no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

I've not seen a midwife tbh I called and asked why I didn't have a 16 week appointment and they said not to worry because I was seeing the consultant when I was almost 18 weeks? I've no contact point at all for the midwife who is meant to be my named midwife. The phone service said my 16 week appointment should've been made for me at my booking in and she couldn't understand why it hadn't been.

brickie I'm so sorry to hear that the bleeding and worry is still ongoing. I hope you managed to relax a bit on holiday. I really hope that the bleeding stops soon for you, or that you are able to get some more clarity on everything. for you and hands here to hold if you need them.

Hi ladies, sorry I've been so quiet. We were on holiday all last week.

Going to read back properly now.
I'm off for blood tests tomorrow due to persistent itching. Then a swab the next day to check for thrush and vaginosis.
August is full of baby related appointments!
Seeing the consultant on the 12th to see if we will be having an elcs.

Busy busy busy! 33+2 today :)

Yeah they are llama as far as I'm aware anyway!
Thank you :) I'm not sure where to start with it to be honest. Going to get my blood taken at 10.30 so that's my starting point.

That's really reassuring, thank you :)
I have had it on my palms and feet, but also all over my bump so not sure.
The doctor wasnt too concerned but it worsened so I phoned the midwives at triage and they said definitely have blood taken to make sure.

That must've been scary for you though! I hope you don't have it again this time.

My first thought about being induced at 37 weeks was "no he has to be a September baby!" :p

Just had a lovely scan this morning and had to post about it ! Baby was wriggling about and 'waved' to us, it was amazing. Reminded me of our 12wk one with our DS.
Also nearly started crying when the nurse said they (epu) wouldn't need to see me again and my next scan would be the dating one at the antenatal clinic. Feels like such a big step to get past the epu stage.

Lovely news bumble

Yes I got a pic (my 5th one ). Can see arms and legs on it but the pics are never as clear as what's going on on screen. Still a good one though. Looking forward to my 12wk scan now, never thought I'd say that!

Hello all!!!
Lovely news Bumble

Had my scan yesterday - cervix is all ok - was 4cm but got a shedload more scans and consultant appt's to keep measuring me.

We also had the ECLS chat... I am worried about having the 3 mc's, 2 x lletzs procedures etc that I will struggle in the birth, not cope with the pain or it will all go wrong and i will end up having forceps and being ripped from here to Kingdom come.

I think I have lost confidence in my body and I wanted an ECLS because it's a controlled environment and I'm just so frightened of it all going wrong.

I do of course realise that an ECLS is major surgery.

However my consultant says he feels I'm now at a "lower" risk - but not low risk yet. He thinks I've got a good chance of a vaginal birth.

However he has said if I want an ECLS I can absolutely have one as long as I'm fully aware of the risks and I think about it long and hard.

Torn now and I really don't know what to decide. I've got a while I admit but I've no idea what to think

brummie that's lovely news about the risk lowering, thibgs are definitely heading in the right direction. And great that the consultant will side with whatever you choose birth-wise when the time comes.

bumble great scan news. I posted something very similar about going to be scanned on 'the other side' (i.e. Not epau!). It took me by surprise how emotional that was.

treacle hope the tests go well and that it turns out to be nothing serious.

Had a lovely lunch with my dad on Saturday, the hospital have scheduled a course of treatment for him until december so I'm taking a positive from that that hopefully things may not be too bad come January. I thought I'd be climbing the walls waiting for my midwife appointment by now (it's next week) but I'm strangely calm. Still knicker checking like a crazy person though.

brummie good scan news yay! Glad they are keeping a close eye on you. There's no need to make a decision about delivery yet. If you did try for a vaginal birth I can highly recommend epidurals if you find the pain too much. I'd love to be brave and trust my body more, and I will try harder this time (being induced didn't help me with DS), but I am a firm believer in if you'd take painkillers for a headache why wouldn't you for childbirth...

bumble more good scan news!

Hope appointments and scans come round quickly for those struggling during the wait.

I just got some complete bargains at JoJo's which are really nice so currently feeling satisfied at shopping for not much money. Got a dress, vest and trousers for £5 to £7 each and a full price tankini so I can go stand in the pool swimming. Actually feeling pregnant and huge

Bumble Great scan news! It never stops being emotional

brummie Don't worry too much yet, you have lots of time to think and decide! You might start getting more confidence in your body as the pregnancy progresses, and you will also find out more information as you go along. It's early days, and you will know more about how your cervix is doing in the coming weeks/months.
Plus, there is always the option to refuse any mechanical intervention with a vaginal birth. Talk to your midwife to start with, I would recommend. Don't listen too much about what people tell you or what you read on MN - although there are obviously pros and cons for both, you will most likely only hear the horror stories! I will never forget how I had a meeting with my manager when pg with DS, to discuss my projects, and she proceeded to tell me all about her (awful) birth experience, I was mortified!

nouser A lot of people bounce back really well from cancer treatments, hope it will be like this for your dad!

Hi brummie that's a really good length for your cervix, how many weeks are you now? Mine was 21mm at 20 weeks and 29mm at 24 weeks when I was discharged from the consultant. Now sat here at 39 weeks.... I must admit I am now a bit scared that scar tissue will mean I won't dilate properly but I only had 1 lletz and my MC was medically managed so hoping my fear is unfounded. I just want this baby to turn up safe.

Well they've done my bloods now and if I don't hear anything tomorrow I'm to assume it's good news.
Haha get packing! I'm packed but may need to repack if we are having an elcs as I guess I'll need slightly different things.

Glad all was well bumble :)

Brummie that's good news. I know how you feel regarding the elcs/vb quandary. Just take the advice as it comes and you have plenty of time to decide :)

Hi Happy I'm only 14 wks so pleased with 4 cm but got 3 more cervix scans to keep an eye on it.

I've had 2 x lletz procedures plus 3 mc's with 2 of those ERPCs so it does really worry me, and I've got exact same worries as you so I will definitely be interested to see how you get on!

Can't believe your little one is imminent Treacle I remember our conversations

I know, it's crazy. I remember joining this thread and thinking I'd never be someone posting that was nearly due and now look!
So glad you're here too :) and 14 weeks!

Great scan news bumble, when I left the RMC unit at 12 weeks they gave me a "graduation" pack - I cried...quite a lot :)

brummie I can totally empathise with you and the doubt in your body, maybe look into yoga or hypnobirthing classes I've found them very useful to help me see that my body can do this and it's a separate thing.

I am now unsure if baby is still breech or not which is providing me something to obsess about, it's certainly trying to turn just can't make out if it's managed it - which means my head is all over the place with how long I've left - at this stage i really need the focus of dates!

Oh and what is lletz procedures?

So pleased to read lots of good scan news and about 'graduating' from the EPU - I love that! It's also so good to hear about people who are much further on, it's ve reassuring, although I can't believe I'll ever get there. Is there ever a point in pregnancy after mc when you feel able to look more than a few days/a week ahead?

Good luck with your decision brummie. FWIW, I had an ELCS first time (ID twins with some complications) and found that it was a very positive, even pleasant, experience. Very calm and I felt in control.

I have major, major scanxiety. Tomorrow is the day but I am really preparing myself for bad news as I just don't feel pregnant.

tft you're in great company on this thread cause we've all felt exactly like you are now.

I'm at 28 weeks and just recently realised that time has started passing my much more quickly and that I'm not constantly worrying. Just occasional stresses rather than being totally preoccupied.

You will get there, just 1 scan at a time and never worry about sharing here

I second northdown tft, best of luck for tomorrow. Odds are strongly in your favour that everything will be just fine.

Does it get easier? I'm still looking for that answer. After my 12 week scan my mum said 'so will you please lighten up and actually enjoy it now?' as if I had chosen to be deliberately negative! Took all my patience not to hang up...