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nikcola · 02/06/2004 23:05

im was going to change my name cause im too shook up,
i stopped taking my pill a month ago and me and dp have been having sex as normal but he hasnt been coming inside me (sorry to be graphic) my period is a week late ans i just done 2 pg tests and they are both positive i really dont want to be pg and i dont no what to do im s**ting myself the docs is shut till tuesday what do i do

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 03:45

ME but I think I'm the last one here...

KateandtheGirls · 04/06/2004 03:49

I'm here too Nikcola.

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 03:51

just wanted to talk dont really no why just lonley i suppose and scared

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 03:54

im sick of waiting till tuesday is it possible to be pg and not feel any diffrent? i went shopping today and every where i looked there was pg ladies, i think im in denial i keep praying for my period to come but it aint gonna happen is it

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 03:55

Have just finished reading the thread, how are you today?

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 03:58

im ok i think, still shocked very shocked and feel very stupid

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:01

Probably not... I didn't start feeling pregnant until much later and at the beginning, during the first couple of months I was Very scared, never been so scared in my life.

Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:02

Oops, crossposted! Don't feel stupid please, it wouldn't make any good and it may make you believe that this is only your sole responsability which is not.

KateandtheGirls · 04/06/2004 04:03

50% of pregnancies are unplanned, I've heard, so you're certainly not the only one this has happened to. Don't feel stupid. I can think of several times in my life when I could have gotten pregnant not being really careful and I guess I just got lucky.

But, no, your period is not going to come, so you need to figure out what you're going to do. Have you told your boyfriend?

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:07

yeh he knows he just thinks im over reacting, and that im stupid for taking the risk (like i dont no that)

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:10

And what do you think Nickola?

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:11

thanks for chatting to me,
im going to go to bed and cuddle dd ill post 2morrow thanks again xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:12

i think that yes i was being stupid and that we couldnt have another baby things are so messed up between us at the moment and im going to have an abortion but im so scared

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:12

I meant to say, that's what he thinks but, what do YOU think about this situation? (apart of feeling stupid which I don't believe you are)

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:14

i think its a mess

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KateandtheGirls · 04/06/2004 04:16

Well I don't think you're overreacting. That's a pretty silly thing for him to say. And wasn't he taking the risk just as much as you were?

I'm sorry he's not supporting you. That stinks.

Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:16

Well, once that you have calculated the pros and cons, and you are getting an abortion which is not at all an easy decission, I guess that you could do with some support from him, do you wnat to talk about what is what scares you the most? the procedure? the prospects? or?

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:20

im most scared about regreting it afterwards, i had a termination before i had dd i was 11 weeks pg and i cryed non stop afterwards, i no its the right decision but im scared i will regret it, and im scared of having it done too its so painfull

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spacemonkey · 04/06/2004 04:24

nikcola, you may be able to have a medical termination, which would be less traumatic than a surgical one, although it's always traumatic. Sorry you're going through this X

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:27

i think im only about 5 weeks pg, but the lines one the test were very faint and my period is only one week late, hi spacemonkey, whats the diffrence whats a medical termination is it the pill thing ?

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Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:31

I really don't know what to say, please excuse me if I came across as a bit rude, being diplomatic while speaking in english is definitively not one of my strengths.

Is there any possiblity that things are better in some months time? I'm saying this because when I got pregnant I was thinking of leaving dh, I had been really depressed for months (that's why I wanted to leave) and I was just with a foot on the plane to go back to my country, but we decided to hope for better times and take the plunge. Having said that 2 years later I'm still depressed, I still feel like leaving dh, and would do anything to be able to go back to my country, but I can't help to feel terribly happy everytime I see DS playing.

Chandra · 04/06/2004 04:34

By the way, I'm not suggesting you should do the same, we also decided to go ahead because we have been already told that my chances of ever get pregnant again werenearly unexistant...

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:36

no we arnt really together anymore we split up well we sleep together and he sees dd and thats about it so i wouldnt really call him dp i supose he is ex dp, no things will be worse in a few months because he his having an arranged marriage and ill be on my own again (there are loads of threads about me and dp ill try and find one) part of me thought about having the baby cause ill never be able to have one with him again but thats just silly i supose i wanted dd to have a brother or sister. now im so tired im rambling on sorry

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nikcola · 04/06/2004 04:37

how many children do you have ?

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spacemonkey · 04/06/2004 04:38

Not sure exactly, but as far as I know with a medical termination they give you a drug (not sure if it's administered orally or vaginally) which causes a "miscarriage". I think it can only be done in very early pregnancy, anything beyond 9 weeks you would have to have a surgical abortion. Please be brave and get to your GP first thing tuesday morning because if you are going to terminate the pregnancy the earlier the better. You can count on mn for support X

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