Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Oh dino I really envy your weather!! It's so hot here and whilst that would usually have me running for my sun lounger, I can't stand the heat, it's felt like a long summer!
Definitely not asking to bring the scan forward as I know there's no need, just my impatience. The amount of movement I've felt today is great! It's still not big kicks but no denying it's baby. Makes me so happy!
I hope you have a great birthday dino. I remember saying before it'll be nice to have a change of scenery and I stand by it!
whatser I wish I could help you take away these worries but there is no such magic wand. You've coped amazing and your over half way... keep going!!
I realised we've not heard from butterfly? If your still reading, let us know how you are? Missing your lovely posts

I had heartburn with DS whatser & he's still bald at 18 months!
I know how you feel about the anxiety & Lynsey too, I'm fine in between appointments/scans then as soon as one is looming the anxiety picks up, especially if I do have a scan on Monday as OH will be with DS & no children in scanning room.

Thank you Tinkly & Lynsey, it's the big 30 tomorrow, but it's not bothering me really. I just can't wait to hit the beach & have an ice cream.

& Lynsey you're definitely right, being away last week for a night was great & we're staying with friends Friday night before a wedding party so I'm glad of the distractions.

Bec even though the receptionist shouldn't have talked to you like that, EPU's are really hard up, the whole NHS is & they are trying to accommodate everyone with a massively limited budget. I know someone who for her own peace of mind after trying for 6 years & failed IVF got pregnant naturally & she paid for private scans every week until 12 weeks just to see that heartbeat as EPU said no & she did support their position.
Plus if a miscarriage does happen before 12 weeks there is nothing they can do but medical management so to someone in their budget department unless there is bleeding to them & this does sound harsh it's a waste of money to them.
I've got a friend who works in another hospital to mine & to them it is a job & they try to be compassionate as possible but you could always ask your GP again?

Why does cleaning a house seem endless as well? I've nearly got one room done but need to go up town & still have downstairs & packing to do.

I was so depressed about turning 30 (not in a crying sense! Just the fact the years are whizzing by) but in truth, nothing changes does it?!
I hope you have a lovely time and incase I forget Happy Birthday!!*
The anxiety for my next scan is simply because of all the checks they do and obviously I really want them to be all ok. I feel happy enough knowing little one is moving which means right now, she's ok. Apart from impatience, I'm sure I'll be fine until the day and the nerves will kick in then.
Strange really as with my boys, I just went along and never imagined anything could be wrong. And it wasn't. This time after reading so much more about things, I'm much more aware of the risks.
My youngest is being a limpet at the moment so I'm cheating with dinner and putting some fresh pizzas, corn on the cobs and onion rings in for dinner. Bit of a contrast to the lovely roast dinner we had yesterday!!

Happy birthday for tomorrow dolerite hope you have a lovely day!

I am dying in this heat! It's been 28 degrees here and my classroom is like an oven, then filled with 34 16 year olds and it's not a very nice environment!! I also threw up the minute I got to school.... I used to wish for throwing up!!

Sorry if I've missed anything... I'm so brain dead today!

We just had the biggest thunder storm I've ever heard so it's cleared the air abit. Another super hot day predicted for tomorrow though 😣

Feeling a bit down. Sorry for the following self centred post and not catching up properly.

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I've had quite a bit of discharge throughout the pregnancy. Its been sticky and yellow and although its niggled me I've tried to ignore it but last time I went to the loo I had a huge string of clear ew cm. I'm sure it must have been my mucus plug going as I can't think of what else it could be. Feel like crying.

I've told myself not to get emotionally invested in this but its impossible not to and as soon as you see those 2lines on the test you can't help but hope.

My discharge is like that and I'm 21+4. It's been like that all of the way through x

Thank you so much for the speedy reassurance. I haven't had it with either of my other pregnancies so assumed the worst.

Ants I'm going to add to the reassurance too. Mine has been like that on and off (every couple of weeks) since quite early on.

Anyone else who has started to tell people at work, can you help? I'm feeling a bit under pressure to make sure everyone knows (from other, close colleagues.) I've told managers and colleagues I consider 'friends' at work and have mentioned it to a couple of others as it came up... I think people are expecting a big announcement though and that's really not my style. A colleague recently told everyone the day of her 12 week scan but I don't really feel comfortable with that in case things still go wrong. Is it okay to not tell everyone? Will people really be that upset if they weren't the first to know?!

Ants I've had that twice so far and I'm 8+5... I think it's possible the mucus plug forming... My discharge has been so different all the time. Try not to worry... I know that's easier said than done!

Nasch I'm not going to tell everyone all at once, I'm really tempted to tell someone before my 12 week scan just to explain the laziness!! I'm just going to wait until I start showing and then people will ask maybe!! If people are getting funny about not being told first... That's pretty selfish!!

Ants I've had exactly the same, in fact I have even debated liners & I even thought it was my mucus plug at one point too but it just is a lot of discharge. So I wouldn't worry.

Nasch I would just do whatever is comfortable with you.

DS is currently fighting his sleep, sleep is so wasted on the young.

Nasch I agree that you should do whatever you are comfortable with. I told those I work closest with first, then the school gossip. By the end of the day everyone knew!

Whatser that's what I was hoping for in some ways but people don't seem to have shared.

I hope people wouldn't be upset by not being told but something someone said yesterday made me wonder. They did know, because another person told them, so when I mentioned it they said they'd been waiting for me to tell them... I just find it a bit awkward as well as anxiety inducing!

Just in case any of you ladies where going to buy a pair of winter boots I got a code through for 30% jones the bootmakers today

Hi lynsey and tinkly, I just saw my name there as I flicked through and wanted to say thank you for thinking of me.
21+1 now with a little boy who was passed as healthy and normal looking by the fetal consultant last week so that's great for now but after coasting along feeling chilled for about 3 days I'm back to scared shitless and tearful.
I've had to withdraw from the thread, I'm just feeling too fragile for such a busy place so will let you guys crack on and wish you all safe, healthy pregnancies. Starting sessions with the therapist this week who I have been fasttracked to. I'm not really sure what that's going to involve but I expect it will be pretty tough going and tiring.
Lots of love to you all, and thank you x

Thanks ladies for the congrats. I've found knowing she's a little girl and buying her clothes has made me feel even more attached to her, and made me think more about planning and adjusting my life for her. One change I'm going to make is to try to be more boundaried about how much work I take on, it's been really full on lately and today I left feeling stressed which can't be good for her. Good motivation to look after myself more!

Also thinking of you butterfly, but I know you have a lot on and for some of us this thread is somewhere to dip in and out of in whatever way helps us each cope, so I hope you're continuing to find your own way through.

Nasch for what it's worth, my approach at work has been like yours, telling the closer people first and then allowing them to naturally tell each other in the course of things, so I haven't then had to make an announcement. I think do what's comfortable for you, and don't worry too much what anyone else might think about it - although I think telling your manager first is usually a good move, I don't see that anyone else can reasonably take offence at the order news is shared.

Cross-posted there butterfly but glad you've got a healthy boy growing in there and good luck with your therapist xx

Pleased to hear from you Butterfly and to hear that baby is well. I'm sorry you're having a tough time but it's completely understandable. I'm glad that you have been offered support; I hope it can help in the long run. Wishing you all the best. We'll all be thinking of you and hoping you check in again sometime in the near future!

Thank you for the advice everyone, I'm just going to carry on as I am and not worry about it. It will be interesting to see how large I have to get before anyone asks I suppose!

That is lovely news about your little boy butterfly. Good luck with the counciling xxx

butterfly so glad you checked in! Fantastic all is well with your little fella
I hope the counselling helps and so glad it's extra support for you. Please do check in occasionally if your up to it, but fully understand if not. Lots of love and best wishes for you xx

Just woken up by my alarm and I was in the middle of a dream about an ex. Wow. It wasn't sexual but very strange!! Hate it how never get to see how it pans out either, always something to disturb us!

Hello all, just checking in!

SPD cured thanks to my amazing chiropractor.
Sickness still awful but improving with cutting back on fats, sugars and drinking apple juice (apparently apple juice helps the liver break down fat which the body struggles with in pregnancy).
Just booked a hypnobirthing class and feeling horribly neglected by my DH who is frantically working on house renovations every evening and at weekends to get it ready in time for baby.

I think that's about it.

Lynsey I had a really good dream last night - I cleaned and tidied the house to perfection but when I woke up was so pissed off that I had to do it for real after doing it all night the first time!!

Oh no double! I took one look at my house this morning and thought sod it!
Went to the hairdressers instead
Had a real struggle with the heat today, got to nursery and said "pleeeeaaassse water!!!" My legs were like jelly and I worried about having a funny turn. They were great though and one lady even gave us a lift home which was so kind. Ment I avoided the stinking, packed out bus home. Boys now gone to partners mums for tea so although I dislike that woman immensely, at least I don't have to worry about dinner tonight.

How is everyone else today?

Bodily ill today! Everything is making me puke, from the advert for the game gooey Louie to the one for weetabix breakfast drink.
I'm feeling very sensitive, my friend seems to think it's M sickness but I find it hard to believe it's that as I've never had it before, if it is tho, it can fuck right off its gross! Gawd knows how u girls cope with that, I would have only ever had one baby if this would have happened to me in the past 😂