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[nikcola]

im was going to change my name cause im too shook up,
i stopped taking my pill a month ago and me and dp have been having sex as normal but he hasnt been coming inside me (sorry to be graphic) my period is a week late ans i just done 2 pg tests and they are both positive i really dont want to be pg and i dont no what to do im s**ting myself the docs is shut till tuesday what do i do

I'm no expert, but reading Mears's post suggested it might be a good idea to opt for a D&C now rather than wait a week. But hey, what do I know.

i no i should but i really dont want to spend another moment in that shi**y hospital i hate it there,
and you DO no quite a lot mi, dont put yourself down
did you get your holiday sorted out ?? xx

Nickola - really sorry to hear this - you must be feeling totally fed-up. If it was me, I think I'd go for the immediate D&C and get it all over and done with, and make sure. If there are 'products' remaining, they need to come out. But that's me.

Oh Nikcola, that's awful . Really hope this gets sorted out soon. Try not to let bitchy nurse upset you (easier said than done, I know), some of them are notorious.

i need to get out the house me and dd are turning in to hermits , i might venture up to town but stroppy dd wont go in her brand new techno buggy so she has to walk everywhere

ok changed my mind cant be arsed to go to town so me and stroppy dd are going to slob aound the house and sleep xxx

hey nikcola, just caught up with your thread. i hope you're ok, was thinking about you last week. hope this week gets easier for you xxxx

i went to town aand had somekind of panic attack i went in 1 shop then came home am i going mad ???

I think you are stressed, tired, rather ill, and having to cope with too much.

hi nikcola - sorry you are feeling so stressed atm. No you are not going mad - you have been through so much physically and mentally recently - also hormonally you will have gone thru huge changes so this may just be the way it is manifesting itself. After an m/c they say that people go thru similar hormonal shifts to after childbirth, so I guess that it will be the same after a termination. If it carries on tho you could have a word with the doctor about it. Sometimes something quite simple like changing the way you breath so you take in less carbon monoxide can help a lot and make you less panicky.

Sorry that your experience at the hospital was a bit unhelpful and inconclusive - would you feel up to putting in a complaint about the nurse - that might make you feel better if you think you have stood up to her and maybe make her think twice about behaving like that to other people. Take care

Poor you. But no, you're not going mad, and MI and M2S are right, it's tiredness and stress and hormones. Can anyone help you rest and get a little TLC? Think of something nice and relaxing to do, like take DD to feed the ducks and have a nice lunch in the park tomorrow?
You've been through a lot - and things are happening fast - college coming up etc. Remember to look after yourself. Are you eating healthily? Boss Boss Boss - but someone has to do it

i am stressed, very stressed, ive got to sort dd's nursery out tomorow for collage and ive been putting it off for ages, ive also got a stinking cold and dd hates me cause im nasty grumpy mommy who wont take her out at the moment,
the nurse at the hospital was just p**ed off i think cause the scan department shuts at 4 .15 and my appointment was at 4 but when i was discharged i was told my appointment was at 4.40 so the doc that dischered me got it wrong so she was anoyed with the doc and when she found out my blader wasnt full she just said well your bladder isnt full so im going to press hard
no one told me to drink alot i thought it wasnt a ultasound scan,
anyway she was just one of those strict sister nurses so i dont think she ment it but she could of been nicer i suppose maybee i will be a nicer nurse than her,
so im going to go on amazon and buy some books to give me somthing to do xx u lot must think im a right winger x

yeah, when I went for my first scan with DS (at 6 weeks PG, suspected miscarriage) I got told off for my bladder not being full - (well they had kept me waiting over an hour, and I would just have exploded if I'd not gone to loo!) guess sometimes these guys just don't understand - you'll just have to qualify in obs & gynae and be dead nice to all the girls going in for scans
have a good shop on amazon - just remember you can easily justify spending at least £29 coz you save on postage lol

thanks blu, yeh im eating ok i have to eat cause the tablets make me feel sick if i dont eat with them

i spent £29

just think how much postage you saved so what did you buy?

i got.
The bad mothers handbook
Baby on board
The diary of a mad mother to be
Alisons diary the nappy years
and The bump
they all sound gos but ill proberlly read them all in 2 weeks so you no where to come when yoyu want a book to read!!!
im going to cancel my appointment with the nursery tomoorw as i dont think they will like it if me and dd give all the childern our stinking colds xxx

blu think of a name for my new thread cause this one is getting too long nikki xxxxxxxxx

ive just sat and re read this whole thread god how my life has change now thanks to you lot,

im now going to have a good long cry xx

I've just read this thread.

Hope the cry did you good. Hope you did ditch DP and get him out of your life forever. Hope you made it to college. Hope the changes you have made are for the best and ope that you are now enjoying life.

I've just read it too hun - you're a brave lady. Hugs hun - don't be sad.

It sounds like you've moved on from other threads I've read and posted on recently. How are you now?

brightstar , sorry ti hear what you went throughxxxxxxxxxxxxxx i too had to go back into hospital after the abortion cause of an intection and had to have a scan so i no how horrible it is

I had 2 abortions. Both times from got pregnant from missing pills. Like you Nikcola I had a partner who told me (the first time) that I would be on my own if I had the child. The second time we didn't really discuss it as I knew what he would say and I didn't tell anyone else about it. hte most awful thing was having to wait the 12 weeks, I can't imagine now how I did it as I suffered with pregnancy symptoms. THankfully I never needed a scan. I stayed with my ex for a long time after that. The first abortion was more than 10 years ago. I am sad that it happened, somehow I still resent him for not wanting to support my real choice (I am not sure what it would be) but I don't regret my decision as I can't imagine what my life would have been like and I like my life. In the end I left him, (but a part of me still deeply loves). I have completely rebuilt my life, I am extremely happy and have met a guy who is better and makes me happier than anyone ever in my dreams could.

Nikcola I really hope you are doing well, that you have started college, and have met lots of great people and that you have a wonderful happy life. You are still very young and will meet lots of guys that will love you and will only want to make you happy. It is all out there for you and you have the choices.