Staying posifrickentive- Thread 11 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread!! The other one closed down!

Yay for dino and kate. Great news for you both!

I've just booked a gender scan 🙄 one week from tomorrow we will know what our little one is and also breaks up the wait until my 20 wk scan! So excited.

Purple my symptoms were pretty non existent and I really don't feel like there's a baby inside me so it can mean nothing!

Aw thanks for the reassurance miss Clarke it's really nice to see people ahead of me doing well, gives real hope!

Just remember those further on have been through many of the same worries and are here for you!

I know I sound like a broken record but my worst 'symptoms' occurred with the baby I lost, even after my baby had stopped growing. With dd and this one, hardly anything. Particularly this time!

Congratulations on your scan Miss, lovely pic!

That's a great scan picture MissClarke! Glad it al went well for you

Great news missclarke

Amazing miss xxx
Lovely to hear from u purple xx

I'm 6wks today and I did a CB dig in the morning and it still said 2-3 which niggled me. Then I had a strong looking wee at 12 so I thought did it I'll do the last CB which said 3+!
Anyways ive been being positive since I found out a couple of weeks ago up until i had a bad dream! So today I rang my local EPU and spoke to a lovely midwife, I explained my whole life story and she asked me what I would like to make me feel less anxious, so I asked for a scan for next week, she was totally ok with that, which is good as usually they make you do the bloods first before they ever do scans, so I've got to muddle through this next week and hopefully that may give me some piece of mind? Even if it's just a small piece for that day lol
I dunno eh, scary stuff! 😁😁😁😁😁😁

Sod it* even lol

Oh very good xxbec! Great they are willing to scan you. Xx

Welcome broody, maybe your bleed was implantation spotting?
They say, that you are supposedly more fertile for upto 3 months after a MC so it's entirely possible that your pg, so congrats just in case you are xxx

Mrsunsure I think I had that too. Occasional pulling to the sides too. I think it's all normal unless it's very painful and continuous.

Miss Clarke that's a gorgeous scan photo, congratulations.

Mrs I agree with Miss Clarke, I've had similar feelings occasionally in the same area (at the minute the top of my womb is about level with my belly button but it's done some growing to get there), I've just accepted those kind of stretchy feelings are my baby making room for themselves, and don't worry any more - I remember it was a bit unsettling to start with though!

Also, I've just booked myself into pregnancy yoga starting tomorrow, having read about it I decided it was worth a go - just wondering if anyone else has tried it already?

Those sound like stretching pains Mrs.

I did a DVD of pregnancy yoga with DS Lucky & it really helped with restless legs & not feeling so stiff in the mornings.
Also the breathing is really useful for contractions. I wanted to do classes this time around but no where near here does any sadly.

I mentioned quite early on I had some sharp pains around my belly button. I'd just eaten and the pain started before I'd even left the table. I worried but obviously everything was ok.
I had a mini panic earlier, was waiting for a bus home and had that feeling you get when you first come on, where it's like you've just leaked. I went running to the loo as soon I was home expecting blood but was the blooming discharge that seems to increase during pregnancy. Phew. Bloody horrible when these things happen.

Wow just got caught up on 12 pages!
bertie I'm so sorry
Congrats jpeg and missclarke.

So happy for your girl news lynsey

I don't even know where to start having a right family drama. I don't want to say too much as this is massively identifying and could out me. So unfortunately my last due date was around the same time as my dh's relative. Anyway that baby has now arrived safely and I'm facing my due date with no baby (thank you for your lovely words butterfly). This baby is not yet an hour old when one of dh's very close relatives has spoken to someone about me. Telling them how I have never asked about the baby and the gist is that I should move on about my baby I lost, not ruin anyone else's happiness and we should all be one big happy family. And asked if my relative could have a chat with me about the situation, making my relative feel so awkward!
So yeah at the moment I'm trying to control grief and pregnancy hormones not to commit a murder!

Huge congratulations MissClarke. Very jealous of your clear scan picture

Macauley I think that anyone who has not experienced a pregnancy loss doesn't understand how devastating it is. They don't seem to get that it's the loss of all the things you imagined for that baby, the future. So they can be really insensitive. I wonder whether your DH can talk to said person (I think it depends how close a relative) and explain that those kind of comments are extremely hurtful. I would hope that the person who has had the baby has some idea of how you might be feeling and won't think anything of what the other relative said.
for you.

The thing is this person has lost a baby so should have some idea how I feel. I think that's what makes me feel so betrayed and the fact that this was done behind my back.

XxbequixX that's what my doctor said but if so that would make me very early and I don't understand how that fits around all my dates I guess I find it very hard as it's much wanted and even tests I've taken this morning are positive so I assume I am still pregnant but I just feel a little bit of a fraud saying that when nothing can be seen at this stage.

This thread is very positive and I am finding everyone's support great so thank you all x

Mac you must ignore idiots like that. I dreaded seeing a baby born in our family in a similar situation but, when it came to it, I congratulated the new parent, made all the right noises and had a good cry to dh. I was honest with mil and family that is was hard for me but they needed to acknowledge I was trying. Id say something if I were you.
I've been back at work one day and I'm already done with the comments people are making about my bump and the food I'm eating. I had half a sandwich, some crisps and strawberries in low fat yogurt for my lunch and at least 3 people made a 'hungry are we?' Type comment. Some people comment my bump is small, others say it's huge and I just want to scream fuckity fuck off!!!

I have only just started using mumsnet. I had my daughter two years ago, took 7 months to fall pregnant with her. I then had another pregnancy and lost the baby at 7.5 weeks just over 6 weeks ago.
I have since found out today I am pregnant between 4&5 weeks and I'm super excited but also freaking out about this baby not sticking with me!
Its so early too, I am having super sore boobs, discharge and my sense of smell is crazy strong

whatser I thought you'd been in a similar situation. The thing is that ive made all the right noises regarding the new baby, the parents would never know and I had no intention of ignoring it. This person has just created drama where there was no need and added to my stress at a difficult time for me. This was pointed out plus reasons for any distance from me and that I just needed space which they have chosen to ignore. Making a shitty time even worse