Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Hi Adventure.

I'm doing the same as you and pretending I'm not pregnant. Apart from no alcohol and folic acid I've not engaged with it at all. I'm not talking and singing to the baby or naming it like last time. We've not told anyone, only myself and DP know. It does feel a bit sad but sitting today with my lovely colleague who had cancer in her early 20s and has just had her second IVF attempt fail I remember how luck I am to even get this far.

I was also lucky to have been blissfully unaware of what could go wrong when PG with my DS so I know I'm fortunate to have had that experience. My Dsis MC a few weeks before me but with her first and I know she will never get to experience that.

After refusing to think about it I've realised I'd better book a MW appointment or I won't get referred for a scan. Really don't want to as my last MW appointment happened 2 days after MC started.

Yes, my mc was my first pregnancy and I feel like it took all the excitement away and I'll never be blissfully unaware ! We've not told anyone this time either although last time I told quite a few close friends.

Good luck Lucky hope it goes well.

Ants & Adventure I was the same before 8 weeks, I just took the vitamins & aspirin, no alcohol & just concentrated on getting to 8 weeks/booking in appointment.
It really is a day at a time.

I had a wobble yesterday, just not a good day & have just been feeling lots of flutters & bubbles popping. So feeling relieve. Not sure if I've got a scan next Monday, there is a check up just not sure what they want to do. Then midwife a few days after.

Today was a need a cheese & onion pasty day but could not locate one I like. Going to tesco's tomorrow to pick up a few.

Have any of you with elder ones, have you tried sleepyheads? All the mum's at the playgroups swear by them but I am not sure.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

Dino icelands do frozen gregs the bakeries pasties, they are beautiful, pop em in the oven.
I usually get them if I venture past an Iceland as the kids love them for an afternoon meal xx

Great news Lynsey - she's keeping you in your toes already! Purple I hope they managed to fit you in. Mac I had an anterior placenta with dd and again this time (although it is very low down at the minute so not sure it's the same). I always had good movement ls with dd and this time, at 21+3 even dh can feel the kicks. It all depends on baby's position I think. How many weeks are you?

Hi ladies. Hope everyone is ok. Welcome to the newcomers! This is a wonderful thread with incredible support. This is my third attempt (miscarriage discovered at 12 weeks after seeing heartbeat at 5-6 weeks, and second miscarriage at 6 weeks).

We are celebrating eid today so I never phoned to rearrange. I did get an email from them asking me to contact them. I'll phone tomorrow and I really hope they can fit me in after work this week. Tomorrow would be great. I'm still really annoyed. I have convinced myself that something is definitely wrong now and I wasn't meant to find out yesterday as I wouldn't have got through eid today. Who knows. Preparing myself for the worst..

Hi ladies. Hope everyone is ok. Welcome to the newcomers! This is a wonderful thread with incredible support. This is my third attempt (miscarriage discovered at 12 weeks after seeing heartbeat at 5-6 weeks, and second miscarriage at 6 weeks).

We are celebrating eid today so I never phoned to rearrange. I did get an email from them asking me to contact them. I'll phone tomorrow and I really hope they can fit me in after work this week. Tomorrow would be great. I'm still really annoyed. I have convinced myself that something is definitely wrong now and I wasn't meant to find out yesterday as I wouldn't have got through eid today. Who knows. Preparing myself for the worst..

Just catching up from the last few days....

purple that's so annoying about the clinic! I really hope they refund you and get you in for a scan asap!!

Lucky I hope your scan went well today

Welcome to anyone new... I feel the same as some of you were saying... MC in my first pg means I can't get excited or anything with this one. I still don't believe there will be a baby at the end!!

So this morning just about to go out the door for work and had to run to the toilet and throw up for the first time.... It's been just nausea so far but this morning was horrible. I didn't have dinner last night so I'm wondering if an empty stomach was the cause... I'm back on the sofa now and so exhausted and feeling so so fat!!!

Hope everyone has had a good Monday!

Happy Eid purple xx (all worries aside obviously)

Oh JPEG it's so vile in it, I've been in bed all day feeling ill 😰

Thanks for the luck ladies, we have a healthy little girl :-) I couldn't resist buying her a couple of cute little outfits after the scan. We got a trainee working under supervision for our scan who seemed to struggle to find the parts she was looking for, so I'm glad that happened this scan as I couldn't have tolerated it at my 12 week scan. This time I fairly quickly worked out that the issue was that she was inexperienced and getting a lot of guidance from her supervisor so she could practice rather than that there was any problem with the baby. I do wonder about the ethics though of giving someone with a history of MCs an inexperienced trainee for ANY scan.. anyway an added benefit was the scan lasted 45 minutes and we got to spend longer watching the heart beat and looking at the brain than I suspect we would have otherwise!

Jpeg I found eating regularly was a good weapon against morning sickness, I still get nausea now if I let myself get hungry.

Glad everything is good lucky and congrats on your little girl

Awwww well done lucky!! That's at least 2 girlies now on the thread!
If I'm lucky enough to make it to my gender scan id like a girl too! so ladies save one for me 😂😂

Congratulations Lucky I'm glad everything is well; a lot of baby girls for the thread.

I hope you manage to rearrange Purple.

Sorry you're feeling rubbish Jpeg, the nausea is a good sign though.

I ate a lot of those pasties with DS bex but this one only likes the Tesco value ones.
Buying at least 7 tomorrow.

Hope they see you ASAP Purple & happy EID.

Aww Lucky another girl!

JPEG I find eating really helps & if you can get sucking sweets. Not eating makes me puke & have heartburn.

Congratulations, lucky!I feel like I'm expanding at such a rate. I'm sure I'm bigger than I was with dd. Bump is higher too.

Old wives tale, but I really suffered terrible heart burn with one pregnancy and she was born with all the jet black hair lol
Which was a surprise to my husband as I'm auburn and he's baby blonde 😂😂

I had heartburn in the later stages of pregnancy with all 3 boys. I was told the old wives tale ment baby would have lots of hair and all 3 had lots. Only tale I've really believed!
Thank you whatser! Yes certainly gave me the run around for a day or two but behaving for now.
Why does it seem so far away for my 20 wk scan?! It's a week on Friday but going so slow. I read someone's article saying how it was the most important scan cos it's where they measure everything etc and it's given me anxiety! Want to hurry up, have it done, know everything is ok and confirm she's a girl!! I feel I might actually relax then...might!!

The waiting is hateful, why don't you ring and see if you can have it bought forward?
Just tell them your nervy and can't sleep over it.
They say 18-22 weeks for the anomaly scan so you should be still within range.
I started panicking again yesterday and rang the EPU and asked them to bring my next scan forward, she did so but wasn't best pleased, I said to her, I've never used my share of midwife care, I've never even had any MW appointments, (I've had 5 babies and never even met my gp practice midwife) nobody has ever had to help me in hospital, as soon as I give birth im usually straight off home, I said I don't think it's too much to ask that I have extra care now at this time where I feel particularly overwhelmed and terribly anxious.
She didn't argue, she just changed my app, and said that they don't like to scan weekly, I said luv I don't like to be scanned weekly, but if it somehow helps me get through this really hard time, what's the issue?
I'm 8wks today (all being healthy obviously) and I should be 8+3 on Friday when they scan, then they do a 10wk one then the 12wk, do you girls think I'm being over needy?

I'm going to hold out as that will be the last scan. I'm just eager to get it over with but at the same time excited to see baby again.
I feel if all is well at that scan, we're gonna have a baby!

I totally understand your anxiety xxbec but your much more forward than I would be! If it helps you get through though and they were happy enough to change the appt, then at least it'll settle you down for a little while at least xx

Lol girls, iam very direct, with impeccable manners I may add lol 😂
Each of my pregnancies I have been deemed high risk, due to several factors, high blood pressure (runs in the family) 2 vessel cord etc etc so they made me 8 weekly appointments with the consultant at the hospital. When my midwife appointments came through I rang and told them that I felt as I was under the consultant I didn't want to take there time away from ladies who may need it, my mother was a paramedic and with her plus the consultants and I'm one of those people who read up and study and I felt like i just didn't need anymore intervention.
They obviously said I was free to have both the consultants and the MW's appointment but I just felt like I'd be back and fourth constantly, plus with the more children I had the more it was inconvenient to leave them or take them 😂
Usually I'm a very easy going, not much gets me down, my mothers motto as we grew up was if it doesn't hurt you or get you put in prison don't fret over it lol I let a lot of the daily worries go over me and don't sweat the small stuff.
I think though with all that I went through last time, the op and the blood transfusions and the illness that went on for months I'm just really struggling. I personally can't see why the EPU here and the doctors opinions differ so greatly, the doc wants me to have weekly scans (which I don't want) and the EPU are saying that, that's not productive!!!!
I understand that they see ladies like us daily, but you can't loose your empathy and compassion whilst working with such vulnerable woman.
You know she told me on the phone that basically early scans mean very little and I was flabbergasted, I said that's your opinion!!!
I've seen so many ladies on here post there glee at seeing a heartbeat, and I wanted to tell her to get real (not so politely tho) but resisted all my natural urges!
To her my pregnancy is just that a pregnancy, it's not a baby to her it's a pregnancy. It will be born or it won't, it's very hurtful that you put yourself and your body and your emotions in their hands and they don't always show you the support and guidance you need.
To make you laff tho, the conversation ended with her telling me that she believes counciling would be something she strongly recommends for me.

The only reason they are even bothering with me is because of my MMC history, obviously to most ladies aslong as you don't bleed your ok, to us who have known the otherside of MC there is no reassurance for us other than a scan.
I don't want weekly scans but I can't see the harm in her scanning me every 10-14days until (if I'm that lucky) I'm out of the woods.

Lynsey if you can wait until 20 weeks it is better especially scanning wise as even though sometimes they do before 20 weeks, equipment isn't perfect/can't pick up everything so ask you to come back plus babies aren't that co-operative anyway so half the time you're asked back.
(Friend works in scanning.)

You've had health visitor letters already tinkly? Wow.

I think I'm seeing a consultant/doctor next Monday but think it's more for cervix length checks rather than anything else. Trying to put it to the back of my mind due to white coat syndrome.

Going to Pembrokeshire tomorrow for my birthday, have torrential rain here so drying washing on towel rail & trying to clean house while packing & DS while OH does the same.

I had awful heartburn but my dd was a baldy! I'm struggling with vivid dreams atm. I'm getting plenty of sleep but just do not feel rested at all! The next milestone has set itself in my head now - 24 weeks. I'm so terrified that something will happen before then and the hospital won't intervene. Everytime I get over an anxiety a new one evolves!