Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Handholding go - maybe ask the midwife at booking in if you can get a scan at epu to reassure you? Xxx

Hello all, very quietly poking my head in...4.5 weeks after a MMC at nearly 11 weeks in August and a cp last month. Have a 3yo DD and also had a mmc at 13 weeks before her.
I am mentalling HARD and constantly knicker checking. Absolutely convinced this one will go wrong too. My last MMC ended up with an emergency ERPC after being blue lighted to hospital for haemorrhage and I really don't want that to happen again. I feel constantly tense and it's knackering. Going to push GP for an early scan referral once I'm 6+ weeks but I have no idea how to get through the fortnight til then!

Hello all (waves)...
I've not been on here much lately, but I have been following the thread. Not much going on with me really, which is good I guess! Had what I assume to be the odd Braxton hicks contraction, lost a fair amount of mucusy stuff the day after dh and I had sex (was not left over swimmers) panicked and thought it may be the mucus plug....? Guess it would regenerate if it were to have come away a little? Mw appointment tomorrow to hear baby's hb for first time! Not looking forward to getting on the scales though Doc put me on a months worth of antibiotics as I've got pretty major pg acne! Not one of those 'positively glowing' women, that's for sure!
Any ways, just wanted to say hi, I haven't forgotten about you all, well done to those of you on your last stretch, and welcome to newbies x

paws! You sound so relaxed, that's wonderful. My mw hasn't weighed me since booking in so you might just escape the scales. Let us know how your appointment goes, I was a snivelling mess after hearing the heartbeat for the first time (and have been every time since).

go Hand holding from over here. It's definitely worth giving your epu a call.

Welcome coco and congratulations on your pregnancy. Fingers crossed everything is tedious and mundane for the next 9 months.

mrsd less than a week!!!

Last antenatal class last night and got hospital this morning to find out more about ginormobaby. Desperately hoping it's not gd but quietly hoping for the magic words of '38 weeks induction'. Like you've both mentioned cloud and mrsd, movement monitoring also through the roof here now it's just starting to feel real. Still scared of jinxing things though so still batting away any feelings of excitement that pop up.

Less than a week unless they change it nouser. Today I've decided it'll be cancelled, but that's just my crazy pregnancy head imagining every eventuality.

Already been on the phone to a couple of mw and the maternity ward today because I'm still spotting old blood (and sorry tmi warning small clots too now) but they are all saying what I've been thinking which is if its old blood don't worry. Doesn't stop me worrying though!

Repacked my bag, again, to include more baby stuff because I figure if I go in now for another bleed I might not get out again. Without a baby that is.

Contemplating wrapping Xmas presents but might have a nap first. This us the oddest maternity leave. Trying to take it easy and not scrubbing my house clean or do anything is difficult. Actually find myself trying not to promote a healthy labour position so baby doesn't engage and cause me more problems. All very backwards.

Let us know how this morning goes nouser

paws I'm sure the mucous was nothing. It can be bonkers in pregnancy but worth checking with your mw.

Welcome newbies xx

Sorry to hear you're still spotting mrsd but you are doing the right thing to seek reassurance. I'll keep my fingers crossed that you don't get bumped off the list.

Appointment this morning was interesting, turns out that for me baby is 50th centile! They introduced customised growth charts here in the last couple of years, so the standard one from the scan came out looking humungous, however when the measurements were plotted on mine (produced based on height, weight and ethnicity randomly) he was following the curve nicely. Why this couldn't have been done sooner and warranted a consultant appointment I'll never know! Consultant also confirmed he is head down now and discharged me straight back to mw led care. Feel very relieved but now going to research raspberry leaf as I don't want to go overdue, anxiety will be through the roof by then as it is! Anyone got any good tips for bringing on labour?

Good news about your baby's size nouser, I can imagine that must've been a relief. Not really got any tips for bringing on labour, I'm not sure anything worked for me last time.

mrsd sorry to hear about the spotting, but it sounds like it's nothing to worry about (easier said than done I'm sure!).

I had my pre-op appointment today at the hospital where they talk you through what will happen on the day of the section, all sounds quite calm and relaxed. Just hope I'll make it until next Wednesday, as I've been having a lot of pelvic pain and backache and general premenstrual feeling since yesterday evening...

Welcome to the newbies, I hope you'll find some support on here to get you through those early weeks.

diddly sorry to hear about the spotting, try not to worry if it's brown my lovely (mind you I can talk, I too panicked when I had the brown spotting) x

Good news about baby's size nouser, what a relief for you! X

metal glad things are moving along smoothly for you x

Everything was very routine today, heard hb for a brief 4-5 seconds...they were so busy there today!

hi...

I promised myself I wouldnt post until after the first trimester because leaving the antenatal group last time was probably one of the hardest parts of losing my little girl :(

After a horrendous tfmr after the 12 week scan in August, I got my bfp about 2 weeks ago - no idea how far along I am as I only stopped bleeding from losing my dd about 2 weeks ago

I have my dating and viability scan tomorrow and I'm terrified of everything - that i won't see a hb, that it's a mmc, that I will see a hb and that they will find something wrong, that I'll see a hb and they won't find anything wrong which will let me hope - only to find something wrong later on... the list is endless!! It's made worse by not knowing what I should be seeing (hcg levels last thursday were 14000 if anyone knows what that means) but also that the pm on my dd came back inconclusive, so we don't know if it's likely to recur.

I know what a lifeline the mc thread to me was last time (although technically it wasnt a mc) and I recognise some of you from there! Just need a bit of hand holding to get me through the scan tomorrow...

Congratulations everyone!!

Hi all. Lots to catch up on.

Those of you with c sections booked, I think on 2nd, might be worth asking what will happen if Dr strike goes ahead. Did they mention? I'm trying to plan all appointments around it.

Noodle, I know exactly how you feel. I haven't joined an antenatal thread this time. Sorry about your previous loss, but try and remember there is more chance than it being OK than not.

I had nice scam today with my consultant. 9+3 and saw arms and legs moving. I sware I have felt baby move, especially in the few days before it rose out of pelvis.. Thankfully it has moved up as I was having trouble seeing.

Less nice today was my first (of many) clexane injection as I tested positive again for lupus anticoagulant. Nurse did the first, now it's down to me.
Also, consultant told me I'd be crazy to go on holiday abroad (flying) as planned so that ends my dreams of sunshine and a last holiday before baby.

No tips for bringing on labour, I had induction at + 14 days then c section. Just try and relax whilst you can. I went to theatre, cinema and nice meals out during impatient wait....as well as pineapple by the bucket, raspberry tea, walking miles and sex!

Ummm, I had trouble weeing not seeing bloody hell autocorrect.... And a scan not a scam!

Welcome noodle, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. That whole experience must have been heartbreaking. Congratulations on your pregnancy, just remember it is a new egg with just as much of a chance aa any other pregnancy. Hope all goes well tomorrow, do let us know how you get on.

Thanks for the well wishes everyone, it is indeed a relief. Dare I say I'm getting a bit excited now?

Great news that the baby is perfectly normal nouser. The size estimation is so random!

Good scan news cotton, sorry you tested positive for lupus again, but glad you have got something that you can treat.

Welcome noodle, so nice to see you over this side and big congratulations on your new pregnancy. And it is exactly that, a new pg entirely different to the last. It's so nerve wracking to go through pregnancy after losing a child, particularly after what you've been through, but you will get through it. Big squeezy hand hold for tomorrow xx

Hi everyone,

Think I'm in the right place. I had a MC in June with my first pregnancy at 12+6. Baby had cystic hygroma and hydrops. We had fertility treatment just prior to that but actually fell pregnant naturally. Miracle after over 2yrs ttc.

So forward to today and we were supposed to be starting treatment again this month but I put it off to after Christmas. AF is a day late and none of my usual signals that it's on the way so just did a test. Sorry for TMI but had already peed twice this morning so def not FMU. Definite line, faint but definitely there. Last time I didn't test until 2 days late.

Don't really know why I'm posting, I'm pretty sure the line is there and I know what that means but need to tell someone!!

Fucccckkkkkk

Congratulations echoes! Your head must be spinning. Wishing you an uneventful 8 months ahead of you :)

cotton hopefully the injections will get easier. Are you on them for the duration? Been told that c sections won't be affected by the strike. Fingers crossed that's true!

So I'm home alone and realised this is my first of 2 days (my only 2 days) home alone that I will have before baby comes next week. Madness!

Congrats on your positive test echo. It's such a whirlwind of emotions isn't it.

Did my first injection after much worry. Another 30 weeks of them I think which makes 210 more! Maybe I can stop sooner, consultant referred me to haematology so I will quiz them. Won't want to take to due date as I will probably have c section.

Mrs, I hope you enjoyed your home alone time. Not long now!

Hi again ladies, I apologise in advance for the 'me' post, but just want your thoughts on this as its really upsetting me.....
When we went to our midwife/doctor appointment yesterday comments keep being made and asked be the doctor (I'm seeing specialist doctors along side midwifes due to my mental health history, only ocd/anxiety, nothing serious)
I was feeling really scrutinized and separated from a 'normal' pregnancy and mum to be.....but they assured me it's just routine. After the appointment dh kept on and on making sarcy comments like "oooooh, they seem really interested in you, they were never like this from what I remember (from his previous dcs) funny that isn't it" comments like those, you can imagine how unsupported by him I felt, he was really insinuating that I should be concerned, at was very sarcastic. I really need reassurance that what they are saying and the questions they're asking are routine and not directed at me personally! I told him this, and he changes the subject calling me lazy and that I do nothing, and that I'm treating pg as an illness!
Trust me I do my fair share, including cooking, laundry, etc
.....Now I know this time its NOT hormones! I am really upset by his attitude towards the whole thing, he's told me that from now I'm on my own and I can do everything pregnancy related all by myself....which suits me fine as don't want to be anywhere near him atm. This is not how I pictured a supporting husband to be, I'm extremely upset

Oh paws my dh has only recently started coming to appts with me and that's because I can't always answer his questions about what i've been told. What kinds of things were they asking you? I would try not to worry too much and I'm sure it was just routine. They'll just want to make sure they are giving you all the support you need. Guys deal with pregnancy completely differently to us. They don't appreciate how tough it can be, esp after mc when anxiety is higher anyway.

Hi paws, sorry about your dh.

I remember you from the threads after my loss and you were going through such a hard time then but you fell pg again so quickly!. Try to focus positivity in your baby and ignore him - take support from us until he grows up a bit and i hope you have other rl support too.

Had my scan yesterday, baby is a week behind what i think but a week at thise measurements is so tiny - i think thats fairly common? Main thing was a vv strong heartbeat. My worries are different from yours on this thread i suppose, miscarriage isnt what panics me its abnormalities they might find later on... but for now its the best outcome i suppose!

paws The doctor only asked those questions to make sure the right kind of support is in place, that is the only reason and certainly no judgement on you. Like noodle said, give him space to grow up and come and vent here. Men just don't get pregnancy, I think a lot of the time they say things like this is because they are frustrated at not being able to understand and with the knowledge that they will never experience this. keep looking after yourself.

Last few days mrsd, hope the spotting has calmed down now.

Paws, I'm sorry your dh upset you. Has he maybe not seen the full effects of the anxiety on you previously? I had anxiety and pnd after my daughter and I think it was a shock for my dh to see the confident person I was disappear. I'd suffered before, but it was before I met him. If your dh is fully aware then he's being a bit of a dick, I would let him know how hurt you are.
My Midwife asked me if I wanted a referral on Monday, I turned it down as trying to be positive but I'm in a similar boat.

Noodle, was it your 6 week scan? Same happened to me and doctor said heartbeat is most important at that stage. It's only 0.5 cm so room for error on measurement. She measured a second time as I was worried and it went up almost a week. By next scan at 8 weeks I was stop on dates. All sounds positive.

So sorry to hear that your DH is such a twat, paws So he wants you to do it all by yourself from now on?! What a shitty attitude... You might want to remind him that it takes two to make a baby, he is 50% invested in this! Has he always been so immature? If he has DCs already, he really should know better I would be really upset about this, too! Can you sit him down for a proper talk, once things are a bit calmer, to explain how you feel?

cotton Sorry to burst your bubble, but if you have a C-section, they make you do the heparin injections right up until the day before! And if you are going for natural birth, I think you are meant to stop when you go into labour. At least that's what I was told (I'm having an elcs).

Welcome echo and noodle! Here's to a boring and uneventful pregnancy for you!

Do we need a stats list update?!

Yes cloud! I don't mind having a go at one next week, makes sense to wait until after the 2nd though so we can add some lovely new babies to the list?