted bump too, Lynsey! 27 weeks today! I'm impressed with all of your lack of weight gain - I've gained a stone! Dh insists I haven't put weight anywhere else but my tummy though. It fell off after having dd so I'm hoping for the same.

Oh god I love the bump photos!!! So cute!!! I really hope I get a neat bump like you guys

Saw the GP today, could see on his screen that my hcg level of 191 was low, they said that's ok for pregnancies 3-4 weeks and I was 4+2 at the time. He did book me a scan for Tuesday morning but by my dates that makes me exactly 6 weeks so I'm risking being too early for a heartbeat if I'm a day or so out I did explain I would only be 6 weeks then but he ignored me and went off my last period and a 28 day cycle (which I don't have) so they think il be almost 7 weeks at the scan. But atleast he booked one for me without a fight which is a plus

Nice to see some lovely bump photos!

Welcome jbee nice to see you here

Lovely pics Whatser and Lynsey
Here's my bump now. 22 weeks. I feel big but I think it's not helping that I'm short!

Glad to hear it newshoes, that's great you have lots of people are you and sounds like they'll all be really helpful when baby arrives too! Have you thought about who your birthing partner/s will be? I think what you're doing is amazing :). Enjoy the wedding tomorrow! I can't fit in to dresses from a few months ago let alone years ago so well done, baby will be fine! After all support bands etc are tight aren't they?

Hope all went well calling the midwife jbee and she's able to offer some advice.

lynsey that's is a really cute neat bump! I can see that you wouldn't look very obviously pg in baggies clothes yet though but you look great! That's really nice of the midwife to pop in for you, glad all went well.

whatsername you don't look like you've put on a stone (obvs I don't know what you looked like before) but again it's a very neat bump! kate same with you, you all have little neat bumps! Wouldn't guess any of you were pg if you had a baggier top on! Makes me worry a lot less about my weight gain already and hopefully it'll all turn in to bump later on!

alb glad to hear you didn't need to make a fuss and fx for next week.

I won't post a photo of my 7 week bloat bump 😂

Hello all, I'm very tentatively putting my head round the door here.

I've had four early MC's and a MMC in May, we found at 10 weeks baby had died at 7.4 weeks.

I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant I've had early scans at my EPAU and baby is fingers crossed developing normally this time. Last scan was Sunday gone.

It was quite funny as afterwards I couldn't remember anything about the baby just that baby was much bigger than previous scan and that precious heartbeat was there. DP confessed he'd just been looking for the heartbeat too and hadn't noticed anything else.

It was so emotional as it was DP's birthday on Tuesday and scan was Sunday before, I honestly felt like I was going to totally ruin DP's birthday. I'd practically convinced myself everything was going to be like last time.
I came out of the scan room and sobbed.

I'm on baby aspirin and cyclogest this time. I've been checked for clotting disorders and didn't have any but the gynaecologist put me on it anyway.

I've been to scared to join this board as I feel I'll jinx myself but I love seeing the bump pics and scan pics and the positive updates.

Nobody knows I'm pregnant apart from DP and my best friend. So feel a bit lonely as well. & too scared to be excited.

Ha Moonlight - that's the one thing I haven't decided yet. I've got two possibilities lined up: my mum and a very good friend of mine. Both are willing but equally won't be offended if I decide against having them there so I'm hoping I'll find the decision easier nearer the time. The friend came to the scan where my MMC was discovered and was brilliant support. I did consider having a doula instead but I can't justify the cost and I suspect doulas must irk the midwives sometimes!

Aw thank you ladies :-)
I wonder why we have flat fronts?! Strange!
Your bumps are lovely and tiny! whatser I think your scales are playing tricks on you, a stone must be all belly!
I'm not too worried about the weight gain, just didn't want to go as big as I did with my 2nd. I was truly huge with him. I was smaller with 3rd and I hadn't even lost the baby weight from 2nd when I fell pregnant again. Bare in mind there are only 10 months between them lol. Most of my weight gain with my second was because I had that foot problem and couldn't walk very much. I'm walking roughly 2.5 miles a day at moment which I'm sure is helping!