Pregnant at forty and over - thread 2

[cloudjumper]

To continue the support for those of us who are pregnant at forty and over.

[Marquand]

April, jollyroger, teabags

Good luck to all of you awaiting results (and the people I might have missed). The beginning is really the toughest, especially if you're a geriatric mother to be (like me...) and everywhere you see how big a risk it actually can be. And a history of one or more miscarriage doesn't help the anxiety.

I had my 32 week scan today. Baby boy seems to be doing well. I'm a bit worried that he is now on a slightly lower percentile than he used to be, but the doctor doesn't seem worried. I'll go with her vote.

I've had 2 months of being sick - sinus, post nasal drip, bronchitis, coughing, vomiting - and threw up just before I left the office for my appointment. I now have a script for antibiotics in my bag, and I'll be filling it on my way home. I hope it goes better than the course I took a month ago, which just made me throw up more, and didn't do anything to make me better. (Different drug).

Funny - when sitting upright, my BP measured 144/94. I know once before it went down a lot when I was horizontal, so I suggested a second reading. The measurement lying down was 124/74. Has anyone else seen such a huge difference?

[jollyroger2]

Thanks for the support, AprilSkies! Don't suppose you heard today, did you?

I'm really suffering this week with exhaustion / headaches which somehow makes the weight more unbearable. Moan moan!

Thinking of you!

[jollyroger2]

I was told probably 7 days, possibly Friday this week, but otherwise next Monday I hope!

[NurseMellie]

Thinking of you Aprilskies. I had my booking appt today and all went well. She put me as 9 weeks and said to go by my dates and not the early scan. I'm high risk so will have consultant led care which I knew I would anyway.
Had some spotting yesterday so was really worried about that. All fine today thou so just gonna take it easy which is easier said than done when I'm a nurse !
Anyway hope everyone is well. Mel x

[Rugby01]

Hi all. Good luck for tomorrow April - let us know how you get on.

Hope you manage to take it easy nursemellie - I can imagine in your line of work it's easier said than done.

I'm trying my first 'non alcoholic' beer. On my own in a pub. As my 'D'P has been a complete ----. I really am less tolerant of his mood swings at the moment as I have enough to deal with.

[Bluebird126]

Good luck April!

[Bluebird126]

Good luck to everyone waiting for their results, I know what you're going through - I'm 20 weeks now, had the Nifty blood test (similar to Harmony) a few weeks ago - all good thank God, but the wait was awful. Big hugs!

[NurseMellie]

Aww that's not on. Really hope you get the news today and that its all ok xxx

[NurseMellie]

Aww I am so sorry to read this but totally understand honey. Sending you lots of love and thinking of you at this sad time xxx

[teabagsmummy]

So sorry to hear your news april
Sending you hugs at this very difficult time

[dats]

Oh April I'm so sorry you are going through this. Lots of love to you and your family xxx

[Whatabanana]

So sorry aprilxx

[jollyroger2]

I'm so sorry to hear that, Vic (April). Thinking of you through this very difficult time. My heart goes out to you. Much love xx

[Bessiebigpants]

I just tested this morning and I'm pregnant I will be 42 on December I'm a single mum of 3 youngest about to go to big school.I work fulltime andneed to continue to do so I'm too old and too scared Baby's Dad is a casual thing.Someone tell me I can do this.

[NurseMellie]

Congratulations bessiebigpants( lol love your name btw) . You can do this.
I'm 45 with two teenagers.
Welcome xx

[dats]

Course you bloody can, woman. Pull those big pants up and get cracking

Big congrats

dats (43 and 36w with DC2, DD is 2)

[Rugby01]

Congratulations Bessiebigpants - of course you can do it!

[Vodkatonicmummy]

Hi All, I'm new to this thread, and could really use some sensible advice. I'm 44, and have found out I'm pregnant, from LMP I'm about 6 and a half weeks now. I have a family (all teenagers) and wasn't TTC, just didn't use contraception, as thought I was heading for early menopause (I've had regular but light periods - my mum started menopause at 46) after a MC two years ago.
Positive pregnancy test has really blown me out of the water, I'm struggling to imagine myself as mum of a baby again, and desperately worried that I'll be 60 when the little one is 16 . Are there other mums to be around my age following this thread just now, how do you feel about this?
On a more immediate note, I feel tired like I never have before, I work part time mornings (not a physically demanding job at all) and am returning home around 1:30 to lie on the sofa and sleep until older children arrive home from school. Is this normal, and how long will it continue. I'm feeling quite unsure about the pregnancy if I'm going to feel like this for the duration.... is there light at the end of the tunnel, or this this the price of being an older mum to be?
DP is supportive, but trying not to get his hopes up about being a dad (for the first time at 49), in case it all ends the same way as last time when we both felt devastated and bereft after MC at 7 weeks in 2014. He keeps saying it's my decision whether to continue or not, and he'll support either way etc.
Has anyone else had doubts like this, or am I being a totally unreasonable whinger? Totally understand if anyone tells me to pull myself together and man up - maybe that's what I need.
Thank you
xx

[Bluebird126]

Hi Vodka
Pregnant with my first DC at 21 weeks and just turned 45! Can confidently report lots of exhaustion and afternoon napping here, alongside huffing and puffing up the stairs and grunting whenever I bend down. I was pretty fit before and my diet is very good - I think we just have to accept it'll be a bit harder going on our bodies at this age. Good luck with the pregnancy and don't give yourself a hard time - it's pretty amazing for this to happen naturally mid-forties! X