New thread for TTC graduates - PinkB, MrsmcJ, Bodkin, Fettle, Chooster etc!

[KitKat30]

Hello! Thought we should leave those lovely TTCers in peace!!

Hi, Just a quick check in having got back from my time in Centre-parcs and just catching up.

MrsMc - Although we've already been in touch about the miscarriage, I just want to say how sorry I am for the way its all worked out and am at your mums comments!!! At least you kind of knew what to expect from her but still... Unfortunately for a lot of people who either have not experienced problems in these early stages, or have not been exposed to the harsh realities of some pregnancies through things like MN, it can be difficult to empathise. At least you got the phone call out the way...

Hi to everyone else - not really had a chance to catch up with things, but I will over the next few days... Centreparcs was FAB! Tiring but good... Just realised we left our bed-guard there - Hope my wee DS doesn't fall out tonight .

Night all
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hello all! just discovered they have internet access at my hotel and have been catching up with mrs' news. i have posted for you on your other thread mrs, a rather lame post, but couldn't think what to say.

hope all is ok with everyone else. fettle? how you doing? i saw one of your comments to mrs on the other thread, is all ok with you? i havent been able to catch up with everything cos dh will go mad at me for being on here when we should be romancing under the stars, or whatever you are suppossed to do on holiday once the kids are in bed!

i really really hope everyone is ok and all the bumps are coming along nicely. i have still been spotting, but it just seems to be normal for me now! i have a nice brown bump growing already!!! better go before dh hunts me down and moans at me! time for ANOTHER virgin colada!!!

i will catch up properly later in the week!!!

take care all!

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Hi Greedy, good to hear from you.
Hope you are having a lovely time, (still v. ) and not worrying about the spotting.

Morning to everyone else. I went out with friends yesterday and told them I was PG- even though still only 7 wks! I can't believe how slow the time is dragging. I really wanted to wait until 12 wks before telling them, but I couldnt resist.

Hope everyone else is well.
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Hi all

Greedy - Good to hear from you from your sunny island!! Hope you are all having a wonderful time and I bet its good to see that little brown bump!

Little DS did fall out of bed last night - probably actually as I was typing my last post! He slept through it though but only lasted about 2 hours wihtout a bed guard - guess we'll be using one for a while then

Honeyapple - Good for you for telling you pals - I bet they were really pleased for you... I know the first weeks go by so slowly don't they! But I've got to say this middle bit is going pretty quick for me - can't believe am already 21 wks.

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Hi everybody!

Greedy and Chooster, lovely to have you back - sounds like you both had / are having lots of fun. Grrr, I want a brown bump!

Chooster, you might find your DS stops doing it (falling out that is) after a couple of nights - we put my DD straight into a proper bed from the cot, and the first couple of nights I would pop in to "re-arrange" her every now and again, but after that she just kind of straightened out.

Just been reading a few of the comments on the "pray this little one hangs on" thread. There is a lovely poem from Clemsterdarcy, the gist of which is about all the previous "beans" from past unsuccessful pregnancies guiding and willing this one on - its very moving and positive. Phone rang in the middle of me reading it and had to stop bottom lip quivering pronto!

Better dash - hope everyone is well and had good weekends.

Bodkin - you may be right... DH has been talking about getting rid of the guard for a while but I've been reluctant as he is generally a really good sleeper and I didn't want anything to change that (having said that he's not slept past 7am since he moved to his 'big boy' bed 4 weeks ago!). But maybe now is the time to try getting him used to it...

Greedy & Chooster - it's been quiet on here without you. I've missed you both!! Hope you had good holidays.

Greedy, very thinking of you still there - have been thinking of you often wondering how things were going with you (in a purely platonic way!!!. Sorry to hear spotting still on-going - have you another scan lined up?

I'm ok, just not feeling completely positive yet - my dating scan is a week on Friday, so we'll see how that goes.

Sorry have to dash now - oven's beeping and DH is hungry!!

take care all
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Hi Guys

Hope you're all OK? Sorry I havent posted for ages - have been away, only just had time to log on now.

MrsMcJ - this is probably a little late, but I was so sorry to hear your news. I hope you and DH are doing OK

Hello to everyone else - Greedy, nice of you to remember us on your hols! Get back to the beach now please!!

I've been doing OK - bump is well and truly out now, have had to invest in a few new items! Thank heavens for smock tops and wrap dresses! My morning sickness is almost gone - yippee! - but I've developed this horrible itchy rash all over my stomach, thighs and boobs. It's driving me insane!! Also seem to getting SPD twinges - turning in bed is getting more and more painful... I just hope it doesnt get any worse.

Hmmm just read that back and it sounds very whingey! Didnt mean for my 1st post to be so negative!! Sorry girls! On the positive side my skin is lovely and my nails are growing like crazy! Ahem...

Hope you're all OK

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Hi Fettle - Thanks for the welcome back!! I've missed you all. Sorry to hear you are feeling anxious about the scan - unfortunately there is not much re-assurance anyone can give until you see your little Fettle up there on the screen. its not too much longer to wait and I hope it comes round quickly for you.

Firststar - You seem to have a good attitude about your scan. You are so right in that you can deal with whatever may happen but there is no reason to think it wont be a positive outcome.

I really do feel for those of you with scans coming up... Its such a nervewracking time and if you are anything like me, you'll be imagine all sorts of stuff. Even after my LO had been given the all clear about inheriting our faulty gene's I somehow convinced myself that he was going to have spina bifida. All based on a comment in an earlier scan that I'd mis-heard and my own paranoia. Sometimes though you just can't stop yourseld fearing the worst, even though its a really outside chance. Anyone I've gone off on one so - Really I just want to say good luck and I hope you manage to keep sane while you wait

Thanks for asking about my DS as well Firststar - he did fall out again last night so my DH has been dispatched to Mothercare today to get a new guard. Although I've tried Centreparcs a few times the lost property line seems permanently engaged and besides, they will probably charge more to send it back. I would persevere but he is just SO wriggly in bed and often ends up with his feet up on the pillow.

Hope everyone is having a good day - its a lovely sunny day up here in Edinburgh

Welcome back Kitkat - been anywhere nice?

When I read my post back it sounded like I meant that Spina Bifida is the worst thing that can happen to a baby - I didn't mean it to come across like that. That was just something specific I worried about.

hiya,

i have my first scan (12 wks) coming up... well still not for 4 wks, but it's already worrying me. I never had any worries in my other PGs... but this feels different because we want the baby SO much... obviously i wanted my other babies too, i just didnt actively TTC to get them! I think being on the due in october thread isnt helping. every time I log on it another women is saying she's lost her baby. It is so sad, I can't believe so many have had to leave the thread already.

Fettle and Firstar good luck for your scans, and enjoy seeing your babes.

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i agree with firststar , honeyapple - our due in august thread went through a similar thing for a bit - i suppose people know they are pregnant so early, its bound to happen every month that a percentage have to leave the thread, but it can get really upsetting when its one after the other, so sometimes in order to not get too worried yourself, you have to take a wee step back.

I feel bad saying that cause it can seem as if you dont care, but its not that at all - you just need to not get too down about what's happening to other people, when you have your own lo to worry about too.

Hey all!

Honey - I know what you mean. I think it is MrsMc's experience which has really pushed me to the limit of my negativity. For some reason as we found out we were pg on the same day, I feel linked to her for some reason. I'm too scared to post on the temp buddies thread over in conception, as I don't want to remind her that I'm still pg. With my mc, I found it really hard to watch people who were pg around the same time as me, particularly as they reached milestones and I don't want to put the same issues on her, if that makes sense. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I feel bad, but I've stayed completely away from the due in Oct thread apart from a few posts early on, as I'm too scared I'm going to lose this one, that I'm not ready to start focusing on the month it's due just yet. It is awful that so many people are losing their babies though, but it is quite high at 25% of pg end in mc, isn't it? As we find out so much earlier now, even the very early ones now count as mc, whereas they would have used to have been just late periods.

Well - I've gone off on one, just feeling very sensitive today for exactly the same reason, but as firststar said, I have no logical reason to be worried about my scan in 10 days, other than I've had 2 previous mc.

sorry, you're feeling a different kind of rubbish Kitkat! I had SPD with DD, started around 17 weeks. Luckily, I had her at 36 weeks, wouldn't have wanted to go on much longer. I'm dreading getting it again, but in my case, it miraculously disappeared almost the moment I gave birth, which was one thing (either that I just didn't notice as I was just so amazed by the Dolly Parton breasts, which appeared in front of me!!!!)

Chooster, we have a wriggler too - amazed that they sleep through the twists and turns isn't it?! DD is in a little bed, so not far to the floor and I have found her on occasion completely under the bed in the middle of the night!! She seems to have learned now to keep in the bed, but can't keep the covers on, so although she now sleeps through (yeah, only 2 nights of screams for that to go right!!), she sometimes wakes up just cos she is cold (no matter how tightly we tuck her in at night). How do you teach them to pull their own duvets up? But then she's back to staying in her bed in the morning until either me or DH gets her, so we can't complain and have it both ways - she either stays in her bed until we tell her it is time to get out, or we have a nighttime wanderer!!

Help - gone on far too long - having a rubbish day at work and needed to chat to someone - can you tell?

take care all
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Hi everyone. Sorry to hear people are feeling anxious about upcoming scans. I think that Mumsnet is a wonderful thing, but it does make you aware of every possible scenario that could go wrong with a pregnancy, so it is easy to become a little bit paranoid!

Welcome back KitKat! Been anywhere nice? Glad to hear your MS is waning. I've really enjoyed shopping for maternity clothes - there seem to be so many suitable tops in the normal clothing ranges - looks like the Felicity Kendal smock top look is all the rage this summer - Hurrah!

I had some sad news the other day - the friend that I bumped into coming out of my 14 week midwife appt who was also pg has lost her baby. I invited her round for a cuppa this afternoon. We had a lovely chat - she's being incredibly strong and positive. She has a 16 month old already, but lost a baby at 20 weeks before that pregnancy, so she has not had an easy time of it. I think she is in a similar situation to you Chooster - she said they have a 1 in 4 chance of having a successful pregnancy. To be honest, I was really pleased that she still felt she could see me and chat to me about it - must be very hard for her, and I was also glad that, through Mumsnet and you lovely ladies, I was much more aware of what she must be feeling and what she has been through.

I have taken on a member of staff! A friend's sister is going to help me out the odd day a week with the stained glass windows. Such a relief, I was starting to panic about how much I was going to be able to do as I am suddenly getting so big! I've never been a boss before. Hope I'm not too scary...

Hi, sorry I crossed with you Fettle.

Well done on getting your DD sleeping through. As for teaching them to pull up the covers, I have tried with my DD - showing her how to pull up the duvet to her Chinny chin chin (I know ) and I always check on her last thing before I go to bed and tuck the covers round her. Also, she wears a vest under her nightie. But I expect you are probably doing all that already....

DD has informed she needs a poo, better go....

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Thanks for your replies, i'm glad I'm not alone in my worries and fears.
I didnt realise that it was 25% of PG that end in miscarriage that seems so high. I really feel if my LO doesnt stay the distance that it would take a lot for me to go through the TTCing and early PG again, especially when I am lucky enough to have my DS and DD.

Anyway, on a more positive note, i am still feeling like doggy doo- spots keep appearing on my chinny chin chin (!) and i seem to have turned into a yeti overnight. My legs are shocking! Poor DP! What a babe! NOT!
Actually i have been feeling so sh*t and cream crackered, that we havent had any sex since i got the BFP. I hope this doesnt last for long- we had quite a good sex life when I was pg with DD.

Hey ladies, I am lurking on here from time to time because I'd miss you all too much if I didn't pop in and see how you are all doing.

Fettle - please don't feel down or bad hon, you deserve every happiness and it makes me happy when I read about all the growing bumps on here, it reminds me that there are good stories and that one day, it'll be me. I have 8 pregnant RL friends at the mo (including you Chooster ) and I don't want anyone to feel weird or guilty around me, I'd be gutted if any of their joy or your joy was tinged with sadness for me. I really want to hear that it is going well for you all, I truly do.

Thank you all so much for caring about me, I'm virtually hugging each and everyone of you (and getting a bit of good luck off all your bumps too! )

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Lovely to hear from you MrsMc - I do hope, if you have time to keep up with this thread as well as others, and feel able to , that you will pop in from time to time. Anyway, not to worry if you can't, as we'll probably all be stalking you anyway

Honeyapple - I'm sure your libido will return once again. Mine did after I got past the first trimester. Now I can go from 0-randy in about 3 seconds And hair? tell me about it! But mine is not so much "more hairs", just the ones I've got getting really long! May have to trim pubes as it's getting silly!

Thanks for your advice Firsty - you are the very voice of reason! I love your comments, they are always so practical and helpful.

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