Pregnancy after infertility II

[stealthbanana]

We've got through a whole thread! Hope it's ok that I took the liberty of starting a new one.

Newbies, if you've had fertility treatment and found that it actually worked, this is the thread for you! We're a supportive group of women battling everything from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding, and we generally can't believe this is really happening for us!

First thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2584015-Pregnancy-after-infertility

Tmi I have had so much gas the last few weeks I wouldn't even know

Glad you're ok vixx. Don't worry about lack of bump, mine has only started to show in the last week or so (ie at 20 weeks). Was pretty non existent until then. I've been having loads of stretching and growing pains since then so think i will pop soon!

Ditto movements. My consultant today said it was "still very early" to be feeling anything proper and not to wish for it ahead of time as it was annoying once here .

You are on track so enjoy and not too long til the 20 w scan.

How's the vomiting? Still on the anti emetics? I'm still throwing up probably one out of every three days. It's the worst!

Oh, and - no, no decisions on name yet but we are discussing. I think now we've had the all clear from the anomaly scan we'll figure it out pretty quickly - it's almost like I haven't let myself be invested in him much til now.

I think there's such a gap between 12 weeks and 20 weeks scan that you need something to happen to make it feel real! So glad I got the doppler. How big is your belly now?

I am still being sick once a day and can't eat after 5pm. Still on 2 tabs a day. Do you still take your tabs?

I know what you mean about being too invested to protect yourself. He's been strong since day 1. Doesn't seem like too long to go for you now.

Hi Stealth, great news that you had a good scan. Thanks for thinking of me today. As you know, 21+3 was d-day for me. I truly hope that none of you have to go through what I've been through, I still can't believe it sometimes, it's so painful, and leaves us questioning everything. We're meeting so many other people in a similar situation, it's mind blowing that there are so many out there and not talked about.

Good luck tomorrow tabby.

Congrats and welcome mpp.

Hello to everyone else, sorry too many to mention by name but I'm grateful for your support and glad things are generally going well even with the nervous moments and scanxiety.

I've noticed that there seem to be a lot of boys expected, is that just a coincidence? Does anyone know if they are having a girl?

PS. If anyone wants to follow my story, it's over here: blueroses99.wordpress.com

Blueroses I think of you and baby Jovan often too. Your blog is heartbreaking. You are so strong

Ours is a surprise so who knows if it will be a boy or a girl. I read your dedication to our group today Blueroses and it was really moving. X

Yes I knew 21+3 was your d-day blue, and I have been thinking of it often; it has become a sort of unofficial milestone for me, which is sad for both you and me. So today was very mixed emotions for me. Having a good scan but also being aware of the fragility of all this. I am pleased you are finding support in others who have been through similar (whilst being very unhappy that there are so many of you). Life is very unfair.

vixx it's still only a little bump. Not noticeable in clothes. But definitely growing now! Yes I'm on my meds, I went back on them at 19w when I started vomiting again. Will take them for another month or so and then try coming off them again. And yes the gap between 12 and 20 weeks is killer! I had a scan at 15+4 and even the wait between then and now has been awful.

You will wake up one day and it will have just popped. Can you feel the hardness when you lie down?
I can't believe the sickness came back at 19 weeks. So much for morning sickness usually disappears in the second trimester!

Yes the bump is hard as a rock. I think because the baby is lying basically along my spine I haven't popped yet. Judging by all the pain I'm having my stomach muscles are putting up a valiant fight against moving out of the way but it can't be too long now. He's a big boy too - was measuring at almost 23w on pretty much every measurement today. Might have to fess up to my workmates soon I think.

Yes I couldn't believe it when the vomiting started again. I think this mythical second trimester glow is never going to happen for me

Blueroses I often think of you too, and did at. 21 weeks. My DH and I both talked of you and jovan that day and you're both still in our hearts

I know I only lurk here really but I do follow and wish all the best for all of you

Vixx my first movements felt a little like gas! It's also a bit like that feeling of your stomach dropping when you're on a roller coatster. I never noticed the more subtle bubbles that others feel.

blueroses I just read your blog, it is beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss, and think of you often. I think I might be the person you mention in your blog that was the same stage as you and miscarried the week of the 12 week scan. I can't believe you remember that, you're such a wonderful person to think of others when you've been through so much. Hope you and DH are doing as well as you can.

Hi everyone- some of you might remember me. I was on here but miscarried in May, just before my 12 week scan. I remember a few of you lovely ladies consoling me as I was in A and E. Following the miscarriage I had an unsuccessful IUI cycle then got a BFP in our month break between cycles. I'm now 6+2. Am yet to have a scan and am mostly just terrified of another mc, except in the last few days terrible nausea (all day not morning) has kicked in which is sort of taken my mind off the fear! I've been lurking on here as I'm still afraid to join again- here goes! Anyway, it's lovely to see how you are all getting on

Blueroses just wanted to add that I frequently think of you and Jovan and wonder how you and DH are doing. Glad you're still here with us even if not posting a lot.
Your blog is really beautiful. You can see the hurt and love and emotion pouring from every word but I'm sure the honesty of it'll help many others too. I hope getting everything down is helping you a little.

Stealth congrats on the scan, how wonderful to see such detailed images of little stealthini as well! Bleurgh for you and vixx still being sick- you really can't win, either symptoms doing your head in or a lack of freaking you out!

Kiwi I remember you from being mindnumbingly bored. How wonderful you got another BFP! Were you surprised? (Silly question I guess!) Can only too well understand your caution but tentative congrats and I hope the nausea becomes the perfect amount of reassuring rather than just horribly rank. Have you got a scan booked for the next week or so?

Tabby what lovely news, good luck for tomorrow. I guess you're our first graduate. So great to hear that you made it!

Argh- as soon as I hit post I remembered Thom! official first grad.

Wow that's great news kiwi. It gives me hope. I was thinking of you in my blog, and I hope I didn't offend.

Thank you Blue and Grumps. Writing seems to be a form of therapy for me. I've tried to write in the past but lost motivation pretty quickly. This time it feels so important, the words come really easily.

The question about boys/girls probably came across as a bit random- I read something that said IVF was more likely to produce boys, and was just thinking about it. I haven't had a very good day today so my thoughts are a bit muddled.

blueroses of course not!! It meant a lot that you remembered. Your blog is wonderful, I think it will help a lot of people and I'm glad it's a form of therapy for you.

Grumpel hello again!! Yes I was really surprised but I started getting symptoms a week before my period was due and I recognised them from last time. Didn't trust myself though and didn't mention to DH so think he got a bigger shock! Yes, I'm glad I have the sickness. It's so different to last time that I'm hoping it's a good sign. We have to just do a walk in to EPU for scan, and won't be until next week due to DH work commitments. I'm terrified as I was last in EPU when they confirmed miscarriage. What stage are you at now? (sorry, I'm sure you probably said that not far back!)

Blueroses your blog is so moving. I'm glad you're finding it therapeutic, and agree that it will also be invaluable to others. I know we never 'met' on this thread but I have read your story and think of you, your DH and your son x

Congratulations to MPP and Kiwi, how are you feeling?

Glad to read that scans have been going well, and congratulations to Thom, and good luck Tabby!

No news from me, 9+1 and still feeling really awful. Stealth and Vixx, I can't believe you're still sick - I had been hoping that I only have a few weeks left before I could hope to feel better. Does the pregnancy anxiety calm down at all? I still feel anxious and would love to fall asleep and wake at the end with a baby in my arms. That probably sounds very silly..

Oh, and congratulations on having a girl Celtic!

kiwi that is fantastic news - congratulations! I can understand that you are very cautious, but wonderful news nonetheless. Will you have an early scan this time?

ghenghis I don't think the anxiety ever fully goes away. I am definitely a bit less crazed than I was in the first tri though am too exhausted these days - I think now it's very clear there is a living baby inside me it's all a bit more real. Seeing his little face in 3D yesterday was amazing, we could start to pick out my and DHs features in him already.

congrats Celtic!

Afternoon all!

Stealth, I am finding the wait for the viability scan torturous! I think its because I dont have any symptoms etc, so it still doesnt feel quite real. I actually POAS again this morning! The test line was WAY darker than the control line, so I took that as a positive sign, and I'm only planning to POA cb digi on Saturday now before the scan. I did contact my doctors today and the midwife phoned me back to arrange my booking in appointment for 12th September, so I guess I have nothing to do but wait (again).

Thank you for the congrats, Blueroses. Thinking of you xx

Kiwi, I am sorry to read about your miscarriage. Congratulations on your bfp. You are about a week ahead of me. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

Congrats on expeccting a girl, Celtic!

MPP it is a horrific wait. How long have you got left?

What are everyone's thoughts on sex in the first trimester? DH has been so patient, but I know he really wants it. I'm so scared of doing harm though :(. Xx

Hi Sammy, I didn't (I did want to in second trimester but DH didn't want to harm the baby - he's very patient!) but when my waters broke from suspected infection we were asked if we had sex in the last 48 hours as it can cause an infection. It's a very low risk (hence why they don't say that you shouldn't) but a risk nonetheless.

Good luck with the identical twins, that's so exciting!

Hi everyone, I've been lurking but feel ready to graduate. Currently 8w5 after my first round of ICSI and feel incredibly lucky to have got this far!

I've had OHSS which has been miserable and am still hugely bloated. 7w scan showed an embryo a week behind in dates, so I have a scan on Saturday to see if it's caught up. I'm terrified :(

Other than that, very few symptoms. I've been retching since week 5 (when it happens it's so sudden) whereas now im less retchy but way more nausea that lasts for longer.