Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Morning all. How is everyone today?

I'm just checking in before I attempt my garden (again). Bad weather is predicted after today so I can't put it off any longer.
My youngest son asked me this morning what the doppler was and when I told him, all 3 boys wanted a listen. I put it on and found the heartbeat straight away (practice over last few days has helped!!).
Middle son told me it sounds like Thomas Land! Made me laugh as that's his comparison to trains. Was nice for them all to listen and to share it with them.
Although hearing the hb and my growing belly is making it physically obvious I'm pregnant, I still feel I'm struggling to comprehend having a new baby. It's like it's happening but not if that makes any sense?!
I'm so happy this seems to finally be happening for us and can't wait to meet our little one but just feel very unattached.
I'm guessing this is another affect of having mc's. I don't feel down right now, just what I have described above. My mental health appt is on Monday so at least I'll be able to express it there too!

Morning, I'm feeling loads better today, which is good because I need to go back to work. All this lieing about is giving me far too much time on my hands to overthink everything. Been having a few pains in the bikini line and my undercarriage is a bit tender rational me says this is stretching and normal. Irrational me thinks this is my cervix opening and early labor.

Off to look at a thread on here that was about takeaways as I'm starving and that'll take my mind off things!

Glad you're feeling better macauley.

I woke up this morning in horrendous pain so went to gp who referred me to hospital. Had bloods urine test and an internal scan. The ultrasound nurse saw a viable pregnancy which is such amazing news but they also saw something on my ovary and some free fluid which is worrying. Doc said it could be I have two pregnancies and one is ectopic or it could be something else. Have more bloods sat and another scan in 10 days. I'm really worried but also relieved it's not a MC again... Yet anyway! The next 10 days I think will drag!!

Hope everyone else is ok.

Aww Lynsey that's so cute with your boys.
I understand the de-attachment, it is hard after a MC to feel positive all of the time.

Glad you're feeling better Mac.

Aw Jpeg glad you got a scan. Hopefully they can find out on 10 days what the fluid is. I've had 2 friends with free fluid, one was to do with a cyst & other just went by next scan.

I am feeling a lot more emotionally better today. Going to keep busy with housework & cooking. Already tired after driving & messy play.
Hope everyone else is doing well.

Pleased you could get a scan Purple. Fingers crossed for you. Take it easy for the next 10 days!

Had a lot of fun using the doppler last night; I found baby's heartbeat which was amazing to hear again although it was tricky to find at first and then wriggled away. It's definitely right that once you've found it the difference between it and all the other weird sounds in there is clear!

Just out of interest has anyone else heard the heartbeat at NHS scans? I realised that we only listened to it at our private one they just showed us on the screen at NHS ones. Maybe I should have asked?

Sorry, getting all mixed up! The scan message was clearly for Jpeg

I've not heard the heart beat yet just had it pointed out on the scan. Both my scans have been nhs.

Jpeg I'm glad you have an answer for your pain. Great news that there is a viable pregnancy and hoping there is no ectopic.

at your DD wanting to watch the birth whatser She sounds just like mine! FWIW I would have done much the same as you and been as factual and open as poss in an age sensitive manner. Better now while they are so matter of fact about it than trying to broach it all in a few years with much awkwardness. We have had fairly detailed conversations about exactly how the baby came to grow in my tummy, but she has (thankfully!) not thought to ask exactly how the seed from daddy's willy ended up getting into mummy's womb... I expect that penny will drop in due course. Probably in front of granny or something. She's also fascinated by my changing boobs. There is no privacy is there! It's lovely actually, she makes me look at the whole thing with some of the wonder and joy I felt the very first time, despite all the emotional baggage and trauma I now carry, she gives some of the magic back in the midst of it all.

jpeg oh, a long few days for you. That's great that there is a viable bean in there, and everything crossed the pain and fluid resolves itself in a non ectopic or anything else awful sort of way. Ovarian cysts etc are apparently quite common in early pregnancy but often not detected as they usually go down before the 12 week scan. I think.

I hope you've had a better day dinosaur. I can so relate to the struggle and the lack of confidence in it all At least your DH is aware now that it's an issue.

Glad you are feeling more human today mac

Aw butterfly that's so lovely about your daughter & her curiousity. Glad it's making you feel positive.

Much better day toda, OH said he didn't know I was struggling with next weeks scan & I told him I felt movement.

Knackered today, I always have a massive dip in energy mid afternoon & its when DS wants to go
Everywhere all around the house.

Hope everyone is having a good evening.

Evening all do you mind if I join you?

My first pregnancy ( after 18 months of trying) ended in a mmc at 11.5 weeks. A few months later was lucky enough to become pregnant with my little boy.

Started tryig for number 2 in March and lost a pregnancy very early at around 5 and bt weeks last month. Just found out im pregnant again ( no period inbetween but definitely new pregnancy as my miscarriage was confirmed by negative tests and scan).

Feeling very confused as I'm only 3 weeks post miscarriage but showing 3 + on clear blue test taken this evening. I realise they are far from fool-proof but it is odd none the less.

Feeling a strange mix of super grateful it's happened so quick, disbelief and raw fear!

The thing I am finding hardest is the fear of going to the loo. I know it sounds crazy and sorry if it's TMI but it just haunts me from my miscarriage- wiping and seeing red. I literally have to take a deep breath each time.

Thanks for advice I will tell my midwife and book a private scan for around 8 weeks.

Feels like a long, long road this time

Hi all

I've been having a v tough few days with sickness and vomiting. Absolutely shattered.

I haven't caught up yet but I will tomorrow. Just wanted to send you all lots of love.

Welcome feline!

Xx

dirtydancing I understand totally that feeling. It's how my mc started. At the start of this pregnancy I had that fear everytime I went to the toilet. It's a strong fear at the start but it goes as the weeks go on and then it's just a thought in the back of your mind. Not going to lie I still think about it but it doesn't overwhelm me anymore like it did in the early days.

Feline did your levels go back to zero after the mc do you know?

Hello, does anyone mind if I jump back on?
Was on here at the start of my pregnancy which wasn't exactly smooth (lost a twin, heavy bleeding and not realising the other one had hung on in there). Am now 35weeks but if anything the anxiety is worse than the first trimester - then I was expecting it to go wrong but now I feel it's been such a slog to get here it can't go wrong surely please? then my mind starts telling me exactly how wrong it can go
Not helped by friends announcing their second pregnancy and both them and family members telling me how much they adore being pregnant/it's easy etc
Sorry, rather a rambling post but just feel so angry at them and so sad it's been so hard for me and dp and what did we do to deserve this?

Congratulations to keys sunday and sophia as well!

Hello bowser!
I'm so sorry your struggling, thank goodness your end goal is in sight.
You have every right to feel the way you do, you've had a really rough ride and that's bound to throw up all sorts of emotions. Just remember, you did nothing at all to deserve it, it's not your fault and it's simply nature playing it's horrid, evil tricks.
keep strong, your so very close to meeting your precious baby x

Bowing out. Scan wasn't good news.

Good luck with everything and hope to be back soon

Oh no 5tar I'm so so very sorry. Hope you have lots of support. I've had 4 MCs so if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here. Lots of love. It's the hardest thing xxx

5tar I'm so so so sorry.

Oh 5tar lovely I am so very sorry x

Thank you. I'm feeling stronger than last time. I'm still gutted but I can see that after miscarriage, you can't really engage with a new pregnancy until much much further along and I've held myself back a lot, even after seeing a heartbeat at 6+1.Just hoping that my fertility continues to be good.

Got a little bit further this time, i was 5 last time amd 7+3 this time (should be at least 8). Also pleased that it has been identified early as I carried the miscarriage for 4 weeks last time, and later felt cheated of these weeks.

Got to go to a baby shower on Sunday for a friend who was due a few weeks before my first baby

So very sorry 5star take it easy and give yourself time to recover. Hopefully your friend would understand if you didn't feel up to making it. Take care and wishing you all the best for next time. Xx

So sorry 5star. I hope you've got lots of support in rl.

5tar