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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

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LynseyH · 25/08/2016 14:47

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

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loz12345 · 09/09/2016 11:26

Thank you I will, I was thinking of a word to describe it and limbo is perfect.

I have the epu's number tho and its 24 hrs so at least I don't need to worry about having to visit a and e if anything happens x x

LynseyH · 09/09/2016 11:39

It's good they are 24 hrs.
Keep talking on here if you need to, I've found it to be really helpful as there is always someone around to reply.
Like we always say, having the naivety of pregnancy is lovely and it really is horrible when you've lost that.
I have everything crossed for you xx

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XxbecquixX · 09/09/2016 11:40

Loz, al isn't lost my love, like I said in one of my long ago posts, with my last little boy I went and they could see a sack and and couldn't see anything else so they called me back a week later and the woman still couldnt see anything and I was just devastated, then I said you can push that thing in a bit more you know to the sonographer and she did and then miraculously everything was there it all came into view.
Obviously your at a level now where you feel that there's no hope but try to stay strong if you can, these things can happen babe x

doleritedinosaur · 09/09/2016 11:43

Aw Loz the limbo is really awful. I hope those days pass quickly for you.
I had that with my last MC & knew my dates weren't out, was just waiting & is almost as if everything has stopped bar you.
Hope you're getting support. Are you still bleeding or in pain? If work helps distract you can you still go unless you feel you can't?

That's good they're 24 hours.

I'm so tired from city walking yesterday for miles. My friend is coming up in a bit & im trying to sort out DS's room while I'm on my own but just want to lie down.

Hope everyone else is doing okay.

jpeg28 · 09/09/2016 16:54

Loz I'm keeping everything crossed for you!! When I went to the EPU for this pregnancy that's what they saw for me at first, said they couldn't see a baby, and now I'm 8+1 and see heartbeat twice now! Fingers X it's the same for you, I know the waiting is impossible!!

Finally made it to the weekend and OH has food poisoning!! He's on the sofa feeling very sorry for himself so looks like a quiet weekend for us! We are off to goodwood revival Sunday so hope he is better by then!!

I hope everyone else has lovely weekends!

MrsReiver · 09/09/2016 16:54

Hi Ladies, any room for one more? I am 5 weeks pregnant and a little terrified. We have 2 sons, born in 2004 and 2013, and we had a MMC in 2011.

Loss changes pregnancy forever, so despite having had a successful pregnancy since our MMC I have all those fears and terrors I had when I was expecting DC2.

I long for the worry free ignorance of my first pregnancy.

LynseyH · 09/09/2016 19:21

Always room for another mrsreiver. Congratulations on your pregnancy and here's hoping it's a uneventful, but happy, pregnancy.

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XxbecquixX · 09/09/2016 20:07

Welcome mrsreiver, we are all feeling the same as you, even the ladies further ahead have still got there apprehensions, once you known the other side you can't un-know it!
What are you plans, hold out for the 12wk scan or seek reassurance sooner xxx

loz12345 · 09/09/2016 20:56

Thanks for the support ladies you all have your own worries but you are still there supporting people who you haven't met Halo

I phoned work and they were great , they don't want me in want me to wait till scan so will call gp's and sort a fit note out I never had one before my mmc last year, I hope go gives me one cos last time I explained the situation and she didn't get why I didn't want to risk it happening at work.

I have lots of distractions we are decorating so lots of mess to tidy.

I hope everyone has a relaxing and uneventful weekend Smile

XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 06:23

Flamin bad dreams again, I had given birth and then I realised I hadn't made any bottles up, then I realised I hadn't washed them or sterilised them even, then it dawned on me the baby hadn't been fed since it was born 😮
I have been looking at that new Tommy tippee bottle prep thingy and was also trying to find that in my dream and couldn't.
Strange that these dreams are starting now it's usually later on for me, & the baby's born and I've no clothes or no sheets, that kind of thing lol
Also tho, the thing is I'm one of the worlds most organised people when it comes to having babies, I buy far too much and even have boxes of clothes for each stage all the way to 6-9months.
Odd to start the dreaming now, not nice either as there's no respite from the anxiety, even my dreams are having me fret now 🙄

jpeg28 · 10/09/2016 07:55

becs I'm sorry about your dream!! I didn't realise pregnancy causes these weird dreams. I've been having so many weird vivid dreams every night. Last night I dreamt I had a massive bleed... Pregnancy anxiety... And then that me and my OH got married in some weird old fashioned town and then a man tried to kill us both with a pencil?! Not sure what that means!!!

Loz thinking of you.... That's really supportive that your work have said not to come in. Push for a sick note... Last time when I MC the doctor didn't understand why I wanted one either! I'll be keeping my fingers X for you.

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Whatsername17 · 10/09/2016 08:42

Sorry I keep falling off the thread. It's been a tough week. Thinking of you lozenge and hoping for a positive outcome. Welcome to the newbies too. Dh and I had a good chat last night about being pregnant and how different it is post mc. I'm so anxious at the minute about everything and it is reassuring to know that he is too. I had another consultant appointment last week - this time for my dodgy blood. Like with the hypertension, the treatment is a daily dose of mini aspirin until I give birth and then I have to inject myself. I'm amazed that this old fashioned, cheap, tiny tablet can do so much for me! Just got to wait on my placenta now. Hopefully that will move and I can stop stressing. It's annoying because I'm slim, a non smoker, infrequent drinker, fit and healthy 33 year old, whose body, for some reason, doesn't do pregnancy very well. I'm trying not to get down about it all but I can't help but feel that this is why I lost my last baby - because my body failed him. I'm terrified it might do the same again.

MrsReiver · 10/09/2016 09:05

Morning, thank you for your kind words. I got a lot of support on here when I was expecting DS2.

Becs the dreams sound horrible. According to DH I have been talking and walking in my sleep a lot more which I only do when I'm pregnant or anxious - and I'm currently both. I hope they ease off for you soon

LynseyH · 10/09/2016 09:37

Sorry to hear of the dreams xxbec and jpeg. I remember having crazy dreams in my previous pregnancies but not yet this time. I'm always so tired that I fall into deep sleeps really quickly.
whatser you've had an awful week so it's even more understandable that you'd be feeling it more. Try and have a relaxing weekend if at all possible. Please don't blame yourself, your body has carried a healthy baby before and your doing it again, it is not your fault at all.
Mental health midwife told me it was definitely not my fault either, it's just how cruel life can be. That doesn't make it easier, I know.

I'm now 18+1 and feeling like it's whizzing by but going slow at the same time! 20 week scan is on the day I'll be exactly 20 wks and it seems so far away. Can't help but worry as I know it's an important scan and also keep wondering if they will say it's a little boy after all the excitement of having a girl!
I don't know much about how the placenta moves around but I know mine is definitely sitting at the front at the moment which makes it much harder to find the heartbeat with my doppler. I do find it but it's not as clear cos the 'wow wow' noise from the placenta drowns it out.

xxbec I've also considered the tommee tippee prep machine. They came out around the time my youngest was born and now the reviews are raving about it. I do think it'd make life sooooo much easier!
I made my first small purchase to do with this pregnancy the other day... 2 little night lights for night feeds haha. I explained to a lady why I was buying them and she was so impressed she did the same for her pregnant daughter!
mrsreiver I wish I could have the magic words for you to help the anxiety but I'm afraid I don't. The only thing I keep repeating is to take one day at a time. Each day is another day closer to meeting your little one. Doesn't stop you wanting to fast forward to your due date though!

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XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 09:53

Don't you think it would be really good if a book writer where to write a book taking snippets of all the weird and wonderful things we write and develop a book for the ladies out there who haven't been lucky enough to stumble into places like these.
All the thoughts of us normal woman facing the challenges of everyday pregnancy.

Whatser your doing great, sometimes as you know our bodies as horrendous as it seems know what's best for us, my doctor said to me the other day, sometimes it's best to have the decision taken out of our control, and she's right.
I always said that if my first child had problems then I would of continued anyway as it was my baby regardless, then as I had more my attitude somewhat changed as I then had to consider there lives and the impact of another child with higher needs and possibly my ability to give them all a part of me.
Like I've previously said my attitude is now that I look at my children and know that they the ones I was supposed to have, whether by hand of God or fate, I kind of find some sort of comfort in that.

Also the midwife told me something that I've never know before, she said that at the 8-10 week pg mark is when the baby's starts to takeover for the baby and so when ladies have losses around those times they generally attribute it to possible heart problems.
Although scary as it kind of made me feel like ok, maybe it wasn't my actual fault, I probably didn't carry a bag that was too heavy or picked up the baby that day etc maybe there was a problem and maybe I'm not to blame?
I don't know, this is an absolute minefield isn't it ladies eh.
It's such a shame we don't live close enough to all meet up once a week and have a good old bitch and moan and swap out stories!!

If I'm lucky enough to make it this time im definitely buying one of those machines Lynsey, my sister had one and she swears by it, they had them in Argos had price last week and also Amazon are doing great deals on them, I'll keep you posted on what I find lol xxxx

XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 09:54

Baby's heart*

FlourishingMrs · 10/09/2016 10:57

Just to encourage you ladies, week 30 here,even with the single artery. Stay positive. I might actually start shopping now.

XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 11:40

So happy for you flourishing, what a milestone xxx

jpeg28 · 10/09/2016 11:46

Amazing flourising! Not long to go now!!

McBaby · 10/09/2016 11:51

Well done florushing.

I am sleeping so badly not sure I am managing to dream! Waking up in the night feeling sick and dihaorrea don't you love pregnancy!!

I want to be happy and excited about being pregnant not anxious and scared!!

FlourishingMrs · 10/09/2016 13:57

It gets easier after 12 week scan, a good heart beat at 6 weeks is a really positive indicator...

You can't control nature ladies, but I think even just a privilege of having got pregnant in itself is a Blessing, some women have never seen a positive test.

FlourishingMrs · 10/09/2016 14:13

Thank you for the kind words, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 15:27

I'm still laffin a JPEG's death by pencil lol that's a good one!
That's grim for you MCB, could be nerves givin you a dodgy tum, specially if your suffering 'the dreams' too lol
Aswell tho we act so differently to different foods during pg, I can't stomach meat at the minute, I tried to eat a lovely piece of chicken and I accidentally smelt it as it approached my mouth and that was it, I couldnt get the chickeny smell & poohy farms out my head lol same with steak, I cooked a beautiful rib eye and it just smelt like cow and mud 😂😂 I was goin to give up on the meal but then I tasted a beautiful baby plum tomato that was all salty and it was so yummy like my body was saying 'oh yes we need this' lol so I managed to Wolf all the salad down and it was so darn good lolol

XxbecquixX · 10/09/2016 15:31

Here Lynsey I found a white prep for you on Amazon £60, best price so far.
If I get one I'd like red to match the kitchen 😂

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