Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Welcome Somebody and sending virtual hugs/ at least it will be over soon!

Feeling pretty rubbish today. Nausea is back with a vengeance, I think it's because I'm so washed out with my cold and baby still very quiet. I'm paranoid my bump is shrinking but equally I think I am holding a lot of anxiety in my stomach muscles and when I breathe normally everything relaxes more to a more "normal" size (and I feel less sick to boot). Back in work today and loads needs picking up so am just trying to sit and my computer breathing deeply and trying not to stress- lol!!

Hi somebody, nouser is right, hoepfully posting here will get you through the last few weeks. I'm 32+5 with dc2 after a mc early last year. Have got to the stage where I can things being alright most of the time, but would honestly put that down to already having a sucessful pregnancy with dd. But after stressing about everything since bfp, that moment at the start of this week actually hurt, which is stupid.

I have friends who have been unfortant enough to go through recurent mc.

One couple I've known since my college days had almost 9 years of losses for varrious reasons (both mcs and choosing to terminate) before their beautiful dd was born. It was impossably hard on the both of them and I don't think they ever throught, even when she was being induced at 37 weeks they would get their baby in the end. She coped by doing the bear minumum; litterally just had a few nappies and a couple of bits for the baby and borrowed a friends car seat. Her patner organised borrowing things for us on the chance that everything did turn out alright. After a horrific pregnancy where almost everything that could go wrong did and bad depression and anxsity, she was induced at 37 weeks and delievered a fighting fit, healthy little girl in a matter of hours! She said the moment she heard her cry the cloud of everything bad that had surrounded her lifted and she just felt lighter. She looked it too. I saw them a when their dd was a few hours old and they poped into to pick up the baby clothes and moses basket they were borrowing. Relitives did a supermarket shop and stocked them up with nappies and other parifinalia and with in a few days they had had pushchair, car seat, cot etc delievered and were enjoying their baby.

Others ladies say that their feelings of dread a doom lifted within a few hours, and they were happy by the end of week one. I only know of one lady who suffered with postnatle depression who with the right help recovered quickly; she's now pregnant with her second too!

So even if you do feel stressed and worried until the end of the line, it doesn't mean there isn't light at the end of the tunnle.

reebok so sorry to see you've continued to have a tough time. Everything crossed that your little girl stays put and you don't have anymore contrations like that. Really hoping that your sickness has atleast eased.

Congratulations baked hope you're recovery is going smoothly and you're enjoying your new addition.

Hi can I join? I recognise lots of names here from when I had my mc - thank you for your support and congratulations on your pregnancies!!
I only found out I was pregnant this morning and I'm veering between disbelief, terror and excitement.

Lilliana DD1(3), 2 mc last year- 1 natural, 1 medical management. EDD 22/09/16

Hi lilli, welcome...i remember you well! Lovely to see you here, quiet congratulations! May your stay here be long and boring x

Haven't read the threads in a while guys, will catch up with you all tonight

GOSH! lilliana just realised 'exactly' who you are! Wow...so so pleased for you hun...going by your last pm I didn't expect to see you here! Funny how things turn out ay!? Xx

Welcome Lilliana Good to see you here! Congratulations

There's plenty of room on the First Trimester Fretting Bench

Long and boring is my aim .

Thanks allmychilden how far are you now? Hope all is going well. DH is in a spin and feels we need to rearrange our whole life -Job/car/house - I'm hoping he calms down soon!

Hi Manatee

Tic tacs are a good call Manatee... Got me through a post-puke-pre-ready-for-food couple of hours at work yesterday.

Welcome Lilliana Wishing you a dull and boring pregnancy

dobby What a lovely end to a very sad story. Your poor, poor friend though. Really puts things in perspective.

nouser another day closer for you! I can't watch the news atm although, if I'm honest, I've not properly watched it in years because I get so affected I sobbed watching the film Big Hero 6 with my DCs... who didn't. I remember I had to stop watching Lost when pg with DC1 because I had a panic attack when the dog drowned! These hormones do funny things to us!!

AFM, I'm puking daily/nauseous most of the day, so hoping this is a good sign. Really struggling with fluid intake and think I've become a tad dehydrated from not drinking as much (makes me feel so sick!), weeing and puking. My lips are all cracked and dry and I feel permanently thirsty. Better news though, after chasing my GP up FOUR times and calling my consultant's secretary twice, I have finally got the referral for the EPU! Now just have to wait for them to call with an appt!

Positive thoughts to all

Thanks for all the support everyone. Having a stressed day today - lying on the sofa and bump is kicking like crazy. Constant movement. Having pretty much constant period type pains too so feeling a bit shit. Hopefully it's nothing.

Hello all, room for one more on the fretting bench?
Just found out today and already in a state of panic. First pregnancy earlier this year ended in a mc at 10 weeks and it's been a heartbreaking journey since then.
Had such a fear of AF arriving each cycle but at least that was a definite answer - no idea how we will (hopefully, perhaps, maybe, please oh please let things go well and uneventfully) get through the next 9 months!

Hi Bowser congratulations!! When are you due? Come fret with us

Somebody lots of movement sounds good. Hope you're feeling better.

Chandelier sorry I'm sure you've posted this before but why are you being referred to EPU? Glad you got it sorted and hope all is ok.

Think it should be September but trying to wrap my head around things for sure at the moment.
Congratulations to all others as well

So I have my EPU appt... on Friday. And now I'm bricking it! Lilliana and anyone else who might be interested! the early scan has been requested by my consultant to check position and viability around 7/8 weeks. (My dating is pure guess work as I have PCOS plus my cycles were still wobbly post-mc)

I have a 180degree retroflexed uterus, an s-shape link from cervix to uterus and significant scarring at the bottom (which is actually the top!) of my uterus! I've had two c-sections the short version of this story! which is what they think has caused this issue.

When I had a mmc in August, I opted for surgical management, and they discovered this weird anomaly with my nethers! Again, the story is much longer than this!!

So, they are checking position, as an foetus could attach where it shouldn't... and they're checking viability as, in the event of a mmc or start of a mc, I have to have surgical management again as I cannot be allowed to mc naturally.

In my head, I am prepared for bad news at the scan. But what worries me more is having to go through the SM again...

If you've got to the end of this, well done!

Welcome Bowser I love mojitos too... although right now, I think the smell, let alone the taste, of one would make me vom!

Wow Chandelier Read it all several times! and not sure I understand it all but it sounds like you've been through a lot. I really hope it's good news for you

chandelier you'll know one way or the other. That's how I looked at all my early scans, it was the only way I could get through it.

Fingers crossed for you. I'm sure it'll all be ok and you'll have a little sticky bean in there.

Hi guys. Just catching up on a few posts. Sorry if I miss anyone out I'm exhausted today my DD1 had a trip to the planetarium today and last night I didn't sleep a wink worrying about it. There so precious our LO's nothing else matters in the world.

somebody i am so sorry to have read of all your devistating situations.i myself have had 3 m\c's the latest one being 11 1/2 weeks. I see the baby at 9 weeks bouncing around so healthy never In a million years expected to lose it so late on and so many scans. The other two were early around 6 weeks. However my two viable pregnancies did not go to plan my first DD1 was born at 32 weeks my waters went and I contracted MRSA in hospital so I had to have an emergency c section but she was fine she came out of hospital a few weeks later. Then DD2 was born at 27 weeks same thing happen again and had to have an emergency c section unfortunately we were not so lucky she had a brain bleed 3 days after birth I was in so much shock I couldn't move they told me she was not going to survive the night but she did. Then we had to get her baptised as she still weren't out the woods. But she's here and even though she has cerebral palsy (mild) and was in great Ormand street for four months and few other complications she's still here my little miracle they both are. What I'm trying to say is no matter what happens your get through it your stronger than you think. Your LO will be ok the doctors would of told you something is wrong if not. She can also have a massive growth spurt now as this is the time the grow fat lol. I do know what your going through and it's not easy it's so worrying but your have her soon and look back and think wow I made it. If you ever need a chat just write on here on pm me Hun it's fine I will try to be as supportive as I can. Lots of movement is such a positive sign. Big hugs.

Welcome all newbies and returners congratulations on your BFP keeping everything crossed for you all such a supportive site this forum I couldn't of got through past few weeks without everyone.

As for alcohol I'm same you I love mojitos also and wine and soda now the thought makes me heave the only things can drink is water everything else makes me feel so rough.

My scan tomorrow morning should be 8 weeks give and take a few days. I am so nervous as baby was measuring so small last scan and all my cramps. You kind of expect the worst don't you after you've been through it before hopefully will sleep tonight though and all will be ok tomorrow. Never wish my life away but I so want to hit 13 weeks and this has got to be the longest first trimester ever I seem to have been stuck on 6-7 weeks for months lol.

chandler so sorry I missed your post. Wow so much your going through also. I've had two c sections they noted the scar but haven't said there's anything wrong. I've also got a heart shaped womb which they think caused my premature births. I'm lucky I've already had a scan so i know everything is where it should be.
Are you worried about having another c section? Im so anxious of it!!
Good luck for the scan on Friday I hope it puts your mind at ease as much as it possibly can and they keep a close eye on you throughout your pregnancy.

See this is why I was surprised that girl on cbb announced she pregnant she found out over xmas which would roughly be the same as us. I wouldn't dream of doing that just in case

Anyone else showing in their first trimester? Am 10 weeks and have a definite, hard-to-conceal bump! Talking of uteruses... does anyone else have a tilted one? Mine is, so I know they're going to have to do an internal scan. Will they even bother trying an external one? Don't want to have to sit needing to wee for a few hours if I don't need to!

sophia Yes I so am. I'm glad I not the only one my bump looks like I'm going on 20 weeks lol I wear baggy clothes and don't take my coat off when out. They say if it's not your first pregnancy your uterus is the size of a grapefruit even the baby is smaller than a bean you can show a lot earlier on. Wish is was baby making me look so fat lol.
As for the shape all I know mines in a heart shape lol. Gotta look forward to all the blood tests soon and being so uncomfortable in the scan needing that wee.

Haha good to know I'm not alone. I felt like I was waddling today!

Evening all, got a shock this morning when my waters went in spectacular fashion and my little boy turned up at 16:37 weighing 8lb5oz!

Congratulations Nouser hope it went ok and you're both doing well. Enjoy the tiny baby cuddles.