no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

It's not lifted for me but then most people don't have complications and bleeding for as long as I have.
I'm 17+ 5 today and have major scanxiety over my scan at 2pm today. I may start to relax once wee get over 30 weeks with this one. One mw told me to concentrate on getting to 28 weeks as things are much more sunny looking after that point.

Hi everyone! First time I've posted on our shiny new thread! Been bogged down in redundancy nonsense at work since coming back from holiday .

I've lost track of everyone's due dates etc, is there any chance someone could do a quick stats update? I'd offer but can only access mumsnet on iPhone which makes things a bit fiddly..,

Bumble congratulations on the scan! Great news!

Brummie best of luck with the birth decision. I'll be going down the ELCS route this time after a car crash birth with DD1.

TFT thanks for your comments on the work situation at the end of the last thread. By the time the collective consultation closes and they can start dismissing people I'll be 25 weeks through the pregnancy. Good luck for your scan tomorrow!

Well we have our 20 week scan tomorrow -eek!! It's not till 5pm so I have all day to fret about it too!

Hi everyone, have been looking for this thread for a little while as I was on the TTC after mc thread. I had a mmc on 25th May at 8 weeks (baby stopped growing at 6+5). Cycle 2 ttc after mc, cycle 5 in total and I got my BFP on 25th July at 9DPO. 5 weeks tomorrow by my ov date (a little more by LMP). Just booked an early scan on 27th August at 8 weeks, had to go private as no scan slots at my local Hospital that week. I go on holiday that day to Bulgaria and want to see a heartbeat before I fly and see that chance of mc drop to 2%.

Hi all,
Just catching up.
treacle you are so close!
tft good luck for tomorrow. What time is your scan?
Same to you brickie, I am sorry everything is still scary for you. I hope it starts to get easier.
and also luck for you too zeux, wow busy day tomorrow!

I agree envious, I have found each stage has caused a small reduction in anxiety. The 12 week scan for me was a huge barrier to get past and once past that I did feel a little better. But really, the 20 week scan was when it started to feel real. I have to confess to little bouts of fear still when I wonder when I last felt anything and the poor bump gets pocked until it responds . 31 weeks tomorrow so I guess there is always a degree of worry but I would say that it's no longer my main emotion.

mummy welcome, I hope this is an uneventful pregnancy for you and you get good news to go on holiday with in a few weeks.

treacle it's so lovely that your baby is nearly here. I remember you from the ttc threads and when you had a scare at the start, seems like 5 minutes ago so hopefully time will continue to fly!

16 weeks today, private scan on Saturday which I'm excited and terrified about in equal measure. I need to focus on the positive instead of thinking they'll tell me bad news when there's nothing to suggest that.

brickie Good luck for your scan today. Agree that it is hard to start believing that everything might be OK, when the memory of the losses is strong, and/or you have physical reminders like bleeding/spotting that make you expect the worst.

My biggest milestone was the scan at 16 weeks (private one), since then I have been finding myself relaxing a bit more, and there are occasions when I am actually enjoying the pregnancy. Mind you, there are also still lots of other occasions where I find myself freaking out and convinced that it will all end in tears! Miscarriage - the gift that keeps on giving, eh?

Brickie meant to say good luck for your scan this afternoon too, hope everything goes ok, we'll be thinking of you.

Hello mummy welcome!

Good luck brickie zeuxippe melon & tft scans galore over the next few days, I've got my fingers and toes crossed that everything is fine and dandy for you all.

Hope your blood test results come back OK treacle

Great news re: your scan bumble hooray on graduating from the epu, brilliant.

Glad your consultant will support your decision re: the birth brummie and agree with the others, no need to make any decisions just yet!

Really trying not to wish the time away but at only 5 weeks tomorrow it feels like YEARS until my 12 week scan. I've got so many milestones before that, getting past 5 weeks which was when I had my last MC, Dr appointment on Fri, early scan at around 6.5/ 7 weeks, getting past 8 weeks which was when I had my first MC, first midwife appointment......and then the 12 week scan. Feeling very wobbly about it all but I guess that's just normal, right?!

glitter we seem to be on all the same threads nice to see you're here too we can hand hold together x

glitter completely normal.....I hope

Any news from brickie? Hope you're OK lovely x

For me things have started to feel easier since my 20 week scan last week. And feeling the very occasional movement helps. Aiming for 30 weeks next when I'm sure things will start to feel much more real.

Good luck with scans this week.

Thanks ladies xxx You've all helped me through :)
No contact today so I'm guessing all was fine with my bloods :)

Had to go and be monitored today as I have been so swollen but luckily all that is fine too.

Maybe I can stop worrying for 2 minutes?

Hope all the scans go ok ladies :)

I too am interested in when you can start to relax! If you'd asked me at the beginning I would have said once I've seen a hb I would be fine, as my ectopic and mc were both identified early. Seeing the hb last week didn't help at all, I was happy but in a very muted way. Feel like there is more to lose now and also feel I've only got one more miscarriage in me, that if this one fails that's it I'll stop trying.

I bled like a stuck pig throughout the entire first tri with my son and I never felt as worried as I have with this one.

Anyway had another scan today due to pain and brown discharge over weekend.... Pips looked great, 14mm long, hb blipping away. Feel happy and relieved but it still not joy yet.... Persuaded them to scan me again in 2 weeks when I'll be 9+. They also made me 7+6 today when I'm only 7+3 by the last scan... I was thrilled! At this stage those three days count!

Scan went very well :) baby is measuring correctly so placenta must've been doing its job since the bleed. Baby is also very active and jumping around. They can't see any areas of the placenta that are cause for concern but they can't exclude further problems obviously.

Hi everyone, its nice to read lots of positive posts as I'm really struggling this evening and would really appreciate some advice on something weighing on my mind.

I'm in two minds whether to go for a private scan.

We are going on holiday around the time I am 12 weeks.

Last pregnancy was MMC found at 12 weeks (baby died at 9+3). I'm currently 8+2 and my anxiety is crippling me right now. It is impossible to get a GP appt for another few weeks and my midwife doesn't seem interested until I've been booked in at 10+4. There is no walk in EPU.

I'd really like to know if everything is looking OK before I go away, as we are going with family and will have to tell them, and I'm also scared of miscarrying while I'm away, we will be in the middle of nowhere.

I'm scared if the private scan shows something is wrong they won't handle it well or they won't be experienced enough to know if everything is actually OK etc.

I'm also worried it won't actually reassure me.

Sorry to be a downer on the thread, I'm having a bad day... In hindsight I think I got pregnant quite quickly after MMC which is great but emotionally I'm still grieving.

But I would really appreciate your experiences and thoughts about the scan.

boys One day at a time, lovely, small steps. The first trimester is a total headf**kbrutal, the only way I survived was to stick my head in the sand and pretend it wasn't happening. Which wasn't so easy once the sickness started. I spotted and bled for over 4 weeks as well and was convinced it would all go wrong again.
But you had a great scan today, and each scan/day/week is another step towards a successful outcome! Every day does count indeed.

Great scan news! Very relieved everything is looking OK for you brickie

works if a scan stands a chance at putting your mind at rest I'd book one. I have had private scans at 2 different places during this pregnancy and my experience has been positive in that the sonographers were experienced and nice. I always told them about my mc before they started which I foundhelped settle my nerves and made them seem a bit more caring. A bit of peace of mind, even if it is fleeting, can go a long way. Would a scan help you enjoy your holiday a bit more? Maybe book one for around 10 weeks? Totally understand the sticking your head in the sand approach as well.

works people can't speak highly enough of babybond on here and that includes ladies with previous mcs, maybe worth seeing if there is one near you? I totally understand your worries, I pack pads and big pants every time I go away, it's become force of habit now. If you think a scan will help you to enjoy your holiday then go for it.

Brickie great news about your scan!

works I agree if it will make you feel better then do it but I would ask the mw when she is booking you in when the scan might be as many 12 week scans are done at 11 w so would be before your holiday.

I've been testing to ensure hormone development. The bottom one is 21DPO today. Too scared to do a CB digi I case it doesn't say 3+. These lines are good aren't they?

Excellent lines mummy just like mine with this pregnancy

Lines do look good mummy! I get too obsessed with lines so don't, test as much as you!

I hope you're right brickie

mrs I have been testing every 2-3 days, first one is 9DPO, no line on the picture but a real squinter on the day which is when I did my Frer and got my clear BFP.

Great scan news brickie

work I second getting a scan to ease your nerves. Although it will probably be very anxious having it but hopefully you will feel more positive afterwards. I had one done at a local private hospital and the sonographer was a consultant gynae/obs who also works at the same nhs maternity hospital I'm under, so I felt very reassured they knew what they were doing.

mummy great lines! Also want to add, don't worry if you don't go darker than the control. I tested on these up to 6wks and still wasn't as dark so stopped testing.