Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Evening guys. I have a question I'm worrying about I don't know if anyone can help me. After 3 miscarriages I should know but I'm so nervous. I pulled out my scan notes from last Wednesday the nurse said everything was perfect however I've done the wrong thing and googled my CRL. I was exactly 6 weeks last Wednesday and the CRL was 3.6mm I know the excate day. I conceived because of the pain in my right side and only DTD once that month. It says 3.6mm is more like a measurement for 4-5 week fetus which I know my dates. She put me down as 6+2 weeks gestation but I should of been somewhere like 6mm. Just made my self so anxious stupid Google lol xx

keys, it's so hard not to worry. However if the sonographer was going to date you differently or thought you weren't as far along then they would have been obliged to say so. Also, the margin for error on measurement with scans is huge. When you think of the difference between 3.6mm and 6mm it is barely anything at all. I don't know much about scanning but there has to be a reason why they date around the 12 week mark, the fetus must be big enough to get accurate measurements at that point. I know this won't help but if something wasn't right then the sonographer really would have told you. Google needs to be banned in pregnancy, it's stressed me out so much too!

And congratulations on your scan

keys I was gonna say exactly what nouser has said. Measurements at this early on are hard to get accurately. Can understand your worry though x

keys as others have said early scans have a larger margin for error. I had scans at 5 and 7 weeks and each put me 'back' by a week which freaked me out but by the time it got to my 12 week scan everything had caught up and was measuring correctly, the sonographer took no notice of 'my' dates or the previous scan dates just measured what she had in front of her!
It's a worrying time but the odds are so in your favour once that little heart starts beating.

Hello 5am, isn't pregnancy insomnia wonderful

Thanks ever so much guys for the reassurance it means a lot. I dunno y I done it tbh I can be so stupid sometimes. I did see a heartbeat. It's so hard when you've been through so much heartache in the past the worry never stops.
Thanks again guys got my next scan Wednesday week goes so slowly xx

So sorry to hear your feeling stressed keys I agree with Google being awful in pregnancy! Any symptom of you google it there is someone on there to worry you, if the sonographer knew your dates and said everything was perfect I'm sure it is all okay. There's so much room for error in the early days, why they don't properly date until the 12 week Mark. Try not to worry, perhaps if it is bothering you, you could give your midwife a call for a bit of reassurance?

Sorry you're feeling stressed, keys. The scan actually sounds really positive though, if the sonographer says everything is as it should be.

It's just so hard not to fret though. I keep having to remind myself that it isn't actually going to make any difference how I feel or whether I'm fretting or not as I can't affect the outcome either way.

Also STEP AWAY FROM THE GOOGLES. STEP AWAY

Has anyone else had any cramping??
I'm fretting this afternoon it's sharp pains and only one one side low abdomen? Stupidly googled and now worried about possible eptopic, or would that be super painful?! It's just uncomfortable not unbearable but don't remember this happening with Ds x

crumbles I has serious cramping in the early weeks, I couldn't believe it was normal to feel like that. Was like being stabbed with a hot poker!

Crumbles Yes I've had that a bit too. Not super strong but only on one side as you describe. Sort of a twanging feeling, a bit like AF but not iyswim.

Hi Crumbles- have you had any bleeding? When is your scan? Having had an ectopic, I would say the pain was not really like cramping, more like you would imagine appendicitis to be. It was so bad I almost passed out from the pain and for me, it came on quite suddenly and the pain increased to unbearable over a few hours. If you are in any doubt, get yourself checked out sharpish- particularly if its getting worse.

Thank you ladies! It is probably just normal, thank you for reassuring me!

Eastend thanks for your advice, no bleeding yet thankfully, still waiting on my scan date to come through in the post but it will hopefully be in the next week or two. The pains eased now to a dull cramp and definable you nowhere near what you described, that sounds awful
I'll see how it all is after some sleep and will defiantly get checked out if it gets a lot worse.

I think what you're describing is just cramping, Crumbles. If you get shoulder pain, or it gets worse, or you get spotting, call the GP but otherwise don't worry too much (easier said than done I know).

Well, I just booked a private reassurance scan for Friday week. I'll be about 7+4 at that point. DH is coming with me. Really hope everything is as it should be.

You don't always get shoulder tip pain with an ectopic. Just keep an eye on it- I hope it passes soon!

By shoulder pain do you mean literally in my shoulders? Sorry to sound stupid!!

I will try to relax, thank you I guess every little twinge or sign is going to be a worry but ultimately worrying about it won't cause another outcome!

That's so exciting! Fingers crossed everything goes well at the scan I'm sure it will, will your doctor allow any Nhs early scans? In my area after a mc you are normally offered an earlier reassurance scan too at 7/8 weeks which is helpful as 12 weeks seems so far away!

Pain in the tip of your shoulder is supposed to be an indicator of an ectopic. I presume not just a regular ache but I didn't get shoulder tip pain so it's not necessarily an indicator. Everyone on this thread will understand your anxiety but please stop googling now, you'll drive yourself crazy!!!

Crumbles It's possible that if I hassled the GP they might make it happen on the NHS - my surgery is quite good with pregnancy related stuff. But tbh I don't mind paying if it gives me control over dates/times as DH wants to come and his work/travel diary is usually busy. I'm booked in to a private clinic in Cambridge, which means DH can just take Friday afternoon off and get the train straight out of London.

Hi guys. crumbles how you feeling today Hun? I have twinges and aches all the time it worries me also. I get it in my groin area and sharp pains and the aches come and go like af aches. Was so bad s few days ago I was sure I was going to start bleeding. Pain free today though i think it's your body getting ready even though we won't show for ages yet our uterus starts expanding to get ready causing these twinges and aches. But defo get it checked out for reassurance. I hope everything goes ok.

eastend I'm so sorry to hear of your story that must of bee so scary and heartbreaking awful. I know your end up losing one of your tubes as well I hope you got lots of support.

manatee I have my scan next Wednesday I'll be exactly 8 weeks or 8+2 not 100% sure when ovulated but know the day the magic happened just depends how quickly the bubba reached the egg lol. Time is going so slowly I'm taking it I'm 7 weeks tomorrow but I found out 2 weeks before xmas so early 3 weeks. Makes it even worse the wait. I never wish time away but I wish these next 7 weeks to go fast seems ages away.

Nothing to report here really just so tired I'm struggling with the school runs again can't wait to hit my blooming stage if I am lucky enough to get there.

Thanks Keys- I was lucky not to have surgical management and tubes not damaged. It isn't an experience I'm keen to repeat but it's in the past now thankfully!

Hi everyone, Can I just have a bit of a moan? I'm feeling depressed today - just feel like there's no point looking forward to having a baby as there's so much that can go wrong still. I'm so scared of having the scan and there not being a happy little foetus in there. I realised today I could still have an ectopic, which I'm really scared of, though I think that's unlikely at 9 weeks. I can't afford to have an early scan, so am just going to have to wait until I get my NHS scan date through. I asked my midwife about early scan but she said they wouldn't do that unless I had bleeding or cramping.. I'm either feeling sick and achey or worried because I don't feel sick or achey. It sounds stupid, but I already feel like I might only have one child cause I feel like I can't cope with the stress of getting or staying pregnant :-(

Sympathies Sophia. I completely know how you feel - like the waiting is almost unbearable when you're so anxious about not getting the news you want.

Can you distract yourself somehow? Read a book, watch a sappy film, do something to make yourself smile? It won't fix the anxiety but it might just take your mind off it for a while and give you a rest

Here I've had my first properly nauseous day. Yuck. AND I had to pick over the carcass of Sunday's roast chicken to make dinner tonight. I had to put a pot of onions on the stove so I'd only smell them while I did it, which worked more or less

sophia it's ok to vent your frustration Hun especially once you've been through a mc before so extra anxious which obviously causes the worry. I would of thought after having a mc they would of offered you an early scan. 9 weeks the odds are so low of anything being wrong now but I know it's the what ifs. Your really don't have long to wait now you've come this far hopefully the next few weeks will go quickly for you.

If it's any reassurance I feel exactly the same. I worry if I don't feel sick (which I haven't last few days). I worry I don't feel as tired and worry when I get aches every time I go to the toilet I expect the worse. But after 3 mc's I kinda think I can't change my fate what will be will be. Unless you start bleeding Hun or the cramps are mega bad please try not worry to much I am sure little bean is growing just fine. These first 13 weeks are so hard it's nice to be on a forum like this so we can all try and support each other. What your feeling is so normal trust me I'm always fondeling my boobs lol or sticking my nose coffee jar to see if the symptoms are still there people must think I'm mad.

Chin up Hun as I said earlier you've come so far try and hang in their I am hand holding with you. 7 weeks tomorrow I've still weeks of worry also xx

Sorry to hear your feeling crappy Sophia. I think the risk of ectopic is unlikely at 9wks, sure I read that somewhere probably on mumsnet . They don't offer early NHS scans where I am either so I've had to tough it out too!

12 week scan tomorrow for me. V apprehensive obviously, seeing as I've not had any early scans. Rationally I know worrying won't change anything but think I'm in for a sleepless night! Should be 12+4 tomorrow according to LMP although I suspect I ovulated late so wouldn't be surprised if I'm dated at 11+4. We shall have to wait and see!!! Eeeeek!

Oh wow gl sunday I bet your so excited to see your LO :). Can't wait to hear your news of seeing little bean bouncing around. Stay positive it will be fine. Xx