Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

And sorry Jpeg just seen your post. AMAZING NEWS. Congrats. You must be so relieved. xxx

Feline please don't give up hope. I know it's frightening. Lots of people here have had spotting and it's all been ok. How are you now?? xx

Aw Jpeg that's amazing news! Hope the time passes quickly until your scan.

Hope you're okay Feline, I know it's hard. I had spotting before 6 weeks.

Went to a different soft play for play date & it was awful. I've also been craving orange juice all week, had some this afternoon & then nausea slammed back into me. Alternated between sobbing down the toilet & looking after DS.

Sorry tried to keep up with the posting.

Bertie is there anyway you can ask for HCG blood test?

Everyone keeps asking me if I'm excited about the next scan & I wish I could say I was. I am & I'm not.

Thanks so much everyone! Feeling so positive. Still spotting slightly but doc said that's completely normal. feline hope you're doing ok... The doctor was honestly not even bothered by the spotting.

bertie that's a great sign you had a clear positive so early.., it's still so hard isn't it coming up to the time when the last pg ended. Fingers X for the next few weeks for you!

dolerite I hope you're ok... Sounds like a really tough day. Hope you're chilling out this evening

Good Luck whatser for your scan, and anyone else with scans etc coming up x

Thank you Kate! Dolerite I will get one anyway I am just being impatient :) I could probably get one on Monday if I walk in. They are very accommodating here. Plus they like poking and prodding, which I don't necessarily, but it does have its uses. It does make sense to wait a couple of weeks though because if I do lose it I'd rather not have random unnecessary blood tests, and plus we didn't want to tell DS yet.

I have next week off work. Then he has another two weeks off school where I'm supposed to be working (I only work part time at the moment). I'm hoping to get in touch with a holiday club on Monday and hope they have spaces for those last two weeks, which gives me time to focus on learning to drive which I'm supposed to have done by September (errrrr, nope!) and so I should be able to schedule some appointments in there too.

I don't want to tell work yet because I'm still hoping if I can bodge the driving thing up by a couple of weeks, they will give me the full time contract. There's no way they'll give me that, or pay for my driving, if I announce that I'm pregnant.

Re spotting, they told me last time that spotting is perfectly harmless unless it's equal to or more than a normal period for you.

That's really good about the doctor JPEG.

I'm feeling a lot better now I've managed to eat. Think hormones took over for a few hours as I'm so exhausted & DS was in one those nothing pleases moods.

Sounds like you have it all under control Bertie. I'm learning to drive too & I'm hoping to pass before more sleep deprivation but don't know if 28 weeks is enough time. Need to get behind OH's car more.

Really kept busy tonight which has helped. Still in a massive decluttering mood, living room is looking a lot better for it. Keeping busy is something I need to focus on.

Gosh! I can't believe that "Posifrickentivity" is still running! How marvellous!
I was around back at the start, (I was SaggyOldClothCatPuss) and my little one is two and a half now!
This thread, and the ttc one before it, kept me sane.
All I wanted to say was hang in there ladies, and congratulations to you all. Xx

tinkly I was told to make my own next appointment with the midwife at 24 weeks, not sure if your board is the same?

Hugs to you with how your feeling right now your relationship will be different to the one between you and your mum. Your different people and your aware of what's happened. My grandma and my mum had a very bad toxic relationship. But my mum and me are best friends, she raised me completely differently to how she had been raised.

feline ways how are you getting on? Hoping the spotting and cramping has eased off, it's so hard that early pregnancy going normally and not can both include those symptoms

jpeg sorry to read you've had a scare but glad it's looking good now

Aw Tinkly sorry forgot to congratulate you. It's so good your DH is understanding.
I have a bad relationship with my mother too, in fact am NC since I was 15 & before DS I was terrified about how I would have a relationship with my own. But you do recognise it & CBT plus several books have really helped me.

I know people with bad parental relationships who have great relationships with their children because in a way they know what not to do.

Hope everyone has a good Sunday. Started off with pancakes but had to share with DS. I wanted 20 but 4 seems good enough so far.

dolerite pancakes sounds great!!!

tinky that's so exciting you're having a little girl and I bet it makes it so real knowing what you're having. I'm sure you will have an amazing relationship with her!

Girl how lovely, thanks for popping in to update! :)

Tinkly you will find that when you to little girl is born you will stop worrying completely because you will just 'know' that you will be different as a mum. It's strange to say this but it just happens - it is hard to put into words. I've always got on really well with my own mum. However, we don't really cuddle. Not unless someone has died And when we do, it's a bit awkward. My mum finds it hard to show her emotions due to suffering an EA upbringing. I know she loves me, but she doesn't show it physically. I always struggled too with physical affection because I wasn't used to it. When I was pregnant with dd, my dh admitted he was really concerned about it because he is a very cuddly person and I wasn't. But, when dd was born, I felt this huge shift in myself. I'm not doing a good job of explaining it. I just loved her so much and knew that I'd be fine. I'm a very huggy and cuddly mum. Now that she is older, I do find myself, every now and then, 'becoming my mother' so to speak. Actually, I find myself becoming the mother from 'Malcolm in the Middle', but, you do find that you have a little warning bell in your head. For example, if I tell her off, once she has been told off we hug. My parents never did this and I found myself tying myself up in knots trying to work out if I was forgiven or not. I will never let her feel that insecurity. DH, on the other hand, never ever uses emotional blackmail to make his point and challenges anyone who does. Because that was his mothers thing and it caused him issues as an adult. We all make parenting mistakes. But your relationship with your daughter will be completely different to your relationship with your mum. Because, this time, you are the mum. I know it doesn't feel like it, but it really is that simple.

How is everyone? The thread has gone very quiet!

I'm STILL waiting for my scan letter and have my noses pressed up against the window waiting for the mail lady today!

I was wondering how you were all doing too :)

No news here. DH reckons I should make the appointment for Friday which would be great! But I am tempted to wait until the week after. I'd only be 5+1 on Friday and last time that was too early to see anything on a scan. But I do want the HCG levels checked. Grr. So frustrating!

The waiting is horrible Bertie :(

I would wait until at least 6 weeks as any earlier the chances of even seeing a foetal pole are low and then you get into even more anxiety-inducing territory. Even at 6 weeks you might not see a heart beat.

I had my early scan at 8 weeks which was great as it had a clear heart beat and started to resemble a baby.

Yes I know. It's more the HCG I want really, I know you can't see much on early early scans. It's just they scan every time here and I really want DH to see the first time we get to see something and he can't keep taking time off to attend routine stuff.

Anyway he's suggested Thursday 1st instead when I'll be about 5+6 so that's fine. Better for me.

Morning.
I've got my mental health appt today. Not actually sure what to expect but I'm actually glad just to be leaving the house today. And to talk to another adult other than my partner will be a nice change!
Keep hoping they might randomly offer me a scan but that's highly unlikely lol. I've now had my 20 wk scan date through, seems abit surreal as been a long time since we got this far. It's the 23rd September which seems so very far away but thank god I've got my doppler which is keeping me sane in the meantime.
bertie I'd leave it as late as you can possibly manage so you'll be able to see as much as possible. I did the same as missclarke and managed to hold out til I was over 8 weeks. The scan then was great and really helped the anxiety as I was measuring correctly and I could see everything in place.
I do understand how hard the waiting is though, it's really tough and all you think about
missclarke I hope the scan date hurries up for you and the post lady doesn't get her fingers swiped off

Hope the appointment goes well Lynsey. Tell them that extra scans would definitely help ease the anxiety!!

Post lady still not been. Is she doing it on purpose?

Thank you. Yes I think I'll drop it into conversation!
I'm letting all sorts of anxieties get to me and I need to stop. I've been stressing myself over the baby's gender for days now which is ridiculous but I can't seem to help myself. I realised this morning that there is a few eyes on what we'll be having too as with having 3 boys. My sister is apparently 'the one who'll give my mum a grand daughter'. So my sister hopes I have another boy just so I haven't beat her to it. Grrr. My mum told me to keep it to myself if I was having a girl!!
My head wants to explode with the stupidity of it.

Oh and yes, I reckon post lady is hiding behind a tree to sneak up when your not looking hehe xx

Have you got a preference, Lynsey? I have a dd and I think everyone expected me to be disappointed with another girl. I'm thrilled. I would have been with way.

After 3 boys, of course it would be lovely to have a girl but I'll love whatever I have. I adore my boys so another would be just fine. Apart of me can't help having a preference but the way people act makes me stress and over think it more. I don't want to be disappointed cos I feel so ungrateful. Maybe cos we know this is final baby it adds the pressure?