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I have started bleeding!!

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SparklyGothKat · 01/01/2007 16:56

After the inital shock of finding out I am pregnant again, I have started bleeding today. Phoned the emergancy gp and of course he said that it could be a miscarriage, so he tried to get me an appointment at the EPU but noone is there, so I have to phone my gp tomorrow.. I have a very slight pain on my right hand side, and the bleeding is light. I asked about ectopic pregnancy and he said I would be in serevre pain, which I am not.

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 21:46

no, it's 'self-resolving' so the little embryo just fades away. sad, really sad.
some docs will still want to give an injection of methotrexate to be on the safe side but forward-thinking doctors try to avoid giving it if possible. i'm with them, actually, i've had metho and it's a pretty serious drug, so i'd be reluctant to have it again.
it's called 'expectant management' i think. they check the hcg levels and continue to scan. skg i know it's a lot to take in but if it is an ectopic try to ask the docs about this if they start talking metho.

bambi06 · 07/01/2007 21:49

i took a map once and had a missed miscarriage with it..i had normal pegnancy symptoms etc and when i had a scan at 12 weeks it showed that the baby had died at 9 weeks but my body hadnt responded..bloody MAP didnt work and i wont take one again..i actually wanted the baby once the pregnancy progressed but i`m sure the MAP had something to do with it..

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 21:49

I thought it might be because i am older now than when I had my first miscarriage. I was only 20 when I had the first one and i was devastated, I thought I would never stop crying. I am 28 (on the 13th) now and I thought that because I am older I can deal with things better IYKWIM. My mum didn;t help tonight by saying 'well you shouldn't take the MAP, because it can cause this type of thing' thanks mum!!

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 21:51

my mum said some unbelievable things to me... i think it's cos they don't know what to say.
maybe it is cos you're older, but in my case it was like FIT said, you just kinda know what you are doing the second time, grimly enough.

aprilmeadow · 07/01/2007 21:52

Sparkly, i have been reading your thread and am so sorry that the news was not good. Thinking of you x

foundintranslation · 07/01/2007 21:53

I really think it's experience rather than age that makes the difference with these things, sparkly. It may yet hit you at some point - I was very together the whole week my 3rd mc was being diagnosed and treated and then hit rock bottom the Monday after - that is also entirely normal.
at your mum.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 21:55

I have the scan tomorrow at the first hospital I went to on thursday, but I don;t want to be treated there, can I request to be treated at the lister??

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 21:57

don't know, tbh. maybe you should phone them tomorrow and ask?

QuootieRedBullFreepie · 07/01/2007 21:59

I haven't been on this thread, but been lurking with fingers crossed for you darling - I'm so sorry

{{HUGS}}

xXxXxXx

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 21:59

scan is at 8:30 so don't think I will be able to phone them before. I going to have a bath now, need to get my head round all this..

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coppertop · 07/01/2007 22:09

I'm so sorry, SGK.

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 22:11

go for the scan and depending on what the offered after-care is then ask to transfer. i think you have the right under the patients' choice thing, but you might have to argue a bit and you might not be in the mood.
if it's just bloods and a scan then you could maybe have the bloods done at the GP.

Harry2007 · 07/01/2007 23:03

So sorry to hear your news SKG - thinking of you xxx

misdee · 07/01/2007 23:08

so sorry sis. xx

you and other sis will have babies soon i hope.

thinking of you.

might pop over on wednesday if thats ok?

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:09

I feel that my body is useless, I can't even carry a normal pregnancy to term (my kids were all born prematurely) and I have lost 2 babies now, bloodly crap...

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:10

should be ok misdee

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misdee · 07/01/2007 23:10

nan didnt carry any of hers full term. all were early.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:14

and she lost a few too misdee, I don;t know if I can do this again.. bloodly crap useless body.....

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misdee · 07/01/2007 23:14

i know hun. i know.

but its not a useless body. you know that.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:18

It is, I think I was never supposed to have kids, its only because of medical treatment that my kids lived. My body is useless and i am hate myself atm, I did this... I took the MAP and I did this...

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misdee · 07/01/2007 23:20

at the time, you did what was right for you, you cant see into the future. the MAP was right for you. Even without taking the MAP this may still have happened.

Carmenere · 07/01/2007 23:21

SGK bad things happen to good people. Don't beat yourself up, you couldn't have known, can your dh give you a hug. My heart goes out to you.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:27

and I feel so horrible for thinking like this when GGG has lost her little girl

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Carmenere · 07/01/2007 23:30

Don't feel bad you are entitled to your grief too. It's a shit thing to happen and a shit way for it to happen (MAP). It is just shit but beyond your control so try to let go of the guilt, it is a useless emotion, it won't do anyone any good.

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SparklyGothKat · 07/01/2007 23:31

when can I try again, I don;t want to replace this baby, I just want a baby

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