Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Awww 1st I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Nothing can prepare you for it even though you try to mentally prepare yourself for it.

Really hope to see you back here very soon. And your always welcome to stay with us whilst your ttc again. We will all be here hand holding with your again. Big hugs my thoughts are with you. Xxx

So sorry to hear this 1st, take care of yourself and big hugs!

Sorry to hear that 1st, look after yourself

So sorry 1stTime Take care of yourself. We'll be here for you when you come back.

1st, I'm so sorry to hear you've had to go through this again, take the time to look after yourself and don't feel you need to rush back to work if you're not ready, sending you lots of hugs .

Oh 1st, I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry to read this 1st
I hope you have someone there for you. Be kind to yourself xx

Really sorry to hear that 1st look after yourself xx

Thanks everyone. I have my lovely partner here with me taking care of me with lots of hugs and a tasty dinner. Just having a small glass of wine with it too

I'll be pragmatic about it eventually and we'll be back on the ttc band wagon again soon

Xxx

You seem like such a strong woman. I remember not so long ago being on this thread and losing my pregnancy I remember the shock and being so so upset. We all know know how your u feel Hun. Lots of hugs being sent your way.

Enjoy indulging in the wine and pate for a few weeks and I am more than sure we will see your u back here really soon.

I don't mean this to sound insensitive please don't take this the wrong way but at least you didn't have to go in for an op and hopefully it's all away for your u now. What I'm trying to say is that after you've stopped bleeding you could ovulate at anytime as long as you feel strong enough. We are keeping this bench very warm for u and looking forward to having you back with us in a month or two. Xxx

Also very sorry 1st. Look after yourself and good luck for trying again when you're ready x

Hi Sunday hope your ok. Not long until your 20 week scan now. Are you going to find out what your having?

crumbles do you have your dating scan booked in yet? Mines 8th February I know same wit gestation. Also I can't remember will this be your 3rd c section like me?

somebody still not heard from you really hope your ok.

Good luck with your scan today sophia looking forward to hearing tour great news of seeing LO.

Hope everyone else Is ok is it me or is this the longest few January ever.

My symptoms have kinda faded which worries me as they were so strong but I'm 10+1 today so I think they can start fading?

Thanks for the warm welcome

1st so sorry to hear of your loss. Its good that you have a lovely partner to support you through this.

keys my symptoms were not very consistent in the first trimester. Hopefully they will come back soon to give you some peace of mind.

1st enjoy the I'm sure you will be back here very soon!

keys dating scan is booked for the 10th of Feb which isn't long atall, very exciting :D my doctor must have requested it for me as I wont see the midwife until tommorow. This will be our 2nd DC and 1st was a natural delivery so fingers crossed for the same this time. I wouldn't worry too much about the symptoms mine are doing the same really, the first weeks my boobs were soo sore and felt very sick at breakfast but now the tenderness has gone and I only feel slightly nauseous in the evenings. I didn't feel pregnant atall with DS and had so few symptoms all through so I'm not too worried I think it's quite normal as you get close to the second trimester to feel a little better!

Hi everyone. Exciting day here as we got to see little baby doing somersaults and waving at the camera! Baby is measuring 12w5d so 4 days ahead of LMP date (my instinct was right!) Midwife was so, so lovely and it was absolutely amazing to see little one appear straight away and hear and see the heartbeat when I was expecting bad news. Thank you for all your support so far

Sophia that's fab news congratulations.

Brilliant Sophia! Hope you got some good pictures to take home too.

Good on your gp for getting organised with your scan crumbles, not long to wait now!

I agree keys, this is the longest month ever! Have read loads of posts about symptoms coming and going so you are not alone. Hope your scan date comes round quickly, my 20 week is early march, ages away . Definitely not gonna find out the sex, although I'm worried in case I spot boy or girl bits during the scan!

sophia absolutely fantastic news I'm so so pleased for you. Xx

Great news sophia x

Hehe sunday going to be hard not to look. That made me giggle I can just imagine you going ahhhh look it's so cute I can't look bottom down just the head and arms. March is not that far away February is a short month hopefully won't seem near as long as this one. I've found this January the worst I've ever known.

Thanks for the reassurance about my symptoms guys. I mc at this gestation last time so extra anxious.

1st stupid question I know but Hun how are your bearing up? Apart from DH have you got lots of other support? Thinking of you xxx

Hey keys not a stupid question and thanks for asking. I'm bearing up ok. I slept really late this morning which was good as I was exhausted. Pain not too bad today and planning to go back to work on Thursday.

Have told a few of my closest friends and they have all been amazing and really supportive. Went to GP today to get sick cert and that was a bit upsetting because you have to actually say the words again, but she was lovely and reassuring.

My mom is coming to stay this weekend so it'll be lovely to have her around too.

Hope everyone else is doing good. How exciting having dating scans etc, I'm sure I'd be the same trying not to look 'south of the border' with not wanting to know the sex

1st so sorry for your loss. You sound like your coping well and have lots of support.

sohpia congratulations on your wonderful sounding scan.

I'm 35 weeks tomorrow, really close now! Booked in for a scan and to see the consultant to find out if vbac is an option or if I'm heading for another elcs.

Congratulations sophia and glad you are doing ok 1st.

Beginning to feel a little more excited and a little less anxious about my 20w scan on Monday now. Last Monday we saw the consultant and had a surprise listen to the heart beat which was amazing. I don't think we actually heard it at 12 weeks.

Can someone add me to the stats? I'm having trouble this end. 34, no DC, 1 EP, 1 MMC, EDD 20th June, based in London. Thanks!

Is anyone else getting a little fed up with being told not to worry? My DM keeps saying how she wishes I'd just relax but she says it several times every time we speak. She has never had a MC so she doesn't know what it's like. I appreciate she is probably just sad I'm missing out on "the pregnancy magic" but being worried about what might go wrong seems pretty standard, particularly with us lot, and it isn't something I can just stop!!

Hi Eastend, I'm pretty fed up of the "pregnancy is a magical time" party line too. If I had been in a traumatic accident on a fairground ride, I think people would probably understand if I got freaked out by going on another ride even if other people enjoyed it. I don't think people realise how much of your previous pregnancy experiences you bring into each new pregnancy. I'm currently waiting to see if my LO is playing hide and seek or really am just nurturing a blighted ovum, there's nowt magical about pregnancy for me at the moment. I also have a stinking cold and builders have just found a big expensive structural problem with our house, do I'm being a right mardy bum right now.

It's great that you've heard your LO's hb and I'm sure you'll enjoy seeing them on the 20 wk scan, even if the magic has worn off

You're in good company here, Eastend and Mimi. Others in this thread have coped with multiple MC and I've only chalked up one so far but that feeling of being robbed of the 'magic', I get that totally. My mum is all excited and wants to start building castles in the air about what happens when the baby arrives and to me it's enough just to get through each day without anything obviously bad happening.