Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Despite having to take anti-emetics and still having perms-nausea, exhaustion and sore , I have just POAS at 9w1d... My sane mind knows it was daft, but my paranoia and the fact that every day is draaaaaaaagging forced me to do this silly thing. Obvs it was a faint positive (as expected) and I'm kicking myself for being so silly but I've got my consultant appt on Tues and it seems to be making me more worried that it's all gone wrong again!

Tabby I bought a couple of bundles of mat clothes on eBay in my last pgcy (that ended in mc) and a pair of mat jeans in the next sale. I don't think it jinxed anything and, despite me thinking their presence would make me sad, it actually made me want to use them all the more. The fact that they're all the wrong season is neither here nor there I do believe that me buying them made no difference to the outcome of my pregnancy. That said, I'm not sure how long it'll be before I can consider actual baby things...

Mimi I found that the more people I told about my mc, the more I found that others had been affected by it too. Hope your toe is okay after the stair kicking!

dobby Great news on the all clear for your VBAC. It was my dream to have a VBAC but it's not to be, sadly. That said, another c-section genuinely doesn't bother me now. It's getting to that point that does... Not long for you now!

Jay Queasy is good! My totally amazing GP said to me, as he was prescribing anti-emetics when I'd kept nothing down for over 24 hours, "this is a good thing, even if it doesn't feel like it!" I hold on to that thought...

Sorry for the multiple posts- it's hard to see over two pages on my phone!

Went for a reassurance scan today. Measuring 5 weeks not the 7 I thought. Do you thinks there's much hope or am I kidding myself it might be ok?

Sorry to hear you had worrying news Molly. It's my understanding that dates can be more easily confused at that stage. Was there a heartbeat? And did they do blood tests to check your HCG?

No heartbeat sophia just gestational sack. I think I did ovulate late but not 2 wks late!
Not sure what to do with myself now

Was it at a private scanning place? If so, I'd give your local EPAU a call.

Hi Molly, I'm in the same situation as you at the moment. I had scans at 7 and 8 weeks and only saw a sac measuring about 5 wks. I'm going back on Monday for a follow up scan at my EPU, hoping that a little being will be visible, I'll be almost 10 wks then. I've got a retroverted uterus which some think may make scans less reliable at this early stage, also dates can be off and sometimes LOs can just be a bit slow to grow. It's easier said than done but try not to worry at this stage.

Agree with Sophia about getting referred to your local EPU, they should offer you extra scans and keep an eye on you.

Thanks sophia and mimi. Will give EPU a bell Monday.
This scan was a private one she recommended another scan in 10 days hopefully EPU will let me refer myself.
Good luck for your scan Monday mimi

Pmsl @ food lick so sorry that will teach me not to check before I post. Good luck I meant xxx

In would love to have a natural birth but they won't let me either. So pleased for you dobby.

I did pick up a maternity top today but put it back but not because I was worried I was going to jinx it it was because it was to bloody expensive. Lol.

molly so sorry your going though this. Did you have any idea bean was not growing at its correct pace or was it your first scan? I'm keeping everything crossed for you. If EPU say you need a doctors referral just go to your gp show them your scan letter say your beyond worry and then they will refer you there be very cold hearted if they didn't.

What times your scan on Monday mimi ? will be thinking about you.

Can't believe I'm nearly there to my dating scan seems it's been forever. Fingers crossed I make it this time.

Mimi and Molly I'm so sorry you're going through this. Good luck with your scan mimi and definitely call epu Monday Molly, when i needed a referral I told the Drs receptionist what was going on and she organised everything so I didn't need to see a dr.
Chandelier thanks for your support, I've convinced myself nausea is good especially as it didn't start until after the spotting and also I've been starving for two days non stop which has to be a good sign. The spotting has stopped now and I'm feeling much better about everything. Hopefully I'm not kidding myself!! I'm even going to tell my sister tomorrow, I didn't tell her until after mc last time and wished I'd told her earlier.
Keys food lick cracked me up

Hi everyone! I know I haven't posted on here in a while, I hope everyone's getting on ok and welcome any newbies!

I need some advice, I'm 26 weeks today and have developed bad spd, today I noticed my foo foo was swollen like something was going to come out of it, it aches like hell, pain in bum too...is this just another lovely symptom of spd due to unstable pelvis and weak pelvic floor??? Dh just gets angry at me, saying 'every day its something new' no support whatsoever, and don't I have the right to be a little concerned considering I've not long had two miscarriages? Seriously the pain from the spd is awful, terrible back ache, knives in my pubic bone, clicking and popping, electic shocks down bum and legs, back locks, cant stand up without pain, or turn over in bed, let alone get dressed by myself (which dh says I'm making a big deal over, and that he's in pain ever day) he is to be fair but not the same as what I'm going through at all.....

But the swelling and pressure is new as from today

dobby can't believe how close you are...mind you, I'm nearly only 10 weeks shy of being 'full term'

Hi all can i please join your thread?
Im currently 21 weeks pg following 3 mcs. Lots of love & luck to all you ladies in similar positions.xx

Spd is awful allmy sorry you're DH is not more supportive. I think some swelling can be normal too with everything pushing about. Can you call your mw to check? When is your next appointment? Not sure what you have for spd but someone gave me the stretchy bandage things that you put on to support wrists/ankles/knees in supersize to put around my hips. It did help a bit

Hi claire congratulations! How are things going?

Hello and welcome newbies, hope everyone on the first trimester fretting bench is doing ok? keys when's your scan?

paws been wondering how you were, the SPD sounds horrendous, you have my sympathy! Prob worth asking mw about swollen foo foo although don't know what treatment they could suggest . Can I ask when/how you started with SPD? I've been having on off pain in one of my sacroiliac joints since 10 wks preg which is probably too early for it to be SPD but when it occurs it locks and I can't stand properly or turn in bed. Sound similar?

BTW I'm sorry your dh isn't being more sympathetic, its not like we have any control over the weird and wonderful things our bodies come up with.

Paws I remember that feeling only too well; you have my sympathies I found that cool baths helped with both the swelling and the SPD pain and was often found in the bath in the middle of the night when it all got you much! I'm so sorry to hear your DH is unsympathetic. Show him the pelvic partnership website. Some women end up in wheelchairs! I'm very lucky that my DH was/is amazeballs about it all. I had physio, crutches, a belt, good pain relief and a home visit from Occupational Therapy, who loaned me a wide range of equipment to help around the house (pm me if you want any more info).

Sunday, sadly I don't think 10 weeks is too soon for SPD to start... In my first pgcy, I was around 18 weeks when it started and around 12 weeks in my second pgcy. I didn't get even a twinge in my third pgcy (which ended in mmc at 10 weeks) whereas I've already had a few 'Ooh, that's not a nice feeling' moments in this pgcy (currently 9 weeks).

I'm dreading it starting again tbh!!!

Welcome Claire

Good luck to all with scans tomorrow. I have an spot and scan on Tues with my consultant, and I've got to go alone, which has only ever happened once before. Hoping I can be brave whatever the outcome.

too much, not you! That'll teach me to preview!!

Ffs, and another one: I have an appt not a spot!

Paws sorry to hear your spd is so bad. There are some videos on YouTube which might be helpful. My back pain has only flared up occasionally but when it has, any kind of movement has been pretty bad. I have found keeping moving does help though. Also I can relate to the swollen fouf- lots of others in the ante-natal threads have been complaining about it too so I think it's pretty standard

Hand holding for all those on the first trimester fretting bench. I suggest trying to distract yourselves- I'm not sure if it helps (and certainly i can't take my own advice!) but worrying really won't help or change the outcome, what will be will be.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and am so scared. Although we heard the heartbeat last week movement is still quite light and sporadic. I have everything crossed for the all clear!

Keys thanks for the food lick/good luck, feel like I need it. The scan's at 8:40am tomorrow. Picked an early appointment as things invariable run late the later in the day you go. I know there's still a chance everything's going to be ok but I've been feeling like I'm not really pg since before the first scan and have felt even more like a fraud since my scans. The idea of buying maternity clothes or any baby things just seems so alien to me right now. Also feeling a bit sick today but that could just be nerves.

Paws sorry to hear your suffering with SPD, a friend of mine had it and she said it was a right pain. Not sure why but I ended up reading about it the other day but the advice was don't suffer in silence and tell your GP/MW about it. Some discomfort and niggles will be par for the course but it doesn't mean they can't be improved. I'm sure your DH is probably finding the whole pg thing overwhelming in his own way but if he's going to be as useful as a chocolate fireguard, bypass him and go straight to the health professionals.

Just catching up with everyone's news!
Sorry to hear of the worries and stress

chandelier I POAS a few weeks back which only gave me the faintest positive, a week after having a very strong positive. I've had a scan since and there was definitely a little one kicking about in there and the midwife said it happens often as all the tests might have slightly different levels even the same brands as they are only designed to give a yes or no answer rather than a progression if that makes sense!

Good luck with your scan tommorow Mimi I hope everything goes okay and you get a good look at your LO.

Molly my fingers are crossed for you, I know all the EPU guidelines are different but hopefully your local one will let you self refer, if not the Gp should be able to over a telephone appointment to save you going in. It's horrible to be left in the lurch without a definite answer. Although it's so possible you could have ovulated late, or they are just missing a few mm on the scan. At my 9 week scan she measured the baby at just less than 8 weeks then at the last minute the baby shuffled a bit and it added a good few mm to change the dates to where I thought I would have been, but without that at the last min they would have dated me at more than a week back than I thought.