Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Jessie we have the same EDD Like you I can't bear to think that far ahead though. One day at a time, eh?

I will also be due late Aug/early Sept (ish!) Manatee I'm guessing based on my LMP and when I got my surprise BFP! I have PCOS and my cycles are all over the place generally but they haven't really returned to my "usual" 33-36days since my miscarriages in the summer. I will have a viability scan in a couple of weeks so should get an EDD then, but I would be delivered at 37-38wks anyway, so it may even be mid-Aug... which is rather poignantly when I was in hospital with the previous pregnancy.

Can anyone less technophobe than me add me to the stats please? I'm 38 (although 28 in my head!), have two DCs age 6&9, and this is my 4th pregnancy after a horribly long and drawn out double miscarriage (one mc at 5 weeks; then a later mmc of the same pregnancy at 10 weeks) in Aug 2015.

YY to dry January! Very helpful!!! That and "oh yes I'm not eating that after the festive overeat!" I managed to host a NYE drinks/nibbles daytime party and an evening dinner party without anyone noticing that my drinks were moved round/ poured away/ predominantly soda! My biggest challenge will be if the morning sickness kicks in again, as I was sick every day for 6 months with my second pregnancy! Hoping it'll be more like the first/third pregnancies which were nausea, a few pukes and a bit of retching. I can hide that far easier.

Hand holding and for all.

chandelier I've added you to the stats, also keys and crumbles and Jessie.

nouser Good to hear that's another four thread babies

Hi Jessie I can sympathise with wanting morning sickness as a symptom and a sign that all is well, however I've had no sickness or nausea at all if that reassures you. 12weeks today and just been vv tired so far.

I wish someone had told me more about mc before it happened to me. I had a mmc and didn't even know it was such a thing despite being a qualified healthcare professional (albeit nothing to do with maternity matters!). Have a friend who is newly pg with her first and I do feel v jealous of her blissful ignorance.

paws have you had any thoughts about what you might change your username to once Samuel is here? I take it your current children are of the feline variety!

allbutoneofmychildtenhavepaws perhaps?

Part of me is really greatful we never got around to working out the due date for the baby I mc. Particually as I feel pregnant with bump in wtf cycle. My midwife was lovely about working out how far along I was at the booking in appointment not edd as it felt like tempting fate to look so far ahead after a couple of small bleeds in the early weeks. Only got told edd at 12 week scan. Which is only about 5 weeks later than the baby I mc. While dh and I won't forget the lo we lost "charlotte" as spookily dd had an imaginary friend for the couple of weeks I was pregnant/misscarrying who she said had to go away she called that. We're both happy to have bump to focus on who will be iminantly here when we reach first baby's due date in about 3 weeks time! I made a blanket to remember that baby by which helped as just dh and I know what it siginfies and is something we see almost everyday. And that dd and bump can be told what it signifies when old enough if we choose.

Feeling really down today and convinced this pregnancy won't last. I can't bear going through the emotional pain of a miscarriage again. I've got no reason to think anything is wrong, but I had symptoms right up until I started bleeding last time, so I can't trust my body at all. I just can't believe that I'll get good news at my first scan :-(

So lovely to be taking this journey with you all. manatee that's correct thanks Hun 22nd August am like you all so nervous to be looking that far ahead but we're all hand holding together which is so nice and also we have the other ladies who can advice us on our concerns who are further along.

noodle that must of been such heartache for you and such worry now. This is such a supportive thread I hope you find comfort and reassurance with us all I am praying everything is perfect for you Hun.

crumbles congratulations. Hand holding I know people don't like to tak about mc but 1 in 4 women it happens to. it's good to have that kind of support on every pregnancy forum as you said it unfortunately happens to a number of women as we know :(.

jessie with DD1 I had no symptoms at all didn't really think about it tbh as I had never mc and she was fine she's 5 now going on 15. This one I feel. Very sick snappy tired sore boobies but this only happened to me a few days ago I was exactly 6 weeks and it hit so it's probably on its way to you. They say it's when the placenta takes over your more than likely to get the symptoms. Lots of ladies get none at all.

paws what a lovely name I remember you from previous thread so lovely tohear of your lovely news.

Sorry to anyone I've missed DD2 is having a meltdown this evening waiting for our dominions to arrive :).

sophia sorry you're feeling down today. I think you will get days like that in the impossably hard early days. Despite having two scans before hand and feeling movement later on before 20 week scan I was always convinced it was going to be bad news. Some days I did just wake up and decide everything was going to go wrong. On days like that all that really helped was wallowing and allowing myself to feel down. Other days I wasn't hopeful but they just weren't as hard.

I don't think you ever look at pregnancy in the same way after mc but for me at least once I passed 28 weeks I've felt more and more positive. I obsess over movement, discharge, every tiny little twinge a million times more than I did when pregnant with dd, and worry about something going wrong during birth which I never gave a passing throught to. But the worry is no where near as exhausting or all consuming as those long early weeks and months.

Hello ladies. Long time since I posted and have name changed (I was Melon prior to the hacking!)

nouser I think we had the same due date, how are you?

manatee we were on another thread together, sorry for your loss last year and I truly hope this is your rainbow baby

As for me I'm 36+3 and baby is breech so having a c section in 12 days The finish line is so close now!

Evening everyone! Hoping everyone has had positive happy days :D

I've felt really anxious today as I woke up this morning thinking wow I feel great, fully awake, no nauseous feeling at the thought of breakfast and it took until lunchtime to suddenly feel that stomach lurching feeling that the same thing happened last time on the day of the mc .

I know the symptoms come and go but just feels so familiar brought it all back to the lost baby, trying to keep positive until scan comes through in the post!

The doctor gave me an EDD of 23rd of August (although could change as no AF between) so we all seem to have really similar dates!

Hi Crumbles12 Sorry you're feeling anxious. My symptoms disappeared for a day or so over Christmas and I was really worried, but they soon came back and I wished I had just enjoyed the non-sicky days!

Thank you Sophia logically I know you are right and I should just be pleased to be feeling really well today it just all seems so familiar it's really hit me . Fingers crossed though as stress surely does no good and I try and find comfort that it's statistically less likely in theory to happen again!

melon! I was wondering where you went! We do have the same due date, need to correct you - you're 37+3 today not 36+3! I'm good thank you, willing baby to come now but not a single braxton hick or anything so I think it will be a while yet. How are you?

sophia and crumble Sorry to hear the worry is setting in. I had symptoms come and go all the time in the first tri, doesn't make it any easier to deal with though. The waiting game is awful but we are here to get you through it.

jessie I have quite a few pregnant friends due not long after me. Out of all of them I was the only one who got sick, they all breezed through just needing the odd early night and the pregnancies are all going very well.

Hi - May I join you lovely ladies please? I am 38, have twin DD age 8 and had triplet MC in Oct 2015 at 12 weeks. Have just found out today that I am preg, which is great n all but I am terrified it's all going to be either another multiple or another MC situation. Or both.

Welcome MrsBlimey

Ooops thanks nouser glad one of us is paying attention! I'm ok thank you, still very anxious but I don't think that ever leaves you after a previous loss. It probably sounds strange but I'm willing baby not to turn so that I can have my elcs on 12 days, I just need her here and in my arms now. How are you feeling?

and congratulations to all the newbies. There is nothing any of us can say to take away the fear of early pregnancy, I know I certainly didn't listen to a word of reassurance but rest assured that for now you are counting the days and that will soon turn into weeks. Good luck and here's to a thoroughly boring 9 months ahead

baked I'm still pretty anxious too, not sleeping great as I feel I have to keep a very close eye on movement. I have been in to be monitored a couple of times which looking back was down to paranoia. Must admit I'm jealous of your elcs, it doesn't sound strange to me! Mine was breech at 31 weeks but had turned by 34 - part of me was gutted as that meant I couldn't have a definite end date to work towards. I really can't complain as I'm low risk and everything has been fine but the thought of going to 42 weeks is too much. Going to ask mw next week if there's any chance at all of a sweep before 40 weeks (probably not). Now I know that the baby has a fantastic chance at life I'm just willing him to come soon then I don't have to rely on my body anymore!

At my scan last week they also said I have low fluid levels round baby and that her growth is starting to slow. So I'm very worried now! They didn't seem concerned and just said to keep an eye on movement, I find it a huge responsibility to keep track of her 24/7 and have got myself in to a state more times than I can count (anterior placenta doesn't help either!) Only time will tell I suppose, DH keeps saying 'if she moves it's because she needs to!'
Great to hear your pregnancy has been lovely and boring, hope he doesn't keep you waiting too much longer Hitting 37 weeks is an amazing feeling after everything

baked when I had dd by elcs for breech positioning, the woman on the list before me had her baby turn right at the last moment. At my local hospital they scan just before spinal to check positioning and if it has changed you get the choice to carry onto section any way or be discharged and wait for natural labour. Unless your desperate to attempt a natural birth elcs is a big thing to get prepared for to then have it not happen!

Welcome newbies and congrats on you bfps. Especially welcome flower from the rmc board, lovely to see you hear. Hope the scan went well. This thread suddenly got super busy!

Wow I can't believe you guys are preparing to becoming mummies again within the next few weeks I'm so excited for you.
I have also heard of the baby turning. last minute but baked whatever happens section or natural I am looking forward to hearing of your news baby is here.

nouser I can imagine your not sleeping with excitement and anxiety you've come so far since your mc and your also be so emotional about the baby you lost but not long and you've made it :). the long 40 weeks is nearly up :). Can't wait to hear your baby news also. I am quite jealous I wish I could fast forward my time by 30 weeks I'm sure it will go quickly August don't seem to far away. I do remember your old username melon I am so pleased this has all worked out for you.

dobby I also remember you Hun congratulations:) how long do you have left until you meet your LO?

mrs welcome. Congratulations still must be sinking in ay? There's a few of us still very early on hand holding till 13 week scan. So sorry to hear of your heart breaking loss. Will you book in with EPU? They will definitely need to keep an eye on you.

crumble how you feeling today have your symptoms returned? My boobies stopped becoming so sore in my 5 week I remember christmas day thinking here were go again then yesterday omg the pain was worst than when I first fell can't even lay on them my symptoms definitely fade and come back again I think it's normal but it's also very normal to worry as well. I remember my 9 week scan from previous mc being fine babies heartbeat was so strong then 2-3 days later my symptoms started fading I thought it was because I was getting to my 12 week stage could smell coffee again without wanting to puke but I had mc a few days after that scan so I a like you constant symptom spotting and panicking if there not strong I even smell the coffee jar lol if I feel ok that day as I worry. Theses are going to be very hard weeks for us but we will get there this time.

sophia hope your feeling better today.

I have never made is pass the 32 week stage. I am hoping to go term now if little bean sticks. There going to stitch me and give me hormones and maybe steroids so I'm in for a bit of a journey but this will be my last pregnancy now after 2 c sections this will be my third I can't do it to my body anymore so I am determined to enjoy it as soon as I get passed my 20 weeks scan.
There's nothing more I want than to take my babies home with me and have them laying with me once born. My first DD spent 3 weeks in special care baby unit my second was 4 months in and out of Great Ormand Street I must be mad doing all this again.

Happy lazy Sunday everyone before the manic starts tomorrow again.

dobby they scan you on the day at my hospital too. I don't know whether they give you the choice to continue with the elcs, that would be what I'd want to do but I don't think they would from what the consultant said last week. It's a big thing to prepare for if it might not happen! Stay put little miss!

Re: symptoms I never had sore boobs and my morning sickness didn't kick in til week 10, I was so worried but just goes to show that what is normal for one isn't the same for all

Welcome MrsBlimey! we can all stick together through these worrying early weeks Congratulations!

keys Felt fine this morning, went to take a pregnacare tablet and promptly threw it up! Happy to feel 'pregnant' again but also feel silly I didn't just enjoy feeling well!

I think the scary thing is in my case I felt the symptoms go and found out very quickly the baby had gone but I can't imagine how awful it must be for the opposite with feeling pregnant and optimistic until finding out later

The odds are in our favour though so trying to be positive and keeping busy!

Big hugs to everyone who is having a rough time at the moment, there has got to be a light at the end of the tunnel for us all x

Thanks to everyone for the reassurance about my having no sickness yet. Feel much better now. Boobs don't feel tender but then I realised this is because I am slobbish about with no bra on- as soon as I get properly dressed I can definitely feel it!

Best of luck to those nearing the final straight and to everyone heading back to work tomorrow.