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I have started bleeding!!

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SparklyGothKat · 01/01/2007 16:56

After the inital shock of finding out I am pregnant again, I have started bleeding today. Phoned the emergancy gp and of course he said that it could be a miscarriage, so he tried to get me an appointment at the EPU but noone is there, so I have to phone my gp tomorrow.. I have a very slight pain on my right hand side, and the bleeding is light. I asked about ectopic pregnancy and he said I would be in serevre pain, which I am not.

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Carmenere · 07/01/2007 23:33

I don't know love, best ask gp.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:35

i don;t remember what I was told last time, we didn;t try again for 5 months last time

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 23:39

depends on what is happening. if it's an ectopic and treated with metho, three months is the recommended wait. i think if it's a miscarriage than whenever you feel strong enough to try again. i imagine it would be the same if ep was self-resolving, but amn't sure.

can i direct you to the post i wrote before? i am very familiar with the whole 'my body is shit therefore i am shit' theory. my body is a bit shit, tbh, and i know that. but i'm a good mum and so far as anyone deserves to be a parent then i do. and it's the same for you too.

but honestly, sweetheart, beat yourself up all you like, you need to... and then one day you won't. you'll know that you did everything with a true heart and it's unlucky and shitey that things worked out badly. but nothing to do with your decisions, really.

i didn't deserve my ectopics, you didn't deserve your miscarriage and this latest loss, and conversely useless and annoying people don't deserve their good fortune or abundant fertility. life just isn't like that, sometimes we don't get what we deserve or want and sometimes we do. life's flukey.

how's dh doing? he must be exhausted with all this... give him a cuddle from me will you? the chaps do get very left out when this sort of thing happens.

Biglips · 07/01/2007 23:45

im so sorry to hear about your baby loss {{{{hugs}}}}

hunkermunker · 07/01/2007 23:50

Oh, darling, I'm so very sorry

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:51

but why me, I am not a bad person, yet life has throw me the joker card I am sure. I have had nothing but shit for years now, I just want an easy and nice life. I don;t want a perfect pregnancy just one that doesn't end in miscarriage or premature births, i hate this

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 23:53

i know. why you? it's not fair. i'm so sorry.

misdee · 07/01/2007 23:55
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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:55

i have been looking up things that could cause my problems and I can only find 2 things, Group B strep infection which I know Dd1 had in SCBU and BV. I need to be check for these really..

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 23:59

i have both. or had. or have again, who knows? they're incredibly common.

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 00:09

but if it is one of these that has caused my problems then I can be treated. You would have thought that after 3 premature labours and 1 (well 2 now) miscarriages that they would have investigated it wouldn;t you??

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Harry2007 · 08/01/2007 00:12

Perhaps it's something that needs to be investigated further. IME, with regards to MW's and Consultants, if you don't ask, you don't get - there's no harm in asking whether it is something that needs to be considered in future pregnancies.

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 08/01/2007 00:13

nope. i had to tell the EPT about the possible BV link. they didn't even know. get them to do a swab tomorrow while you're in for your scan, that'll help put your mind at rest.

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 00:13

but I did ask the consulatant when pregnant with dd2. He just said that I had a 70% chance of another premature labour and I possibly could carry to term. Never been investigated,

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 08/01/2007 00:19

it's a simple test, i'm sure they'll do it for you tomorrow. although if they took any cultures while you were pregnant then i think you would have been tested automatically. i was.

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 00:24

Don;t remember any swabs being taken when I was pregannt with dd2. I might have done, remember them looking up 'there' lol

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 08/01/2007 00:27

sweetheart are you going to get cross with me if i tell you to take your dh to bed and cry and cry and cry again? you're both going through something very rubbish...

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 00:35

he is ignoring me, i don;t think he is dealing with this

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FlamesparrowThePirate · 08/01/2007 00:42

Oh no, only just got back to you

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 08/01/2007 00:45

yeah, tricky one that. men are a bit rubbish about this sort of thing. dh didn't know whether he was coming or going. just wanted me to be 'okay'. which i wasn't.
he also told me that he felt terrible that he'd done this to me (by getting me pregnant) and couldn't bear the thought that he was causing me such physical and mental pain. we didn't have DD then, so i don't know how he'd have been if he'd known what it was like to be a dad, then. his reaction, that the baby wasn't a baby and didn't matter to him as much as i did, really hurt my feelings. but of course i can totally see where he was coming from.

PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 09:46

Sparkly - I really hope things are ok for you with your scan today. If you need advice Aitch is an absolute darling and was there for me a week ago (thank you Aitch) and I have just recently gone through an ectopic and can talk you through what happened to me. I was told by my Registrar that there are 3 types of ectopics and it all depends which catorgaory you are in as to whether it can naturally miscarry or whether you will need medical or surgical intervention. I opted for medical intervention ie the methotrexate and am having my Beta HCG measure every 48hrs and it is now very slowly starting to creep down from 949. We have been told not to try for a minimum of 3months as it remains in your blood stream for this amount of time and I'm really hoping I don't need another injection otherwise we can't try for 6months.
Please let us know how you get on.... really hope things are ok for you.

Aitch - thank you again

CocoLoco · 08/01/2007 10:38

Oh SGK, I'm so sorry it's ended like this, and I understand the 'why do shit things keep happening to me' (exactly the thought process I'm going through atm as I'm getting to the end of my mc) but please don't blame yourself. Hope it goes ok today.

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 12:04

i;m back from my scan. There is nothing in my womb or tube, but the doctor thinks that its a collasped ectopic pregnancy which is what the pain was on thursday. They have decided to do nothing and let natural take its course. My HCG levels are being checked again, and i have to take pregnancy test in a week to check that the pregnancy has completely finished.

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Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 12:08

Oh Sparkly.

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SparklyGothKat · 08/01/2007 12:08

she did say that with my next pregnancy I can request a scan early on.

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