Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Oooh also I've found that 'only 1% of pregnancies end in a missed miscarriage' statistic everywhere on messageboards but with no evidence. Found this study which estimates the risk at about 2% if there hasn't been any bleeding previously www.fetalmedicine.com/synced/fmf/1996_33.pdf, which is really reassuring as reading mumsnet etc can make you think it's really common. Hope it helps x

So pleased for you sunday!
Glad it all went well.

The anxiety after a loss is so awful, when I think back to my first pregnancy I was so blissfully naive, I'm sure we even bought the pram not long after the first scan! Its so hard this time to even imagine this baby going to term, then feeling like if I do acknowledge it properly by telling everyone etc. That I will jinx it!

Sophia I'm still getting pains like you are describing, stretchy uncomfortable feelings, I think it's quite normal as things move around to fit

Great scan news sunday

Totally get that jinxing worry manatee, we were forced into doing some sorting out of what will hopefully become the nursery last weekend as we saw an incredible deal for some solid wood furniture in mothercare (1100 down to 310). I was so scared to put anything baby related in there in case I jinxed it. I had to keep saying out loud to myself "getting furniture put in a room is not a cause of miscarriage or stillbirth". I'm sure it sounds utterly ridiculous to anyone except us, but I found it really hard to overcome the fear.

Sunday such great news about your scan - l;overd the "Millionaire" analogy!

manatee I know how you feel - despite knowing it was absolutely fine I spent about 2 hours yesterday reseraching whether it was OK to go swimming.

I'm finding the waiting and uncertainty extremely hard. As I am taking progesterone I feel that I'd be unlikely to bleed if there was a problem. My first scan (get one at 8 weeks as IVF) is 2 weeks today. Every single day I play out in my head the scene where the sonographer shakes her head and explains that the baby is not viable.

Few symptoms apart from slightly tender boobs. Don't feel pregnant, just feel crushed by worry. But then i suppose everyone is down at this time of year!

Manatee I got a calendar yesterday at work with a photo on it of...a Huge Manatee! Immediately thought of you...

So pleased for you Sunday

YY to the feeling of jinxing. I bought mat clothes bundles on eBay last time, and a pair of mat jeans on the next sale, and kicked myself for getting too "ahead of myself" when it all ended so horribly. This time, I've decided to not even look at anything until I know all is well. I am even saying "if we do x in May, I could be x months pregnant". I can't get past the talking/thinking of this as a possibility rather than an actual thing that's really going to happen.

Puking is a good sign, right?

Ps. Thank you for everyone's reassurances about the bleeding . I know you're all right. And it stopped again as quickly as it started

Glad to hear that chandelier! Hopefully that's a one off.

I also played out all the possible scenarios before my scan Jessie. I wrote an email in my head to tell my friends why I had to cancel our wkend plans, planned ringing work etc with bad news but I also thought about how surprised and excited our friends would be when we tell them. Nothing wrong with thinking about bad scenarios as long as you also think about a positive outcome too x

Hi all- can I join you? Got bfp a couple of days ago - I am 42 and have a three year old DD. I've had 2 MMC in April 2015 and October 2014, both at about 10 weeks. I think I am about 5 weeks so scarily early days. Did you guys go straight to GP or wait a while? I'm wondering if I can ask for an early scan but don't want to tempt fate iykwim xx

Welcome Back! Sorry to hear of your previous losses hopefully this is your third time lucky!

I did go to the Gp straight after, but mainly because I only tested as it had been 6 weeks since my mc with no period so wanted to check I was pregnant and that it wasn't just leftover hormone from the mc. He's booked me in for an early scan which I am still waiting on but will hopefully be for around 8/9 weeks.

I think it's personal preference, for me I wanted an early scan as I think I will feel more positive if I can see any early heartbeat etc. I think normally you can ask for a reassurance scan after a loss and most GPs will refer for one. X

Has everyone else booked or seen a midwife yet?

The practical side of me knows that my local mw gets so booked up and should be seen before 8 weeks (I'm about 7)
But the emotional side can't bear to book anything until a scan as to get ahead of myself.. Just worried if I wait and everything is okay at scan (fingers crossed) that I will struggle to get an app with the mw early enough for her to book 12 week scan and nuchal tests!

Hi Jessie I feel exactly the same. In my case they did an ultrasound and couldn't see anything as I have a tilted uterus, then they did an internal and there was nothing on the scan as I had a blighted ovum. The sonographer was so matter-of-fact about it and no one really expressed any sympathy. I'm really dreading my 12 week scan and finding out my body has tricked me again.

Crumbles I had my booking appointment at 8 weeks. Initially it was going to not be until 11 weeks but I rang up and asked if I could have it earlier as I was concerned it wouldn't leave time to book a scan, and she brought the appointment forward :-) Am still having to wait till 12 weeks + for the scan though. Except for talking about which hospital I wanted to use, all of the questions were pretty much about my health, so I didn't feel too much like I was getting ahead of myself. It's a good way to get an overall health check with the blood tests, which is useful for if you're TTC too. I did find the whole thing really weird though, as I still can't imagine that I'm actually having a baby!

Hi folks 😉 I'm 41 and 6 weeks and 5 days now. I have 2 girls already 17 and 11 and have had 2 m/c the most recent being a MM/C 2 years ago. Found out I was expecting again on 22/12/15. Was feeling confident and strong until last Sunday when I had pink spotting after a BM. Had a scan Monday morning to check it wasn't tubular but refused an internal because I was a bit freaked out, she had also said the sac was slightly irregular but she would not worry about it at just over 5 weeks.. After that I imagined all my symptoms had disappeared so phoned hospital and the booked me for another scan next Friday, I should be 7+5 then. Have had a couple more incidents of spotting but always with BM so I am thinking (hoping) it's down to cervical erosion. I am feeling my symptoms again and getting new ones but find it hard to have confidence in any of this as I carried a few weeks without losing my last baby oblivious to the fact it had died. I am trying so hard to have a positive mental attitude but because of experience it is hard. Next Friday can't come fast enough xxx

Hi Solan - you're in the right place. There are lots of us due around the same time (I'm 6w5d today!) and quietly going crazy just like you

There's no easy fix but we're here to hold each other's hands.

Update from me, I'm in France and the trip so far has been easy, boring and entirely free of anything but the usual pregnancy symptoms. The only thing I have to report is that I'm supposed to go have breakfast shortly but right now can think of few things I'd rather do less than eat

Morning guys. Hope your feeling ok. Welcome to all new joining congratulations on your BFP's. Hand holding with you hate first trimester it's going so slowly.

crumbles I got my letters come through yesterday for my appointments. My midwife is on the 22nd of this month and my scan is on the 8th Feb. I will be around 9+2 or 9+4 should know my dates at my next scan on Wednesday. Then on the 8th I'll be exactly 12 weeks or 11+5. Still seems ages away doesn't it Hun. Do you have an early scan booked Hun?

I've been so unwell I ended up in hospital last few days. I feel sick all the time but never been sick apart from once however been suffering with such bad headaches I nearly collapsed for some reason I'm dhydrated but drinking water and not sick it don't make sense. After a few days rest I am feeling much better still feel sick but touch wood woken up with no headache. Anyone else suffering with headaches? So nervous for Wednesday can't help but think something is wrong.

Yes to headaches keys. Been having them nearly daily since 10 weeks ish. I take one paracetamol is it gets bad but I've only had to do that a few times. Definitely one of those annoying pregnancy things!

Hope everyone is doing well today!

thanks Soph! I'm thinking I should just book it and hope for the best, I just found it so painful to have to cancel midwife appointment last time

I've been referred for an early scan, the letter should be in the post in the next few days fingers crossed! Then I'm hoping there won't be much of a wait!

Solan Hi! Try to keep positive as positive as you can! Fingers crossed for your scan.

keys that's so exciting the midwife and scans all booked did you have an early scan and they booked the 12 week one after that? Round here it seems the midwife books it at the booking appointment x

Hi Ladies, congrats to those of you who are expecting! I wonder if you can help...I had a miscarriage 6 months ago and am now around 8 weeks pregnant. I've just started having some light brown/ Amber discharge. This is very different to how my miscarriage started which was sudden heavy bleeding but I can't help but panic! I do have a private scan booked tomorrow (due to general anxiety about everything at the moment!). This is pretty much spot on when my period would have been due which I read can result in brownish discharge but I don't want to get my hopes up too much after my last experience. If any of you have gone through anything similar it would be great to know! Xxxx

Hi 17jen - the general wisdom is that brown blood is old blood and not much cause for concern. It's only red blood that you need to be worried about.

If you've got a scan tomorrow I would sit tight and try not to fret too much. (Easier said than done I know...)

Hi Ladies, I had a miscarriage in October and I am now 5 weeks pregnant due around the 8th of September, and I am so scared of every twinge! This little bean will hopefully be my DC3 but my partners DC1. Can I request blood tests/early scans for reassurance?

Hi jen congratulations on your pregnancy!

Unfortunately for me the 'brown blood is ok' rule didn't apply in my first pregnancy, however I had fresh red blood with my current pregnancy and I'm now 38+2. Everyone is different! Glad to hear you have a scan tomorrow and we'll all be rooting for you

Hi everyone, I'm coming up to 10 weeks and seem to have passed the worst of the symptoms, which is brilliant. Nausea is still there sometimes, but it isn't affecting my appetite as much. Most of all I seem to have so much more energy than I've had recently, which is great as I work in schools with teenagers all day so I need to keep up with them! Partner said I looked 'glowing' today and was confused that I was so full of energy as I've been lying on sofa moaning for weeks :-) I also seem to be getting a little bump, though I know it's probably just bloating.

I got my appointments through today - ultrasound on the 26th, swiftly followed by a consultant appointment 15 minutes later. I'll be 12w1d when I get the scan, so spot on really.

keys I started getting headaches around 9 weeks. Keep drinking lots of fluids - I think we can forget to do that when feeling rotten.

Hi chocolateteacup Sorry about your loss, but brilliant that you're expecting now :-) I lost my pregnancy right at the end of August and am 10 weeks so similar amount of time between MC and conceiving again. Apparently that can make a MC less likely.. It depends on your local NHS whether they will offer you an early scan. Mine wouldn't unless I had bleeding or pain, but I think they did make sure I got my scan as early as possible. I know it's so hard noticing every little twinge, but twines are so common, and actually a sign that your womb is stretching out :-)

chocolate in my area they don't offer any reassurance scans or blood tests unless you've had 3 miscarriages so I had a private scan and it was worth every penny!

Congratulations on your pregnancy

Hello. Hope it's ok for me to join in. I'm 5 weeks pregnant and due 9th September. Am 38 and have as 2 year old ds. Had a mmc in June and a mc at 6 weeks in October. Don't feel ready to join the 'normal' thread yet and thought you ladies might understand my paranoia better as you're in the same position.
Have got my booking appointment lined up for 3rd February which seems a lifetime away. I only got my bfp on Sunday (although suspected for a few days) and this has to have been the longest week in history.
Hope all you ladies are well and that everything is pretty boring for you (meant in the nicest possible way)

Welcome to all the new ladies, I'm sorry for your losses but wish you all tediously boring pregnancies.

I can't remember who posted what so bear with me!
Brown spotting - my mc started with brown blood and ive had some brown spotting in this pregnancy but the two were very different. The mc had bits of brown clotting in it whereas this time it was just brown discharge. Still terrifying but ok and the hospital said it was surprisingly common and put it down to time of the month and hormone changes.
Early scans - I'm in a trust where a pregnancy after 1 mc is treated as a 'first' pregnancy i.e. No extra scans or support offered. I have a suspicion this is due to commonality of mc and not enough resources. I've had a couple of private scans, the early one I had just past the point of my mc really did help to lift a bit of paranoia.
Twinges/cramps - had loads in first tri, especially on left hand side which left me scared of ectopic! You just can't win.

Good luck to those with scans booked in soon, and hopefully the countdown to the magic 12 week scan may not be too bad. Feel like a right hypocrite saying this as I feel like time is going backwards!

baked, single figures now for you! How are you getting on?

Cheers all. I went back to work this week, I work in school with primary 1 and 2's so a lot of bending, kneeling on floor, sitting on low chairs and my spotting was more frequent which is leading me back to the cervical erosion theory. Rested up last night and it eased.This spotting is very different to when I bled with miscarriage too xx Good luck to everyone here xx