Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

[Metalhead]

New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Thank you for the reassurance ladies, 'i' know that what they are doing is simply routine. What upsets me is the fact that he would 'sarcasticly imply that I should fear them' he even said last night when I tried to calmly explain to him my feelings, that they will get social services involved and they will take my baby!
Woke up this morning, he has packed his things, taken my wedding ring (that doesn't fit me now pg, it was his grandmothers ring...he has taken it off me multiple times in the past, and I had told him that should he take my wedding ring off me one more time, I won't ever take it back!) he left his wedding ring in replace of mine, has taken the diamond necklace he bought me for Christmas that was eagerly awaiting to be worn, on display in our cabinet...and has driven off in his car...
I have no source of income now, and he knows it, really didn't expect to be a single mum having to claim benefits! I tried to do everything the right way, graduate uni, meet a nice man, get married, and have children...certainly didn't see this coming

Oh paws I'm so sorry. Whatever you do now, make sure you put yourself and your baby first. Have you got people close by?

I've got my god father...im not close with my mum and my dad died when I was very young...ive got a couple of close friends who are amazing, so I do have people I can talk to...feel embarrassed though x

Don't feel embarrassed paws he is acting like a child. And needs to grow up. You and baby come first. Have you spoken to your close RL friends about what's currently going on? They'll want to make sure you are OK xx

I have, but they are so busy...one is a social worker and has to work silly hours, but she helps me as much she can...the other works 13 hour shifts as a store manager and juggles a 1 year old, so I very rarely get to see her...They are both always there on the end of the phone if I txt.
I just feel so stupid for assuming he would change once there was a child involved, all having a child has done is given him another way to hurt me. X

Don't you dare feel embarrassed paws, you have absolutely nothing to feel that way about, this is all him. We are here for support too. Friends are always busy, however friends make time when it is needed so reach out to them, they will want to make sure that you are ok.

Thank you guys, I have a friend coming over after she's done her last home visit xx

Well it was a dating/viability scan not a 6 week one as didnt know how far gone i was. I bled/spotted continuously after losing dd at the beginning of august until the end of october!

Paws im so sorry :( look after yourself and baby - thats the priority. Life moves on so quickly and theres always something waiting for you around the corner, glad you have rl support

Thank you noodle...so, have you just had a dating scan? X

I'm sorry paws, that's really shit and bad timing. I hope you are bearing up OK and manage to get some sleep tonight x

Paws oh that is so rubbish, what a complete a**hole. You will be ok! Sounds as if you're better off without him, but of course it's not what you needed right now! Look after yourself, you have come so far and been so strong! Sending hugs and handholds xx

Thanks guys, managed to get to sleep around 4 so had a few hours xxx

How are you doing today paws?

My friend has had a baby! It's got me really excited now, which is much needed after all the constant worrying. Really looking forward to meeting her little one, although the constant feeling that I'm destined to be another statistic is still there a bit.

How are you getting on mrsd and metal now you are in the last few days?

I had my miscarriage in August.
I found out this time last week that I am pregnant. Very nervous and just praying all will be ok this time.

Hope you're doing ok paws, sorry your DH is being such a tit.

Congrats on your friends baby nouser! It does make it all a bit more real when you see or hear about a little newborn doesn't it? Glad you're feeling a bit more excited now.

Well DH and I had a little trip to the hospital this evening due to reduced movements. Thankfully all is fine, and of course now that it's bedtime for me the little madam has started up her usual disco routine again! Just three more sleeps until this pregnancy will finally be over...

How are you feeling today paws?

metal Glad that everything is ok and that she's now having a party! I keep thinking when would I have to go and get checked, I find this movement thing so random!

Welcome holly Being pg after mc is always so scary! Here's to an uneventful 8-ish months for you.

Three more weeks, and I will be meeting my baby! I have started getting very emotional, it's pathetic... Even a song on the radio can set me off We got the baby clothes down from the loft, and SIL gave me back the clothes I gave to her a few years ago for her second. It feels so weird going through them and recognising the ones that DS used to wear.
I now also have everything for my hospital bag, now all I have to do is to pack it

hello ladies, mind if i join you?

i found out a week ago that i'm pregnant again immediately following my MMC and ERPC on 21/10. so not really sure of my dates, could be anywhere between 5w 5d or 4w 3d (what the nurse told me based on HCG tests last week).

i have incredibly mild, and very intermittent symptoms right now - tiniest bit of indigestion and sometimes a really strong pulse - but just feeling un-pregnant and absolutely terrified of another MMC. is anyone else symptom-less at this stage?

thanks for the positivity and reassurance i've already seen on this thread, and good luck and good health to everyone here!

Thank you everyone for your support over the last few days...things are improving, its been alot of talking and acceptance on both sides, and we have agreed we both need more from each other. Talking properly has helped a great deal, and I'm so pleased that he was finally able to talk to me properly...men find it very difficult don't they? Its going to be a long road to get to where we need to be, but I truly hope we get there.
We both want a happy stable home for quickly approaching dc...and we 'do' love each other deeply...the course of true love really doesn't run smoothly does it, but if you both 'truly' love one another then the bumpy road is definitely worth the journey!

Welcome newbies! May you all have an uneventful and boring pregnancy with a lovely bundle of joy waiting at the end!

To those so close to the finish line...well done, you must be so excited!

Xxx

Good to hear from you paws and pleased things are improving. We're all here for you x

Feeling more excited than I have all pregnancy. Should go to bed but my insomnia is terrible atm. 2 sleeps

Welcome newbies. Wishing boring 8 months ahead of you

2 sleeps diddly! Amazing x

Best of luck to you both tomorrow mrsd and metal. Looking forward to your birth announcements! Bet there won't be much sleep for either of you tonight...

Exciting how close some of you are to the end goal! Good luck, hope it all goes smoothly x

Sorry you've had a crap time paws. Don't think any relationship is ever truly perfect despite outward appearances but I'm glad to hear you're talking

Hi Clara, nice to see you on the other side!

Think I'm about 7w3d ish. Still waiting for dating scan appointment which is obv gonna be after Xmas. Slightly disappointed that I won't have it before Xmas but otherwise feeling OK, no symptoms other than tiredness still.

Hi all, our baby girl was born this morning at 10.32am weighing 7lbs 11oz, looking very much like her big sister only with dark hair! Mum & baby both doing fine, and so far she's been a little star, feeding ok and sleeping a lot.

Thanks so much for everyone's support over the past months, and I hope you all get to hold your own little bundles one day! x

Congratulations metal! That is fantastic news, enjoy those cuddles

Wonderful news. I just want the next 30 weeks to really speed up. Talk of tiny (sleepy) newborns, just awww. Enjoy cuddles and rest well xx