Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

Mrs I'm so sorry, I'm gutted for you. Hope you have lots of supportive people around you and can be kind to yourself. I'll also be thinking of you

Pleased to read your good news Purple and Nasche and Lynsey, happy for you all!

Mrs I'm so sorry, I'm gutted for you. Hope you have lots of supportive people around you and can be kind to yourself. I'll also be thinking of you

Pleased to read your good news Purple and Nasche and Lynsey, happy for you all!

mrs I really hope this is a a scare and everything will be ok. These things do happen. I know how hard it is to wait for the scan and 2 weeks seems so far away when you don't know what's happening. Keep talking here though and I hope you also have lots of support in real life too

Keeping everything crossed for you, Mrs x

Mrs. Thinking of you. So hoping this was random bleeding and it will all settle down. Got everything crossed for you. Lots of love xxxx

nasch and lyndsey congrats on great scans!!! Lovely news.

purple your HCG is great! V positive. Any more news?

Xx

Thanks Hopeful. I've got backache and think the infection isn't clearing. The consultant who was on leave was supposed to come back into the office yesterday. I haven't heard from her yet. I did leave two messages with her secretary last week.

Also not heard from GP who was going to try and speak to the obstetrician. She said it might be Friday or early next week before she gets back to me though.

I'm just wondering whether I should phone GP today re this infection potentially not clearing. The antibiotics finish today. Maybe I could drop off another sample tomorrow.

I agree mrs - *purple your doctors sound remarkable laid back for something so important.

But also mrs I think you should annoy your doctor too!! Having bloods done would be a good indication, better than p tests. I wouldn't have any of the 'come back in two weeks' crap. This is so important. They have to respond and honestly whenever I have told them my mental health is suffering (which it has during all my MCs) they acted straight away. Let us know how you get on.

Holiday is lovely thanks. V relaxing.

How is everyone else? Xxx

Mrs hang on in there! A very close friend of mine had bleeds like you describe through two pregnancies and now has two gorgeous girls to show for it!
If it's settled down it is possible that its all okay. But equally, we all knowing how worrying it is.

I agree you should speak to your doctor. 2 weeks is a long time to wait and worry, ask for those bloods just to give you a clearer picture of what's going on.

Thinking of you

Mrs can you get for a private scan just so you don't feel in limbo for 2 weeks?

Oh god I am falling down the rabbit hole. Bloody mumsnet. I keep stumbling across stuff that I just can't leave. The foods to avoid thread, the termination at 5 months (due to lethal fetal diagnosis) thread which apparently pregnant women should be protected from seeing. I am seeing red. And struggling with intrusive thoughts and flashbacks. I thought I would be able to manage better now, nearly 6 years on, but it might as well be last year for all the vivid bringing back to the fore effect that pregnancy is having on me. I am scared of my own head.

So sorry to write such a self involved post, I haven't got it in me right now to be much use supporting others. to all those going through a hard point right now, I hope your worst fears are not confirmed.

mrs I had a 10 day bleed at about 4 weeks before I knew I was pregnant with this pregnancy. It was heavy enough for me to assume that it was just my normal periods, and I have pretty heavy periods! I'm so glad that I didn't know I was pregnant at the time as I would have been 100% certain I was miscarrying again.

What I have learnt from my extensive research on mumsnet is that you just never know until you definitely know. I know that probably isn't much comfort for anyone but big bleeds can mean something or they can just as easily mean nothing. Equally no concerning symptoms mean feck all either as anyone who has had a missed miscarriage sadly knows.m

And that is why we are all here on this thread, because the whole thing is shitting scary and we are all here to hold each other's hands and acknowledge in a way all the normal people who don't know what it's like to have a pregnancy after a miscarriage will never understand.

So hang in there

I had to go and get an anti d injection in my bum yesterday after a tiny bleed the day after a very positive scan. It was quite literally an absolute pain in the arse and took the whole afternoon

Butterfly I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment.
I saw your post on the foods thread but only after I'd posted. I think what you said is important information and something lots of people don't realise.

hugs to you butterfly. I know this is your tough time. Its so difficult isn't it. I'm a nightmare for clicking on things I probably shouldn't be looking at but I have this morbid need to know what could go wrong. I haven't found a healthy way to cope with it yet. I raised it with my midwife but felt like she dismissed it.

Hugs to you too mrs. I would push for a scan or bloods or something. Two weeks in limbo is far too long.

Congrats to all those who have had good scan news.

Nothing exciting happening here just waiting till 20 weeks. Still reading but wanted to give some hugs to butterfly and Mrs.

Thanks both. I just feel slightly hysterical to be honest. I know so much about what could go wrong, and I feel like I am on some crazed doom mongering mission to make sure the naive and foolish know too. I feel so fucking angry at fairly innocent people just getting on with their pregnancies, like I want to shake them like mad and tell them not to be so bloody self assured/reckless, don't you know my son and my daughter are both dead!?

I was like this for months after DD died, raging at the whole world, it's horrible to feel it all surface again. I am sitting here with tears pouring down my face I feel so out of control and I want my children back.

Butterfly, I think your feelings are completely understandable given what you have been through. The flashbacks are a sign of ptsd. I had this following my miscarriage at 13 weeks and I've had some counciling that has helped me cope. I've had a few people complain that we hadn't told them about the baby. I find it infuriating because no one understands how scary it is to tell people you are pregnant you have lost a baby. I can't listen to people who tell me 'of course it will be fine this time' 'if you don't stop worrying and start enjoying this pregnancy you will regret it' etc. I haven't been through anything near as awful as you have, but I'm still struggling. Do what you need to do to get through. Thinking of you. And you, Mrs. Really hoping for good news.

butterfly you've got enough to deal with as it is without beating yourself up for the way you feel - your feelings are your feelings. Do you have ante-natal mental health team in your area who your midwife could link you with for support? You certainly deserve all the support that's out there

Mrs I'm pleased to read the red hasn't come to anything, I know how hard limbo is though and agree with the others about asking for bloods so you know where you are

Also purple I'd be the same as the others and badgering the medics too. Busy clinicians can sometimes need a prompt to get things done.

I'm the same as you Mac nothing much going on with me, but checking in here every day to see how everyone is.

Thoughts are with those of you at hard parts, it will pass however tough it is.

butterfly I think your feelings are totally understandable and normal. I get angry (actually I'm jealous and wish I still had this naivety) when I hear people say the 20 week scan is to find out the gender oh how lovely it would be to go to a scan and the only thing your thinking about is gender! Also get angry and would like to slap people at who say they really enjoy pregnancy.

whatser I'm hearing those exact same things at the moment! I'm still struggling with the telling people and would just rather keep things a secret. I am happy and excited in my own reserved way but it's in no way the same as someone who hasn't been down this path before.

My heart truly breaks for you butterfly.
Mc is heartbreaking but what you have faced is beyond what most of us could even try to comprehend. Be kind to yourself and vent as much as you need. If it's better to vent here than in real life, we're tough and we can take it ;-)
tinkly my last pregnancy should have resulted in a Christmas baby too. It's hard thinking now we are 8 months into the year and still keeping everything crossed for healthy pregnancies and babies.

I think about all of you ladies every day and hope this thread can continue to bring good luck....as said up thread, it's not over til it's over