no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

I would get the scan just to make sure. Such a worrying time for you. I think is perfectly rational to be worried. Hopefully it will be unfounded but best to get checked.

Congratulations treacle! Lovely news

Congratulations treacle! How lovely x

mummy & reebok thanks for your replies x

Migraine and sickness kicked in now, just before going on holiday, joy

treacle such lovely news. I remember you from the ttc threads and so happy your little boy has arrived safe

Congratulations treacle! Made up for you lovely name xxx

Yay treaclepie! (I know I've congratulated you elsewhere but feels "official" to do it on the thread )

Meanwhile, I am 40+5 and feeling so, SO overdue. I'm not a happy bunny. Grateful beyond belief - that goes without saying - but sore all the time and knicker-checking just as much as I did at the start!

Thank you ladies xxx
I can't wait to see your little ones too!

Hope its not too long for you now commander :(
Will you be being induced soon?

Congrats treaclepie! x

Meeting with consultant on Thursday to book an ELCS if I haven't gone by then. Induction is no go thanks to good old PTSD so it's all or nothing, but that's how I feel most comfortable.

Ahh big congratulations treacle!

Hope you don't have to wait too much longer to meet your little one too commander.

Ahh right, I have my fingers crossed for you that it won't be long X

Thanks all :)

Congratulations treacle

I'm definitely in nesting mode now. Bags are packed, clothes all down from the loft and washed. Just driving myself a bit mad because I can't find any of the cot blankets.
I've been through every possible location and an about to do a dash to mother are. Because in my irrational hormonal state I absolutely must have some in the house right now , just in case.

Congratulations Treacle, lovely news.

Congratulations treacle lovely news! You come to the end of one journey, and now the next one begins! Hope you & baby are ok, enjoy getting to know each other!

Thank you ladies :)
He had to stay in for 5 days due to possible infection and struggling to feed but he's settling in at home well now :) 18 days old today, it's crazy!

Congratulations Treacle

Commander I hope you don’t have to wait too much longer, at least if consultant books elcs you will know the date your little one will be born!

northdown yay for packed and nearly ready!

12w scan tomorrow, very nervous. I know I saw the twins at 6+5 and 8w but 12w feels like a big milestone!

Congrats treacle! Great news!

Have had a rough few days...had brown spotting so went for an emergency scan today....and little bean was there and floating around with a wonderful heartbeat! Measuring slightly behind at 8 and something weeks but I didn't have a period between the mc and getting pregnant so was guessing I was 9 weeks. It's a huge relief. Have signed up to a study for women who have mc so I will get extra scans...one of which will be at 10 weeks.

Good luck for your scan mummyofone

Reebok thank you, glad your emergency scan went well! And lovely that you will have some extra ones now x

I'm feeling a bit anxious today. Had a midwife appointment yesterday and their wasn't much growth since my last appointment 2 weeks ago. Midwife wasn't too concerned and thought it was down to different midwifes taking the measurements and baby being low.
Didn't stop me obsessing all night so I called her this morning and she was very nice. Booked in for a growth scan at 09:15 tomorrow morning.
Obsessively monitoring movements till thren

Oh North poor you. I'm sure it's nothing, but good that you are getting a scan to check. How far along are you now?
How did your scan go mummy?

Thanks fruit I'm 35 weeks today and feeling a decent amount of wriggles so that's helping me keep reasonable sane

Hi everyone, I'm new here. Currently 6w3d pregnant (assuming my dates are right!) after 2 MCs in since last autumn, one at 6+ weeks (IVF pregnancy) and the other at 9 weeks after HB seen at a private scan just days before.
Feeling very nervous and detached and debating whether to book a private early scan. Have first midwife appt on 6 October. Dreading filling out all the paperwork again after what happened last time.
I'm wishing away the 1st trimester at the moment. My ILs want to visit in a couple of weeks. They live quite far away so need to stay over when they visit, usually for a couple of nights. I really don't want house guests at this time, for fear that something will go wrong again. MIL was here when I miscarried the first time and it was awkward and I just wished we'd been by ourselves. I've put off replying to her so far. We've not told anyone about this pregnancy yet, for obvious reasons, but I want to put their visit of until I'm at least 2nd tri and the pregnancy is announced to family. Don;t want to worry or offend them though. Any suggestions? (Why is this all so complicated, as well as heartbreaking and frustrating??!)

Hi all, tried to take a step away from the thread to help pass the long wait to the 12 week scan. However, I'm increasingly feeling like I'd be reassured by a private scan this week. I'm now 10 weeks, still feel reassuringly grim and no iffy symptoms. However, I'm concerned that additional scans could just make me more paranoid. Is it best to wait a fortnight, as what will be, will be (as my midwife said) or to spend a bit of money and rest easier? I had an early scan and saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks. Going slightly insane as not really told anyone, and would love opinions from people who get it. Thanks everyone.

Hi Need, I'm new too! I feel for you - I've had 3 mcs in a row and now on my 4th pregnancy at 10 + 4. I believe that each pregnancy is completely individual. I think that now because I was convinced the same thing would happen as before (very early one, mmc at 12 wks - it was a fetal pole, and thenheartbeat at 6wks, none at 8wks). I've just had a successful scan yesterday and I've never got this far before. It is a very stressful time when you've been through what you have, I know. I have been given early scans on the NHS because I've had 3 mcs in a row. I really don't think I could have made it to 12 wks without knowing what was going on. If you can afford it, you could book a private scan, but book it for further than you have gotten before and that will be very reassuring. Maybe 10 wks? Unless you can wait until 12 wks. I do believe each pregnancy is different and I also don't really think external circumstances like your ILs visiting would ever cause a mc, it's just pressure you maybe don't need right now. The fact is you are pregnant, and that is brilliant. As my DH keeps saying, just relax. . . . yeah right!!

Welcome need and congratulations on you pg. Being detached and nervous is very normal after mc. It's really hard to inject any joy into it when all you can think about is if it might end. I would absolutely go for the scan. I was scanned 4 times before my 12 wk scan, and it really helped the anxiety for me. You should be able to get your epu to give you a reassurance scan though, rather than having to go private. Mine normally do them around 8 weeks for anyone who has had 2 or more mcs (although i know it varies)
The family thing is a hard one. We are in the same situation with family living far away and wanting to stay with us. I have previously said that we are planning a weekend away but not sure of dates, that we already have people staying that weekend, that I or my dh is really busy at work /has work deadline /is working shifts or that I/dh/dd is ill (bit difficult if they are planning in advance and taking time off etc). If you're saying you already have people staying, i would advise starting with something like 'we're really busy for the next month, feels a bit like a hotel!', then you can bat off any other suggested dates. Or the other option is you tell the truth about why you don't want to have visitors for a while. I know this sometimes feels like a hard one, mainly because society tells us we shouldn't say anything before a 12wk scan, but why not? They obv know about the other mcs, and would presumably be told of this pg, so why not tell them now. I'm sure they would be more than understanding and would hopefully provide you with some support (from afar!) through what is a difficult and lonely time. Just an idea, but i know not everyone is comfortable with this.