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I have started bleeding!!

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SparklyGothKat · 01/01/2007 16:56

After the inital shock of finding out I am pregnant again, I have started bleeding today. Phoned the emergancy gp and of course he said that it could be a miscarriage, so he tried to get me an appointment at the EPU but noone is there, so I have to phone my gp tomorrow.. I have a very slight pain on my right hand side, and the bleeding is light. I asked about ectopic pregnancy and he said I would be in serevre pain, which I am not.

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 09/01/2007 01:47

then from what you say it's very much her problem and not yours. my mother is also very anti-abortion and she struggled with the idea of taking the methotrexate, despite completely understanding that it would save my life and that there was no alternative. but she still struggled all the same. i MUST go to bed now... (have left a disgusted message on the Hunker thread to give you a wee laugh - please pay attention to the emoticon... )
night night, try to sleep.

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SparklyGothKat · 09/01/2007 07:33

like it,
The pain this morning is terrible, am trying to get on with my normal jobs. I feel sick from the pain. Considering the pain, I thought that I would be bleeding heavily. but its not. Hardly anything there.

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Tutter · 09/01/2007 07:41

hi SGK - have been following your thread. so sorry you haven't had better news . i'm glad though that it sounds as though you can avoid surgery/metho.

aitch - i have to ask who you posted as on the EPT boards. i was a regular poster from 2003-early 2005, mostly on the friendship and ttc (then pg) boards - am intrigued as to whether i "know" you...?

lissielou · 09/01/2007 07:48

oh sgk at your mum! is dp at home with you today?

pindy · 09/01/2007 08:20

I know it is easy so say - but try to take it easy and rest today, not so easy to do! My thoughts are with you and no matter why it happened it is still very sad and you need to grieve.

Take care. X

PinkElephant · 09/01/2007 08:55

Aitch - I am just spotting each day, nothing too heavy but fairly continuous. Having the odd cramps but not much. Is this normal? Will I have a mammoth period at the end of this month? Also will my cycles be knocked out as well - not sure if the methotrexate is enough to stop ovulation etc. Don't worry we are taking the medical advise and are not going to try for at least 3 months but was curious.

I'm sure something happens to our mum's when they hit the menopause, they seem to be as subtle as a sledgehammer. There has been many occasion I have looked at my mum and cringed thinking "Gawd - did you really say that out loud??!!"

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 09/01/2007 12:10

i know, pinkelephant, sometimes i hear her and think 'is that my mum or jade goody's mum?'
i think the period thing is different for everyone, but by about three cycles it should have normalised again. i seem to remember having pretty heavy periods, though, but i'm sure others didn't.

tutter, i posted briefly as h and then hx, i got a lot out of those boards but friendship wasn't one of those things. there was a woman who took against me quite early on who was (and still is, i note) a bit of a top dog.

i like talkboards, but i'm not one for reporting on my every fart and squeak, but this brainless woman loved to talk in great detail about every sodding half-baked thought that she had, so loads of pepole thought she was fantastic but she used to drive me nuts, tbh. so i kept it fairly business-like on the boards, soaked up the info and gave advice where possible.

Tutter · 09/01/2007 12:53
AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 09/01/2007 14:25

who were you, were you tutter there as well?
see they didn't have a pedants' corner... who knew that's what i really needed?

nah, i wasn't mates with anyone really, tbh. i remember chimp, though, was unbelievably delighted when she got pregnant, she seemed like a very nice sort.

Tutter · 09/01/2007 15:06

yeh, no pedants' corner, no boden discussions, no flounces. what kind of a message board does it call itself?

i was (and still am - pop in occasionally) vickym - started using the ept site long before i considered online anonymity...

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SparklyGothKat · 09/01/2007 16:38

HCG levels have dropped at 170 so I no longer need to be seen, which I am glad about. DH is with me. Kept myself busy today as I am a flitter normally and can;t sit still, and needed to keep some normality

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Tutter · 09/01/2007 16:48

bittersweet news i guess SGK - sorry for your loss but relieved you can move on without any further intervention xx

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SparklyGothKat · 09/01/2007 17:01

Today the crib I got off a MNetter turned up. I am fine about it being here, surprisely!! I haven't taken it out of the box, I am not ready for that but I can have it in the house, though DH is going to put it into the loft for me.

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SparklyGothKat · 09/01/2007 17:31

I have hardly cried this time, I feel that I am wrong for not grieving right IYKWIM.

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Tutter · 09/01/2007 18:08

there's no right or wrong way to deal with these things. given your situation - having avoided surgery - i think it would be natural to feel some relief along with other emotions. if it does hit you later though, don't try to ignore it.

CocoLoco · 09/01/2007 18:57

You can only feel how you feel, I'm not grieving over my mc either, it was so early. But if you do feel differently at some point that's fine too. Just take time to recover physically and emotionally, and don't worry about how you "should" be feeling.

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 09/01/2007 20:44

i agree with tutter (henceforth to my mind vickym - reminds me, must email robin!)
you've had so many nightmare scenarios offered (often my me ) this week that you're entitled to feel a bit of relief that they're not coming to pass.
you've had a terrible fright, you've been in terrible pain, and you've had a loss... give yourself time to get your head round it before you start beating yourself up about what you are and aren't feeling.

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SparklyGothKat · 10/01/2007 00:02

I have passed something which I can only describe as something that looks like raw chicken skin with some blood. Don;t remember anything like that before..

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kid · 10/01/2007 00:07

Sorry to hear the SPK, try and get some rest. Don't know what else to say

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 10/01/2007 00:12

i passed quite a lot of things like that, both times. i assumed it was the lining. i did, of course, panic that it was the baby but i was reassured that this was very, very unlikely.

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SparklyGothKat · 10/01/2007 00:19

phew, thought it was the baby. Have just dyed my hair, to make myself feel better I feel ok now, my parents came round earlier with presents for the kids. DD2 was messing around tonight and I went to the loo and found her asleep on the stairs with her legs stuck through the bottom stairgate DH carried her upstairs for me, as I am still a bit crampy, and we burst into fits of laughter afterwards.

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 10/01/2007 00:24

aaawww. how gorgeous.

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SparklyGothKat · 10/01/2007 00:29

She does make me laugh sometimes, she is 5 now and she is so sweet, when I woke up this morning she had just come into my room and climbed in for a cuddle, when suddenly I started to get huge cramps, I was doubled up and crying out, and she was like 'mummy, whats wrong, mummy' She was so concerned, bless her. I managed to get to the toliet and she was still worried about me, until she got her breakfast, of course She is my special surprise baby, the one we were never going to have, until she decided that she would make a surprise appearance.

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 10/01/2007 00:40

d'you know, that's something i slightly worry about? i see dd at one and she's so AMAZING that i think there's no way i'll still find her so cute/sweet/hilarious when she's older.

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SparklyGothKat · 10/01/2007 00:49

I still find DS cute,funny and sweet and he is 9 now. He has been so concerned about me, doing things and even offering to make tea (even though we have never let him make tea lol) he has been an angel, he has been making his and his sisters warm milk in the mornings, and just been so helpful. He keeps hugging me and asking if I am ok.

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