Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Hi everyone, I'm 6+3 today and my attempts to have a relaxed and carefree pregnancy came crashing down yesterday when I found some brownish discharge and was having very period-like pains. From reading the posts it sounds like I'm not the only one experiencing this and I'm just hoping that it was my fear of having another MC was heightening the sensations of regular pregnancy twinges. I've got my first scan a week on Monday so hopefully I'll see I was panicking over nothing then.

Hope everyone's managing to enjoy their weekend after that first long week back to work.

crumbles my GP done it all for me Hun I had a scan around 6 weeks where a heartbeat was detected but baby measured small for my dates. The EPU then booked me in for a reassurance scan two weeks later which will be Wednesday then it's only 2 and a half weeks until the 12 week scan. My doctors are really good here in referring you if you have previous or are in any pain. Very lucky really however even though an early scan can give you so much reassurance it can also cause so Much worry so early on so it might not be a bad thing with the really early scans not having one around 7-8 weeks I think is perfect to have a understanding into what's going on. How are you feeling?

sophia thanks for replying Hun I am glad to hear your symptoms are easing.

Welcome to all the newbies hand holding with you all at this stressful time. As a few people have said the discharge can mean so many different things in early pregnancy but to get a scan and bloods done will reassure you. I know it's heartbreaking but there's nothing we can do to change the fate of a successful pregnancy or not just keep every bit of faith we've all had our share on this forum it's now our time to have our successful beans :).

Having saying this I am sitting here in mega pain with stomach cramps. No bleeding or discharge I don't know what to do whether to call my local em doc or just sit it out. When I say cramps I mean proper bad cramps period like all going down my legs it's horrible. Hoping my little bean is ok in there.

Sorry sunday I can't remember if I said congratulations on your scan. I am so pleased to hear your scan went perfect.

baked wow single figures I can't believe your have your LO with you so soon. I am so excited for you xx

Are your cramps easing Keys? Sending you virtual hugs

I went maternity clothes shopping today and the sales person breezily said "is this your first pregnancy? Do you want any more?" I know she was just making conversation but still touched an odd nerve!!

P.s fingers crossed for everyone bleeding/ spotting too. My thoughts are with you!

east they are thank goodness it was awful the cramping that bad to the point hen I went to the toilet I thought this is game over for me. But cramps defo easing and still no bleeding so I'm going to sit tight and pray everything is ok for Wednesday if the cramps come back that aggressive again I might call nhs 111 for some reassurance last place I wanna be is waiting 4 hours to see a doctor theres not really much they could do anyway. It's so much worry all the time this has been a very bumpy first trimester still got another 5 weeks till I'm out of worry.

How many weeks are you? I can see how it got your back its invading your personal space even if it just conversation some people just don't think before they say things. I would of said this is not for me it's for a friend lol.

keys I remeber having similar period cramp like pains at some point just past 11 weeks, as it was after my dating scan. Turned out to be very painful trapped wind! But being past the magic dating scan was able to call my midwife for reassurance. She also said it could have been made worse by everything starting to relax and strech... If I feel a twinge like it now I start downing pepermint tea.

I had on omg we might actually be having a baby in weeks moment yesterday. After so much worrying and second guessing I feel rather over whelmed by the idea. With dd I was mental preparing myself since bfp, at 32+ weeks I feel a bit cheated out of that. Feels like I have so much to do to be ready to look after a newborn again! Really never expected that feeeling.

Keys glad to hear things have improved. It certainly could be wind, can be pretty painful. Fingers crossed!

17 weeks Monday but feeling a bit on edge as DH is away now for a week so feeling a bit lonely. I went to my first pregnancy yoga class this morning and felt a bit overwhelmed by the heavily pregnant ladies and the teacher talking about "getting in touch with your baby" all the time!

So happy to tell you that my DD arrived yesterday morning. 6 days earlier than planned but still via elcs which was really positive.

Absolutely besotted with her

That's wonderful news baked, so chuffed for you! Enjoy all the squidgy cuddles.

Any tips for bringing on labour??

No tips but looking back the day before I went mad cleaning, serious mad! Washing or hoovering anything that sat still long enough. Then had a 3 hour nap in the afternoon which is a good job really as I had 4 hours sleep Friday night and 2 last night. Post natal wards are hell on earth!

Congratulations baked and nice to hear you had a positive experience. Enjoy!

Congratulations Baked! So pleased for you

Awwww baked massive congratulations I am so pleased for you you've come so far and now look you have your bundle of joy with you :). I wish you all the happiness in the world I get so emotional when a baby is born knowing what we've all been through best news I've had in a long time :). It's so good as well that you can support us in the early stages again to show even though you've had a tough time with miscarriages it can really work out to be a happy ending and having a miscarriage does not mean your going to have another one the next time you fall pregnant. Fantastic news.
How are you feeling? Are you really sore? I know I will have to have a c section cause I've already had two they won't let me go naturally I would love to experience it though never got past the 32 week stage had both mine very prematurely.

nouser are you next? Are you booked in for c section or are you waiting for them waters to burst? I bet your so excited I can't wit until I reach your stage I think they say go for long walks eat spicy food pinanapple etc. Enjoy your last few weeks of pregnancy. Can't wait to hear of your news.

dobby I do remember you from before when I had my Mc you had just fallen so lovely to see your nearly there as well.
The pains were so bad and I felt so ill with it as well I went to the toilet and thought this is it its gotta be the pains were so like my mc pains but the relief when I wiped sorry for tmi and was clear I cried because even though I know there's nothing I can do if it was to happen I would be heartbroken so I just cried as I thought it was the end.
Thank you for your reassurance it does means lot.

east sorry to hear your feeling lonely. The days go so quickly I am sure the week will come to an end before you have time to even sit down. I've heard starting yoga early on in pregnancy has such a positive impact on birth. I wouldn't be allowed to do it which I am upset about as it is something I would love to do. Again thanks so much for the reassurance yesterday it meant a lot also.

Cramps all settled now the feeling sick feeling has come back which is reassuring don't feel as bad as i felt last week but im 8 weeks tomorrow so hoping they may start easing up been very lucky as only been sick once. Got my scan Wednesday dunno if I want it tbh.
I did read something interesting that the symptoms fade and come back because of the hormones doubling so you can feel so good one day and then the next day feel awful as its the surge in the hormones. I never even thought of it that way.

Huge congrats baked! The same thing happened when I was booked in for an elcs which my phone autocorrected to Elvis! I had a manic day of getting prepped; a real feeling that everything had to be done and dusted! My waters breaking three days before my planned elcs was such a shock!! Enjoy these early days.

keys it's intresting you say you've had two c-sections, I had a c-section with dd, although hoping to try for a vbac this time. When I saw the midwife at the vbac clinic I was told that c-sections can make you more prone to trapped wind in later pregnancies. When it gets bad it really does feel terriable! I've had many trips to the loo when I've expected to see blood due to the strong period like pains. I think the wind is most likely to acumilate around the scar site internally, it's certainaly where it feels like it does for me.

Congratulations baked, lovely news. Enjoy every minute x

I felt exactly the same doing a yoga video eastend Hard to relax when you're being told to imagine a baby you can't bring yourself to really imagine!

Thanks keys, I think I am next. 10 days and counting. I'm going naturally and to be honest I'm hating the waiting around. I've got an appointment with one of the senior mws at hospital on Tues to possibly have an early sweep as I had a meltdown at the mw last week due to the anxiety. I can get to 40 weeks in my head but no further, I'm too scared of placenta packing in or something else awful happening. The feeling of waiting for something to go wrong has only increased for me as the weeks progressed. In the meantime it is spicy food, birth ball bouncing and stair climbing central here. Hope all the cramping has calmed down for you today, did you try taking any Rennies in case it was trapped wind?

east Sorry to hear you are struggling. I've done pilates since 13 weeks which has been fab but I consciously joined a non-antenatal class to avoid the baby talk. Luckily the teacher was happy to have me and amend some exercises as the weeks went on. Hope you manage to relax and settle into your classes soon, or could it be worth giving some others a try if they continue to make you feel uncomfortable?

Thanks for all your support ladies. I think pregnancy yoga can be put off for a few weeks until after the 20 week scan and I feel a bit more confident- I wasn't expecting it to freak me out so much.

Congratulations Baked so happy for you! Hope everything goes well for you!

Hi all, haven't been on in quite a while. Having a bit of a mad time. I had a scare back in December at 19 weeks...bleeding and cramping...ended up in hospital and they couldn't find a reason for the bleed. Was put on bed rest. Started back at work last Tuesday and last night I had awful contractions...so bad I couldn't stand...was in tears and on all fours. Called triage once it stopped and they said if it started back up and I had 5-6 in an hour to get go in and get monitored. Hoping it's nothing. I'm only 24+3 so really freaking out about preterm labour. Sorry for the 'me' post. Will try to catch up on posts soon.

I know I'm really late to this thread (34+4) but hi.

No DC, 4 mc in the past three years. Now 34+4 and having an eventful pregnancy. Spotting from 5-12 weeks, hyperemesis and now gestational diabetes from 28 weeks. Growth scan showing small measurements (femur) but nobody has actually mentioned that to me. Looking at induction at 38w.

I've spent the last 8 months in pieces, wish I'd spotted this thread sooner! At no point have I allowed myself to think there might be a baby at the end of this. All I know is how to deal with the losses. I'm obsessed with reduced movement and I stupidly feel like something innocuous I do will be my downfall. I washed her clothes yesterday and then cried for an hour.

Ladies who've made it to the end - does this feeling ever go away? Feel like I've been robbed of the enjoyment of pregnancy.

This hasn't affected me but it has recently affected a close friend. I wish you ladies (and your babies!) all the luck and prayers in the world

Hi Somebody, sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it but the ladies on here are lovely and supportive so you've come to the right place.

I'm only 6+5 so I can't speak from experience but I have read that having a miscarriage can leave a women feeling depressed beyond the birth of a child and the more mc a woman experiences the longer the depression can last. Not very cheery reading but knowing this has helped me prepare for when I bean does finally stick. I've experienced 2 miscarriages in just over a year and haven't handled it at all well so asked I asked my GP to refer me for counselling before I got pregnant as I was finding ttc stressful. Had my first pregnancy freakout over the weekend so I'm glad I've got that support in place now.

What I'm trying to say is you've been through some traumatic experiences, what your experiencing is perfectly normal, horrible but normal. But our situation isn't helped by the universal picture of pregnancy as a happy time with a guaranteed baby at the end. Luckily there's all sorts of help out there to help us get through this. Something as simple as seeing my GP has made the difference between losing it and coping for me.

Hope the further along ladies can give you some proper advice about what to expect.

Sorry to everyone else for not keeping up with the board, well read properly later. My brown discharge and cramps have disappeared, and I'm back to constantly peeing and blowing my nose again, woo hoo! Have yet to experience the sore books but have been woken up by having very painful and erect nipples (sorry if tmi), which is a new one .

Hi somebody, good to have you with us. We'll get you through the last few weeks. I'm sorry for your losses, you sound amazing for having carried on after 4 losses. I've only had one mc but it was my 1st pregnancy and I share your feelings of being robbed of the whole 'experience'. Unfortunately people around me have not been great, even those that know about the mc, telling me off for not enjoying being pregnant and for worrying. Unfortunately we are at that stage now where people only ever want to talk about babies with you which for me can make the anxiety worse. I'm 38+5 today and still can't see a baby at the end of this but there is ladies on here who did manage to relax in the last few weeks. I'm trying to distract myself with jigsaw puzzles, colouring in and I'm currently cooking for England too. In terms of the scan measurements, please bear in mind that there is a big margin for error and if they were concerned they would have been obliged to follow it up. The world would be a boring place if everyone came out the same size!

reebok Sounds like you've had an awful time of it. Are you being regularly monitored by your mw/the hospital? Could be worth asking for some extra appointments to help calm your fears.

mimi those symptoms sound like everything is just fine, so pleased the cramping and spotting has gone away. Hope you're feeling a bit more relaxed for now.

Don't know if it's hormones but I'm devastated by the news about David Bowie! I'm not a huge fan but do listen to him now and again, I'm also too young to have lived through his Ziggy Stardust days or anything but the news has made me really sad.