no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Thanks Suz, Harry and Boys. It's surprising how comforting a few messages of support from strangers can be. They haven't done any bloods yet, if they don't see anything on the scan and don't offer them up then I will ask, thanks for the advice.

Harry, congrats on the good scan news today, you must be so relieved to have seen a heartbeat. Fingers crossed it's a sticky one.

Boys, I'm so sorry you've had an ectopic too as well as other losses, I really hope this time round you have a simple, boring pregnancy.

Thanks Nouser too, didn't see your post just now.

Great news on the scan harry

Welcomed and congratulations bingumy, I was told after 5 weeks they can rule out ectopic by scan so they should be able to put your mind at rest on Monday.

Baby was still lying breech at my appointment so I refused an ECV and they have given me a date for an ELCS of 28th Aug - which eek means my baby is coming this month!!! I will however be spending the next few weeks mainly on a ball, in a downward dog yoga position or on an acupuncturist table in the hope baby move decide to move of its own accord!

brummie I booked after my 20 week scan and one of the groups were already full - I live in an area where NCT is very popular though.

Did you hear that baby cava, budge!!
How exciting that you are having a baby this month!!

Hi, posting after some very quiet (tense) weeks. I've now had 3 scans with prof Quenby and at 9 weeks she's "set me free" back to the arms of "standard" care. She's recatergorised me as low risk in her opinion. Which IS huge. My H is delighted and talking about a bigger car. I am a lot more cautious (1 of the previous mc was after a heartbeat seen.). But we have gone past our milestone. I feel guilty I am not more excited. I go around in circles about not getting anything new for this pregnancy but. Bra wise. I may have to cave before our holiday!
Any tips for fighting the nerves over jinx fears?

Hi bingumy. Sorry for your loss, you are definitely in the right place for lots of support! I am in the early weeks of pregnancy following a mmc in June and am so worried about every thing and non-thing. Last week I was upset because I wasn't getting any nausea and had convinced myself that it was bad news but the last two days I've woken up feeling awful and very nauseous, yeay!

Does anyone here have pelvic girdle pain? I had real trouble with my sacro-illiac joint last time but the pain didn't kick in until about 13 weeks. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and I think it's coming back. I had read that if you have pgp in one pregnancy it's likely to come back earlier in the next pregnancy. Has anyone else had this?

I had exactly that tft, sacro iliac pain with dd, radiating through my whole pelvis that was agony by the end. I've felt little niggles already so think it's coming back, and earlier. But it's hard to remember how early it started with dd because i was so sick til 20 weeks that nothing even registered apart from that. Hope it doesn't come back too badly for either of us. Might have to look out my big tubigrip!

I remember when it started in my last pregnancy quite clearly because it was just as the second trimester was starting and I was looking forward to the 'glow' that everyone goes on about. There was no glow. In fact the second and third trimesters were definitely worse for me than the first because of the pgp. Ho hum, I guess I'd better find the massive tubigrip too and the support belt that made me look like a boxer!

Hope yours isn't too bad this time round march. I did aqua yoga and had monthly pregnancy massages last time which helped a bit but by the end I was pretty immobile.

Thanks for the nct advice ladies!

Got a cervix scan on Monday so will be able to see little one, assuming everything is ok I might book when I get to 15/16 weeks.

Would be so cross if i waited until 20 wk scan and it was full!

Hope everyone is doing ok

Hi brummie. It's probably a good idea to book nct sooner rather than later. Last time I was advised to do it by the mw at the 16wk appointment to avoid missing out. I totally get the feeling of not wanting to jinx things though - I've already told DH that if I lose this one he has to ring up to cancel any appointments.

I'm feeling lousy today, think I've got a virus. Body aches, fever, shivery - now I'm worried that the nausea and back ache that I thought were pregnancy symptoms are actually virus symptoms and that the virus might harm the baby.

Morning all, can I join you please? I've had two MCs, one in Nov last year at 8 weeks and one in Feb of this year at 5 weeks. Got my BFP on Tuesday and am 4 and a bit weeks I think.

Absolutely delighted and am trying to go full steam ahead and not worry about every twinge and ache, positive mental attitude all the way! I'm planning to see my GP once I hit 6 weeks so I can get my reassurance scan at 7 weeks.....although I wonder if I should have it earlier......?

Anyway, I hope you're all doing well despite all the aches and pains and viruses, really looking forward to sharing the journey with you all!

Forgive me ladies I'm losing the plot, I already posted on the last thread!! My brain is like a sieve but hello again anyway!!

Hi glitter the joys of baby brain

I'm losing it today. I feel achey and heavy in my uterus, not crampy really but I'm just very aware of my womb. Keep getting waves of panic, couldn't sleep last night. I'm seven weeks today and just feel I have a lot to lose now. Can't believe I've only known I'm pregnant for three weeks. Still getting the occasional, very very tiny bit of brownish discharge. Just veering from terrified and certain I'm going to lose it, to settling myself down and feeling happy. Aaargh!!

Sorry you're feeling rough boys. I am seven weeks today too - I also can't believe I've only known a couple of weeks. I really hope everything is ok for you. I am also hyper conscious of every feeling and have also have some brown spotting which is so scary. Fx for you, hope you can get a good sleep tonight.

Evening all!

harry thanks for the advice, am going to see my GP on Fri and get referred for a scan, I know her really well as I've been seeing her for years and she's already said she'll definitely refer me........just trying to pass the 5 week mark before I go in......

Oh boys it really sounds like you're having a tough time, totally normal to feel the way you do though. Big hugs and fx that everything is OK.

I only found out on Tuesday so am far behind you ladies.....feels as though time has slowed to a snail's pace!!

Welcome glitter from a fellow thread newbie. Made me giggle that you accidentally introduced yourself twice. I feel like I'm not functioning properly in the head so can totally relate to that. I'm glad you've got an appointment with the GP, was going to second other people's advice and say it's better to go as soon as you can. Fingers crossed they'll agree to scan you soon.

boys, I really feel for you. I hope you get some sleep tonight and wake up feeling a bit more positive tomorrow.
I'm getting the slow time thing, I can't believe I've only known for 2 weeks as well. It feels like 2 months.

My scanxiety is getting really bad now, I just want it to be tomorrow already! It doesn't help that the past few nights I seem to wake up having a panic attack every half an hour. Makes each night feel about a year long and I'm so exhausted I can't seem to get anything done in the day. I also have constant stabbing pains on the side where they took my tube, and sometimes on the other side too which is really scaring me.

DH massaged me to sleep last night bless him, slept like a baby.

Still aching and heavy but it's settled more on the right side and feels more ovarian. I know I ovulated that side so thinking it's the corpus luteum. Still no bleeding at all and if my uterus had been cramping for two days I'm sure I would have started bleeding by now.

Good luck today Bing!

I've booked a private scan next Monday overlaps a bit with my booking in appointment so got to sort that. TFT what is the next step for you?

Good luck today bing, thinking of you and hoping everything is ok. I have a scan on Thursday boys. The EPU did one two weeks ago but it was too early to see anything except a sca and yolk sac so fx this week I'll see a hb if everything is ok. Then booking appt a week today if scan shows everything ok. So much to worry about!

Hi all, sorry for being absent. We've been on holiday to Cornwall with no mobile internet signal and virtually no mobile signal at all.
My saga is still continuing. I'm 17+3 and still passing old blood. Spent the day in hospital on holiday add the pain got so bad but my cervix is still closed and baby's heartbeat was fine. It's still being put down to the hematoma behind my placenta but I have another scan on Wednesday to check what's going on. Despite feeling baby kicking about I still don't feel "on board" with this pregnancy. Do you think I'll ever be able to bond with this baby?

Good luck to everyone who has scans this week. Sending you positive thoughts xxx

brickie you will bond with them. What you've been going through would be unsettling to anyone never mind someone who has experience of mc. You're nearly half way. Hope the scan puts your mind at rest although that's easier said than done. I think it's easy for us to stay detached to try to protect ourselves and the further along we are the more scary it gets because what we stand to lose is greater. My dh felt a kick for the first time yesterday then admitted how he wasn't emotionally invested in the pregnancy at all. Neither of us will believe this is happening until we're holding our baby. Just how we are. Other than stress and hospital hope you enjoyed your hols in cornwall

One day at a time...

brickie So sorry that you are still having to worry about the bleeding - it's so hard, trying to stay level-headed and to be rational, while you feel that you are walking on egg shells. Could you talk to your midwife about your worries? In my experience, they are quite keen to help women with anxiety issues. Really hope it will settle down as soon as possible.

Good luck for those having scans today, brummie, bing and whoever I forgot to mention!

Two more weeks until my 20-week scan, and I am feeling very impatient. Still can't feel anything, no other symptoms, it's making me really anxious. Wish I could get another scan . Or even listen to the heartbeat (I never thought I'd say this, but I actually would love to have a Doppler, argh!)