Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

I hope talk of ectopics hasn't been the cause of your anxiety Sophia. I agree with others that an ectopic at 9 weeks is unlikely- mine was discovered at 5.5 weeks. Do try and distract yourself- while threads like these are great for support, try and remember things go right most of the time and we aren't a normal subsection of the population! Try some meditation exercises or light yoga maybe?

Good luck today sunday, looking forward to hearing the good news later!

for all those struggling with anxiety at the moment. Hope you manage to get some reassurance soon. You are doing fantastically.

Hi everyone!

Good luck with the scan sunday so exciting! Look forward to your news.

I am totally with you sophia and keys, constantly in worry mode and find it hard to picture the future baby, and keys I sympathise with Everytime going to the loo, I am constantly jmagining feeling a bleed, hope this eases in time!!

I have a question for you guys, when I saw the GP last week he told me to do another pregnancy test this week and let him know the result. I've done it this morning and although it is still a definite positive it is very noticeably fainter than last weeks. I would be roughly 7wks1day surely it should be stronger line a week later? Or would this be normal?

Am 6ish weeks. Have brown discharge this morning Trying very hard not to freak out. Was also sick (water/bile only as it was first thing) so hanging on to that as a positive sign. Might chase that EPU referral today

chandelier try to keep as positive as you possibly can

I'm sure everything is fine, could be old blood or perhaps something irritated your cervix!
Perhaps try calling the EPU and explain to see if they will see you earlier? Big hugs x

chandelier hard not to panic isn't it? I had one episode of brown ish stuff early on but I put it down to DTD the day before. Not a bad idea to chase epau up though. Hope its just a one off x

crumbles could you be more hydrated this time? If your wee is more diluted you'd get a more faint result. If its still obviously positive I'm sure the gp would be happy.

Scan isn't until this afternoon so got a long wait ahead. Just hoping my IBS doesn't flare up, always seem to get loose when I'm nervous although it might solve my constipation problem! Isn't pregnancy sooooo sexy!

Ha ha Sunday, sexy is a great word for it! In all seriousness, really hope everything goes well for you.

Crumbles I echo what Sunday said about the diluted urine, especially if, like me, you're peeing more than normal.

I wish there was something I could put this episode down to (like DTD) but I can't, which stresses me out even more. Still, I've now chased the EPU referral and apparently the secretary will call me today. Hard to believe given that I have had to chase the GP surgery FOUR times for this referral, which was recommended by my consultant, and had been "red flagged" on their system

sunday I second that pregnancy is definitely not sexy! I feel bloated, gassy and spotty!! When will the 'glow' arrive! Lol.

chandelier I don't know how your cycles normally work but I know for me I could get some brown discharge at times in a normal non-pregnant cycle so could very well be completely irrelevant to the pregnancy and just some old discharge, or so often the pulling and stretching to accommodate the baby can cause some irritation and bleeding/discharge, I'm sure the baby is snug and safe in there and all is well . Hope you do get a call ASAP from the epu to put your mind at ease.

Thanks for the advice! I have been drinking more water (seem to be craving ice cold bottled water, which is odd!) so maybe that is why, although the last drink I had was at about 9pm last night and I did the test at 7am this morning. I suppose the hormone could fluctuate slightly maybe. The Gp said to call if it was negative, which it wasn't so I will just wait for the scan date to come through in the post and try not to stress until then, x

crumbles I wouldn't set too much stock by the fainter test, especially if like me you're constantly thirsty and pissing like a horse (yes, pregnancy is proper sexy, innit ).

chandelier try not to stress too much. Easy though that is to say I had a tiny tiny bit of brown discharge over NYE but decided it wasn't worth calling in as it had stopped by NYD. Plus according to my docs it's only really worrying if it's fresh blood, so I knew the EPU would just say 'watch and wait' anyway.

sunday fingers crossed all is well this afternoon.

Here I'm getting more nauseous by the day: this morning I was dry-heaving in the kitchen and couldn't stomach any breakfast at all. The one thing I can get down in the mornings is decaf coffee with lots of milk. Other than that I can't eat till about 1pm Most pregnant women I know say they couldn't even stand the sell of coffee so I'm a freak though I suspect for most people that's because their bodies are rejecting the stimulating effect of caffeine. I don't drink caffeine even when not pregnant, as I'm a terrible sleeper at the best of times and also started to find it made me nauseous first thing in the morning. So I wonder if some people who are normally coffee drinkers just become more sensitive to the caffeine when they're pregnant.

So sorry to hear of all this worries the first trimester is long and awful with the worry but hang in their ladies I have a really good feeling about us all and sharing our birth stories and our future scans along the way.

crumbles if you were going to miscarry and the line was fainter then surely you would of shown signs of a bleed because the hormones being reduce I honestly would worry I know it's easier said than done cause I am constantly worrying and tbh I would never pee on stick again cause I would be the same. The control lone is always going to be dark so I honestly wouldn't worry unless you have seriously bad cramps or start bleeding your be fine Hun try and stay positive. Did u say you had a scan date? Doctors love to worry us more don't they. Me and my OH have not DTD since finding out I was pregnant im just over caucious he keeps asking how long he has got to wait though lol. I agree with the spots and being brassy I don't even wanna do the school run I look like I've not changed out my costume from Halloween.

chandelier if it's not bright red don't worry it's really normal different discharge etc my midwife always said to me because I had it withDD2 as long as it's not bright red not to worry and she was right. Keep chasing that EPU though you need to be checked out for peace of mind or your drive yourself crazy I know I've been there. Big hugs Hun.

sunday time is getting closer inept your so excited I can't waitron hear of your news.

manatee how weird I can't even smell coffee let alone drink it I can't even walk past my local Costa without heaving. That's y if I feel my symptoms are fading I stick,y head in the coffee jar and heave lol. I love coffee as well I couldn't start my day without it now I can't even look at it same with tea. I always feel sick it never sick and when I eat it helps the sickness. Little worried I aint been sick though with my two DD's I couldn't stop being sick with the miscarriages I weren't even the 9 week miscarriage so it's making me a little anxious. Roll on next wednesday hopefully things will be so much clearer.

I arm sure we are all going to be just fine this time and share our journeys together. Handholding with you all big hugs xx

Being brassy haha dunno where that came from stupid iPad lol xx

My turn to need a bit of reassurance...

I have to fly to France tomorrow for two nights. I know, rationally speaking, that there is no medical reason to avoid flying in early pregnancy, but I'm still really anxious about being away from home without DH, taking a flight, finding my way at the other end etc etc. Can someone please give me a friendly slap and tell me it's all going to be fine? TIA

#slaps manatee gently with a wet fish#
You will be fine. Nobody can tell you with absolute certainty that nothing will ever go wrong, but it won't be because of the flying.

Mc makes us so worried about everything, I totally get that, but you've made it through much more stressful times, so I know you'll manage. The thought of it is always worse than when it actually happens x

Thank you so much for the kind words everyone - it really means a lot. I think going back to work has stressed me out and it's making me anxious about everything!

Don't worry Eastend It wasn't any discussion here that set me off - it was just what I was really worried about last time, as they couldn't see anything in the womb and had to do blood tests every few days.

Thinking of you this afternoon sunday

Manatee I always feel the same before I go away with work, so I can imagine pregnancy hormones make that worse. I think it makes us feel a bit more vulnerable and not as in control which makes going anywhere new scary. I would try and have everything planned out as much as you can in advance. Have you got the Citymapper app on your phone?

I feel massively unsexy too - my chin is so spotty, and I've just developed one right below my lip. I'm bloated all day till I take a Rennie and then I'm gassy. God knows why my partner still wants to be anywhere near me, but I keep turning him down cause I feel so uncomfortable :-( Hoping I am sexy and glowy in a few weeks!

Crumbles I'm sure I've heard something about pregnancy tests not responding like normal after a certain point. I had one that was fainter than the control and that was weeks ago. I'm sure the Dr just meant to see if you had a positive at all.

Chandelier I know of so many people who've had actual full on bleeding and their baby has been born fine. Brown is normally old blood, so probably just your womb cleaning itself out.

Thanks March The daft thing is that I'm normally a confident traveller and have no issues with a couple of nights overseas. This pregnancy seems to have turned me into a quivering pansy. It's also turned me into an incredibly nervous passenger: whenever I'm in the car with DH driving I wince whenever we approach a roundabout in case DH pulls out into the path of a car turning across us. I'm not sure why I seem to have decided DH has spontaneously forgotten how to drive

I'm going to hang on to that wet fish if that's OK. Think I might be needing to administer it again over the coming weeks

Manatee you are worrying about nothing , flying won't harm the baby or put you at any risk at this stage. I think it's so easy after a loss to want to wrap yourself in bubble wrap to try to stop it happening again but that wouldn't be living a full life and only makes you more anxious! X

I think it's just that I went to Greece with DH for a few days around the 6wks mark last time and while I was there I had some bleeding and ended up in an EPU in Athens having a scan and all sorts So I'm totally irrationally worried that being overseas again will jinx things this time too.

But yes, I'm being silly.

manatte it's so hard isn't it. You want to wrap yourself in cotton wool. I think deep down you know that even if you lay on a bed for the next 8 months it doesn't guarantee anything. Try to stay as 'normal' as you can (says the woman who can't take her own advice!)

Scan was great ladies! Dated at 12+2, happy with nuchal measurement of 1.7 and she spent ages showing us the baby. Really odd seeing it moving. Feels like getting to the first 'safe' point of £1000 on who wants to be a millionaire! Can't wait to get to £32,000 at the 20week scan . Have hope everyone!

Hooray- Many congratulations! Waiting for the 20 week scan here, beginning of Feb seems ages away! Everything crossed for the £32,000!!

chandelie I had brown discharge at 6 weeks this time around and then a couple of bright red streaks at 8 weeks. Scaned at EPAU both times with nothing untoward found. But it was so stressful and both times dh and I just had the attitude of here we go again. At the last scan I had they discovered the placenta was boarder line low lying which is what probably caused the spotting. I know it's no reassurance but I've reached the 32 week mark today, so it doesn't have to mean things are going wrong. Fingers crossed you get an appointment soon.

manatee Everything will likely be fine. But can totally relate to losing your confidence. I became an almost total recluse in the first trimester, just wanted to be at home (bad sickness and exhaustion didn't help). Normally dd and I would hardly ever be home, we still don't venture too far from home if I can help it and only spend a couple of hours out instead of the day. I still can't face taking dd to the park as it's where I first noticed bleeding with mc.

keys Hope your dh doesn't end up in the same boat as mine. We've dtd once since bfp. Although I seem to finally be starting to get in the mood again, his really worried about doing anything until after we know if my placenta has moved up far enough.

I'll add to pregnancy making you feel so desirable. Dh mentioned I hardly ever kiss him properly anymore. Had to admit I'm worried about belching in his mouth! Strugling not to throw up until mid afternoon everyday then spending hours stuffing myself as I'm starving really helps too.

sunday hope your scan went well.

Having a bit of a stressful time here at the moment. Poor dd has had a cold since just after Christmas day and almost completely lost her voice. She's normally a chatter box so is getting really frustrated at not being able to make herself understood and upset about being hungery and it being painful to eat. We've also got major unexpected building work going on mean the living room is uninhabitable and looks like a bomb has hit it. Monday people came around the plaster the cealing and ended up pulling it down! So bar a small area for dd to play in the dining room everywhere is messy and full of stuff.

Had a bit of a panic today when I developed a headache this morning. Half convinced myself it was due to high blood presure. Saw a lovely loccum gp at our surgery to get dd checked over and he measured my blood presure when I mentioned I was worried. Also agreed headache was likely due to not being able to drink much in the morning. So looking forward to everything being back to normal, so I can go back to being relaxed again!

Great news on the scan sunday It's lovely to start hitting the milestones

Fantastic news on the scan, Sunday! Really pleased for you

Thanks for understanding my slightly bonkers reclusiveness, everyone. I will Get A Grip

That's wonderful news sunday, congratulations! A big milestone knocked down there.

chandelier I've had brown discharge with this pregnancy and a scan showed everything was fine. Don't be afraid to get checked out though to reassure yourself.

manatee echo what baked said, it's hard not to become a recluse. I flew to Belfast at 7 weeks and was extremely nervous the whole time. Everything was completely fine and I felt like I'd wasted the weekend worrying. Unfortunately that was the time that morning sickness hit with a vengeance but that's another story!

Had 38 week appointment this morning and asked if I could be booked in for a sweep next week, no joy. Not allowed before 40 weeks although she has offered to see me every few days for antenatal checks if I feel I need it to stay calm which I reallt appreciated. Back on the curries and hill walking for me then.

Brilliant news Sunday I'm so happy for you!

Did anyone start getting ligament pain in the first trimester? I'm 9 weeks and have non-painful twinges around my groin/inside hip bone, moving from side to side. Does that sound like it could be womb growing? Would be reassuring if it was as it would mean there is a little bean in there! Can't believe how quickly they grow between 9 and 12 weeks - from a green olive to a clementine size apparently!