Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Aw that's wonderful news Mike!

Thanks butterfly, yeah it all seems to be coming away ok which is a step towards the next pregnancy.

Thanks everyone X

Congratulations Mike! I'm so sorry to hear your news Cheeky but at least you know where you stand, big hugs xxx

Fab news mike! My OH and I both shouted "urghh" at my 12 week scan when we saw it move it's arm!

Thanks everyone. I'm glad to be sharing positivity for once.

Hope you're doing ok Cheeky, all the best for you.

I'm 5 weeks today and I've pissed on my last stick because I'm driving myself insane. After initially being relieved that I got '3+' on the conception indicator after last week's '2-3' I then obsessively began googling because I'm scared that it's molar and that is why my hcg is high. In reality, 3+ means 5-6 weeks and, if I go by my ovulation I am 5 weeks! I had 3 days of spotting before my last af but didn't count them as the first day of af but I think now I should have. I'm actually driving myself insane this is all so scary. I've had virtually no symptoms other than exhaustion and stingy nipples. I've only had a bit of nausea which is exactly like it was with my dd. With my mc I was being sick from conception until I passed everything at 13 weeks. I'm questioning everything. I need a good slap!

Whatsername - sorry you are feeling stressed. Those clear blue indicators are the worst thing ever. I will never use them again after my experience this time. Read this - it explains how it works. Hope it gives you a little comfort.

www.amazon.com/Clearblue-Advanced-Pregnancy-Weeks-Estimator/product-reviews/B00D05VGCS

First you go through the anxiety of wanting to fall pregnant, then you go through the anxiety of trying to stay pregnant - nothing is in our control though. I know it's really hard. Just take it one day at a time. Plus every pregnancy is completely different. Symptoms or lack of symptoms don't mean anything really. Xx

Thanks for that Cheeky, really appreciate you taking the time. Everything to respond with all that you are going through. Hope you are OK.

whatsername I'm 5+5 and have next to no symptoms. I've got the sore boobs, very tired, Ive been sick once, the fridge nausea is returning and also previous attractive hairy nips have come back! Apart from that I feel completely not pregnant.

I've not peed on a stick since last week as my heart can't take the anxiety of it not being darker or anything else that could happen. I'm just taking each day at a time with my focus being the scan at 9 weeks (which also terrifies me).

whatser deep breath lovely, you sound stressed to the eyeballs. It sounds like you do have symptoms - the tiredness, occasional nausea and sore nipples. If it's in any way helpful, in my previous 3 pregnancies sickness and tiredness kicked in at 6 weeks, 7 weeks and 4 weeks. Only the 7 weeks one went to term. I usually work on the basis that this very beginning bit is a bit of a breather to eat like a horse and get a few bits organised at home before the real symptoms kick in and floor me. 2 of my pregnancies the nausea was totally debilitating and I was sick most days (both girls), one I was just nauseous a lot but nothing like as unbearable and was never sick (boy). They are all different.
I'm approaching 5 weeks now and am more tired than usual and have random moments of quease and dizziness but nothing more, and I'm still very active and eating normally so I also don't feel pregnant to be honest.

Hang in there.

Thanks both. I'm counting down the days until my midwife appointment. She will refer me then for a scan and I will hopefully be between 7-8 weeks. No more tests though. It is too scary.

Good call on the tests. What more can they tell you? Nothing useful! The worry and anticipation that they cause has got to be more detrimental than any benefit they bring.

As for symptoms, it sounds like both Whatser and Macauley have got their fare share! Exhaustion, sore boobs, nausea... If it's just the lack of actual sickness you are worried about, I would try not to. I haven't had any and I worried but from what I have read and been told by the midwives it's a myth that terrible sickness = healthy pregnancy. It seems like different pregnancies affect different women in different ways at different times. Not helpful when we are all clutching at straws, trying to cast around for clues as to what is going on.

I found it quite hard to recognise how powerless I really am in this situation but having accepted that, things got better. I can't say I was relaxed or happy and certainly not excited like so many first time mothers but I think for me, the recognition that actually, beyond the very basics of not doing dangerous stuff and taking the right vitamins, there is actually nothing I can do. And at least this time, I know that!

Good luck ladies. I hope these weeks pass quickly for everybody who's worrying.

Just embracing butterflys advice and enjoying the lack of sickness by eating a scone with loads of jam!

Hi ladies
I spent a long time on this thread and found it a wonderful support. I've just put my 7mth old down for a nap and wanted to pop back to say good luck to you all. Hang in there and your dreams will come true.

What a lovely thing to say North! I hope everything is going well with your little one xx

Hi ladies, another one from the ttc after miscarriage thread tentatively dipping my toe in the water over on this thread. It's heart warming to see familiar names over here Loki and Paco. I've had two early MCs. Today I am 4 weeks pregnant (ish) though, and this time I'm going to try to allow myself to enjoy each day of it, since I don't know how many I'm getting. After all, I don't have anything to lose as worst case scenario if this one goes the same direction as my other two then at least I can have tests and hopefully help to stay pregnant .. so far my little poppy seed sized cell ball is staying put though. My DH is more on board with this pregnancy than my last two, as this time I got a really clear pink line at my first test yesterday (12 dpo I think), and previously I've had fainter lines. My temptation is not to do any more tests unless I have cause to worry, like others above have said they only really add anxiety.

Lovely to see you here Lucky. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months x

So happy to see you here lucky

Welcome lucky You sound very chilled and calm. Long may it last!

Feeling really sick ate two Percy pigs (wtf!) to make me feel better now feel 100 times worse! Cheers Percy!

Just had my 20 week scan, I was a bag of nerves again, but all looks good she's breach at the moment but that's all ok and everything else is perfect. Good luck to everyone else xx

Hello everyone. I have been directed to thread by butterflies, after asking the POAS thread dwellers to check for a line. I followed this up with a Boots digital this morning and got an unequivocal pregnant. I have secondary infertility. DD is 5 and half and we have been TTC #2 for five years. I am a little bit thrilled and a lot more terrified. My last pregnancy, three years ago, ended in miscarriage at 9 weeks. My first target is to get to 9 weeks.

I can't believe we have even got this far. We were supposed to be having IVF in April but I pulled out as my follicle count was low and I decided it wasn't worth putting myself through the trauma for such low odds of success. This was our first month of not TTC. We only shagged once.

DH keeps telling me not to get excited. I am not, I am too scared to be excited. I have called in sick today as I started sobbing on the ring road on my way to work. I figured weeping all over the office at 4+3 is not the best was to maintain a discrete first trimester. Assuming I get a whole first trimester, feels too big an assumption to make at the moment. However, today I am pregnant and I will enjoy it for as long as it lasts.

That's good news about your scan lex. Did you find out the sex?

Macauley, totally get where you're coming from with Percy Pig & friends. The crap I have eaten which I would, under normal circumstances, not even look at! I am not the world's healthiest eater or best chef, but I normally put some care and attention into what I eat. This has proven nigh on impossible lately. I am resolving to change my bad habits, plan proper meals, shop for and cook them even though I really don't feel like it. I hope it's going to help with energy levels. At the very least, I'll feel less guilty for eating all the rubbish. Hope you're feeling better anyway!

Welcome lucky and yorkshire - I hope things progress smoothly for you in these early weeks!

No calls for me so far from the blood test people. No news is good news, they'll only be in touch by phone if the test comes back high risk. I'm trying to stay quietly positive, keeping worries in proportion to risks as someone wise said a few pages back.

Lovely news lex

Hehe mike I grow all my babies on orange juice, bacon sandwiches and mini cheddars for the first few months. In real life I eat veg/salad by the truck load and lots of nuts/seeds/fish/red meat blah blah blah. Oh well. From what I've heard it's actually what your diet is at conception and just before that has the biggest impact on the baby's future health. Phew!

Sorry you feel like shite macauley. How many weeks are you?

Welcome yorkshire glad you joined us. What a marathon you have had to get here, I don't blame you for being terrified. I'm so sorry about your mc. They are always heartbreaking but after 3 years TTC that must have been soul destroying. We are at the same point, I'm apparently 4+5 today, but found out last Tuesday so time is draaaaging already. This is pg#4 for me. I've had a 20 week loss, a DD who is now nearly 5 and last year a surprise pg that ended in a 13 week TFMR for acrania & T18. Fingers crossed this time. It's the second trimester that scares the life out of me, I'm feeling ok for now.

I'm 6 weeks tomorrow butterfly. Only feel better when eating. I also had a bacon roll which helped. Now got cravings for more Percy pigs!

Welcome yorkshire

Congrats lex

Butterfly this bump was grown on babybels, oranges, lemonade and Haribo!